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My mom planted these climbing roses around a patio in her yard when I got married there 7 years ago -- the marriage is in shambles but roses going strong

My mom planted these climbing roses around a patio in her yard when I got married there 7 years ago -- the marriage is in shambles but roses going strong

freedomfreida

Big hug, I'm sorry to hear about your relationship. I do love those roses:)


gallopingwalloper

Thanks, I appreciate it, and find solace in focusing on the handful of beautiful things that resulted from such a god awful union


KittyKes

I have an orchid that was a first wedding anniversary gift that’s now outlived the marriage by a few years. Strange to have the reminder It sounds like you’re still in the thick of it OP so as someone who has been divorced for two years now let me say, it will get better


Xtine85

Coming from someone three years post divorce (and two years in a healthy relationship) hijacking this comment to agree wholeheartedly... OP... I PROMISE it will get better. I’m so sorry.


Xilona

Lmao 😂 sorry your blunt responses regarding your marriage are just so humorous.


Rogue__Jedi

That's how I got through my divorce. Just gotta be real about it. I wasn't good for her, she wasn't good for me and together was a shit sandwich. Shit happens, all you can do is make the best of it.


P0sitive_Outlook

> Shit happens, all you can do is make the best of it. Making the best of shit? That's got *r/Composting* written all over it. :D


Rogue__Jedi

For real though, life is full of bad experiences. Throw them into a bin and let it turn into something useful.


incognitoRed23

Gonna quote you on that!


P0sitive_Outlook

Mate i accidentally drowned a hedgehog (r/Hoggies shout out!) in my wildlife pond (r/WildlifePonds and r/GardenWild shout out!) last year, when i forgot to install a brick step-out platform. I felt so bad but i composted the hedgehog and i like to think its death lead to the life of a few dozen centipedes and rove beetles, which went on to feed a blackbird family which nested in my apple tree. :)


incognitoRed23

That's actually quite dark. But that's how Nature is, isn't it? All those fertile graveyards & pretty limestones.


duchess_of_fire

have someone check on the roses. the tree my parents planted at my grandparents house on their wedding day 35 years ago has to be cut down because it's damaging the house. their divorce was finalized last year


lily_comics

The roses are fine on the rail.


duchess_of_fire

it's a joke


lily_comics

Wasn’t funny ?


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FireMama420

Shrubs also aren’t given a name that contains the word “climb”. It’s not a shrub.


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margieb12

Or vise versa....


Jaquemart

All roses are tendentially climbers, in the right conditions, and have no history of damaging foundations.


KookyAd9074

Hi, I don't know if it helps, but I am happily married 20 years now. But in year 7, we both wanted to end EACHOTHER. ;) It can get better. BEAUTIFUL Roses!


ChimpBrisket

Sorry to hear about the marriage. For closure, it makes sense for you to end the relationship in the same place it began, just so you can say... ( •_•) ( •_•)>⌐■-■ ^I ^^never ^promised ^you ^a ^rose ^garden. (⌐■_■)


Squigglepops

Rare country music reference! Thanks, I'll have it stuck in my head all day now!


ChimpBrisket

Haha no problem, yeah that song sticks in your head like a thorn!


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How many bushes are there in the image? Very beautiful. I'm planning on doing a Rose Bush garden. I got my first rose bush last year, bought two David Austin roses a few days ago and was just gifted a fourth rose bush in my garden


Varniepoos

David Austin roses are beautiful - I have 2 bushes in my garden and they grow much stronger and produce much prettier roses than my 3rd rose bush which isn't David Austin.


[deleted]

all posts in r/gardening should come with trauma as a rule, just to keep everyone's fantasies in check. remember: flowers wouldnt be special if the rest of life wasnt a goddamned nightmare <3 gorgeous roses btw


TheTechJones

Gardening....because its more healthy than alcoholism


justaposey

*Cries in sitting here drinking when I could/should be planting*


TheTechJones

dont feel bad. i buy different beer for me than i buy for the slugs. there is absolutely no reason i cannot feed both habits at the same time


mesopotamius

When you start drinking the slug beer, that's when you know you have a problem.


CanuKnott

*Drinks while she repots everything.


enlitenme

My best repotting day I was totally hammered. Made some great decisions on pruning


enlitenme

Totally doing this. I could seed a bed of cilantro and dill before dark, but no, I'm drinking wine out of the bottle and browsing reddit


flufferpuppper

As I plant my current garden knowing it’s the last time I’ll get to harvest it this year as I head to divorce city 😭


lycosa13

I'm so sorry :( I hope you get to plant a garden after your divorce and it reminds you of how strong you are and what you've survived 💚


flufferpuppper

Awww thank you. Gardening is only thing that keeps me sane


Pineapples_29

That’s a great point to make


TeamRedundancyTeam

Is it? I'm pretty sure we'd all still enjoy flowers and gardening in a utopia.


resistnot

How true is that!


Character-Gold-4230

Wow! Those are beautiful. Nice to have a pretty place to sit and cry. ❤️


gallopingwalloper

Exactly.


isayyouhedead16

Beautiful! Is this Temecula by chance?


[deleted]

I was wondering… somewhere SoCal…


jimmington2008

I was thinking East San Diego County, looks just like the chaparral around my house.


BumbleFuckDuck

Looks like Malibu area.


gallopingwalloper

Geez guys, tracking me down and shit... 😜


PhotoQuig

Rancho Penasquitos?


hellraiserl33t

It's funny being a native I can immediately tell. I have no idea why though. The slight hazy sky combined with the chaparral?


keegums

Only been to cali once, but the sky is slightly different colours all over the world - the horizon line, the light, the hue and tone of the sky, the kind of clouds or lack thereof. Lived in coastal New England for many years and immediately I can tell when any (rare) movie is shot in the area, from the horizon line and light angle, and hazy sky. Same with upstate ny: high tree line, reddish sky hue in autumn, wide sky with variety of clouds


[deleted]

That brush line is like no other… all Cali! I have seen something similar in Argentina and parts of Mexico— but that’s about it! Somehow you just know the ocean is behind it!


double-dog-doctor

Really? I'm from coastal California and I feel like everywhere I go there's places that look exactly like it. Southern France, Greece, parts of Italy, parts of Turkey, areas of India... Anywhere that has a chaparral biome looks exactly like that.


grandmabc

Yep, looks like parts of Spain or Portugal to me


hellraiserl33t

Yep, all characteristics of the Mediterranean climate.


double-dog-doctor

Ohhhh yeah, that's absolutely true. My mom and I couldn't stop remarking at how similar parts of Spain and Portugal looked to our home town. It got a little eerie!


[deleted]

Corfu, Italy, etc. all have a Rocky and steep coastline. If you’ve been to SoCal and lived there… easy to recognize. But if you don’t believe me why don’t you ask the OP?


double-dog-doctor

Most of California has a rocky and steep coastline, just like much of the Mediterranean basin does. My point was that many places look like the California coast; the photo could just as easily be from the Provence region of France as it could from Temecula.


[deleted]

It’s all Cali tho! 💯


Dentist_Square

Just wanna know the grow zone!!


themoneycat

Those are BEAUTIFUL. Do you by any chance know what they're called? Or what type of roses they are? I want them :)


pishpishy

Eden has been sold out for so long, I’ve been on a waitlist through an own-root heirloom rose company. I have one about 5yrs old and may just have to propagate. If you find one, get the own-root. Third year blooms in full sun are amazing, but the thorns on some branches are shockingly large.


Many_Friendship6238

Pish... Eden is available right now at Heirloomroses.com


Ornery_Ad_2084

Yeah I just bought one this year from Heirloom Roses. These are gorgeous 😍


Stop-spasmtime

Same! It was my first bare root so I was a bit frazzled trying to get it started, but it's finally showing some growth.


pishpishy

I see they’re in stock now, as of a week ago they definitely weren’t. Thanks for the heads up!


canadian-tree-girl

I'm a wholesaler and I've been having a heck of a time sourcing them too! I usually try to get a few hundred ordered each year and usually end up with around 50 coming in. (This year it was only 44!)


SitaBird

Do you if they'd grow in zone 6A? I'm in Michigan and want these roses so bad!


guinnypig

I bought 2 Eden's this year. One thru High Country Roses and the other I found at a local greenhouse. It's possible to find them still!


NoIdeaRex

I think they are Eden, a climbing rose


FLchicky

I also think they are called Eden.


frudent

I too think they are a climbing rose, called Eden


liamquips

Ooh exciting! I have an eden, but the deer ate the buds last year so I haven't seen the flowers yet.


themoneycat

Thanks!


gallopingwalloper

Yes you are correct


themoneycat

Thanks!


preraphaellite

They look like Eden to me, too.


gallopingwalloper

They are Eden roses. Thank you! I can't really take credit, it's all my mom


JACCO2008

If it makes you feel better for my wedding we turned her parents farm into the venue and planted a bunch of stuff, built walk ways, etc and 6 WEEKS later she kicked me out and cheated. Lol The stuff we built still looks nice though.


The-Sound_of-Silence

Did her parents invite you back to check it out later?


Amber_forget

Remarry and plant more roses 💜


SaltyBabe

But skip the first part, all roses.


YouMustChill

Seriously. If my wife ever leaves me, it's me and a dog.


bellitabee

Sorry about the marriage... In my experience second marriages are much better than the first. Life is too short to be miserable. It was a huge relief when my dad said that I had fought really hard and it was ok if I wanted to go home and start again. My second marriage is going strong and we have a baby boy on the way!


Xtine85

I’m all about second marriages ! My partner and me just bought a house together and he keeps on hinting at a wedding (his first, my second) and I’m just super happy being in a healthy, happy relationship. Sometimes you need that practice marriage. Excited to read about your baby! When is he due ?


bellitabee

Yes, this is my husband's 4th attempt at marriage lol... In his defense the first two were deployment marriages. They married quickly before he left for war to give them benefits and the women "moved on" while he was overseas. 🙄 The last marriage his wife was an addict and passed away, obviously not his fault but does show he has been very unlucky in love. My first husband was and addicted as well and was emotionally and mentally abusive and I left him in the middle of the night after having a go bag hidden in the vent for months. Now, we are happy as ever!! Our baby boy is due Nov 13, almost exactly a year after I miscarried with my first. November 2020 was a very sad time, but now it will be a happy one! He has a step daughter (13) and a bio daughter (8), their mother is the one that passed and I love them like they are all mine!! The girls are so excited to have a brother, he will have them wrapped around his little finger! It just goes to show that happiness can follow tragedy. Our struggles and pain are what make us such good partners.


Xtine85

Wow! What a wild and crazy love story you and your husband have. I’m sorry for your husbands loss of his third wife. I’m so sorry for the loss of your baby, but I’m happy that you have all of this positive to move on with. Good luck with your future family and I hope you and your family live a long, happy and healthy life together. 🧡


bellitabee

Thank you!! I think it just goes to show that no matter how bad life gets it can always get better! We filled the holes we all had in each other. I hope to use our story to bring hope to others.


[deleted]

Beautiful! Sorry to hear about your marriage. I've been there. Even when it's an awful marriage, divorce is still extremely painful.


somedayillfindthis

This looks straight out of a fairytale. [Annalise's balcony](https://youtu.be/qfJTxhlykvQ) from the princess and the pauper to be specific.


imapizzaeater

I’m sorry to hear about your relationship OP. It is very beautiful that you’re seeing growth and appreciating it.


P0sitive_Outlook

>The marriage is in shambles r/DivorcedBirds, my friend. :D


CapAndStemTim

Those are beautiful! I wish mine were that healthy. I hope your future relationships are filled with love, understanding, compassion, and growth. I hope your marriage can be repaired but if not I hope it brings a growth and perspective that explodes in a new life filled with longevity and care. ❤️


claymcg90

Beautiful. Is that just one plant?


Vespe50

Beautiful! How much they last?


Mon-ica

Sometimes it’s just that way, look at it this way the roses are thriving and you will too.... ❤️


Witty-Message-2852

In sorry about the marriage but the roses are beautiful!!


HurricaneLovers

From a 2x divorcee, congrats! Congrats on getting out of an unhappy relationship and congrats on some beautiful flowers!


kippers871

Take a lesson from the roses. Just do your own thing!


VivieFlea

Yep. Some things are worth the effort and some are not. A garden is forever :)


ghostiekat

I love the title and the garden lol


MittenKitten1992

Wow, your mom lives in a very beautiful location!


adskls

Sad to hear of your marriage. I hope the flowers offer you a sense of how the simply things can bring joy. Hang in there.


SweetyPeety

Sorry about the unhappy alliance. My mother used to say, "It's better to be alone than with the wrong person." I hope that your next relationship works out better. The roses are stunning btw. What variety are they and where are they grown?


Klutzy_Piccolo

All you future dates are going to love them!


fry-me-an-egg

This made me laugh(sorry you have to find humor In all painful events) perceptive is key, and this rose display is unreal. Hey something Beautiful came of your marriage. My gf just Called me who’s going through a divorce that she found cameras. I hope your husband isn’t a creep like hers. I’m keeping her spirits up, aka we smoke a lot of weed when we are together.


mogwaism

So beautiful. I hope those roses can give you some comfort! A big hug for you and I hope you can overcome this the best way possible


Daiseymae6161

Beautiful! Wish you had a before pic to see size of roses at first. So sorry about the marriage. Sometimes we don’t know our spouse well until after we say I Do😡


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Beautiful


kpharm87

WOW!!!!


m00nbum

Very beautiful roses and what an amazing view. ​ Sending you lots of hug.


987warthug

nice yard too


ChampagneAndTexMex

I’m sorry about the marriage. Been there. Someday you won’t care. I have a weird question... are climbing roses thorny? These are stunning and would love something that beautiful around my pool


[deleted]

It's a very beautiful thing to come from that time period of your life.


Technical1964

Amazing. Sorry about your troubles, but this is a beautiful patio.


mdyguy

x-post this to /r/roses


cheese_tits_mobile

Roses and thorns, friend. It is worth weathering the winter and the thorns in order to enjoy the sweet fragrance and softness of the flower. I’m sorry you suffered. You made it out. You have grown and matured as a person because of it. Be proud of that. And of course- don’t forget to stop and smell the roses. :)


lickedcroissant

Thanos: It's balanced, as everything should be ​ In all seriousness, beautiful flowers and all the best for your relationship


Comfortable-Wrap-723

The roses are beautiful, by the way things that happens always could be worse so there’s always rooms to be thankful,


SnaxMcGhee

Marriage. You're better off investing in plants.


duckjackgo

Those roses are so beautiful!!


chillig8

Nice roses and beautiful location but guessing SoCal coastline. Hopefully if that’s your mom’s property she has a good fire break around her home.


gallopingwalloper

Yes the last fire went just about right up to us, so at least we have a buffer now. But yeah for real, it was so scary. I could hear it roar and crackle, and we could see the flames over the hill from our house, but it never came over the ridge (fire fighters are gods). Ash came like snow and covered everything.


chillig8

Yeah it’s terrifying. I have had two fires get really close before we could evacuate. Bomber dropped retardant between the fire and our house. 5 minutes later we would have likely lost the house. Fortunately we are still able to have Fire insurance. I have known many people who still can’t get insured


gallopingwalloper

Oof scary. Yeah the hills around us are still red from that stuff. A few years ago after the big Malibu fire they cancelled basically everyone's fire insurance in the area (I'm in an adjacent canyon). We managed to get back on but it would only cover a meager fraction of the actual cost of our house


Beez968

Sorry if this is cheesy, but the first thing I thought when I saw this was how bitter sweet of a feeling it is to see life carry on when it feels like it's ending. I'm so sorry to hear about your marriage but like these roses, you too will carry on. Keep hanging in there.


picklelife00

Sending you love. P.s. The flowers are beautiful and so is the way you can appreciate them despite the situation.


DorkyDame

They are beautiful 😍


kns89

Eden roses started my rose obsession. They look amazing! 😍😍😍


lyssssa6

At least you got something beautiful out of it


Machine_Ancient

I have nothing from my failed marriage he dumped me at a greyhound station and moved back to my hometown with the chick he was cheating on me with so I pit 2,560 miles between us engaged now to a wonderful guy I met will waiting for a bus we celebrate one year July 27th


ThreadsofVaire

I am sorry the marriage didn't last, but there is something better down the road. Life works like that. Those roses are absolutely gorgeous...keep looking at the roses!


justBme60

Just like the rose continues to bloom each year, so can you. So good you got out of a bad situation.


OnlyLilianaBell

Wooow an absolute dream. It just looks like a fairytale. I want to be in this place immediately 😍 🥰


Witch_Face_0824

Beautiful photo and funny(no offense) caption.


orvalho_de_caralho

Wow it's stunning!


Pineapples_29

There’s something poetic about the fact that the marriage didn’t work but the roses are beautiful despite.


2retirment

Learn from the roses, overcome obstacles and hardships and bloom


eyeayeinn

Success!


FlipsMontague

That view - amazing!


DigitalWhitewater

Life is full of thorns but there’s still beauty to be found in it… like all of those gorgeous roses. Stay strong, again - just like those roses, you’ll grow (gardening pun intended) thru it.


M-Tyson

Who needs a marriage when you have roses


dontbeaparasite

Very stunning! Be strong like the roses.


trimarandude

Things will get better. Time


Scp-1404

Think of them as Freedom Roses.


flojitsu

Damn.. hang in there. Things will get better!


ijjgiafjidfai

Should have married the roses.


aeroartist

If only humans were as resilient as roses 🌹


WoobieTuesday

Bittersweet 💖


MittenKitten1992

Also, this just goes to show that plants are better than husbands.


Bob-Bhlabla-esq

I'm sorry to hear of your marriage. I don't know of your 7 years, but at least you and your mom got some magazine quality kick-ass roses out of the union! Breathtaking photo.


777CA

It happens.


Snorblatz

Life is too short to be miserable-you will find love ❤️ again


PurityAndDanger

It's really beautiful. And I'm sorry for the troubles in your relationship.


Unusual_Library8636

In response to the roses- if doesn't matter if there is a few thorns, just grow and be yourself ❤ sympathy on the breakdown


bettertree8

sorry for the troubles you are in. The roses are beautiful. What are they growing in? Best of luck to you.


Wilsonahrens

This is Golden. If I had coins I’d gild.


cfercik1

I’m sorry about your marriage. Those roses are incredible.


Just-be-4-real

I’m down to come trim those roses and have fun anytime 😙


Life_Wall2536

Where is this at? 😦


Deedeesinspirations

I love it totally it's so beautiful, God can resurrect any relationship


HappyGeorgie

beautiful! How many were planted? I just started one this spring


spamulah

7 year itch - 7th inning stretch


1284X

Might be some sort of alchemy. I've killed so many of my wife's roses.


adabaraba

What an amazing view though!


thamthrfcknruckus

Are those lady Banks roses


gallopingwalloper

They are Eden roses


mrsalexandrew

I want these roses!! Are these English? Or David Austin? I'm on marriage number 2 so I should prepare.


gallopingwalloper

They are Eden roses


cheshire_cheetah

Absolutely gorgeous! At least one good thing came out of that marriage. Do you happen to know the name of this rose?


gallopingwalloper

Eden roses. Thanks, yes there are plenty of good things that came from it on which I ought to focus. Like the bitter wall around my heart...


enlitenme

I can't comprehend this. Amazing.


Fancykiddens

"What a good year for the roses..."


guinnypig

Are those Eden's?! It's stunning!


gallopingwalloper

Yes. Thanks!


prairie_girl

I planted native climbing roses for my ex-husband because they were the only flower I knew he liked. Those things became the sharpest, nastiest, most spreading plants in the yard. Beautiful flowers at the right time of year. Absolute bastards every other moment. Solidarity.


zzplant8

I have so many things that outlasted my first marriage. I am sorry you are going through this rough time. For me it was so hard. But I am so happy and relieved to be done with it. I regret not getting a divorce sooner. Fast forward to today. I am in a relationship with someone who actually cares about me and not just about themselves. Hoping for the best for you.


aDrunkLlama

Absolutely gorgeous. There’s beauty in everything. Wish you the best!


Tropical_Hushpuppy

Beautiful roses. Peace to you.


my-penisgrantswishes

Haha marriage is stupid


Silentwatcherka

And the view!! Gorgeous.


Gamingaloneinthedark

Wow these are so well maintained. 10/10


[deleted]

What a great view! Where is that 🤔


OlderWiser101

It looks like So. California. Don’t know for sure.


peeehhh

[A Good Year for the Roses](https://youtu.be/9MtdYqaLe4w)


chefreamund

They look like David Austin roses! Do they smell as nice as they look??


gallopingwalloper

They are Eden roses, not super pungent though


chefreamund

They are gorgeous and they really love that deck


pshbuttoni

How beautiful! I've just bought a Cecile Bruner climber to oplant on a white-painted cedar fence line. Also bought 2 climbing Zepherine Drouhin's for my back yard steel arch that goes over the driveway. I just love climbing and rambling roses. Such landscape beauty for so little effort.


York_Vikings

Nice


cherangel

What a view ...just WOW...🙌👏


avidlyread

This is absolutely stunning.