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RoboCat23

Before seriously commenting on this post check out his other two posts. This guy is disgusted by his own body. Dude, you have some major issues you need to deal with before women will want to deal with you. And you have a bad attitude.


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JaneIsaPain

But they dont lol, obviously, otherwise you would be attracting better women online. You should post your dating profile on reddit.


Godisgoodkj142

Online dating profiles are a whole different world. You can be extremely confident and high value but if you don't know how to make a great profile then you'll get zero matches. Not sure how your profile is but you can e post a link to your tinder here or on Reddit tinder to get feeback


cyrusol

When online dating confidence doesn't matter when it comes to getting likes and matches. Or only insofar that your body language (posture, smiling) looks a bit more attractive. Liking other profiles almost only comes down to looks: genetic lottery, effort (weight, body shape) and presentation (haircut, clothes, lighting, angles, makeup). When trying to get to know people offline looks is less important and behavior but also pheromones become more important. Your confidence will mostly express itself in attractive behavior. > If I see myself as low tier trash, then I can accept that I have no better options than the least attractive women on earth and date those women. If I see myself as a confident and high quality man, then why would I accept that as the best I can get? This does read like a rhetoric question?


JaneIsaPain

Idk something doesnt add up dude. Youre all that but getting no good matches? Come on,like attracts like.


PleaseBeHappyMate

"I have absolutely no problems (aside from my complete disgust for my own body which I described as skinnyfat but now think is fit) and am a remarkable catch, but no one will match with me online. How do you reconcile that?" Man, I feel like you're taking the piss and judging by your responses to the comments I *really* think you're taking the piss. But, for the few people who this post is going to resonate with, let's be clear: Online dating is a vapid, commercially exploitative cash-grab meant to exploit emotionally vulnerable men's insecurities so they'll sign up for premium memberships. That is it's main purpose and everyone knows it. Yeah, some people will get matches but rumors of Chad Thundercock taking home the poontang every night have been greatly exaggerated. It's not a great way for meeting people and is best (and often) used as a quick, distracting, validation app so throw it away. Nothing about online dating is really that good.


dftaylor

Straight up, you sound like you belong on r/niceguys with this attitude. You’re actively suggesting that overweight women and single mothers are of “lower value” while complaining that women don’t see your value. I suspect the reason you don’t get the sort of women you desire is because you’re a bit arrogant and perhaps not the catch you perceive yourself as. If you have all the above going for you and women still don’t want you, then there’s something in your personality putting them off. And it’s not hard to figure out what after reading your last paragraph.


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MaddiRenee_

So you say you’re kind in your original post then you say you’re not nice. Alright Maybe you should try actually being kind and women might have an interest in you. Most of us aren’t interested in arrogant assholes


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MaddiRenee_

You sound like you’re extremely picky too. Apparently you’re 35 and want to date young girls because women your age are mostly fat, wrinkly, and unattractive (?) You sound like you have a lot of issues. You put on this facade of being uber confident but in reality you’re incredibly insecure and want a young hot skinny girl. Manage your expectations and seek a therapist, that’s my advice


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JaneIsaPain

And biology made women to seek out older, bald, ageing men with lower sperm quality lol? ( coz let's be honest you can look fine, but your sperm will always be the same age you are lol ) Dude stop kidding yourself. If you could get a younger woman you already would have - the fact is, you can't.


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JaneIsaPain

I know plenty men who no, would not have sex with a 20yo if given the chance. That is truly disgusting that a 60yo would sleep with a 20yo, given you could have been her grandfather. Men constantly use BIoLOGY as an excuse for morally shitty behaviour. Not all women at 20 are hot either, plenty of fat girls at that age too, from memory, I had plenty of overweight friends in their teens and 20s.


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MaddiRenee_

I’m not saying you’re insecure because of who you find sexually attractive. I’m saying you’re insecure because of the posts you’ve made about your body. It’s normal to want to be healthy and fit, I don’t think it’s healthy to be disgusted by any body fat (which is 100% normal to have btw)


dftaylor

This is why no one matches you. And thank Christ for that.


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dftaylor

Mate, I’ve read about 300 words of your writing and I know you’ve got deep-seated issues, as well as being a nasty piece of work. Trust me, your face and appearance aren’t your problem.


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ImNian

Its always good to have an idea of what youre worth. Obviously dont look down on others or be elitist about anything. A dating app profile will never truly show someone for who they are. Id say most people dont even read bios or scroll through further than the first photo


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Mueller96

Of course you still should be confident. If you're ugly it's probably easier to get noticed offline than on tinder. But you sound kinda desperate and unhappy in this post. It's normal to sound like this when asking for advice here, but if you have this in general you probably should try to work on that.