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I want to ask a girl out, but I don’t know how to do it without hurting anyone

I want to ask a girl out, but I don’t know how to do it without hurting anyone

J_Bunn

It sounds like you need to work on your own self-care first. I know that’s a hard choice to make, especially at your age, but if she’s the right girl for you, she will still be the right girl for you when you’re in a better place.


h_mn

How close are you to this person?


Pinkydapig77

We’re just friends


h_mn

Mental health is a difficult thing for the person with it to deal with and expecting a relationship to "fix" it, isn't really the best way around it. There's nothing wrong with thinking ab it and sometimes it can help, but ultimately its up to you to do most of the work, which is very scary and can be harmful if you don't have a support system in place. I don't want to make it worse, but maybe staying friends while you work on yourself until you feel more ready to commit to a relationship, would be better. The 2 friends thing, it's always tricky with these sorts of situations, especially in highschool. There really isn't much you can do ab how your ex will react and she will most likely be upset, but if her friend does like you, then you are the one to decide to pursue it or not.


Neglastar

If you are struggling with mental health, seeking out a relationship to help is never a good idea. A partner is not a therapist, and they will only be able to do so much. They won't be able to get to the core of your issues, and in the end you still might struggle but now also have to worry about a relationship on top and keeping them happy. You will need to also help them with their emotions and feelings on top of yours. I'd say work on trying to feel better and improve your mental health before being in a relationship. It will make the experience much more enjoyable in the long run. And about the two girls, it depends on if the girl you are talking to is reciprocating feelings or has mentioned liking you. If she is, that's on you to decide. But you may have to face the fact there is a chance you will upset your ex. If she hasn't, then a few outcomes. She doesn't like you like that and she rejects your offer, she does like you like that but feels bad for her friend so she rejects, or she does like you like that and is willing to go out. But there is going to be the chance you will hurt feelings.