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Vorentaz

Didn’t you announce to the subreddit you got them not too long ago? Damn.


Hudsowastaken

Yeah I saw that too. Hang in there and I hope things get better tho


frogiiren

yeah, only like a month ago. I suck at keeping relationships. I’m just destined to be single and unlikeable ig


thotslayer6996

You are 14


frogiiren

brilliant observation lol


Redstorm597

Their point is your only 14 this isnt the end of the world you still have your entire life ahead of you


Cute_Barnacle_5832

And 14-year-olds are bad at romance tbh at least I was at that age.


BC052301

Bro I remember thinking I was Casanova when I was 14 lmao


Necessary_Gap1400

Yea one of my friends had 3 relationships in the span of 2 weeks. They all broke up with him after a day


DogronDoWirdan

that guy dates


Sylint11020

Hello, I'm older than you, and single-r than you. :)


tictacalt

probably gayer too


Sylint11020

Not sure, but probably. If you've seen my comment history-


BiscuitNIWASHI

I could tell from looking at your profile banner and snoo


deltv_dll

I'm older than y'all. Lemme tell you, I cringe at every relationship atrempt from when i was 14-19. Now, at 21 I'm in a happy, long term loving relationship, with a ring ready. So don't get bothered too much by it, you're still developing the sense of all this. Heck, I'm new to all this too, but from a time perspective i don't regret being alone for almost 20 years of my life, i find it a blessing


Pink_mandz

U dont belong here anymore you have become a big man now :(


deltv_dll

yeah, i only came across this post due to reddit's recommendtations. seems like the systems thinks I'm still a teen


PepeTheMemeDealer

Older than you too and even singler-er


Romonia41

Pssh I'm even more single than that


Karl180

Yeah, at the age of 14 most of people don't understand how it should look like, and get into relationship to some randoms just cuz they like them, and how they look. Actually after some time you will laugh about those relations. Just chill and live a happy life.


Longjumping-Quiet-77

You are most likely to meet your life time partner in your 20s, so don't expect your relationships to last before then


WiseMaster1077

I have no fucking idea how your comment reminded me of this but: Statistically, if you are beliw 35, you probably havent heared the best joke of your life yet


Outside_Anxiety8168

Look I get you’re sad. But stop being so dramatic. You’re 14 you’ll find so many more people. Chin up.


Reo_up_mo

Yet nobody is questioning why this is even a post, if or one don't even care a out one relationship ending out of hundreds of millions


SyberSpark

You’ve got a lot of life ahead of you. You’ll find someone, if you’re willing to try again enough times.


Hunter_Bouchard

Maybe you don’t suck at keeping them but you just aren’t mature or experienced enough for a relationship to last long. There’s a lot you don’t know about relationships and stuff at 14 give it a couple years and you’ll learn something’s about relationships.


casual_xbox_addict

When I was 14, my current (at the time) relationship ended. I do not know why, but I didn't ask because I thought I'd seem desperate. Cut to 2 years later, I'm almost in another relationship and I ask for advice on how I can do better from my Ex. She said not to do anything differently. I ask why we ended if it had nothing to do with me, and she said she realised she was lesbian during our relationship. Supposedly, If she was attracted to boys she would've kept me. Turns out, some things don't work no matter how hard you try or how perfect they seem, because while YOU may have it figured out, THEY may still be on the road to self discovery. I'm not saying your boyfriend is gay, I'm just saying that maybe he wants something out of a relationship that you do not specialise in. You'll find someone for you eventually :) *TL;DR* My girlfriend ended things with me. I thought it was me, turns out she was just lesbian. Your boyfriend may not be gay, but may just want something that you don't offer from a relationship. You'll be happy with someone eventually :)


Ill_Nefariousness_24

We are the creators of our own life's logistics. Words are powerful. They manifest especially when you feel as strongly as you do now. I encourage you to change your narrative. You are worth and destined to be with someone who knows your worth and never takes it for granted.


Several_Ad_1241

you’re 14, stop being dramatic, one break up doesn’t mean the end of the world


needskillss

doesn't mean she can't be upset abt her breakup tho


CamDaMan87

You're only 14 you're going to be fine.


HotSearingTeens

Just shy of a month long relationship


CertifiablyCool

Dont worry, man, now you have returned to the homies.


frogiiren

bitches are temporary, homies are eternal


Throwawayobviouslyk

For the fraternity!!!!


ArizonanCactus

Remember, gays are ok, no matter what, but even better when your good friends with them.


QuietAct23

Gays be the best friends fr they make sure you doing good and are almost always hilarious


Poorly_Made_Comix

Make sure to kiss em good night to signify you are back


Naketm

you have stayed true to the first amendment of bro code, welcome back true homie


[deleted]

sorry bro😔 keep your chin up man


[deleted]

Kid named man: 😳


[deleted]

kid named finger


Gabrielbackstreet

Waltuh put your dick away Waltuh I'm not having sex with you right now Waltuh


C10H15N_Heisenberg

i can't escape the finger


Amerture_Expert

🗿


Setaganga

JESSE WE NEED TO FUCK


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OmgTheyKilled_Kenny_

happy to hear that :)


Sylint11020

Sorry to hear that. :(


TrxDOfficial

Currently unfazed by said information 😐


Psandbox

Currently unfazed by said expression of present psychological state 😐


Hot-Dentist-5744

Currently respecting all opinions in this thread


Sylint11020

Currently disregarding all statements made in the above collection of messages. Reason: I forgot them already, probably.


Careless-Trick-5117

According to your post history it lasted 26 days… a new record for an r/teenagers relationship


Adrijus7

She's 14 what can you expect, relationships at that age last 2 months at most


Difficult_Suspect524

Mine also lasted 2 months and ended up in infidelity am I 14?!?!?!?!


Adrijus7

Damn that sucks


RogueStar786

Bro you got a long road ahead, you'll either get back together or meet someone better


RogueStar786

If you keep beating yourself over this you'll never move forward. So get your shit together because you shouldn't let others negatively affect your happiness.


[deleted]

cope


Ketzerayian

A literal skill issue


FictionWriting27

Should've spot doged


Agent_Hudson

Should’ve side climbed


Ian-Dawson

Should've bullet jumped


Lattethecoffeaddict

Should've rocket dived


X_antaM

Should have parried and finishered


Bright_1266

r/suddenlywarthunder


L4zyM0nk

This is the way


Ok-Club-3715

This is the way


Agrestige

This is the way


KGoku42

This is the way


Xandorian2

This is the way


Immediate_Society975

This is the way


Drspyderreal

This is the way


Tohru_07

This is the way


potatocouch3927

This is the way


miepAlt

fr


Best-Thought124

cope


PresenceChoice4321

I got dumped like seven weeks ago. It hurts but you will get over it. There are someone out there for you❤️


frogiiren

❤️


A_Zesty_Carrot

You’re only 14, this is just the beginning of the road. This is the easy step for you.


Reo_up_mo

Literally. Making a fuss out of one problem. They should just think of that relationship as an obstacle to find the right person.


Estralia

i’m sorry


Gifigi600

I mean it doesn't end just there you can always try again with someone else


SonLion

I know its rough and maybe you are pretty sad right now but stay strong!! Some day you will find the right person for you. Dont give up your hope. Whole reddit is wishing you the best.


noobstarpro

you alright dude?


frogiiren

im hangin in there


noobstarpro

it gets better eventually


Sourdough221

damn, I hope you find someone better


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Sourdough221

noone is perfect


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Sourdough221

well maybe you will find someone else whos perfect :/ youre still young


DownSyndrome-CEO

If he was perfect why would he break up with you? No need to thank me. I’m good at what I do.


Hunter_Bouchard

Love is blind. Specially at such a young age. I speak from experience :/


Dudepic4

I don’t know why people would downvote this, I felt the exact same for a while after my girlfriend broke up with me. And trust me, at some point you will realise you were idolising this person for false reasons or that they weren’t as perfect as you thought. You’ll eventually find someone who will help you forget them or realise you deserve something else. Sadly, no one is truly perfect and it’s not likely to find your forever for a while at least. It’s going to get better and make sure you’re not isolating yourself or self destructing


Ilikebitcoinbot

What's a girlfriend?


Dudepic4

Someone you might trust too much and not realise until it’s too late. Or the person you can always rely on


A1astara

1: who tf downvotes this??? 2:I know the feeling… I promise there are others out there that will make you feel the same, if not better than he did


Lost_Ad_69420

I see bs i downvote


OverlordPP

Because In reality, no person is ever truly perfect. I admit I view my girlfriend as "perfect", but I do realize her flaws and I can accept her for them. I know she isn't truly perfect, no one ever will be. I think that it's just a matter of asking yourself if you can put up with the other's flaws, wich I am confident I can.


fishcheesedotcom

That's the problem


[deleted]

(to the people down voting, you are silly) You may have thought that but the end of the day, there’s tons of guys and tons of girls, it’s easy to put one on a pedestal but you have to understand that there’s many many people that you will meet and one will truly love you. if your boyfriend broke up with you then he clearly wasn’t perfect for you anyway.


iFunny-Refugee

Everyone feels that way, I completely understand. Give yourself time and space, you’ll realize that he was not perfect and that there are many imperfections or things you didn’t like. You may realize this when you’re by yourself reflecting on it or when you’re with yourself. But understand you’re very young, these things hurt a lot at such a young age, nothing wrong with that but keep a chin up and allow your emotions to flow freely, within reason


MedMoment

Bang his brother Assert dominance


frogiiren

i think his brother is like 7


MedMoment

Do it anyway😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡😡


pre_malone17

Tf?


Reo_up_mo

I second this


xXlpha_

Ok


Tornadorundo

im going through some dumbass heartbreak rn, literally just happened an hour ago, im down there with you lol, really feels like nothing can pull me out of this rn but i’ll be over it


Flaky_Ingenuity_4520

Bro your 14 1. As a fellow 14 year old, you shouldn't even been tryna date yet 2. This is one of the worst subs to post that In


Ricin_Addict

1. It's a little young for a relationship, but as long as their not having adult pillow fights and it remains wholesome, I see no reason to be against it. 2. I think the people in this sub are pretty chill, but ur right in the sense that when you post something online you should be prepared for douches


LocalCookingUntensil

‘Adult pillow fights’ is now my fave way to say that lol


Sup3rL30

>Adult pillow fights 💀


_Arcerion_

as a fellow fellow 14 year old that is not your choice to make, but I agree with the second part lmao


TheRealMikeOxlong

14 is a freshman in highschool, seems perfectly reasonable for dating. People date in middle school too, but that’s pushing it imo


Flaky_Ingenuity_4520

Majority of 14 turned 14 in middle school tho


TheRealMikeOxlong

I’m just saying that 14 is around the age to start dating


NewPeanutMode

wario land 2


frogiiren

holy shit


PopFizzOfficial

See this is why I don't want to break up with my girlfriend


Ilikebitcoinbot

What's a girlfriend?


PopFizzOfficial

r/usernamechecksout


Ricin_Addict

lmaooo


Jacobski_Griffalo

Deal with it. You're 14 according to your flair. You're a child, get on with school and then find a partner.


epicgamer_reallycool

Im also dealing with relationship problems. My girlfriend is giving me the silent treatment right now, we are in a long distance relationship, she lives in sweden. I live in norwich, nonmatter how much i talk to her she just leaves me on read or dosent awnser for 5 hours, her reasoning is spending time with her friends, wich i would usually accept. But her "friends" is one person. That person so happens to be a boy who is VERY attractive and funny. I dont want to think shes cheating on me, i tust her alot. But i just cant stop thinking that ive messed up or something or im just not good enough anymore what should i do?


Moss1_14

OH drop her ass. that's def cheating if I've ever seen it


epicgamer_reallycool

Bro istg if she is i dont know what ill do. Im already having a shitty time rn, i was on a 9 hour car journey to scotland from norwich, running on 2 hours sleep, i arrived and went on a jog. Got home didnt eat all day because turns out the cottage we are at is in the middle of no where and none of us cna be asked to go in the car for another 3 hours. I sleep for 5 hours wake up, go on a jog, find a pretty waterfall and fuck up my ankle getting a picture for my nan (dont worry i got the picture) now im stuck in bed on what was meant to be my nice little holiday. Ontop of all that i have to worry about this shit. I would go into theropy but from what all my friends and family it really dosent help at all, some say it makes it worse. I think i would honestly go into depression, she is just perfect and the only thinf that makes me happy and gives me a reason to wake up. If i lose her i lose myself ¯\_☹️_/¯


Moss1_14

well she can't make you happy when she leaves you on read and delivered for 5 hours now can she? I get it man I really do. but sometimes it's better to accept that you are dealing with a shitty person and it's better to leave


Ilikebitcoinbot

What's a girlfriend?


5r1m_

sorry to break it to you. but you're probably the side hoe


supremeboomer69

just get a new one lol


frogiiren

Why didn’t I think of that! lmao


DaveWasAlsoThere

Have a tissue *insert tissue box emoji here*


frogiiren

thank you


VeryClaireThompson

I’m sorry to hear that, but clearly he wasn’t the right one for you. You’re only fourteen, you’ve got a lot of time my friend. There’s many more people out there.


Its_fritz

Oh that sucks. Sorry. If u wanna talk about it u can join my groupchat


Ketzerayian

Please send link and while you're at it, send social security number, credit card and a picture of ID please


Its_fritz

What. I’m not a hacker


padatricks

Nice


Lisensiada_Alis_Smid

Bro who grave this post the wholesome award 💀


jareenx

L + ratio + maidenless (i apologize)


frogiiren

at least you apologised


LetterheadNo1485

May I ask why?


frogiiren

it was some bullshit


LetterheadNo1485

as a male who bullshits a lot i could help u decode bullshit if you would like


AZ_6291

What’s the point of a relationship if it end shattered anyway?


Ricin_Addict

I've asked the same question and it comes down to three main things: 1. The experience of having a relationship, even if they know its gonna fail relationships are a skill to some people and you need to experience it to improve. 2. A lot of people are just optimists, even if they know it's gonna fail statistically they throw away the logic because they believe it'll be different for them, or they don't like that reality so they ignore it. 3. They are happier in a relationship than without it. Even if they know it's (statistically) going to fail, they think the momentary happiness is worth it.


AZ_6291

My aroace ass be like blown away


epicgamer_reallycool

Sex?


Speedemon12

Sorry dude. Hope you start doing better soon.


averagesophie

w pfp :D


MimicU123

Damn that's crazy


Buckleyboy420

Lol trolled


rockkenthusiast

You’ll find other people. You find the best people I think when you’re not looking. Keep your head high and don’t let your boyfriend breaking up with you bother you. If anyone tries to make you upset about it, show them you don’t care, especially if he teases you about it.


[deleted]

we r in this together 🥲


ilikecars12345678910

Lmao


Blakcx

ruthless 💀


burpingpigeon

IM SORRY 🫂


loooji

ok


[deleted]

honestly at your age you shouldn't worry about stuff like that enjoy your childhood but that sucks fr hope you guys get to be friends atleast better then make it drama in my opinion


arandomdood_yt

what are you 30


[deleted]

14 actually💀 I just say shit some teacher told me and took it thinking it would be helpful


au254

L+ratio+get good fam


ImSoSorryPaige

Why he do that:(


frogiiren

the reason he gave me was total bullshit, so idk


IShitSpeed

What was the reason


frogiiren

"i like goths"


khai677-2

If I’m being brutally honest; that probably means he just doesn’t like you. Not trying to be a dick just saying what I think


Crypto-Ninja23

Bruh no way 💀 you just dodged a bullet tbh


frogiiren

maybe so


IShitSpeed

Ok thats fine.


Impressive_Nobody438

you're 14 what did you expect ;-; a literal child "dating" another literal child with undeveloped brains not knowing what flavour of icecream you want. its not the time but no one else understands. deal w it


SonLion

Also 14 year olds can have a healthy and mature relationship. Some teenagers are managing it even better than soem adults. You cant say that every person under 18 or smth is not capable to have a relationship. And maybe its even good to have a relationship in your teenager years. You are gaining experience in human interaction and socialising, you have a trustworthy person around you almost any time and most importantly you are getting some love. And even when its over you gained experience for you next relationships and for your future. And now seriously: its not very nice to say deal with it after a break up. It can be pretty emotional for some people. Yes even for "children" as you said.


Moss1_14

and how old are you Mr relationship expert? leave them alone they are having a rough time as it is


Impressive_Nobody438

same age as you and not a relationship expect, just pointing out facts. Mr


Moss1_14

well fact is a lot of "children" have healthy relationships and some people get stuck with assholes. so how about not saying shit like that to someone who is going through a rough time yeah?


Impressive_Nobody438

wouldn't have had a rough time if you didn't date kids 🤷 just sayyin


Moss1_14

okay first of all that is the worst thing I've ever heard out of context and GOD forbid a 14 yo really likes someone and wants to start something with them and be happy because that's totally idiotic


Impressive_Nobody438

i disagree but you need to calm down kiddo


Moss1_14

"kiddo" my goodness you are the same age as me 😭


Lisensiada_Alis_Smid

Well my sister met her boyfriend when she was 14 and they're still together, they're 18 now and they don't seem like breaking up at any point I'm not saying all relationships will be like this but I'm just saying that it can work


Did1268

Yeah because he is dating me now 😉


Raheeper

a lot of people gets rejected everyday so, who cares


sway010

maybe you’re ugly?


frogiiren

what the fuck dude


sway010

just a possibility


11Ns

Yeah idk what ur being downvoted for😂 could be the reason


sway010

exactly


CybertGuy

The truth makes people downvote you


Realistic-Lab8228

It's only gonna get worse from now and on


frogiiren

woah thanks for the kind words


Realistic-Lab8228

Happy to help amigo


themagicdonut2

Good and stay depressed


Larryg54

You didn't Swallow


[deleted]

good 🥰


give_me_a_great_name

Isn’t 14 too young


[deleted]

for what