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Nice people don't have to constantly remind everyone that they're nice. If you have to title yourself as a nice guy, you're not a nice guy, you're a NiceGuy™.

Nice people don't have to constantly remind everyone that they're nice. If you have to title yourself as a nice guy, you're not a nice guy, you're a NiceGuy™.

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h_mn

Its like saying "you can trust me 100% cuz im super trustworthy" without showing any evidence of being trustworthy and only just meeting


TiredinTN79

I'm just looking for friends.... with expectations.


3KidsInTheTrenchCoat

And if a woman befriends him, he’ll complain how she’s just “using” him because she treats him like a friend and won’t send him nudes.


ArthurHaroldKaneJnr

I'm just looking for friends.... with ~~expectations~~ benefits.


TiredinTN79

Benefits for him, maybe. I'm guessing the woman in the equation would just get obligations.


Quirky-Help-7078

yea, that's the joke.


Jennafoofer

I’m going to start assuming that fucking emoji actually means they rage-wanked so hard they got cum in their eyes.


Elalamyn

Hate when that happens


S0gGy_T0aStt

What does he mean by no one believes him? Like, did he tell some chick, "yeah I'm a nice guy, I won't be a dick," and she just said she didn't believe him? I'm confused when nice guys say this. I'm pretty sure no one is going to explicitly tell you, "No, I think you're secretly an asshole, can't trick me!" If they're trying to read into women not responding positively then I don't know what to say. It's not like saying you're a "nice guy" is gonna instantly earn you girl friends. They'll probly be a little creeped by you specifically and explicitly saying that you're nice cause you'll come off like a damn psycho.


3KidsInTheTrenchCoat

And even if he was really nice, like the nicest person in the world, that doesn't automatically make him a great match as a friend for everyone. You can be nice, but if there's no connection, shared interests, compatibility, it's not someone you necessarily want to hang out with. Maybe these women aren't looking for friends. And to assume any woman who doesn't want to be his friend has been damaged by other men is outrageous. As if, if someone doesn't like him, it has to be about something else, no one could ever not want him. Lastly, he clearly is only talking about women, so maybe it's sketchy that he's only trying to "befriend" women and that he's using past bad romantic relationships as his comparison. It's super obvious that he isn't "just looking for friends."


the_mexicant1

Being genuine vs looking for a reward


[deleted]

No no, we do believe that you're a "nice guy".


alup132

Nice guys don’t have to say they’re nice guys and then rant about it online


blablubluba

And adding scare quotes really isn't helping his case.


Quirky-Help-7078

I learned a while ago that you can't just say things, you have to prove them. I enjoy doing that.


Occasional_Texan

If you have bad experiences with certain types of people (in this case men), why would you want to go right back into a relationship with a man?