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Sir or Master doesn't have the same affectionate tone as Daddy. Sir/Master switches the dynamic into black and white, suits and crops, restraints and safe words.
Daddy is less intense, more flirty, more playful. Less, Sub/Dom commitment.
At the end of the day, call someone whatever is hot for you and for them and have fun.
...maybe you call her Daddy.
Well try replacing 'dad' with 'master'. Now basically, we could argue there are certain degree's in dominance.
'dad' might be less of an extreme way for people to tell their partner that they are the dominant one in bed.
Now I don't have a GF but I could see myself using 'mommy' I guess. I have not found a definitive reason for it. But I am starting to think it is bc I imagine a girl who has a soft and parenting side to her personality while also mainly being overprotecting with the latter being a turn on for me.
So in case of 'daddy' this might reflect on the fact someone see's their partner as Strict/Disciplined and parenting, someone who will take 'measurements' to have their partners 'behave'.
Maybe all I said don't make sense. But I believe the Daddy/Mommy stuff is just some semi-BDSM related thing. I would almost completely believe vanilla people don't say that stuff.
i am a switch but if i had to be called "daddy" when i dom or call my gf "mommy" when i sub during sex i wouldn't like it. It would make me think about my parents lmao
It’s incest related by definition, otherwise the term “daddy” wouldn’t be used. Power dynamics exist outside of parent/child relationships. People that aren’t into incest use terms like “master”, “mistress”, “sir”, and “ma’am”. Terms like “mommy” and “daddy” are inherently rooted in incest fantasy.
So I asked a woman about this and she told this:
Some people are not raised to call their father “daddy”. They never once uttered the word in reference to their father. Just because it has that meaning to us, doesn’t mean it makes that same connection for them. So to her, the word was just an affectionate term for her man and had never been anything but that.
She had come to that conclusion after hearing people say “honey” to their SO. To her, “honey” was what parents called their children, so calling your SO “honey” was super creepy to her at first.
TLDR: words don’t always make the same connections between your brain and the world around you as they do with others.
This makes sense. I will always associate "sweetheart" with grandmas because the old lady that used to come into the McD's I worked at in highschool who was very nice to me, always called me sweetheart lol. When I hear young adults call their children that it sounds weird to me
Yeah, sweetheart is mine for my daughters.
My wife calls me baby and my parents hate it. Apparently my drug addicted child abusing aunt was constantly walking around with a cigarette in her hand slurring “baby” and “babe” to everyone.
'Daddy' is usually used in a Dom/Sub situation. It's a kink. Women calling men Daddy aren't actually thinking of him as their father. It's no different from calling them baby or them calling you princess. It's not an incest fantasy.
Maybe me not being a native English speaker is the problem, but I still don't get it. I understand "sir", but "daddy" has a clear family implication. I agree though that "baby" is also quite creepy, because... c'mon, babies!?
Not everyone likes it and not everyone has to. A 'Daddys' role is the same as 'Sir' and 'master' but gentler. Master, Sir, Daddy all have the same role but with different degrees. A Daddy Dom is more nurturing yet strict. A master demands respect and compliance. A Sir is in the middle, compliance but a caring. But just to make one point, ALL roles for both subs and Dom's require respect, love and understanding otherwise its abusive and not a true Dom/Sub relationship.
Okay I've already explained this on this thread but I'll say it again. A 'Daddy Dom' is a caring protective Dom. A daddy aka father is a caregiver that protects you and keeps you safe. Hence the term Daddy Dom. It's not about the Dom being a father figure it's because he protects you like a father should. I suppose you could say a husband should protect you so you could call them a 'hubby dom' if you wish...!
• Side note- I'm approaching with a genuine inquisitive tone here 🙂....not argumentative. I'm not familiar with the dom/sub world (though its always kinda interested me)....so that's why I'm asking •
So are you making a case as to why the term "daddy" in a dom/sub context is or isn't related to the role of an actual father?
because to me it sounds like if I were to call a dom "daddy" it's because they are inherently acting like a father figure...but in a sexual way
I'm honestly looking for a way to separate the term daddy and the actual father....in a way that makes sense to me lol
I can't speak for everyone because we all have different reasons for using the term Daddy. For me personally, I'm estranged from both of my parents, the term Daddy does not make me think of my father personally because as far as I'm concerned I have no father but the term Daddy does make me think of what a father 'should' be, ie caring, supportive, protective which is what my husband (who is also my Dom) is so I call him Daddy because by default a 'Daddy Dom' is a caring protective version of Dom. Hopefully that makes a little sense. It's quite hard to explain. ☺️
So essentially, and correct me if I'm missing the boat on this, the idea of 'dominate daddy' is in fact sexually *inspired* by the traditional fatherly role BUT whether one relates it to an actual father is more individualistic. It's only incestuous when one intentionally makes it incestuous.
Boy I bet Freudians everywhere are having a field day! Lol!
No but for real I think you've helped me understand this.
While I'm not sure if I could use the term, the idea of my husband being that protector/disciplinarian dom is pretty freaking hot
My mind could go a lot of places with that.
You are correct. “Daddy” and “mommy” are exclusively family terms. The people saying it’s not rooted in incest are just incorrect. You don’t use the term “daddy” just to represent the dom in a power dynamic situation. You don’t call your boss at work “mommy” or “daddy”, it exclusively comes from parent/child power dynamic fantasy, whether people realize it or not. That’s literally the only thing “daddy” means lol daddy means father, as in…paternal biological parent.
But dom/sub sexual situation and then daddy baby? Like why not master, dictator, superior being, chef, teacher, god idk man. And for baby maybe worker, peasant, underling, graduate idk man.
They're not saying a daddy dom calls their sub baby. Most daddy doms call their subs Littles. They're saying calling your partner daddy can be a bit of a pet name for some. Just like casually calling your partner baby or princess or love. I personally wouldn't use daddy as a pet name. But I did have an ex who loved to call me mommy. I hated it. He genuinely treated me like his mommy.
Maybe if you read more about dom/sub relationships you’d know that those are already things people call each other, everyone has a different preferences
But why daddy. There must be something in that word that lights up to the brain of that person, so they pick it. And in context that they also have a sexual relationship and sometimes even use that word in sexual ways, there must be a connection with their dad and sexual intentions or openness to sexual intentions of their dad.
It disturbs me that that's where your mind goes when talking about Daddy Dom's. A woman calling her Dom 'Daddy' DOES NOT mean she's visualizing her own father. It's not a father/daughter kink. A Daddy Dom is a caring, protective Dom, a daddy is a caregiver, someone that looks after you and protects you, hence Daddy Dom.
Because your father was an authority figure. You were submissive to him as a child. A sub in that mind space is looking for a word that signifies that submission. Daddy is just a word that comes to mind for some, while others use sir, or master. There isn't anything sexual towards their actual father, for most, there are some out there that are.
“Daddy” and “mommy” speak in dom situations are inherently rooted in incest fantasy…hence the terms “mommy” and “daddy”. Yes it’s about power dynamics, but in these cases it’s more specifically about the power dynamics between parent/child…which people can like what they like, but that sounds like abuse fantasy.
I’m with OP on this.
I get her wanting to just give up control and be manhandled and be submissive, but how does the “daddy” thing factor in to that? What does releasing stress by having someone else be in control sexually have to do with psuedo-incest, father-daughter language? One can be completely dominated without using daddy/daughter lingo. These things are entirely separate.
Then where else does the term “daddy” come from? It’s inherently and definitionally incest based. I’m not saying everyone thinks of it that way when they just say the word during sex, but that’s literally where it comes from lol. “Daddy” is exclusively and universally understood to be an infantile/innocent term for “dad” or “father” used by very young, innocent children when addressing their biological paternal parent. I’m not saying girls are literally imagining their dad having sex with them, and I get people just like the taboo sound of it…but definitionally, it’s rooted exclusively in incest fantasy lol the language itself directly proves that. That’s what these words mean and indicate/imply. The language directly implies a young, innocent, powerless child-like role being (confusingly consentually) taken advantage of by a trusted but dominant and in control parent role…that being “daddy” or in some cases “mommy”. You can’t use specific words and terminology and then tell me they don’t mean what they mean lol.
Again I’m not saying people like this are actually fantasizing about their real fathers in most cases (maybe they are maybe they aren’t) but incest fantasy is just factually where this language comes from and is rooted in. The fact that people try to debate that is insane to me lol.
Okay I've already explained this on this thread but I'll say it again. A 'Daddy Dom' is a caring protective Dom. A daddy aka father is a caregiver that protects you and keeps you safe. Hence the term Daddy Dom. It's not about the Dom being a father figure it's because he protects you like a father should. I suppose you could say a husband should protect you so you could call them a 'hubby dom' if you wish...!
Imagine I liked to call my dom “priest” while they fuck me, and then imagine I tried to convince you that the terminology wasn’t specifically rooted in the meaning and implications of the term itself.
To be fair if you'd read my explanation for why we use the term Daddy you'd understand that calling the sub daughter is nowhere near the same thing. It's not even the same meaning. The context doesn't even fit.
For you. But what if i love a woman and see her as a sub aaand and someone who i need to take care of. What if i call her daugther then? But calling someone daughter would still not be the same thing? Would that be cringe to you? If yes, why then daddy not? I mean i somehow get it now, the comments say for most its not about incest daddy is just the word used to describe, caregiving, softer dom, And when i say that i think the word daddy still does not fit, because people also have sex with their doms who they call daddy. And the only missing part to an actual dad is the sex, which is kinda a big missing part, so why do they still prefer to use that word, if it fits the definition of what they wanna describe that accurately? Maybe because some part of the definition is not included. Maybe it is the sexual with the actual dad part.
I have always found it a huge turn-off, but many girls here seem to believe all men love to be called 'daddy'. Glad to see I'm not the only one that considers it creepy.
It should definitely be discussed first and not dropped on someone. Many men are actually daddys and have no interest in the positive parental thoughts and feelings they have connected to that word in anyway crossing over with sexual acts with a lover.
If a girl were calling me that because she was genuinely really turned on and it just came out in the moment, whatever, but personally for me, I find it just really weird and creepy, so definitely don’t call me that just because you think I want to be called that…cause I don’t lol.
There was one girl I was with that said it in such a way where I came away wondering if there had been an inappropriate relationship, so I get that it can be super weird. That said, like most things, in the right context, with the right intonation with the right person it can be great.
I am not saying, they shouldn‘t do that and it can‘t be great, i am just stating that it is somehow weird. The weirdness might go away if we reveal the connection between daddy and sexuality
There is a connection, im fairly certain its also well researched.
Especially with men and women who didnt have a mother or father figure in their life, or if they did they were lacking in their parenting ability.
This has been discussed many times. It’s not something for me. I think the vast majority of the daddy dynamic is about submission. Not about dad/daughter.
How so? People have been calling their significant others "daddy" and "mama/momma" for ages.
Johnny Bravo- calls women "hot momma"
Saved By The Bell -Slater calls Jessie "momma"
"Little Mama" is a term for an attractive woman
"Hey papi/mami"
What's the big deal? Where is there any weirdness/Freudian issue?
This is strange
It's different than you think it's not a parental tone it's almost like you're in control and that's part of it it makes them enjoy it more so I don't care if they call me daddy it's not my kink but I'm there to show them a good time and if calling me daddy helps achieve that it's literally harmless
And you are assume i don‘t understand at any level. I am expressing my feeling that i think it is cringe, if it is shaming to you, so be it. If other can live and express their way, i can live and express my way.
Don‘t make your case why you call your dom daddy, the case for others that call someone daddy aswell. I get the vibe you use daddy as a word purely for the dom/sub thing. And you don‘t care what exact word you use. But with most other i feel there is a connection somehow.
To the angry part: :(
literally everyone in this thread who has explained this to you told you the same thing and your answer is still 'that's only for you, other people must have some other, incestuous reason'. you have a preconceived idea about something you don't understand and are willing to dismiss everyone telling you otherwise until you find that one person who tells you 'yes i have father issues and this is very much an incest fantasy for me' so you can consider your view to be validated.
No one commented what you said after „until you find that one person who tell you“. Not even in a similar or analogous way. So no my view was not validated. And even if someone did, i would not consider my view validated just because of that one comment.
Jfc this person is insufferable.
For the record, youre not coming off as being angry at the world ffs.
On the contrary, this person is coming off as being reactive and defensive.
Babe is cringey, but far less so than referring to your sexual partner as your parent using what is understood to be a very infantile and innocent term used by very, very young children.
If people don’t recognize that calling someone “daddy” while they fuck you is not directly correlated to fantasizing that you’re an innocent child being taken advantage of sexually by your parent…I don’t know what else to tell you lol
Calling your significant other baby or babe is not the same as calling your significant other daddy or mommy. Baby and babe in the context that we use it in today mean something endearing. Some southern folks call everyone babe. Some cultures, like mine, use babe for strangers, babies, your loved ones and so forth. I even call my mom “babe” sometimes. It has surpassed its original meaning and now has layers in its definition. To the point, no one cringes or feels awkward when someone uses it in an intimate setting or just as something endearing. Also, these terms aren’t utilized in a sexual context specifically. While daddy and mommy is part of a certain sexual play and part of many people’s sexual lives. A lot of people wouldn’t call their s/o “daddy” or “mommy” in front of others much less in front of their children.
You read nothing I said. Anyway, the reason why the word daddy or mommy may never evolve to mean anything else (in the real word, outside of sexual fantasy) is solely because we are hyper-aware generation.
When words started to shift meaning, no one really noticed that much. The shift just occurred gradually and eventually stuck.
You said there wasn’t a difference when there is a huge difference. If people called their s/o daddy or mommy endearingly and not only in sexual settings because of a kink they have, people would be more approaching with the topic.
No it isn’t😭 please do not let social media influence you. Maybe in America? I don’t know since things like “big daddy” and stuff has been around for a while but I promise you, outside of America, it’s definitely weird. Just because people are sexually liberated online does not mean it reflects in the real world. Online moves 20x faster than the real world.
Holy shit, "babe" and "baby" in the context of your significant other has been so normalized the thought has honestly never even crossed my mind. I can't wait to bring this up at our next family get-together. My sister-in-law thinks "daddy" is the cringiest thing in the world yet calls my brother "babe" every five seconds! To the point of it being a running joke between my wife and me now. All in good loving fun of course!
Babe no. Nobody really says babe around me, maybe other places? Babe has always been either A partner or the movie about the pig.
Baby? Maybe sure. But then I think the difference between Daddy and Baby is you call your baby by it's name. I've had two babies and never really called them baby. As opposed to both my kids both call me daddy and if my wife did that it'd be like them and that's weird.
But I suppose I still say "the baby" or we've had "a baby" but then I suppose it there's the usage there. "oh baby" to your partner vs "you're the baby" is 2 very different sentences. Whereas people using daddy sexually is used the same way. "Hey daddy" can be read either sexually or wholesomley, whereas "hey babe" isn't.
there are many MANY pieces of literature where children are referred to as 'babe' because it used to be a common word for them.
even the bible uses it.
Well is somehow accepted for both sides to call others that and people generally know that it is meant like in a romantic relationship. But i do agree, if i contemplate it more, calling someone baby in a loving way (not horny way, idk i feel like women call dudes daddy in a in loving way and horny way) and having sex with that person, might be on the same point and spectrum of cringe.
I think it’s creepy. I call my husband daddy, but only when talking about him to our kid. Like “go tell daddy to fix your game”. Calling him that when talking to him? No.
I agree it is cringy. I also decided a few years back that life is too short to care about the things that don't hurt other people. One of those is "cringe." I started being willing to do a lot of dumb things I wouldn't before because I thought it was cringy. Examples... being willing to crash and burn at karaoke, saying I love you to strangers because if people can say I hate you easily- love can be the same, allowing myself basic human emotions in public, and YES calling my hubby daddy to make him laugh. I gotta be real, I've been a lot happier and enjoy life a lot more than I ever did worrying about cringe. A lot of people, including me, would call these things cringe but legit it's a pretty good time.
I kind of think that the very reason you're not supposed to say Daddy is the reason people use it, Its Taboo. Like you're not supposed to be turned on by feet, pee, etc but that's a big part of why some people are turned on by it.
I always reference the song "My Heart Belongs to Daddy" as a way for people to understand the use a little better. It's definitely not a song about someone's father.
Using "is cringe" is actually cringe...
"Like omg that is so cringe."
It is up there with icky, ewwy, and creeper. Here we are in a conversation about age regressive roleplay and how you feel it is Oedipus complex at play and you regress to a teen using trendy terms like "is cringe". That my friend, is irony.
Lol. It is NOT that serious… of all the things to kink shame about, I am confused why you picked this one, it’s so vanilla compared to the the things we could kink shame about!
If it’s weird to you it will be weird to you because that’s how your brain works. Personally I call guys daddy all the time and it’s probably related to my absent/abusive/shitty father I had growing up so I seek out mature adult male figures in my life to fill that gap. When I call a guy daddy it’s not about being my father though it’s about being a man who I’m acknowledging is in control of the situation like a father would be. I think in your brain your doing a literally daddy=dad thing when I think for most it’s daddy=your in charge kind of thing.
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It isn't related to any dad issues for the few women that have called me daddy. It's just a kink and if my partner feels comfortable enough to call me daddy, I'll let them. If it's not your thing, that's fine, but you don't get to call people incestuous because something is weird to you.
In my house (married 25 years/4 older kids), we often refer to each other as momma/dad. It is the name we are accustomed to hearing and are likely to answer to. We also still use pet names sometimes (babe, sweetie, hon, etc).
My husband is a lot older than me and I would never call him daddy in bed. I don't like it. I mean you do you but I could never. Damn our kids call him daddy, of course I wouldn't make it a sexual thing
Honestly I use daddy because it’s one of the softest in the Dom/Sub honorifics.
The other ones feel wrong in my mouth. Harsh. Heavy. I have yet to find someone that can change that for me.
Daddy is soft and sweet and puts air in my lungs.
I use it because I want to be treated gentle and -in my experience- the doms that use “daddy” often are the softer sort.
Even the fake ones will play along for a little, and sometimes that’s enough for me.
Its weird.
Its weird as fuck.
i once had a woman look at me while i was hitting it from behind and she said “harder daddy” and i was not repulsed.
I did infact hit it harder for like 2 seconds before i was erupting like Mt Vesuvius and she was my Pompeii.
Its gross… like the whole daddy thing.
Poppi, pappy, daddy, pa.
Nope. I want none of it.
Well many will disagree but I agree with you OP. I think it’s weird. I often wonder if they have daddy issues and that’s why the need to call their partner daddy. Because psychologically they are missing that male figure….but that is just my thinking anyway.
I had a BF who asked me to do this. I cringed and said it like "oh, father" or "guy who fucks my mom too" or "my biological parent" or "oh yeah, gaurdian" he got annoyed and didn't ask me to say it again (:
Well idk. Seems like it is a generally well accepted way of interacting with each other. Maybe most people think it‘s cringe. But i thought i am on the unpopular side with my opinion.
I agree 100% that it is weird, that being says, when you're in a relationship with a girl, it's cute and sexy. But if I am with a stranger I would feel uncomfortable
alright, but I should add that nobody calls their girls 'daughter' they either call 'baby' for the male in the situation you described. Or 'mommy' for the reversed situation.
But calling someone daddy is/was cringe to me and it seems used without thought. And giving the daughter example which would make them cringe and suddenly understand „wait we habe to apply equal evalution here so is daddy thing cringe also?“ Then they suddenly think that the daddy thing is cringe too, or at least think about it, if it is or not.
It‘s is somehow like: Imagine we would live in a world where slavery exists, and i would comment on reddit: „Hey man it is cringe that people of that and that race are our slaves, like why are we the ones ruling, imagine they would rule us how would you feel?“ So they suddenly start thinking and taking perspectives.
Oh come on… You very well know, that its not the way, occasion and purpose its generally used. Stop making it a white flag thing by giving a 5% innocent pure white use case
Of course not, they don't know what that means, just saying that they say daddy. Also, Peppa Pig's dad's name is Daddy Pig and that's not all, her mom's name is Mommy Pig.
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I think it's not correlated to real incest and has much more to do with power dynamic play. Especially non-vanilla people
Yeah, everybody knows that. But why the fuck "daddy", of all things?
Sir or Master doesn't have the same affectionate tone as Daddy. Sir/Master switches the dynamic into black and white, suits and crops, restraints and safe words. Daddy is less intense, more flirty, more playful. Less, Sub/Dom commitment. At the end of the day, call someone whatever is hot for you and for them and have fun. ...maybe you call her Daddy.
That's reserved for strapon Sundays.
Please, go on, I’m listening….
Well try replacing 'dad' with 'master'. Now basically, we could argue there are certain degree's in dominance. 'dad' might be less of an extreme way for people to tell their partner that they are the dominant one in bed. Now I don't have a GF but I could see myself using 'mommy' I guess. I have not found a definitive reason for it. But I am starting to think it is bc I imagine a girl who has a soft and parenting side to her personality while also mainly being overprotecting with the latter being a turn on for me. So in case of 'daddy' this might reflect on the fact someone see's their partner as Strict/Disciplined and parenting, someone who will take 'measurements' to have their partners 'behave'. Maybe all I said don't make sense. But I believe the Daddy/Mommy stuff is just some semi-BDSM related thing. I would almost completely believe vanilla people don't say that stuff.
Want to point out that being called “Dad” would be infinitely more awkward than being called “Daddy”
Oh Uncle, Make me more jasmine tea
My friend said it’s weird if she says papa. I can understand why.
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i am a switch but if i had to be called "daddy" when i dom or call my gf "mommy" when i sub during sex i wouldn't like it. It would make me think about my parents lmao
It’s incest related by definition, otherwise the term “daddy” wouldn’t be used. Power dynamics exist outside of parent/child relationships. People that aren’t into incest use terms like “master”, “mistress”, “sir”, and “ma’am”. Terms like “mommy” and “daddy” are inherently rooted in incest fantasy.
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What makes you so sure of that?
Which part? The family terminology?
I just thought it was funny and now it is a loving habit I have with my hubby. Kind of like any nickname.
Of course it's cringe. That's why we punish them after
My girlfriend calls me daddy and I’m a woman. How’s that one for ya
I love this 👆
We have a great time
That's what life's all about 😁
So I asked a woman about this and she told this: Some people are not raised to call their father “daddy”. They never once uttered the word in reference to their father. Just because it has that meaning to us, doesn’t mean it makes that same connection for them. So to her, the word was just an affectionate term for her man and had never been anything but that. She had come to that conclusion after hearing people say “honey” to their SO. To her, “honey” was what parents called their children, so calling your SO “honey” was super creepy to her at first. TLDR: words don’t always make the same connections between your brain and the world around you as they do with others.
Oh, this is a good response. Makes sense.
Tyvm
This makes sense. I will always associate "sweetheart" with grandmas because the old lady that used to come into the McD's I worked at in highschool who was very nice to me, always called me sweetheart lol. When I hear young adults call their children that it sounds weird to me
Yeah, sweetheart is mine for my daughters. My wife calls me baby and my parents hate it. Apparently my drug addicted child abusing aunt was constantly walking around with a cigarette in her hand slurring “baby” and “babe” to everyone.
'Daddy' is usually used in a Dom/Sub situation. It's a kink. Women calling men Daddy aren't actually thinking of him as their father. It's no different from calling them baby or them calling you princess. It's not an incest fantasy.
Was waiting for someone to say this.
Maybe me not being a native English speaker is the problem, but I still don't get it. I understand "sir", but "daddy" has a clear family implication. I agree though that "baby" is also quite creepy, because... c'mon, babies!?
Not everyone likes it and not everyone has to. A 'Daddys' role is the same as 'Sir' and 'master' but gentler. Master, Sir, Daddy all have the same role but with different degrees. A Daddy Dom is more nurturing yet strict. A master demands respect and compliance. A Sir is in the middle, compliance but a caring. But just to make one point, ALL roles for both subs and Dom's require respect, love and understanding otherwise its abusive and not a true Dom/Sub relationship.
>A Daddy Dom is more nurturing yet strict. As many actual father's are.
Okay I've already explained this on this thread but I'll say it again. A 'Daddy Dom' is a caring protective Dom. A daddy aka father is a caregiver that protects you and keeps you safe. Hence the term Daddy Dom. It's not about the Dom being a father figure it's because he protects you like a father should. I suppose you could say a husband should protect you so you could call them a 'hubby dom' if you wish...!
• Side note- I'm approaching with a genuine inquisitive tone here 🙂....not argumentative. I'm not familiar with the dom/sub world (though its always kinda interested me)....so that's why I'm asking • So are you making a case as to why the term "daddy" in a dom/sub context is or isn't related to the role of an actual father? because to me it sounds like if I were to call a dom "daddy" it's because they are inherently acting like a father figure...but in a sexual way I'm honestly looking for a way to separate the term daddy and the actual father....in a way that makes sense to me lol
I can't speak for everyone because we all have different reasons for using the term Daddy. For me personally, I'm estranged from both of my parents, the term Daddy does not make me think of my father personally because as far as I'm concerned I have no father but the term Daddy does make me think of what a father 'should' be, ie caring, supportive, protective which is what my husband (who is also my Dom) is so I call him Daddy because by default a 'Daddy Dom' is a caring protective version of Dom. Hopefully that makes a little sense. It's quite hard to explain. ☺️
So essentially, and correct me if I'm missing the boat on this, the idea of 'dominate daddy' is in fact sexually *inspired* by the traditional fatherly role BUT whether one relates it to an actual father is more individualistic. It's only incestuous when one intentionally makes it incestuous. Boy I bet Freudians everywhere are having a field day! Lol! No but for real I think you've helped me understand this. While I'm not sure if I could use the term, the idea of my husband being that protector/disciplinarian dom is pretty freaking hot My mind could go a lot of places with that.
I think you've understood perfectly ☺️
No daddy dom refers to their sub as baby. You're usually called Littles.
You are correct. “Daddy” and “mommy” are exclusively family terms. The people saying it’s not rooted in incest are just incorrect. You don’t use the term “daddy” just to represent the dom in a power dynamic situation. You don’t call your boss at work “mommy” or “daddy”, it exclusively comes from parent/child power dynamic fantasy, whether people realize it or not. That’s literally the only thing “daddy” means lol daddy means father, as in…paternal biological parent.
But dom/sub sexual situation and then daddy baby? Like why not master, dictator, superior being, chef, teacher, god idk man. And for baby maybe worker, peasant, underling, graduate idk man.
A Dom/Sub relationship can and should only be explored by mature people that can differentiate between all the variants.
They're not saying a daddy dom calls their sub baby. Most daddy doms call their subs Littles. They're saying calling your partner daddy can be a bit of a pet name for some. Just like casually calling your partner baby or princess or love. I personally wouldn't use daddy as a pet name. But I did have an ex who loved to call me mommy. I hated it. He genuinely treated me like his mommy.
Maybe if you read more about dom/sub relationships you’d know that those are already things people call each other, everyone has a different preferences
But why daddy. There must be something in that word that lights up to the brain of that person, so they pick it. And in context that they also have a sexual relationship and sometimes even use that word in sexual ways, there must be a connection with their dad and sexual intentions or openness to sexual intentions of their dad.
It disturbs me that that's where your mind goes when talking about Daddy Dom's. A woman calling her Dom 'Daddy' DOES NOT mean she's visualizing her own father. It's not a father/daughter kink. A Daddy Dom is a caring, protective Dom, a daddy is a caregiver, someone that looks after you and protects you, hence Daddy Dom.
Because your father was an authority figure. You were submissive to him as a child. A sub in that mind space is looking for a word that signifies that submission. Daddy is just a word that comes to mind for some, while others use sir, or master. There isn't anything sexual towards their actual father, for most, there are some out there that are.
>dictator >worker You need a communist chick for this
Seize the means of reproduction
“Daddy” and “mommy” speak in dom situations are inherently rooted in incest fantasy…hence the terms “mommy” and “daddy”. Yes it’s about power dynamics, but in these cases it’s more specifically about the power dynamics between parent/child…which people can like what they like, but that sounds like abuse fantasy.
No see that's not it at all but unfortunately unless you have an actual interest in the Daddy Dom scenario your just not going to understand it.
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I’m with OP on this. I get her wanting to just give up control and be manhandled and be submissive, but how does the “daddy” thing factor in to that? What does releasing stress by having someone else be in control sexually have to do with psuedo-incest, father-daughter language? One can be completely dominated without using daddy/daughter lingo. These things are entirely separate.
Just to be clear, a 'Daddy Dom' never calls his Sub 'Daughter'. That's not it. That's not what the kink it. It's not an incestual fantasy.
Yeah, the more I’m reading here the more it sounds like these posts are coming from people roughly 12 years old, or have not had sex yet.
Exactly!! Not everything has to be taken so literally. 😭
Then where else does the term “daddy” come from? It’s inherently and definitionally incest based. I’m not saying everyone thinks of it that way when they just say the word during sex, but that’s literally where it comes from lol. “Daddy” is exclusively and universally understood to be an infantile/innocent term for “dad” or “father” used by very young, innocent children when addressing their biological paternal parent. I’m not saying girls are literally imagining their dad having sex with them, and I get people just like the taboo sound of it…but definitionally, it’s rooted exclusively in incest fantasy lol the language itself directly proves that. That’s what these words mean and indicate/imply. The language directly implies a young, innocent, powerless child-like role being (confusingly consentually) taken advantage of by a trusted but dominant and in control parent role…that being “daddy” or in some cases “mommy”. You can’t use specific words and terminology and then tell me they don’t mean what they mean lol. Again I’m not saying people like this are actually fantasizing about their real fathers in most cases (maybe they are maybe they aren’t) but incest fantasy is just factually where this language comes from and is rooted in. The fact that people try to debate that is insane to me lol.
Okay I've already explained this on this thread but I'll say it again. A 'Daddy Dom' is a caring protective Dom. A daddy aka father is a caregiver that protects you and keeps you safe. Hence the term Daddy Dom. It's not about the Dom being a father figure it's because he protects you like a father should. I suppose you could say a husband should protect you so you could call them a 'hubby dom' if you wish...!
Imagine I liked to call my dom “priest” while they fuck me, and then imagine I tried to convince you that the terminology wasn’t specifically rooted in the meaning and implications of the term itself.
And what if he did? Would that be cringe to you? If yes, why is daddy not cringe to you?
To be fair if you'd read my explanation for why we use the term Daddy you'd understand that calling the sub daughter is nowhere near the same thing. It's not even the same meaning. The context doesn't even fit.
For you. But what if i love a woman and see her as a sub aaand and someone who i need to take care of. What if i call her daugther then? But calling someone daughter would still not be the same thing? Would that be cringe to you? If yes, why then daddy not? I mean i somehow get it now, the comments say for most its not about incest daddy is just the word used to describe, caregiving, softer dom, And when i say that i think the word daddy still does not fit, because people also have sex with their doms who they call daddy. And the only missing part to an actual dad is the sex, which is kinda a big missing part, so why do they still prefer to use that word, if it fits the definition of what they wanna describe that accurately? Maybe because some part of the definition is not included. Maybe it is the sexual with the actual dad part.
No, I don't think I will pm you my feet.
I’ll pm you my feet for 🤑
RIGHT!!!! *you literally took the words right out of my fucking mouth. Well said*
I have always found it a huge turn-off, but many girls here seem to believe all men love to be called 'daddy'. Glad to see I'm not the only one that considers it creepy.
It should definitely be discussed first and not dropped on someone. Many men are actually daddys and have no interest in the positive parental thoughts and feelings they have connected to that word in anyway crossing over with sexual acts with a lover.
Yea i always thought this is a bit weird.
If a girl were calling me that because she was genuinely really turned on and it just came out in the moment, whatever, but personally for me, I find it just really weird and creepy, so definitely don’t call me that just because you think I want to be called that…cause I don’t lol.
When you’re the one being called “daddy” by a horny women, you’ll understand why it’s fun.
People telling people what to call their significant other is cringe. Any day I'm not being called A hole...that's a good day.
There was one girl I was with that said it in such a way where I came away wondering if there had been an inappropriate relationship, so I get that it can be super weird. That said, like most things, in the right context, with the right intonation with the right person it can be great.
I am not saying, they shouldn‘t do that and it can‘t be great, i am just stating that it is somehow weird. The weirdness might go away if we reveal the connection between daddy and sexuality
There is a connection, im fairly certain its also well researched. Especially with men and women who didnt have a mother or father figure in their life, or if they did they were lacking in their parenting ability.
This has been discussed many times. It’s not something for me. I think the vast majority of the daddy dynamic is about submission. Not about dad/daughter.
Just cause you got a weak game don't mean you have to hate on us who don't.
Wifey calls me daddy but in the sense that I am A daddy rather than HER daddy if that makes sense?
Yea that makes sense. But it‘s different though.
How so? People have been calling their significant others "daddy" and "mama/momma" for ages. Johnny Bravo- calls women "hot momma" Saved By The Bell -Slater calls Jessie "momma" "Little Mama" is a term for an attractive woman "Hey papi/mami" What's the big deal? Where is there any weirdness/Freudian issue? This is strange
First time I've seen a refutation that relies on Saved By the Bell. Bravo.
It's different than you think it's not a parental tone it's almost like you're in control and that's part of it it makes them enjoy it more so I don't care if they call me daddy it's not my kink but I'm there to show them a good time and if calling me daddy helps achieve that it's literally harmless
You jerk off to cartoons, yet you think being called daddy is cringe?
This ain't a problem if you're hispanic, pretty normal to call someone you love "papi" or "mami"
If some hot twink wants to call me daddy and have sex with me, then he'll yah ill be a daddy.
😂 dude come on i find it cringe cause i don‘t understand.
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And you are assume i don‘t understand at any level. I am expressing my feeling that i think it is cringe, if it is shaming to you, so be it. If other can live and express their way, i can live and express my way.
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Don‘t make your case why you call your dom daddy, the case for others that call someone daddy aswell. I get the vibe you use daddy as a word purely for the dom/sub thing. And you don‘t care what exact word you use. But with most other i feel there is a connection somehow. To the angry part: :(
literally everyone in this thread who has explained this to you told you the same thing and your answer is still 'that's only for you, other people must have some other, incestuous reason'. you have a preconceived idea about something you don't understand and are willing to dismiss everyone telling you otherwise until you find that one person who tells you 'yes i have father issues and this is very much an incest fantasy for me' so you can consider your view to be validated.
No one commented what you said after „until you find that one person who tell you“. Not even in a similar or analogous way. So no my view was not validated. And even if someone did, i would not consider my view validated just because of that one comment.
Jfc this person is insufferable. For the record, youre not coming off as being angry at the world ffs. On the contrary, this person is coming off as being reactive and defensive.
Op just too vanilla ig
nah bud as a dad its cringr
I’ve hooked up with plenty of dads who wanted to be called daddy.
Not more cringe than 'babe'.
Babe is cringey, but far less so than referring to your sexual partner as your parent using what is understood to be a very infantile and innocent term used by very, very young children. If people don’t recognize that calling someone “daddy” while they fuck you is not directly correlated to fantasizing that you’re an innocent child being taken advantage of sexually by your parent…I don’t know what else to tell you lol
Calling your significant other baby or babe is not the same as calling your significant other daddy or mommy. Baby and babe in the context that we use it in today mean something endearing. Some southern folks call everyone babe. Some cultures, like mine, use babe for strangers, babies, your loved ones and so forth. I even call my mom “babe” sometimes. It has surpassed its original meaning and now has layers in its definition. To the point, no one cringes or feels awkward when someone uses it in an intimate setting or just as something endearing. Also, these terms aren’t utilized in a sexual context specifically. While daddy and mommy is part of a certain sexual play and part of many people’s sexual lives. A lot of people wouldn’t call their s/o “daddy” or “mommy” in front of others much less in front of their children.
If babe means endearing, daddy means protective, doesn't it?
You read nothing I said. Anyway, the reason why the word daddy or mommy may never evolve to mean anything else (in the real word, outside of sexual fantasy) is solely because we are hyper-aware generation. When words started to shift meaning, no one really noticed that much. The shift just occurred gradually and eventually stuck. You said there wasn’t a difference when there is a huge difference. If people called their s/o daddy or mommy endearingly and not only in sexual settings because of a kink they have, people would be more approaching with the topic.
Well daddy has a different meaning now. Even OP admits people seeing this as weird is unpopular.
No it isn’t😭 please do not let social media influence you. Maybe in America? I don’t know since things like “big daddy” and stuff has been around for a while but I promise you, outside of America, it’s definitely weird. Just because people are sexually liberated online does not mean it reflects in the real world. Online moves 20x faster than the real world.
Not weird in Germany, at least not in my circle.
Babe is a name for a girlfriend, I wouldn't use it in any other circumstance. Daddy is not and that's weird.
If daddy means incest, babe would mean pedophilia, right?
Holy shit, "babe" and "baby" in the context of your significant other has been so normalized the thought has honestly never even crossed my mind. I can't wait to bring this up at our next family get-together. My sister-in-law thinks "daddy" is the cringiest thing in the world yet calls my brother "babe" every five seconds! To the point of it being a running joke between my wife and me now. All in good loving fun of course!
😂 you chaos initiator
Not necessarily pedophilia, you could have grown daughters too and see them still as your baby. But it would be incest too.
Such chronically online take
Babe no. Nobody really says babe around me, maybe other places? Babe has always been either A partner or the movie about the pig. Baby? Maybe sure. But then I think the difference between Daddy and Baby is you call your baby by it's name. I've had two babies and never really called them baby. As opposed to both my kids both call me daddy and if my wife did that it'd be like them and that's weird. But I suppose I still say "the baby" or we've had "a baby" but then I suppose it there's the usage there. "oh baby" to your partner vs "you're the baby" is 2 very different sentences. Whereas people using daddy sexually is used the same way. "Hey daddy" can be read either sexually or wholesomley, whereas "hey babe" isn't.
there are many MANY pieces of literature where children are referred to as 'babe' because it used to be a common word for them. even the bible uses it.
Well is somehow accepted for both sides to call others that and people generally know that it is meant like in a romantic relationship. But i do agree, if i contemplate it more, calling someone baby in a loving way (not horny way, idk i feel like women call dudes daddy in a in loving way and horny way) and having sex with that person, might be on the same point and spectrum of cringe.
Its more cringy to use the word cringe or cringy…
Nah
I love it when you call me big Papi
I think it’s creepy. I call my husband daddy, but only when talking about him to our kid. Like “go tell daddy to fix your game”. Calling him that when talking to him? No.
Well, that is a different case.
Ok daddy ;)
Would argue that calling someone “baby” is also rooted in incest?
Is it alright for a gay man to use it with their boyfriend/husband or is that also incest to you?
Men also have dads??? What's your point?
I agree it is cringy. I also decided a few years back that life is too short to care about the things that don't hurt other people. One of those is "cringe." I started being willing to do a lot of dumb things I wouldn't before because I thought it was cringy. Examples... being willing to crash and burn at karaoke, saying I love you to strangers because if people can say I hate you easily- love can be the same, allowing myself basic human emotions in public, and YES calling my hubby daddy to make him laugh. I gotta be real, I've been a lot happier and enjoy life a lot more than I ever did worrying about cringe. A lot of people, including me, would call these things cringe but legit it's a pretty good time.
Definitely written by someone who’s never hit that spot
I think men that call women "Ma" is just as cringe.
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I mean it’s not my thing but I don’t yuck someone’s yum. It has nothing to do with incest. It has nothing to do with “dAdDy iSsUeS”.
I kind of think that the very reason you're not supposed to say Daddy is the reason people use it, Its Taboo. Like you're not supposed to be turned on by feet, pee, etc but that's a big part of why some people are turned on by it.
Please stop posting this shit in the name of unpopular opinion
I am Daddy though
I always reference the song "My Heart Belongs to Daddy" as a way for people to understand the use a little better. It's definitely not a song about someone's father.
Is kind of a kink more than a cringy thing
Using "is cringe" is actually cringe... "Like omg that is so cringe." It is up there with icky, ewwy, and creeper. Here we are in a conversation about age regressive roleplay and how you feel it is Oedipus complex at play and you regress to a teen using trendy terms like "is cringe". That my friend, is irony.
Lol. It is NOT that serious… of all the things to kink shame about, I am confused why you picked this one, it’s so vanilla compared to the the things we could kink shame about!
Eh, to each their own. I think it's hot
Same man
To each their own. I‘m not saying what they should or should not do. But i just feel it’s cringe. Ofc they can still continue to do so. Freedom 🦅
I think it's not correlated to real incest and has much more to do with power dynamic play. Especially non-vanilla people
Its only weird that you're reading into it so much. Obviously its not about incest.
OP don’t realize he’s subconsciously looking for a woman just like his mother.
My man is the daddy of the house, hence the name. Has nothing to do with my daddy 😂
Calling someone baby is way weirder. Like you want to call the person your fucking baby? As in like an infant ?
But wait, do we now make calling daddy insignificant by saying the baby example? Like we talk about the daddy thing rn.
If it’s weird to you it will be weird to you because that’s how your brain works. Personally I call guys daddy all the time and it’s probably related to my absent/abusive/shitty father I had growing up so I seek out mature adult male figures in my life to fill that gap. When I call a guy daddy it’s not about being my father though it’s about being a man who I’m acknowledging is in control of the situation like a father would be. I think in your brain your doing a literally daddy=dad thing when I think for most it’s daddy=your in charge kind of thing.
Youre hung up on a word. Probably a teen.
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I call my girl Mommy am I exempt from this because i dont say daughter?
It isn't related to any dad issues for the few women that have called me daddy. It's just a kink and if my partner feels comfortable enough to call me daddy, I'll let them. If it's not your thing, that's fine, but you don't get to call people incestuous because something is weird to you.
You don‘t even tell me how it is not linked to incestuousity
See my response to another of your comments here.
Didnt ask
You came into the thread and responded.
My wife calls me daddy now. But it's more because that's what our twin toddlers call me and has nothing to do with anything sexual
But that‘s different dynamics idk
In my house (married 25 years/4 older kids), we often refer to each other as momma/dad. It is the name we are accustomed to hearing and are likely to answer to. We also still use pet names sometimes (babe, sweetie, hon, etc).
My husband is a lot older than me and I would never call him daddy in bed. I don't like it. I mean you do you but I could never. Damn our kids call him daddy, of course I wouldn't make it a sexual thing
Honestly I use daddy because it’s one of the softest in the Dom/Sub honorifics. The other ones feel wrong in my mouth. Harsh. Heavy. I have yet to find someone that can change that for me. Daddy is soft and sweet and puts air in my lungs. I use it because I want to be treated gentle and -in my experience- the doms that use “daddy” often are the softer sort. Even the fake ones will play along for a little, and sometimes that’s enough for me.
Yea but whats even more cringe is when she refers to her male partner as her alpha.
😂
It's super gross
As a father of 3 girls I will never be comfortable with this bullshit
Mind your business
i dont agree with OP but isnt the point of this subreddit to share your unpopular opinions? Trying to silence someone fights it
Don't go into this sub lmao
Yeah, it's cringey AF.....
When even “Queef_Queen420” is calling you cringe.
It's some kink in bdsm. Father daughter roleplay I think
Yeah it's cringe haha
I'm with ya. If a girl I was fucking called me daddy I'd get soft
Its weird. Its weird as fuck. i once had a woman look at me while i was hitting it from behind and she said “harder daddy” and i was not repulsed. I did infact hit it harder for like 2 seconds before i was erupting like Mt Vesuvius and she was my Pompeii. Its gross… like the whole daddy thing. Poppi, pappy, daddy, pa. Nope. I want none of it.
I dont think this is an unpopular opinion. Lots of people are grossed out by it.
Well at least there are the likes. So maybe you are right
Well many will disagree but I agree with you OP. I think it’s weird. I often wonder if they have daddy issues and that’s why the need to call their partner daddy. Because psychologically they are missing that male figure….but that is just my thinking anyway.
Well i did have felt sad for one or two who use that word in that context.
I had a BF who asked me to do this. I cringed and said it like "oh, father" or "guy who fucks my mom too" or "my biological parent" or "oh yeah, gaurdian" he got annoyed and didn't ask me to say it again (:
That's unpopular now? Jesus. The fact that something like that just doesn't exist in my language, makes this whole thing even more fucked up for me.
Well idk. Seems like it is a generally well accepted way of interacting with each other. Maybe most people think it‘s cringe. But i thought i am on the unpopular side with my opinion.
It's not cringe per se, but it is trashy as fuck
Getting called good boy as you .... is much better imo. Agreed though never understood the daddy thing
Yeah my ex had to stop saying that when my daughter started. No siree.
I agree 100% that it is weird, that being says, when you're in a relationship with a girl, it's cute and sexy. But if I am with a stranger I would feel uncomfortable
alright, but I should add that nobody calls their girls 'daughter' they either call 'baby' for the male in the situation you described. Or 'mommy' for the reversed situation.
But calling someone daddy is/was cringe to me and it seems used without thought. And giving the daughter example which would make them cringe and suddenly understand „wait we habe to apply equal evalution here so is daddy thing cringe also?“ Then they suddenly think that the daddy thing is cringe too, or at least think about it, if it is or not. It‘s is somehow like: Imagine we would live in a world where slavery exists, and i would comment on reddit: „Hey man it is cringe that people of that and that race are our slaves, like why are we the ones ruling, imagine they would rule us how would you feel?“ So they suddenly start thinking and taking perspectives.
Women date older more financially well off men it seems they want to date a "daddy" instead of someone equal to them.
Yea well that they wanna date someone that is „above“ them, whatever that means, i already discovered. *I have ever so slighty negative feeling by it*
How do you feel about men calling other men daddy tho?
I don't like anyone being called Daddy in a sexual context, from men or women. Power dynamics in sex is played out and normalizes illegal stuff.
It’s always the biggest feminists doing that as well, lol
I agree, I'm not sure this is unpopular.
It's a legit sign of low IQ
Would you call your girlfriend /wife , mummy ? I think it's definitely a turn off .
Some women do it only in near thier babies and father so the child learns the word daddy.
Oh come on… You very well know, that its not the way, occasion and purpose its generally used. Stop making it a white flag thing by giving a 5% innocent pure white use case
I agree completely. In Team Sonic Racing, Tails said "Who's your daddy, Shadow?" and it was terrible.
😂
Also... Toddlers say daddy.
Yea but toddlers don‘t usually also have sexual intent towards that person or do they?
Of course not, they don't know what that means, just saying that they say daddy. Also, Peppa Pig's dad's name is Daddy Pig and that's not all, her mom's name is Mommy Pig.