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glasstumble16

Yes it is people grieve differently


TJ_Fox

Some people just naturally have a very pragmatic, realistic acceptance of the facts of life and death. If the fact that you don't enter a phase of grieving under these conditions really bothers you then it might be worth exploring through self-reflection, counselling etc.


Silly_Genius_

That's just it. It doesn't bother me. & I'm wondering if it should


TJ_Fox

Do you find that you lack emotional empathy or sentimentality under other circumstances?


Silly_Genius_

I mean I was sad when Paul Walker died. & when Groot scarificed himself in the GOTG to save everyone. Nearly shed a tear just like Rocket Racoon.


TJ_Fox

That suggests that you're capable of emotional empathy but just didn't feel it strongly enough in the instances you've cited above to feel distraught. I don't think that implies that there's anything wrong with you.


Silly_Genius_

I mean I know I'm not a psychopath. The fact that the death of fictional people can be more painful than that of an actual human relative/contact to me is intriguing though.


TJ_Fox

Psychopathy (technically Antisocial Personal Disorder according to current jargon) is actually a pretty broad spectrum. The famous cases (the ones that inspire TV villains etc.) tend to be the ones who get caught and end up in prison (which is where they're studied) so that kind of skews the public perception of what APD is.


Silly_Genius_

I guess I've never been emotionally attached to any of the listed individuals above, for me to feel any pain or anguish


mycromachine

I don't think anything is wrong with you at all, personally I think that people in modern society are just detached from our surroundings and detached from community. I spend a lot of time watching TV and movies and I feel that I have a stronger emotional connection to characters than I do actual people because we're taught how to be independent from a young age instead of living in small groups where everyone takes care of each other. I recently read a book called Civilized to Death by Christopher Ryan and he discusses how the human race has evolved from hunter gatherers that supported each other into agricultural societies and how it has impacted our lives to be more distant from other people. I dunno maybe it's all speculation, maybe there's no such thing as "normal" we may never know.


Demonarke

Grief is weird, we were close to my great grand-mother yet when she died I didn't feel much, I didn't even want to cry and I felt guilty I didn't. A close friend of the family died and I also didn't feel much, same for great aunt, and we were close to her. Yet a random guy at school died that I never knew of, but my friends did, and they started crying, and I eventually start crying as well, even though I didn't even know the guy, and didn't really care for his death, so I'm guessing it was empathy making me imitate my friends, I dunno it was weird. The death of my dog also fucked me up, especially since we knew he had to be put down and we kept hoping he would miraculously recover for some reason, he didn't and we had to put an end to his suffering, that made me sad for quite a while, and I used to dream about him, and I would hear him even though he wasn't there (probably hallucinating) I know I will be devastated at the death of my parents, though I don't know if it will be the same about my grandparents, I will probably be sad but it will definitely not be the same as my parents. Especially since I've kinda accepted my grandparents will die but I'm a transhumanist and keep irrationally hoping my parents will survive long enough to become immortal but hey that's just wishful thinking on my part I know.