Why do guys like shy girls?
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Because a lot of us are shy as well.
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Danke, I'd always wondered
That makes no sense imo, if both parties are shy who's gonna start a conversation or who's gonna ask the other party out? I personally prefer confident girls
imo, confident girls are much more intimidating than shy girls, in a social aspect
That's the whole fun part.
It’s cute usually they’re sweet people and a lot of times they’re nerds which is very cute as well.
Wait? Being a nerd is cute?? When the heck did this happen???
Edit: I am currently dumbfounded that this is actually tru for some people. Definitely noted.
Well nerds are passionate about things. And passion is cute
Edit: a word
You got that right, passion is pretty attractive
lol, but yes you’re right.
Autocorrect is my best friend
naw man, passion is *fukin sexyy*
I’m sorry to break it to you but it’s cute to me. None of my friends agree and few guys do.
I do, and I know quite a few people who do as well.
I'm with ya, they cute
nerds seem to be universally cute. not hot, but cute, two very different things.
To anyone reading please don’t change yourself to try to make people like you, it’ll be cringe and keep you up at night in the future
Ik what your sayin but To me that word doesn’t have a crazy different meaning. I think nerds are “hot” as well . The looks and personality that comes with it is hot.
Don't forget we're on reddit
I wouldn't really say people here are normal or the most well balanced
A lot of People these days, not only guys, tend to like kind or honest people, nerds are often honest, humble people which is why we like them
Being a nerd is the cutest thing ever, would date a nerdy girl any day.
Since the Great Famine.
About a decade ago. [Here](https://www.theguardian.com/fashion/2013/sep/02/rise-geeks-outsiders-superhero-movies-dork)'s an article from 2013 about how "geek" became popular.
Since we came along, it's been cute for ages
Whenever you grow out of the "nerd is an insult"-phase, in my experience.
Not everyone will agree but I'm a nerd and I sure do!
always has been
fr tho , nerdy girls are cute as hell
Didn’t get the memo i see
well idk i'd love a nerd. but i'm a nerd and i know nobody loves me so...
Nerds are alwyas cute
Because they're so cute.
What dildo machine said
You again 😂
Because they're damn relatable as a shy guy
Why not? They are usually sweet enough people after you get to know them well. They are also usually quite caring as they cherish their relationships rather than view it as something purely associative.
Why do we like anything at this point?
I dont. I used to but then it came to me how fucking annoying it is to not be able to have a normal conversation...
^ Said it better than me, nothing wrong with being a shy girl btw I am just not interested in them.
This is how I feel
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The girl I like now is a shy girl. But I don’t care about a girl being shy. Although I have some ideas as to why. For one, I think that guys may have trust issues with girls who are very talkative because they often only like “bad boys”. I know I for one don’t really talk to very outgoing girls because every time I have in the past they go after the bad boys. I know it doesn’t make much sense. But a lot of girls have trust issues with nice guys because of bad boys as well. So I don’t think it’s too weird. Just our version maybe 🤔
This comment is probably correct
they’re cute and often have interesting thoughts
idk they're cute
Idk I just find them cute
Its very simple, They're usually nice people, No one likes a bitch (Note: I know there are gonna be some bvg Comments on this thread, When i say bitch i mean it for both genders, absolutely no normal person likes an asshole)
Edit: Just wanna mention most people arent normal, One look at america right now says it all.
The stupid people stick out more than the "normal" people, most people aren't stupid :)
Because I don’t have to reply for a week.
boss mentality 😩
I'm not saying that extroverted girls can't be attractive, because there are a lot of very attractive girls who put themselves out there socially, but there are also a lot of really annoying and loud girls, and some times it's just nice to appreciate the beauty in girls who have even a bit of self respect, or don't have the courage to be so god damn annoying. (this is kinda unrelated, because being introverted does not mean being anti social, but introverts empathize with people more, and connect with their feelings better)
yes i agree. as a girl, i know some ppl are so extroverted to the point of being obnoxious haha
I’m also kinda shy. Also, shy girls are cute.
I mean, eh. Shyness isn’t an instant turn off but if it’s hard for me to talk to someone I’m going to struggle to be interested. If we can talk just fine but I have to initiate all the time it might be mildly frustrating but I’m okay with that
They are soooo cute (or cute girls are always shy idk) and they are they nicest people most of the time
They won't play me
Because shy girls makes you curious and most of them are pretty cool when they open up and are willing to have fun when you get close to her
i get that they’re cute n stuff but i’d prefer someone who claim comfortably hold a conversation with new people bc otherwise things can get awkward
I'm shy too. That's why.
When you yourself are shy and insecure it is easier to be with someone who's shy and insecure as well as that someone will not only understand you, but will make you feel more comfortable in general. At least that's how it us for me personally.
In other scenarios you could say that some guys like the girl being more shy and held back than themselfes are so they may take the "dominant" part in a relationship.
I don’t really like someone who’s shy, but i think I’d rather someone who might be a little shy or anxious around a lot of people vs someone is really loud and obnoxious and crazy lol.
Most of the girls I find physically attractive or are super outgoing are only ever attracted to “bad boys”. I don’t know why. But most shy girls are going to be very honest and loyal. Also being shy doesn’t limit your ability to have a conversation. I’m VERY shy but with people I’m comfortable around I can definitely converse like anyone else, I’m just not good at initiating the conversation.
I don't, confidence is attractive. If a girl is shy, chances are there are things I won't be able to do with her that I otherwise would've wanted to.
Personally I don’t. Like I really don’t like trying to talk to someone and getting 2-3 words as a response. I don’t MIND them per se but I do not only like shy girls, in fact I prefer ones who are not shy
cus im also shy so it cancels out
Because they're shy. I don't want a shy gf.
Did you read the question correctly?
No I did not lol, I can't read at all
They are relatable and once you get to know them well, they'll not be shy with you. And it's cute to see them getting shy at some situations :))
Yeah? They're the cutest?!
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Right, just what I thought as well
I’m super out going so if imma date a shy girl she’s gotta hold me back for that yin and yang shit
Yehhhh, I hav the exact same preference with balancing it out with an extrovert and introvert
I like shy girls and that’s cuz I’m shy lol
Because they are easier to talk to than confident girls.
Because we’re shy guys and we want someone who is in the same shoes i guess?
Are you shy? That seems like a reason why you are asking. Sorry. It wad just my assumption.
Oh no, it’s okay! But yeh, I am very shy in face to face conversations.
Oh ok. But still sorry
Ahh no its really okay. I don’t mind at all
Cool. And to answer your question. It's probably because they are usually cute.
Because I’m pretty shy too. So it’s easy to relate to them.
I think it depends a lot on the personality of both persons.
Because they’re cute. I can’t explain it but they just are.
Good question actually. It's probably something to do with being shy ourselves. Also, most of the shy girls I know are really hecking cute.
I like girls with personality and interests, and being shy doesn’t void you of that.
Also being shy that they’re more likely to be caring and outgoing with people they care about.
They're usually really good listeners, once they open up they're great to talk to, and they're really fun to embarrass
Because when they open up to you they make you feel special
In my experience shy girls have always been very friendly and harmless, what’s not to love?
They’re just cute and sweet and seem nice. I mean I’m not only into shy girls, but when I am that’s one of the reasons why
Because we know that shy girls aren't faking personalities.
I don’t really, I don’t want to be the (more) “outgoing” one in a relationship. Preferably they are on a similar level as me.
For me it's because I know it's less likely that if I said I like them. I "might" not end up as a screenshot on the make fun of people for having feelings groupchat.
This- this is very true. Screenshotting someone’s texts seems like a big violation of Someones’ trust/privacy.
Thank you for having brain cells.
Lmao any day, but question. I’m curious, do some guys screenshot texts? I only ever hear girls doing it
Its because the times where its just you and her are more special because you know that she loves you, she likes to be around you unlike other people, its just more special of a relationship in my eyes.
I think psychologically it probably has something to do with the male protective instinct so someone shy is perceived to be more vulnerable and as a result more I guess appealing to dudes who wanna be in a protective and guiding role.
Also they're kinda cute.
In general, guys like shy girls because they aren't looking for an exciting and very dynamic relationship.
But the calmness of dating a shy girl makes them not my type. I want to date a competitive, capable, and strong girl. They're quite rare, but they exist.
Oof, but shy girls can be competitive, capable, and strong as well.
Yes, absolutely, but I want them to express it, not hide it like a shy girl would. I want a very openly competitive and capable girl.
Like she'd start some competitions herself, and push me on to win.
Ohh that’s tru. This might not make sense, but I lose my Shyness when it’s in a competitive setting? Idk why, but I always get pretty talkative when I’m tryna destroy the opposing team (doesn’t really matter who I am with either). As soon as it’s over, I go back to being quiet. Very strange...
That is quite interesting. But I think that just means you're introverted and get tired of being competitive constantly, and I'd say it's just a part of being shy and competitive at the same time.
Everyone needs a break of course. Even I do, cause no way can you be at your most energetic all the time.
Also, you could just be afraid of making people think that you're too energetic and decide to be quiet when it's not a competitive scene.
Idk, but there are so many possibilities
The only thing I could think of was because I was pretty extroverted as a kid, so being competitive just came with that. And at some point I grew pretty introverted, and the competitiveness just stayed most likely because Ive been playing sports forever.
You sound like an interesting person with a nice story to share, as I had quite the opposite transition.
I was a very introverted and shy as a kid, and I noticed that's not how one makes many friends, so I slowly became more and more extraverted and extravagant.
If you play sports a lot, then you must be very strong. Are you?
Wait strong mentally or physically??
I'm assuming you're already strong mentally just from our conversation here, so I mean physically since you play sports
Ohh yeh! I’d say so. I’ve always been really active when it comes to sports. This year actually, my team was doing weight training every week which was pretty fun.
Because we’re shy too, and because shy girls are extremely cute
Why do girls like dicks. Nobody can really reason preferences on sexual behavior that would be like arguing morality. It just exists and it exists for everyone differently.
You wrong I know why I like shy girls over the “popular girl” or a cheerleader girl
I think about this a lot, and it is the best way to stop being horny.
You don't exist
Ok but yes you know I like you
Also ur flair lol
Many guys here have said they do, as do I! Shy girls are cute
i dont tbh
Well with that name you wouldn't, would you?
girls that are not shy are whores ? wtf man
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I don't like shy girls cos I'm shy as fuck and that wouldn't work plus I think confidence is sexy. My friend says he likes shy girl cos they won't freak out that much when you do something that might upset them.
I think it's because I'm shy as well and from experience shy people are typically nice people
i just think its cute
To me it's because I can relate to their shyness I think
tbh idk, shy girls are just super cute. Its just an attractive personality trait.
1. I'm shy
2. I find them cute most of the time
Shy guys like shy girls
I find it a bit annoying but I have noting against them
Well, i dont. I prefer confident girls
i don’t it’s kinda weird to talk to someone if they are shy
Because they are cute , I gotta say I’m more into buff girls but still shy girls are hella cute
With me its cuz then I dont feel bad that I'm shy
Because I (personally) am a shy guy.
They are kinda cute and they are sometimes easier to be around and talk to because there is maybe a bit less pressure
Well they're cute, and I myself am an introverted person as well. Shy girls have their own thing going for them, as do other types of women
People that are shy tend to be more genuine from what I’ve noticed. That’s all I could think of
Like what someone said in the comments, “us guys can get shy too”. Also, as a dude, I think shy girls are cute
You're on reddit. Introverted guys like introverted girls. The "guys" you are talking about seem to be based on reddit. Reddit is not real life. Not all guys like shy girls.
I wasn’t necessarily basing them on Reddit. I know that liking shy girls isn’t a popular thing, but I also know they exist. There were definitely many guys who swiped past this question because it didn’t apply to them. But since it’s a lot easier to ask people online, Reddit is a good place.
>liking shy girls isn’t a popular thing
That is definitely false where I live. Shy girls are all the rage here, and that's because most girls are shy and reserved.
It's just harder to get to know shy people, and that's why you might not see it like that
There's probably something pretentious I could say about how I don't really know because Sigmund Freud is an asshole.
Instead, I'm just gonna say it's 'cause shy girls are cute as heck.
Because they are girl
Yes. But I'm afraid to approach because I worry that you're happy sitting in the corner reading your book and you'll hate me for disturbing you.
I think it’d do the opposite actually. Shy girls usually don’t like starting conversations, but that doesn’t mean they don’t want conversation. But it does depend on the person. I’d say go for it because you will never know.
True. I will next time.
Yay! Good luck!
Haha gonna need it. I'm great at making friends but I have failed 12 times in a row at getting a girlfriend!
Aw, I hope this time it works out!
Rootin for ya!
wait, they do? i nvr heard of such 😭
I think it’s the mystery/halo-effect. First, shy girls seem nice, because they don’t say anything mean, bossy, or gossipy. If they are pretty and nice, and don’t talk too much or reveal their thoughts, the halo-effect kicks in. That basically means you assume their other qualities are good, because the ones you see are good. So you assume they are secretly smart, caring, and so on. You can literally believe that they are anything, because they don’t show much about themselves. Guys don’t usually assume that the shy girl is perfect or anything, but they think that they are secretly smart, interesting, and other good qualities. Now, your assumptions can be wrong, and they may secretly be an asshole, but you perceive them not to be. Basically, you assume the best, because your first impression of them is positive and you have no idea what they are like deep down.
Idk find it cute. Something about it. It's like how some people like firery girls I feel like it's just kinda the other side.
Yes ish, though it's also really cool if they take charge of the situation
I've been shy for all my life yet I've never even held hands lol
seriously where are all those guys??? I'm right here y'all
Shy together strong
im a more extroverted person so i don't really like shy girls that much because they are hard to have a conversation with.
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They usually have a lot to say but don’t feel they’re given the opportunity to talk. It’s cute to just listen for a while about what they’re interested in. They also tend to get really excited when they talk and it’s easy to make them feel appreciated.
All of this is very very true.
i don't like shy girls, i like girls that aren't loud and obnoxious, and shy girls fall into that category
I feel like it contrasts my loud and energetic personality perfectly
they’re too scared to say no
Because shy girls are extremely kind. Sure they keep worrying about you cheating but giving them enough kindness and reinsurement will make them do things that cause you to be a lucky man.
From what i understand shy girls tend to A) not flaunt their sexuality to the public and B) don’t go to huge party’s and shit that guys might not wanna go to.
Yehh B spot on. I j wanna chill, watch some shows, and play some video games ;-;
and so do most guys.
From personal experience and from what i’ve gathered from friends. The only real reason guys go to party’s is to spend time with their GF or try and hook up with a girl. When you’ve got a girlfriend who doesn’t wanna go to party’s there’s kinda no much point.
Because flaws make people easier to relate and talk to. It makes people feel more human. Guys also really love vulnerability (it activates that "protect this person" instinct) and shyness comes off as a sort of social vulnerability. It also lowers your perceived social status, which can make you extremely approachable.
I dont. What I mean is unreasonable shyness. And not starting conversations etc.
okay, here’s my list of why i like my sorta shy gf:
1: i’m shy too
2: i know she won’t be mad or annoyed at me for being shy around people bc she understands it
3: it’s kinda cute when girls r shy
4: shy girls tend to be a bit more caring and better at listening
that’s all i can rly think of rn
Nah g I like loud girls
i don’t like girls for just being shy
Many of us are introverted, and not very talkative. A shy girl would most likely get our attention because extroverted people are most often noticed, and a shy girl would try to avoid that, that absence of socialization is uncommon, and trust me, we always notice them; also, if that person is shy and a nerd, its perfect.
I don’t really like girls who never talk to anyone bc it’s kinda off putting to me tbh, but if they’re just shy then fair enough