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r_nomad

We aren't strictly an Islam-focused subreddit. In fact our description includes the following: > a non-judgmental place for us to meet and discuss things we aren't able to openly talk about. The youth struggling with their home life is certainly in line with that. Please ignore the posts that are of no interest to you.


ah116

I think it’s fine. I was also a confused teenager once and I wish I had a place to vent back then. It’s like a free therapy session for these kids which is good. We all know Islam is bs anyway, discussing religion 24/7 is boring.


Gallaballatime1

There are subs for that. The focus here is Islam. If th they need to vent about their mothers lack of emotions then do it somewhere else.


ah116

I think the reason people come here instead of those subs is because we have shared experiences and cultural background. I always thought this was a community sub and not a debate sub. Yes it’s important to highlight ludicrous religious nonsense and occasionally make jokes about it but we also need the community of “XSomalians” to discuss topics relating to mental health. It’s a lonely world out there for x Muslim Somalis, this sub may be the only source of interaction with like minded Somali people they may get, it maybe the only way make new friends as well.


One-Wrongdoer1110

The only place! Sometimes I come home after an exhausting day interacting with people who hate my guts, would kill me and throw me to the wolves over ideology. Let’s give people freedom To share and connect over shared trauma due to our home life😩🙏🏾


Gallaballatime1

I hate it when people say connect over shared trauma. Some people really love to pathologize themselves and make their whole identity revolve over trauma.


One-Wrongdoer1110

Some people? At least address me directly if you’re gonna bitch. A whiny ass bitch


Gallaballatime1

Don’t embarrass yourself. And I already addressed you. Stop making trauma your whole life.


Gallaballatime1

If he ask important than make a vent sun for Somali teens. I’m an adult. I don’t wanna be bombarded with calacaal from 15 year olds on a daily basis. Especially when a lot of the issues they face are only natural for teenagers.


freelancefikr

if you wanted specifically ex-muslim content, there is r/exmuslim it entirely makes sense that people would want to post somali-specific content in a safe space such as this one. guaranteed any other somali sub wouldn’t tolerate most of these posts for a second due to their unislamic leanings


NoVeterinarian1056

i can see where you’re coming from but at the same time most of these youngsters talk about the trouble of their parents being muslims, and them being atheists. the guilt, the anger, and the trauma because of RELIGION. does that not fit in the sub according to you? 🤷


Gallaballatime1

Those types of threads are normal. But fights with their siblings or their parenting style that has nothing to do with the context of this sub is annoying. Some days you’d think this was a place for teenagers to vent , and as an adult I cant stand jt. The amount of teenage related threads have increased too


whoareyoutomorrow

I relate to some of the posts here. It's like a group therapy kind of thing. Plus what can we say about islam that isn't already said? Especially since there is an exmuslim subreddit for that. This community is for exmuslim or questioning Somalis. You may relate to some posts, get confused by others, disagree with some. It's OK. Just ignore the posts that you don't relate to.


Newhereeeeee

Are these parents not a major reason people are leaving Islam? Are they not a major reason for them to hide how they really feel about religion?


Gallaballatime1

They’re not discussing the religion tho and that’s the issue.


Newhereeeeee

I don’t find that to be an issue. Rarely do Somali people have safe spaces. So I really don’t mind as long as it’s a safe space.


mastermanifestorsss

Our parents had a large influence on our perception of God


RepresentativeCat196

You lack empathy; this is a sub for irreligious Somalis. That doesn’t mean we need to discuss Islam all the time. I’d rather we didn’t tbh because that is boring. I don’t care for Islam. I am no longer a Muslim.


mayayam2

it’s the experiences of ex muslim somalis so i don’t see the problem


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Gallaballatime1

But is it a sub targeted for teens? Cause that’s what it’s starting to look like


[deleted]

Am not here to judge. This is just a subreddit and I am here to hold space for every non religious somali that wants to share, our experiences vary and our spaces to be heard are limited. Yes, some of those experiences include ppl growing up in insane house with muslim psycho parents and we need to be able to just be glad they can find understanding. Too many somalis suffer in silence and isolation. If I don’t like a post I just scroll past it. If you want more of content you want to see then post that content. Anyways in greater scheme of things does it really matter?


som_233

Wait, wut? "The angsty teen" is almost always a child of parents who hate that they are not wadaad AF. No, we are here to help those who are going through through times because their parents are wadaad. If you don't like a post, ignore it and move on.


One-Wrongdoer1110

Most of these non Islamic problems come from Somali culture and aren’t single case scenarios, this sub is XSOMALIAN the space is for discussing both cultural and religious issues/identity I understand it might be annoying or boring but please have some empathy. Teens feel trapped.


Gallaballatime1

Empathy goes so far. When every other post is about their absent father or some coke hoyoo it gets tiring.


thewyhgyank

I think it’s totally fine! Our Somali ex-Muslim experiences isn’t limited to just Islam. Islamist ideology literally shaped our entire life for some of us. Whether it was family dynamics, dress code and culture…etc. You don’t need to engage with it if it doesn’t pertain to you. A lot of us relate to these posts you are attempting to belittle.


xtvphrr

I mean you can make a post