By - Material-Ostrich5014
This is garbage. Seriously it is. You're a teenager who has barely experienced life. Your “research” is based on emotion. Nothing that has actually happened to you in your short time on this earth. Worried about taller women? Date a midget. Worried about not being paid fairly? Start your own business. Be your own boss. Worried about being self-conscious? Stop being fucking sad about shit. You make your own paths. I'm 5’6. I work hard. Have a great family, great job, great friends and I have confidence. You know who is going to fuck it all up? You. You will if you keep up this woe is me BS.
Your wife fucks other man because of your height you just dont know it and your children dont see you as a man because of your height
Lol that's funny. Considering you've barely had the chance to allow that small brain of your time to develop it was a good laugh. The sad thing is that you say this while joy realizing your mother was the biggest slut Portugal has ever had. The guy you call dad only stayed because your mother gave him a transmitted disease that can't be rid of. Even more sad is that looking st you face it's obvious that you have herpes on your face. It's not that your short. It's your unimpressive and sit filled face that stops men and women from caring about you.
This game is fun :)
Dude it isn't ok to attack someone for having their own problems, no matter what they are. If you think they don't mean shit, then keep that opinion to yourself, no one asked for it, cuz it clearly means alot to this dude. Idc if you have a job, or if you're older or if you have kids. To me that's just useless information, that makes you come across as pretentious and an asshole in general. I'm only 17 myself and ik I don't know everything and at no point did this other "kid" say he knew everything either. Everyone has their own experience.
Lol sure thing big chutes
Oh I didn't expect you to actually respond
Lol I mean... Now what do we do?
Im not from portugal but yeah never met my dad either
Man. That sucks even more. Must have known what a shit you'd be. Made the best decision leaving you and your mom too it. Maybe learn something from him. Leave things where the lay.
Look if youre trying to get to me using my "dad" it isnt working stop bullying 15 year olds online you have a wife and kids you should have better things to do
Lol son.. I don't care about you, your dad, your mum or anyone else claiming to have some form of special bond with you. No one was bullying anyone. Simply told it like it is. The problem with young ones such as yourself is that you have this entitled and preconceived notion that your opinion is rooted in more importance than anyone else. when in reality you and your opinion mean nothing to no one. So pardon me if I not only don't take you seriously, but also laugh that you feel someone was bullied. :)
Seriously dude youre married and with a kid why are you here on reddit and wasting your time doing this instead of well doing more adult things
Seriously kid, why are you investing so much time measuring around on Reddit. You have parents to be disappointing.
Also why are you wasting time on a website you claim to hate? Wasting time arguing with a person you don't know? Lol it's been fun though :)
Im not arguing with you
Bro I feel for you. I’m 26 and 5’1” and the struggle is real. Idk if you’re good at sports but I’m noticing that my athleticism is making me more attractive. This past week I actually caught a girl looking at me for the first time, like ever, while I was playing volleyball (as the Labero of course). So being really good at something is attractive. I’d say follow your passion or pick something and work at it till you “stand above” even the tallest person in that area. I’d also like to mention I’m a Christian and I find my relationship with God comforting when the struggles of being short hit the hardest.
Thanks for the reply. I could definitely work on becoming more athletic then I am now. I just hate that you could lift weights and become ripped and most women will still favor the taller less athletic man. I'm starting to come to the conclusion that life is just unfair and most women are shallow bitches.
Hey dude, I hear you on all of this. I'm 25yo, 5'0, and have been since perhaps middle school? I know how humiliating and awful it feels to be told I don't meet someone's desired height, and how isolating it can be to be surrounded by people of "average" or taller height.
In my case, I couldn't get into dating until after graduating high school and didn't get into my first long term relationship until halfway through college (still in that relationship), and my self worth and confidence up until then was really tied up in height and it obsessively revolved around my insecurity with my height and masculinity.
What I can say is that, for me, people who parroted this idea of "just be confident" or "be yourself' were not helpful AT ALL. Instead of that, I'll say this: what that means is try to open yourself to new experiences in life, and the confidence will slowly come with those experiences. Try knitting, book clubs, rock collecting, drawing, cooking, singing, reading, writing, things you loved to do as a kid, etc and maybe explore different communities along the way. Get into skincare, personal grooming, and fashion. Bring your friends. And with confidence and personal growth, it is important to be vulnerable and forgive yourself if you're not where you want to be yet. Perhaps the biggest lesson right there.
It's kind of misleading, actual confidence is more about experience, wisdom and genuine(ness?) than faking assertiveness or some im-the-shit mentality. (I am still working on this myself when it comes to career and the workplace. We are ALWAYS learning, be patient with yourself) But at where I am now, having been in healthy relationships with partners who have given 0 fucks about height, having these experiences gives me full confidence to know that ultimately height does not matter when it counts.
But I'm sure you don't feel that, which is totally okay. I've been there too. Nobody can convince you in a comment, you'll just have to wait and see. However, it is important to know that succeeding in career, gymming, and nice car/clothes/etc are all well and good, but they won't mean anything if you don't have an interesting personality and good attitude. The first category are what many guys THINK women want but really it's what MEN want. Height also falls into that category. EMPATHY, PASSION, INTERESTS, KINDNESS, are what women actually want.
Don't get me wrong, healthy lifestyle, finances, and personal care/grooming are necessary too, but I feel like a lot of advice from most men-oriented media and circles is to get fit, look fly, and earn a lot which DOES NOT guarantee good personality and attitude. I think as men, we often struggle to understand what women actually like...because patriarchy. That's why I suggest trying out hobbies, passions, etc. Do your hobbies, and when it feels right, try to talk to new people to work on social skills as well if you aren't feeling fully comfortable with where they're at. Being socially and emotionally mature and intelligent is a MAJOR REDEEMING QUALITY.
Another thing I'll say is, try to befriend women first if you aren't already or if you don't have many, without the intention of dating them. First off, platonic support and relationships are so undervalued. If ya girl has your back, that also means you have someone to help you when it comes to dating, advice, etc. TBH, if you can't play music correctly slow, you can't play music correctly fast. Learn how to be friends with women first.
Obviously a lot of this is easier said than done, and exhausting when you think about it. This is just what I learned and maybe not all of it is applicable. Even at 16, try new things, do it with friends, join clubs at school and meet new people. Just take it slow, do it with friends, and give yourself time and space to explore in a way that works for you. When you have fun, are vibing, get into the zone, or just enjoy life, it coincidentally also makes you more attractive and it will help you cultivate those major redeeming qualities that you don't have (yet). But keep doing you because "the girls" are doing exactly that so why shouldn't you?
Hope that helps a bit.
Thank you a lot for the reply. I really wish I was better socially ( I forget to mention I have mild autism) but i guess you were right about doing things you enjoy and finding people who enjoy those same things. I just wish the topic of height didnt exist in life and it just doesnt matter but unfortunately it does matter.
I haven't read this myself, but I've been seen people talk positively about a book about neurodivergent experience called "A Field Guide to Earthlings" by Ian Ford. But there were some "self-help" books that I read in high school that helped feel more prepared for social situations without the pressure. The one I liked the most was called "How to Be A Person" by Lindy West/Dan Savage. Just some recs if you're curious.
There's a lot more I could talk about, I'm sure a lot of people in this subreddit have had to deal with these issues quite a bit through their lives, but I'm also procrastinating on stuff. This topic is pretty near to me, so I do wish you good luck bro!
Are you white?
Ask your doctor about using HGH to grow taller, or if you dont end up growing taller, use the advantages that you were born with, visit a third world country when youre older and use your just be white card. People treat white tourist better than the locals where i live, if you go to japan you would have a haram of asian girls to pick from. I understand this doesnt fix your height issues but you have to play the cards your dealt in life. Also wear shoe lifts, stretch everyday.
Thanks for the advice bro
Your not that short for a 16 year old...give it a few years and hopefully
... im 13 and im 4 foot 6,
AND YOU THINK FIVE FOOT FIVE IS SHOR-
Ur 13, u will definitely still have a growth spurt within a few years
i would hope so.