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ah116

Ghosting after weeks of dating :( but I’ve done it to others so it was kinda like karma and I learned an important lesson. Don’t ghost anyone no matter what! That shit truly hurts


Andromeda-Native

As someone who was ghosted, you’re right. It fucking destroys you. Don’t ever do that to people. Give them closure.


mastermanifestorsss

Ghosting hurts when you have abandoned issues. Heal those & ghosting won’t hurt anymore. That’s what my therapist told me. Also, guys tend to ghost after a few weeks because when they start having feelings it feels uncomfortable for them so they don’t want acknowledge it so ignore the woman. Don’t take it as a bad thing. Just leave him & if he comes back then he’s actually ready to take things further. Guys are like this as they don’t know how to handle emotions properly lol


urannoyingmee

What you said makes sense but personally I wouldn’t take it further with someone like that, even if he feels ready. I would be understanding of their situation tho and wish them the best.


mastermanifestorsss

Good on your for having standards 👍🏽


ah116

Yes I’m a guy and I’ve ghosted women a few times when it gets too serious. I wasn’t emotionally mature enough to deal with the feelings or express them. Now I learned my lessons


mastermanifestorsss

Thank you for being honest & supporting what I already believed to be true


urannoyingmee

Sounds like you’re an avoidant, according to the attachment theory stuff. Ever heard of it?


ah116

Yeah I’ve learned about it recently, I may still have avoidant traits but now I learned how to control it. I am holding on to people a lot more and telling them how I feel without shame or fear. Having an emotionally distant father and embracing the “bro code” amongst male friends where we don’t express emotions if we want to be seen as manly really messed with me while growing up now that I think about it.


Throwaway546som

Yeah ghosting really fucking sucks


Such_Repeat2571

In toronto some somali women make it difficult or awkward when i approach them. The ones that are more comfortable in their sexuality and open with their lifestyle are more at ease with somali men. I find it problematic that both genders avoid having intimate/romantic relationship with each other for early dating experiences. It is unhealthy for the youth to avoid one an other and expect to marry. This common theme amongst muslim groups. South asians, whites, carribeans dont do this


imsorrymo

agree 💯 until the south asian part. i know a lotttt and are friends with a lot of south asians & trust me it’s similar to our community


Such_Repeat2571

Muslims not hindu


urannoyingmee

Hmm, nothing overly weird tbh. Just the typical misogyny stuff where they want you to cover up more etc, not be around other men in any capacity etc


RepresentativeCat196

Looool Somalis and qabyaalad. My 24 year old brother asked what his tribe was the other day on the family group chat. I died. At least he is not a qabiilist. I think it is patriarchal bullshit and have no time or interest for tribes.


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Throwaway546som

Why so?


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