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Regardless of what happens with this pregnancy, it sounds like you could benefit from some mental health treatment. I’m not an expert but it seems like you may be depressed and really struggling.
Smoking and drinking more often than not will not cause you to lose the baby but instead may give the child varying degrees of disability (look up fetal alcohol syndrome for example). You don't want this for yourself or your child, please either just have an abortion or stop harming the baby!
If you don’t want a baby, you probably definitely don’t want a baby with some varying degree of disability - which could be what you’re doing by drinking, smoking, and ignoring the pregnancy. I hope you still have time to make the decision that you want to, and don’t guilt yourself too much about it. Keep us posted! I wish the best for you! I know sometimes it seems easier to ignore something but it doesn’t always make things better or easier or “go away”
There’s no way for anyone to know. It sounds likely to be a miscarriage, but sometimes people have bleeding and remain pregnant.
I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I say this with love: if you are still pregnant, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an abortion. 1 in 3 women have an abortion. It is very common and very safe and not shameful. In fact, I’d say it’s the most compassionate choice in your situation for all parties involved (the fetus, yourself, and your existing children).
But depending on where you live, you may need to act fast.
I'm confused as to why you are against abortion but haven't taken the necessary precautions to keep your fetus healthy. This simply doesn't make sense logically and one can only assume it's related to your mental health. Please consider seeking out therapy.
Go see your doctor and find out what’s happening and then go from there, right now the scariest thing is the unknown.
Tell your doctor everything and ask for help, you need support right now, this must be so tough on you.
For what it’s worth a friend of mine found out she was pregnant at 38 weeks. She had been doing the same as you, plus living life as a young 20 something, lots of parties and even rollercoasters, ate whatever and all that. She went on to have a healthy baby at 40 weeks. Yes there are risks to smoking and drinking in pregnancy but there are no guarantees. My mum smoked with me and my brother and we were both fine too.
It’s also okay to get an abortion if you want to, whatever you need is okay. Your existing living children matter and you should put their well-being and needs above this fetus!
Sending you support and strength, hope you’re okay!
No need to pass judgement, we all make mistakes we aren’t proud of just keep moving if ur gonna be rude. She’s clearly realized she made a huge mistake and is seeking help we should be supporting her
Also your friends who say they wouldn’t have changed their risky behavior because they luckily ended up with healthy kids. That’s pretty shitty, when you know better you do better but apparently some more partying was worth the risk to them.
It sounds like u may be having a miscarriage if not then this is ur second chance w this baby. I had lost a baby n got pregnant immediately after I had lots of bleeding during it went to er multiple times and I ended up w a health baby.so although ur bleeding it doesn’t mean you lost it for sure, I hope the best .
I’m sorry it’s been crazy for u I hope u get good news good luck
No one here will have any idea. The doctor will be the only person to tell you what’s going on and potential outcomes. Best of luck to you. Highly recommend therapy to talk this through and anything else that may be going on in your life.
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Regardless of what happens with this pregnancy, it sounds like you could benefit from some mental health treatment. I’m not an expert but it seems like you may be depressed and really struggling.
Smoking and drinking more often than not will not cause you to lose the baby but instead may give the child varying degrees of disability (look up fetal alcohol syndrome for example). You don't want this for yourself or your child, please either just have an abortion or stop harming the baby!
If you don’t want a baby, you probably definitely don’t want a baby with some varying degree of disability - which could be what you’re doing by drinking, smoking, and ignoring the pregnancy. I hope you still have time to make the decision that you want to, and don’t guilt yourself too much about it. Keep us posted! I wish the best for you! I know sometimes it seems easier to ignore something but it doesn’t always make things better or easier or “go away”
There’s no way for anyone to know. It sounds likely to be a miscarriage, but sometimes people have bleeding and remain pregnant. I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I say this with love: if you are still pregnant, there is absolutely nothing wrong with having an abortion. 1 in 3 women have an abortion. It is very common and very safe and not shameful. In fact, I’d say it’s the most compassionate choice in your situation for all parties involved (the fetus, yourself, and your existing children). But depending on where you live, you may need to act fast.
I'm confused as to why you are against abortion but haven't taken the necessary precautions to keep your fetus healthy. This simply doesn't make sense logically and one can only assume it's related to your mental health. Please consider seeking out therapy.
Sounds like a miscarriage to me but only the doctor can give you answers
Please look up the kind of damage that could have been done and decide if this is something you can live with. And seek OB care asap.
Go see your doctor and find out what’s happening and then go from there, right now the scariest thing is the unknown. Tell your doctor everything and ask for help, you need support right now, this must be so tough on you. For what it’s worth a friend of mine found out she was pregnant at 38 weeks. She had been doing the same as you, plus living life as a young 20 something, lots of parties and even rollercoasters, ate whatever and all that. She went on to have a healthy baby at 40 weeks. Yes there are risks to smoking and drinking in pregnancy but there are no guarantees. My mum smoked with me and my brother and we were both fine too. It’s also okay to get an abortion if you want to, whatever you need is okay. Your existing living children matter and you should put their well-being and needs above this fetus! Sending you support and strength, hope you’re okay!
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No need to pass judgement, we all make mistakes we aren’t proud of just keep moving if ur gonna be rude. She’s clearly realized she made a huge mistake and is seeking help we should be supporting her
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Here’s my supportive advice then: go to the doctor, no one on Reddit knows if you’re having a miscarriage or just destroying your unborn child.
Also your friends who say they wouldn’t have changed their risky behavior because they luckily ended up with healthy kids. That’s pretty shitty, when you know better you do better but apparently some more partying was worth the risk to them.
Again I’m not saying I think they did right, nor that I did it but okay have a good day 😊😙
I 100% agree with you. The comments here are so judgemental and awful towards OP.
It sounds like u may be having a miscarriage if not then this is ur second chance w this baby. I had lost a baby n got pregnant immediately after I had lots of bleeding during it went to er multiple times and I ended up w a health baby.so although ur bleeding it doesn’t mean you lost it for sure, I hope the best . I’m sorry it’s been crazy for u I hope u get good news good luck
No one here will have any idea. The doctor will be the only person to tell you what’s going on and potential outcomes. Best of luck to you. Highly recommend therapy to talk this through and anything else that may be going on in your life.