Talk to her. Maybe telling her what position to be in etc isn't the right approach right now, maybe let her lead. Also, maybe stop kissing over her panties, if that has repeatedly triggered a traumatic response. Just leave that for now


I’m so sorry to hear that, your gf may need to attend therapy again. It’s a very difficult thing to come to terms with. It’s hard on both of you.


talk to her thurally and ask all the questions and have her give detailed answers . thays the only way you’ll find your answer


i am like ur gf in this situation. i would stop automatically going down on her. i tell men that if i want head, i will ask for it. most days i can’t handle it. if i think i can, i’ll ask for it and usually i tap out after a minute or two. slow steps !