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mieldivina

I understand some parts. it’s frustrating. Are there any options for you to seek counseling or therapy? that shit starts within us first yanno But you are worthy of love and intimacy just as well!


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They care more about handling my depression and OCD than other problems. My obsession with people is the thing that affects me the most. But, every seems to think I am just a hormonal teen


mieldivina

The “hormonal teenager” is too often used as an excuse to not address the true problems underneath. With obsession, it’s important to reflect on the attachment relationship you’ve had w ur folks cuz it also impacts the way we perceive and approach relationships. Also, depression and OCD have a wicked amount of underlying symptoms, which potentially could make your feelings about relationships worse. Has the treatment been good so far? although you are a teenager, it doesn’t invalidate your emotions and I apologize if it’s been made to feel that way. if the counseling doesn’t help, maybe a more communication based one would help? Wishing u the best


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therapy hasnt helped. i was put on antidepressants that made me not sad anymore i guess. im no longer laying in bed sad. but i let the person i am obsessed with dictate my everyday life and emotions. i will leave work because they didnt reply to me and i cant stop crying. i tried to kms one time bc he took too long to reply. but no one listened to me. all they did is tell me that he wasnt why i did. they refuse to see how bad my attachment issues are. i have stopped trying to talk about it. i just deal with it. right now i have a guy that is so obsessed with me that i never have to deal with the attachment issues. he is more attached to me than i am to him. i think we are both just feeding off each other. i pretend like im not attached to him and i tell him he needs to get unattached to me. but, in reality i live for the attention. i dont know if i want love. i am okay with mutual obsession


mieldivina

I’m sorry about the lack of response from your family and peers. unfortunately with things like these a lot of people simply don’t understand or think we are lying. I used to be exactly like u and still and in some ways cuz it’s a journey. to help with those feelings, it helps to find comfort and solace on your own. it can be fkn hard but baby steps count. your current bf and you are trauma bonded and encouraging each others behaviors. maybe you two can go through the journey together? I used to be okay with mutual obsession but at the end of the day I was still always deeply unsatisfied, which in turn just made me more paranoid and angrier. You are worthy of so much. a bond with yourself (although how strange it sounds) would help you heal. it can be done through therapy or on your own shit. Like if you like coloring in the forest with some tunes playing then go ahead! if building a model set clears your mind then fuck yeah. No matter how trivial you think it may seem! As long as it brings some sort of joy to you is all that matters


RelationshipRound427

This sounds like very much therapy and healing from your part. Just bc you aren’t good relationship wise rn it doesn’t mean that you are a bad person but I’d suggest you stop dating ppl for their and your sake. Just heavily focus on you and try to heal whatever issues that you have. If you want help or someone to talk about it I’m here for you! But please, I read about the guy you’re w rn. Consider both you and him. Attachments aren’t healthy and you both are gonna hurt each other and a lot. I believe in you and I’m here to help!💗