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mynameisradish

Show me *one* TikTok user that did not lie in one of those to gain more attention/clicks/comments/etc. These "horror stories" are how one gets more views and more popularity. They don't have to prove anything to anyone and they can say anything they want in those clips without any repercussions. You are using two forms of BC, and at least one is used perfectly as you mentioned (the pill). That alone is over 99% effective, adding pullout on top makes it damn near impossible to be pregnant.


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So here's the thing: The loudest stories are the rarest ones. Yes- there are extremely rare instances when a woman doesn't know she was pregnant. But the vast majority of these women are not on birth control. They are also often quite overweight. The chances of that happening are soooo small. You have a much better chance of plenty of other medical things you probably don't worry about on a daily basis. I also obsess over chances of pregnancy. It's hard to ignore things that are theoretically possible. But only 1 in 2500 women are pregnant and don't know it until they are giving birth. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3128877/ Here's a list of things more likely than not ever knowing you were pregnant: -Being born with 11 fingers or toes (1 in 500) -Getting your car stolen (1 in 333) -Getting accepted to Harvard (1 in 22 apps) -Being ambidextrous (1 in 100) -Cracking an egg with two yolks (1 in 1000) -Having two different colored eyes (1% of population) Do you know many people with these? Me neither. But if you went to a Harvard class reunion, it would seem like TONS of people get into Harvard. Because that's all you'd see.


Medical-Seaweed

Omg thank you so much for this comment, this really puts things into perspective! I would always think 'oh, 1 in 2500 is rare but not THAT rare because the chances of being struck by lightning are like, 1 in 500,000'...but in comparison to your other stats I feel more reassured.


staringspace

Fantastic post. As a researcher who occasionally has the same thoughts and worries, it's so important to recognise the context of these TikToks (are they real?) and also the context of those who did not know they were pregnant, too. Have all my upvotes.


melp1996

This is a very fair fear but omg please delete tik tok lol, it is so terrible for scaring people over the littlest things and starting the most terrible trends. I watch it for the wholesome dog videos but everything else is just terrible.


Sea_Of_Kitties

I have the same fears even before I was sexually active. I can't speak for someone that has been pregnant to know the signs, but I've been on BC for like 8 years, 7 of which were combination pills, 3 different kinds over the years, but moved to IUD this last year. I honestly got it, so my BF wouldnt have to pull out, and he never did. None of my BF's have ever pulled out and I've had maybe 3 scares of no period? But otherwise, this is a crazy phenomenon of an idea that you can get pregnant on BC which is already around a 99% if taken perfectly, which, go you, I was never that good either. More like an hour off sometimes here. Plus the idea that you bleed during a pregnancy is something like 20%-435%, and that accounts for all bleeding, but don't quote me, it's been a couple years since nursing classes. All in all, it's a really low chance even if you aren't perfect, and no one is but honestly, you're doing everything you can without completely submitting to abstinence. Sorry this was so long, but you go girl. I think you can enjoy yourself without this fear somehow.


lilbluehair

If the dude I'm sleeping with ignores my request to pull out, I don't sleep with him again. Blatant disrespect


Sea_Of_Kitties

I mean same, but I also left out that feeling them finish inside is the best part so it's not unwanted. At least on my end. But yeah, if they ignore your wishes, throw them to the curb asap. There are decent humans out here.


Skittlescanner316

You do not have a period during pregnancy. It’s impossible. A period is the shedding of the endometrium. There’s no endometrium to shed when pregnant. Can you have bleeding? Yes-and this is due to complications (previa, for example). If you’re concerned, take a test. Do not get medical information from Tiktock


Bubbly_Government_79

Dude I know! People don't understand WHY we get periods but when you keep seeing these videos it scares you


BlepBlepItaBean

No, this is false. I bled every month until i was 19w along. I had no idea.


Skittlescanner316

That was 1000000% not a period. You can indeed bleed with pregnancy but it’s not a period. It’s a complication from something else.


BlepBlepItaBean

It was on time every month. Missing a period is not always the first sign.


Skittlescanner316

I’ve worked in obstetrics since 2008. You were not having a period. If you are pregnant it is impossible to shed your endometrial lining because a pregnancy does not allow for it.


unxpectedlxve

it was likely just spotting that just happened to happen around the time your period would usually be. you can’t have a period while pregnant.


BlepBlepItaBean

No


miniyellow

I would take a pregnancy test regularly if that would help your fear. I take one once a month for peace of mind.


Sure_Engineering8591

i gotta do that too i’ve heard buying them on amazon are a lot cheeper


Inkedmamabear

The pregnancy tests at the dollar store are 100% worth it and accurate! I’ve got 5 kids and dollar store tests all showed positive within 2-3 weeks of conception every single time! One time I took 10 tests in a row and they all popped positive! And it cost less than a single test from some other brands since they’re literally $1/each!


freecouch0987

I literally deleted TikTok because of this, as well as relationship horror stories in general. The sensationalized and volume of that content is so unhealthy for my mental health.


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Lol there was that whole show “I didn’t know I was pregnant”, but tiktok is such a mess of pseudoscience and people trying to go viral, I would ignore the noise


russells-paradox

Whenever a cryptic pregnancy TikTok appears, click on “not interested”. That’ll make the algorithm understand you have no desire of seeing this type of content. Your paranoia may subside if you avoid those horror stories. At least that’s what works for me!


phoebecrazy21

Omg, are you me?!


BlepBlepItaBean

Just get a lot of $1 texts. Test every month. I did not know until i was 5 months BUT i was trying. I never had a scare on bc.


ThePowerOfDreams

>I can't (and mainly because I don't want to)


cheesyn00dles

So OP would rather worry herself to death? Makes sense lmao


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Yeah I got stumped on that bit as well, why not just take a monthly test to put your mind at ease?🤔


Bubbly_Government_79

Taking a pregnancy test is super hard for me because i get so much anxiety. You guys may think I'm being dramatic, but the first pregnancy scare I got I went to get a test and obviously it came up as negative but the entire day I got even more nervous because I was thinking "what if it's false, what if it was a cheap pregnancy test, what if blah blah blah." That's why I don't like people telling me to take a test because I KNOW I can but I mentally can't go through that anymore.


hi-imdaisy

Just throwing in my two cents here. I totally get your anxiety but the problem is that if you don't take a test, you may not find out until it is too late to do anything about it. I also have extreme pregnancy anxiety but the best thing you can do is have a plan for what you would do in the event that it does happen. It can offer some peace of mind knowing that you've thought about this before and decided what you want to do ahead of time, that way you're not freaking out about it *too* much in the moment. Taking a test can be really, really scary but mentally having a battle plan ahead of time can maybe take the weight off of it just a little bit. It does for me, at least.


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Maybe you need someone to speak to about this anxiety? I was the same, but monthly pregnancy tests really helped me put my mind at ease, because if I was pregnant, at least I’d know early on. I would also recommend maybe getting yourself fitted for an IUD? That may be a more reliable option, as well as using condoms.


Bubbly_Government_79

I'm not really sure about what kind of IUDs there are but the pill has been so helpful in regulating everything for me! I had really bad hormonal acne and cramps before I got on it so it became a godsent to me. I heard that most IUDs are nonhormonal? And I never felt like I should talk to anyone about my anxiety because I'm fine with every other aspect in my life (I mean I'm not an anxious person), but when it comes to PREGNANCY?!?!? I literally have a radar in my body to detect any "foreign" symptoms.


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I get you! There are both hormonal and non hormonal IUD’s, I have the mirena which has totally eased my super severe period cramps (due to endometriosis) and it also made me regular. I can honestly say I feel more protected with my coil compared to when I was on the pill, I would give it a try if you’re up for it! Anxiety can also manifest in all kinds of thoughts and forms, yours seems to be about pregnancy, which is totally understandable, but yeah, there’s things you can do to help ease it. I would speak to your doctor about this anxiety, maybe they can offer you a different BC method, or even something (like condoms) on top as a barrier.


mariekeap

The best advice I can give is to get off TikTok or significantly reduce your use. This probably ages me, since I'm 27 and I've never used TikTok but it goes for social media in general. Always remember that while social media is useful for connecting with others and sharing funny memes, it is now primarily for *making money*. People want a click-bait story to draw in the views and therefore draw in advertisers/sponsors. There are very rare cases where people do not know they are pregnant. It happens - but it's so uncommon (someone else posted an actual study). Most of the people on TikTok are likely lying or at the very least, stretching the truth to its limit. Take everything you see and read online with a heavy grain of salt. I realize the irony in me saying this in an online post, but there are no advertisers who are coming to give me money for an anonymous Reddit comment. Even then, Reddit isn't immune either - far from it. Look into what you read and see, fact-check and ask yourself questions: 1. Who is the audience of the message? 2. What benefit does the person get out of scaring me/hyping me up etc.? 3. What are the facts? Are there any references or studies to back it up?


lastchncefraslowdnce

the only thing gonna calm you down is a pregnancy test lmao


laziestlawstudent

bro this lmaoooo


KnightsWhoSayNui

If you are pregnant you will most likely notice. Incoming list of symptoms, so beware. With my first pregnancy dogs were running towards me going gaga over my crotch before I even had a chance to do a test and I was trying. A lot of public places made me gag. My boobs hurt and they looked like I got a boob job. I was puking all over. Bloated 24/7. Super dramatic 24/7 and those were just the first few weeks. Yeah I bled a bit but it was very little compared to a normal period. In the last trimester, especially the last few weeks, you can only waddle, not walk. Your boobs might leak. In fact, everything might leak. You're tired af but your hair looks glorious. You can physically feel individual parts of the baby with your hands and you can feel them from the inside. You can see feet sticking out if they kick. You might get Braxton Hicks (practice contractions) as early as week 20. The only way not to notice until giving birth is if you are very overweight and have pre-existing health problems. And even then you were probably in denial a bit.


cheesyn00dles

Everyone likes to think they’re a professional on tik tok. You need to buy bulk pregnancy tests on Amazon and take one every month. That’s the only thing that will ease your anxiety. Also, getting a period is your body literally telling you that you’re not pregnant. Spotting is different and could be a light period or pregnancy. Again, only way to know is a test.


[deleted]

I deleted tik tok last fall after getting all sorts of weird health things...this was one of them on my for you page. The fear is real and deleting tik tok was well worth it!


Bubbly_Government_79

It was so relieving to view your comments. It was so annoying seeing professional OBGYNS talk about how this was uncommon and then you see 50x people say in the commons how they are lying and that their moms or grandmas had this issue. Like do you guys not know basic biology and have the audacity to question a professional who is licensed about this?


mariekeap

If I have learned anything in this last insane year and a half, people are stupider/more ignorant than you think (this is not all their fault - education systems have failed many) and thanks to social media, they are also more dangerous because of it.


SnooRevelations5360

The wayyyy I was worrying about this exact thing yesterday night after seeing a TikTok horror story earlier in the day


abbyrheuthe

Girl same. I think u would know though. I’ve heard of woman that take pregnancy tests monthly to make sure and I’m like no I’m already paranoid I don’t wanna encourage myself


hippyaltaccount

I don't really have a concrete solution, but I had the same exact feeling and concern for the first 4-5 months of this year. It seemed like the more I worried about it the more those types of videos showed up on my FYP. You are definitely not alone and it was honestly one of the worst few months mental health wise I could remember. I talked to my therapist about it for a bit and that helped. Another thing that helped was for a while whenever I saw a baby/pregnancy related video I scrolled as soon as I figured out what it was -- I was basically doing whatever I could to trick the algorithm into thinking that I hated those videos (which was true lol). Eventually I realized that if I were pregnant I would definitely know by then. A routine trip to my dr confirmed that I was, as I logically knew, not pregnant. From there it just got easier to manage that anxiety. I am so sorry that you are going through that, I wouldn't wish that anxiety n anyone because it was hell for a while.


Bubbly_Government_79

Thank you so much, now I'm experiencing anxiety because I found out that bc may not be effective if your BMI is over 30 smh!


hippyaltaccount

Your dr knows your BMI and wouldn't have prescribed you something completely ineffective. If they thought the risk was higher than the benefit they would have likely given you a different option.


Bubbly_Government_79

I know! But I gained relationship weight from that time


hippyaltaccount

I bet you are still 100% fine. If you're worried about that, you can always send your doctor a message or email and they can reassure you!


Bubbly_Government_79

So my BMI when from overweight to obese even though I don't even look like I gained weight


nataliedawn742

Ok, so I just found out im six weeks preggo and I did have a very light period the week before I found out. It lasted a week but was super, super light colored blood. This is my second baby and it didn't happen the first time. I'm thinking now it was the implantation bleeding even though it lasted so long. I'm not on birth control but was on the shot until December of last year. I had other symptoms like feeling sick and really sore boobs too that made me finally take a test. I'm guessing you are not pregnant since you are on the pill though.


stress789

Implantation bleeding is a misnomer. Spotting during cycles is common and is not telling of pregnancy or not. Implantation is too small a phenomenon to cause any bleeding. This is from an automod in another subreddit: I have been triggered by the presence of the phrase "implantation bleeding" in your post. If my reply does not fit the context of your post, please ignore me. Implantation bleeding isn't real. Spotting after ovulation is a natural, normal, random occurrence which can happen to any woman on any cycle whether or not she is pregnant. Implantation is a microscopic event, far too small to cause any noticeable bleeding or spotting. Women who claim to have experienced implantation bleeding are mistaken, having simply experienced very normal post-ovulation spotting which confirmation bias has inaccurately led them to believe that implantation was the cause. Spotting is not indicative of pregnancy. I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please contact the moderators of this subreddit if you have any questions or concerns.


sansaandthesnarks

So I had those same anxieties from TikTok videos and that one woman who writes for Buzzfeed who I think was pregnant twice without knowing it or something like that + I’m on Lo Loestrin FE rn so I don’t have a period/breakthrough bleeding at all. While the best advice is just to ignore it and remember that most of those commenters are lying for clout or made some very obvious mistakes with their birth control use, honestly what helped me was getting a pack of cheap pregnancy tests and testing once a month just to make sure


midnightauro

I did bleed during my brief pregnancy and it was like a period in pattern. However, I absolutely knew something was wrong at wk6. There was no ignoring that feeling. It was way different from my usual anxiety and I remember being at work and having a thought that sounded like a voice telling me "You're pregnant". No emotional weight, just a monotone fact. I've never experienced that again, even when I've panicked myself into thinking I am when I'm not. You could possibly be pregnant and not know but it's so ridiculously unlikely, especially if it's your first. Your body flips out lol. You'll know. And it won't feel like anxiety if it's really happening. Remember, people on the internet lie, or they dramatically retell. It's likely those people DID have symptoms they ignored. Also, I no longer have fallopian tubes and use the ring and I still panic sometimes. If it becomes too much or starts eating you, please seek out mental Healthcare too. Medicating my anxiety is the only thing that helped me.


Fancy-Ticket-8703

my mother had her period for almost 3,5 months before she found out that she was pregnant with my brother. She didnt feel any difference untill she took a bloodtest to check out her iron amount. Thats when the doctor told her if she knew that she was pregnant


Bubbly_Government_79

But was it like a regular period or was it lighter?


Fancy-Ticket-8703

it was normal blood color not lighter thats why she tought she wasnt pregnant


abbyrheuthe

Was she on the pill


Fancy-Ticket-8703

yes on the pill


abbyrheuthe

Ughhhh that’s scary. She didn’t notice any weight changes???


Fancy-Ticket-8703

no i she used to work out 5x a week so idk if she would have noticed


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Fun_Background_8113

Monthly implantation bleeding?


h2oxygen

I use the app MyPill, for questions and doubts. They know so much more based on reliable resources like NHS. and do not rely on tiktok at all.


No-Independence-1579

I get you. I have also experienced this irrational fear at one point or another. Get the 100pack of pregmate tests if you get the 100pack it is like $0.30 a test. You can test frequently without blowing money on first response


Sure_Engineering8591

i would get pregnancy scares (and still do oops) all the time with bc and the only way to stop that fear is through a pregnancy test and i take it two weeks after having sex, im sorry ik u said to refrain from it but for me its the only way to be at ease. it’s not okay for you to feel anxious every day. whatever happens, happens but enjoy your vacation and leave the problems when you come back home, because theres really nothing you can do now :( IMO i would delete tiktok now and schedule an appointment for a gyno so that when you come back from your vacation, the doctor can give you an ease and help you out with what’s true or not about period blood.


ThatDangerousWoman

I understand you and the mental distress when you take the test and hope and worry its negative and still doubt the results. I had the same problem while i was with my ex husband because i knew my life would only get a lot worse and no kid deserves to be born in those horrible circumstances. The only thing that eased my mind was absence and finding someone who i wouldn't mind having a kid with but I'm honestly still concerned. Its just always a possibility that women dont notice the pregnancy and still have bleeding, especially if they take birth control pills and have monthly withdrawal bleeding from my research years ago. I completely understand your anxiety.