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Ibradiation

* Internalize that this is all a test from Allah SWT and you are rewarded for every discomfort you struggle through * Make dua to Allah to help you be stronger and more patient * Do do NOT have to obey him or honor him when he chooses to insult your deen. You can be assertive to what you approve or not. In fact show him, that what beautiful sides you have are BECAUSE you are a muslimah * Refrain from retaliating and being the aggressive either physically or by words * Try to listen/read to the stories of the Sahabah in Mekkah May Allah SWT calm your heart


Wrong_Ad_736

Do you have any muslim female friends you can speak to? With hard ship comes ease, it will take time but things will get better inshaAllah. Hope you get well and it isn't xovid.


inshaAllah_bot

inshaAllah! May God grant your wish. I am an insha Allah bot.


Wrong_Ad_736

Can't read the reply as reddit is being weird again 🤔 Could only see that you had covid, Hope you have recovered. Stay strong, pray trust allah, thinks will get better


matrix2220

Hey sister, first of all congrats on embarcing Islam and saving yourself. Takes a brave person to embrace the truth. I would advice you to join EFDawah Youtube channel stream for muslims (They call the stream Dawah Clinic) , they can help you InshAllah and can connect you to other muslims or muslim reverts around you so you don't feel alone.


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Allah says in the Holy Qur’an: The Lord has decreed that you worship none save Him alone, and behave beneficently towards parents. If either or both of them should attain old age while you are alive, say not `ugh’ to them, nor chide them, and speak kindly to them. Lower to them the wing of humility out of tenderness and pray: Lord have mercy upon them as they brought me up when I was little. (17:25) These verses are most significant on this subject. After the unity of God, human beings should, through their attitude of love, affection, and kindness, give priority over all other things to their parents who have reached an old and difficult age. Further, the verses speak of the situations when the behaviour of one or both of the parents becomes extremely trying and sometimes offensive. In response to that, not even a mild expression of disgust or disapproval should pass one’s lips. On the contrary they should be treated with profound respect. • Treatment of Non-Muslim Parents Asma, daughter of Abu Bakr, says her mother (who was a non-Muslim) came to her. Asma came to the Holy Prophet(sa) to ask her whether she should do her some kindness. The Holy Prophet(sa) replied, `Yes, show kindness to your mother.’ Then this following verse of the Qur’an was revealed: Allah forbids you not respecting those who have not fought against you on account of your religion, and who have not driven you out from your homes, that you be kind to them and deal equitably with them; surely Allah loves those who are equitable. (60:9)


Neradje

This verse sums up ur situation >"But if they (-the parents) impose upon you to set up equals with Me, the things that you know to be nothing at all, do not obey them (so far as this wish of theirs is concerned). Yet keep company with them showing uniform courtesy, love and kindness to them in (all) worldly affairs. But (in spiritual matters) follow the way of one who turns to Me (in obedience and repentance). Then to Me will be the ultimate return of you all and I shall inform you all about your deeds".chapter 31 verse 15 Neglect his awful word as much as u can don't insult him him he fell sick, or had an accident (God forbids) visit him show him u r note like him. And be sur that we are ment to face some problems and suffering in our lives stay strong


AbuEggplant

Salaam, im coming up on 4 years since my reversion as well, so congrats to that alhamdulillah. As for your situation, it is best to try and avoid talking to him disrespectful, even when it is difficult. There is reward for biting your tongue to refrain from harsh words. It is something I had to learn when dealing with my dad. He came into my life recently and I was very harsh with words and as cliche as it sounds, I learned that trying to be nice has helped me feel a lot better. In times when I can't "be nice," I avoid him and avoid conversations for periods of time. It seems like the relationship you have with him is toxic to your well-being, so I think it is best to avoid communication in moments of anger and work on finding happiness and peace without feeling "stuck" to him. Eventually, let him know how you feel, but in a way that can't be used against you. If you come off angry, then the convo will be focused on your approach vs the actual situation. Since he is insulting your deen and treating you negatively, you do have a right upon yourself to not take abuse. Our parents have rights over us but remember, we also have rights over them. A relationship isn't a 1-way street. Do what you can to maintain and fix what parts of the relationship that you can, but also make sure that you give opportunities for him to try and do his part. And as always, allow your actions to show the beauty of what being Muslim is truly about, Put your trust in Allah and fulfill your religious obligations to Allah SWT. Lastly, look for some reverts, whether online or near you, who you can go for comfort. Born Muslims can help, but there are some things that they might not understand in terms of family dynamics that reverts go through.


hajraan

May Allah take any bad feelings out of your heart, cure you, and guide your family to Islam ameen