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Razik_

Sorry you had to go through that. And I totally feel you on the parent doubling down and demanding an apology from their child when it should be the other way around. My mom starts arguments I don't want to be apart of, insults me to the seven skies and back and then gets shocked when I finally retort back/defend myself. She would then put herself in the position of a victim and lament how her children don't like her anymore. And then comes the demanding an apology part. To echo your statement, it is absolutely effing exhausting.


cbl8448

Or when they say " we never used to talk back to our parents even if they are wrong" Times have changed, Different country, Different ideas and the list goes on....


Razik_

yes! Also my mom confidently says that she can be wrong but that doesn't mean we can be clever with her or correct her and then she provides "evidence" supporting that claim by mentioning the quran that yada yada. She on the other hand can say whatever she wants to us the children because at the end of the day she "brought us into this world".


cbl8448

You gotta love when they say that "brought us into this world" Then you should be making our lives better not miserable by chaining us with your guilt trips.


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Razik_

I haven't made concrete plans of moving out just yet bcz that requires financial independence of some sort (you're looking at a broke college student here haha). But it is something I will have to consider once I finish uni and either get work in my field or get a 'in-the-meantime" normal job to pass by. And as for therapy, its not an option for me yet.


mastermanifestorsss

Are they not aware that you shouldn’t habaar your children? If they’re so religious, why don’t they take the route of making dua for you? This is pathetic. Religion is just used as a control folks


cbl8448

Desperation that's what it is, power is slipping from their fingers and they will use any kind of guilt tactic to put you down.


mastermanifestorsss

Big facts! it’s quite animalistic if you think about it


cbl8448

I love when they say that they will habaar you and you will not get a job by not following IsLaM. It's in you best interest i get a job.


Razik_

yea especially if they have the mentality of "our son/daughter who got an education will support our family"


cbl8448

100%


som_233

Got to find a way to set boundaries and not get triggered (r/stoicism and mindful meditation). Education pays off. Man made religious mumbo jumbo is a waste of time.


cbl8448

Big Waste of time. I can't believe i wasted a lot of time in it.