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Eshbash

Please get your papers before leaving, sorry for what you are going through. Abuse is so normalised in our community that your own mother who should be protecting you is blind to it. I hope your job is secure, try and save as much as you can so that you never need to return home. Your brother's language is disgusting, if you dont have access to therapy, get self help books/online material because its important you look after your mental health. All the best and stay safe.


Klutzy-Benefit8830

I stole my documents this morning. I'm already on the run and blocked everyone. This will definitely be one hell of a ride but am determined. Tomorrow am going house hunting .Thank you for your sympathy


[deleted]

That’s great to hear good luck


happygiraffe404

Try to lie to her and tell her that you need them for work or renewal of some other document like an insurance card. If not, once you leave can you ask the police to help you with getting your papers back? I'm worried that not having papers will cause you issues later down the line. Do you atleast have copies of them? If you do then maybe you can report them lost at some point and get replacements?


Klutzy-Benefit8830

I stole them this morning. I'm glad atleast


happygiraffe404

I'm happy to hear that, good luck!


raisins-areDRY-grape

I wish you the best sister ❤️ Try and get those documents. You will need them in the future. Make sure there is a contract between you and your new landlord. Check the kitchen, heating and toilet works well. Also be prepared to add or change the locks to your new place. Make sure to also throughly ask shopkeepers and neighbours of crime rate and if burglary is common in the area. Drop it casually tho and don’t tell them your planning to move there or where you moved. Make sure you also have electricity/WiFi and check if you are also able to change providers if you wish so in the future. Make sure to also have emergency money with you in cash and in the bank. Buy a discreet book like safe I recommend. Something small that you can hide in plain site & if found will be confused for something else. Don’t make it obvious your trying to hide it like putting it under a bed. Make sure no one has your bank details or pin or old cards. Once you go make sure you let your mum know why you are leaving and for her not to make contact unless she’s ready to talk about the unfairness you received. Make sure to tell the bank, your job and if necessary the police that you do not want them sharing any personal information under ANY circumstances. Do it in writing & keep a copy. Kenya probably doesn’t have strict data protection rules like UK so your family could under the disguise of “worrying/kidnap” etc try and get information. Protect yourself. I’m living alone in the uk and these are things I had done for myself:( It get better but just know once you leave there’s no going back & no one to rely upon financially. You must be independent which can be super lonely. Which is another thing you also should expect. You can’t have a “normal” relationship in abnormal situations or at least it is difficult. Don’t let men OR WOMEN know you live alone irrespective of if they are gay or straight or into you or not into you. Be aware that almost always it is ppl that seem vulnerable that are the recruiters for human trafficking e.g pregnant women, mothers or elderly. Don’t let anyone fool you with religious pious acting either. Don’t let ppl brainwash you into believing marriage will “fix” everything too. Many times ppl specially women have sexist mindsets. Don’t fall for bad advice. Take care of yourself ❤️ once you leave your mother will be sad but it will be the wake-up call she needs. Maybe you can still have a future with her if she changes her ways now.


Klutzy-Benefit8830

Solid advise right here. I'm scared of being tracked so am disabling my line. I'll be discreet and be a parent to myself in these streets. I've lived alone before so am not scared at all. I'll be wary of people no matter how innocent they look. I'm already on the run. I haven't told my mom anything but am preparing to unblock her after a week and tell her why I left. I'm doing this for me.


No-Seaweed-4471

Couldn’t have said it better💯


Sunshinesofia95

Miskeen, I hope everything works out for you abayo. Please don’t leave without your documents and having your new apartment ready 💗


Klutzy-Benefit8830

I've already left. Tonight I'll sleep at the office and look for an apartment tomorrow. Thank you sis


thewyhgyank

Contact a commonwealth embassy! They’ll get you replacement documents or they can assist in bringing police to collect your documents.


Klutzy-Benefit8830

I don't have a passport yet but I have my national ID card and other important school document. Sadly here in Africa things don't work like that


[deleted]

I hope the best for you and be safe


Klutzy-Benefit8830

Thank you


[deleted]

Could your sister help?


Klutzy-Benefit8830

No. My older sister is toxic. The younger one is sick


[deleted]

Can’t you steal the papers while she’s asleep or take a picture of them?


Klutzy-Benefit8830

She is a light sleeper so am scared she'll know. I'm planning on stealing them tomorrow morning. I'm batshit scared but am doing this for me


[deleted]

Maybe lie to her and say you need it for the job if she gets you


Hman707

I wish you are safe 🙏🏿


Klutzy-Benefit8830

Thank you abowe


No-Seaweed-4471

Whatever you do, make sure you have your documents before you leave that house or at least a replacement of it ❤️🤍 wishing you all the best and stay safe💕💕


mastermanifestorsss

Please try & get your papers!!!!! I wish you the best abaayo macaan x


Klutzy-Benefit8830

I've gotten them. Thank you abayo macaan


ah116

I’m so sorry this is happening. Do you have a friend or family member you trust that you can ask for help?


Klutzy-Benefit8830

Not at all. I cannot trust any family member. A colleague is trying to help me however. Bless his heart


ah116

That’s good. Friends are invaluable in these situations. Don’t worry have a positive outlook and you will get through this! Think of the new life you can build for yourself! Also, if you can I’d advice moving out of EastLeigh, it’s really a wahabi infested shithole. Nairobi is pretty big and some neighborhoods like Umoja, and kariobangi can be cheaper and more lowkey.


NoVeterinarian1056

how did it go? wishing you the best


riri808

Please be as safe as you can doing this. Save up as much as you can and go to a different city, And get a job there. I wish you the best god luck on your journey!!!


Camera-Muted

Good luck hun and keep us updated please!!!! ❤️❤️❤️