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  • By - ah116

ah116

This is an issue only a therapist can help you resolve my guy. Maybe some deep childhood things that you don’t know about.


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I already know where it’s from, it’s from not having a stable home and moving a lot at a young age and being forced to meet new people without saying goodbye to old ones


ah116

It’s pointless trying to get help from this sub. If you’re serious about overcoming this then only a trained professional can help you. No shame in seeking therapy


[deleted]

Sounds good I’ll follow up on that, thanks for the advice


Snoo_43779

I have always struggled with this and it’s one of the reasons why I went to therapy- it really does help.


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Can you explain your struggles please


[deleted]

I've been hanging out with the same 2 people since I was 14. honestly your situation seems strange. I've become friends with other people but I don't consistently hang out with them as much compared to my 2 childhood friends.


[deleted]

It’s hard to keep childhood friends when you keep moving 😂😂😂, anyways I’m glad you hang out with two people.


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I’m a strange guy my guy 😂😂 but I moved around a lot so never really put effort into maintaining any long term relationships, I justify this with ‘ my child hood friends don’t give a fuck about me and don’t think about me, how will I ever stress over a strangers approval’


mastermanifestorsss

You probably don’t vet your friends before you become friends & you may have no boundaries. I know this because this used to be me. Don’t let anyone tell you friendship is not important, it is. If you would like to make friends I suggest you first enjoy your own company, write down what you look for in friends then, start a hobby & go to clubs or events dedicated to that hobby. For example: if you like reading, go to book clubs etc. Also, make sure the friendship is not one sided so if you suggest a motive they suggest the next one. That’s it really. Don’t force it. In terms of making sure the friendship is long term, stay in touch often & DONT OVERSHARE! Remember they’re a friend, not a therapist. Also don’t make self-depreciating in front of them jokes because it’s hard to respect someone that’s mean to themselves. I know it’s a random point but trust me don’t do it. I hope this helps 🙏🏽


[deleted]

I do have boundaries but your right I befriend everyone I don’t give a fuck, your right I’ll max out my hobbies again and meet new people and project respect. Thanks for the advice.


mastermanifestorsss

You’re welcome. Don’t be too hard on yourself honestly. I hope you make life long friends & especially become your own best friend ☺️🙏🏽


[deleted]

It’s too late for me to make friends of that connection I missed my chance as a youth, I can definitely get another lover tho so not all hope is lost


som_233

Walaal, this world can be a trip. Maybe you can have 20 friends, maybe you can have none. You're not a loser at all. Enjoy life no matter what. If you desire, go to meetups/events related to your hobbies or interest. Easier to make friends if you want.


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Bro I enjoy my hobbies and slight haram but yeah your right I guess better to enjoy a little 💀


som_233

Cool. BTW, I know people who went thru difficult times including depression and hopelessness and many that I know right know, I wouldn't have believed how their lives in their 30's turned out so wonferful.


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Financial independence is boring bro but your right, I’m working towards that. Maybe I’m emotionally stunted tho as all my relationships are broken af. You gave good advice tho. Maybe I missed the threshold for friends


Vyvanse-virgin

Maybe you have adhd? Good with getting friends, almost impossible to keep in touch?


[deleted]

Yeah it’s easy for me to make new friends but when they care about me I stop caring about them anymore and realized i won their affection. Could be the devil, could be adhd who knows, personally I don’t believe in adhd as there is a lot of other evidence to show it’s not real


Vyvanse-virgin

I beg you pardon? Adhd is the most documented mental illness. Science noticed adhd people. And it is proven to another brain just as autism.


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Adhd was invented to make non white people look stupid, look at the other side


Vyvanse-virgin

Omg propaganda. I can’t take it.


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I’m just saying look at both sides


Vyvanse-virgin

Both sides? Sorry no.


Vyvanse-virgin

Wanna see where your brothers with undiagnosed are? Prison.


[deleted]

That’s crazy I also went to prison 😂😂😂 maybe your right


Vyvanse-virgin

I can’t take some Americans seriously. I guess health care is too expensive, people rather believe alternative bullshit.


[deleted]

I’m Canadian lol 😂


Vyvanse-virgin

Same shit.


Wide-Win-2592

Best advice I could think off really is find someone that you can trust their goal matches with yours and you feel free to do whatever you want around them not trying to impress them you share deep thoughts with them or problems and they can give there 2cents and will always have your back


Eshbash

Positive thoughts attract positive energy, dont refer to yourself as a loser and maybe put an effort into friendships that you wish to maintain. Relationships apart from our parens is give and take. I have few friends but they are a big part of my life, one or two true friends are enough.


[deleted]

I’ll make a new post in 6 months of me infiltrating another friend group and making new friends 😂 I’ll show you how easy this shit is


[deleted]

All right bro I’ll stop calling myself a loser then but it’s true tho. I’ll try and find accepting people and shit and be genuine and shit


Wide-Win-2592

No new friends no new friends no new friends lol Same people since day one people I trust no one new


[deleted]

What if you have no day one people?


Wide-Win-2592

I mean fuck it your too old to make friends friends can set you back a lot specially when there new and don’t know who they are you was born alone and you’ll die alone so don’t be afraid being alone and if you can find your close cousins and family that’s a-bit distant to be cool with while you guys have the same lifestyle even though there your family don’t always give give give make sure it’s a two way street friendship is sharing and keeping each other company and talking about the world topic clear up confusions Etc. not someone who will use u or take you down with them be mindful so you don’t regret


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Your right money will fill the friend hole


[deleted]

When you tell people you have no friends they see you as an alien, so in real life I just lie and say I have 5 friends 😂😂😂 bro I don’t do shit I just bounce around and have contacts from every race every ethnicity etc it’s blessed but also cursed as can’t have deep talks with no one except internet


[deleted]

Everyone my age is married with kids and nobody wants to Party. I wasted my youth and now I’m old. Don’t end up like me.