By - ExpensiveAd858
Girl, same!! I felt so horrible. Hijab gave me a lot of body issues. I still live in my hometown so sometimes I still cover up but not like before. I grew up in an extremely Salafi Somali household. Like my father is well known sheikh!
At first it was very difficult. So I started wearing smaller hijabs instead of the big jilbaab that I was forced to wear at a young age. Then I transitioned to jeans and very lose hijab. Moved out for college in a rural area & only wore hijab when I was visiting family or anywhere in Minneapolis! Too many people I know.
It wasn’t until my trip to Puerto Rico that I transformed. Obviously, there’s no Somalis or Muslims there so I didn’t even wear any hijab. Plus it was my first time wearing a bikini in public. I still felt shameful even though everyone else thought I was exotic. I never received so much attention from men or women in my life. Hijab literally fucks you up mentally.
Also, I noticed an increase in my confidence without hijab. Before I felt suffocated in a box I didn’t belong.
Omgggg yess girl same hereee I went out recently and actually felt seen I got soo much attention and I wasn’t even wearing anything revealing plus I felt soooo prettty I actually really relate it’s like I got an overnight confidence boost i can’t wait till I move out and live my actual life and get to wear a bikini as welll but I hope o get over the guilt and actually embrace who I am now …feels soo good seeing people I can relate to ❤️💞
Being a Somali women is stunning!! Not to be bragging hun but my tinder & bumble profiles have been popping since removing the hijab. Men were fighting over me when I was doing my solo trip to Puerto Rico 🇵🇷 😅😂!! Take your time sweetie. Just know you are the shit as a Somali women 🥰🥰🇸🇴
Yesss sis can’t wait to actually get on bumble !!!Somali girl power we are stunning and I’m done hiding …thank youuuu soo much for engaging sis ❣️🥰
Do you mind digging a bit deeper on the “bad”?
Very common for hijabis to go through guilt/shame/awkwardness phase but it gets better after a while.
Thank youuuu I hope it gets better and I can actually live my life as me minus the guilt
Normally I show plenty of skin during summer. (think shorts and vests etc) but whenever I go to visit my mum, I have to wear something long sleeved or jeans/trousers that aren’t form fitting.
Yesterday was hot af and I had to pass by my hooyo last minute. I was wearing a white crop top and shorts with no tights and legs showing.
I knew for a fact that my mum would KILL me if I walked into her house dressed like that so I snuck in, ran up to her room and put an abaaya from her closet over myself.
I then walked down to say hello, she said ‘naayaaaaaa, you got that abaya from my closet soomaaha’
I said yes, she said show me what you’re wearing underneath 🤔🧐
I said hooyo, laba mid dooro, heartbreak mise nabad.
She chose peace 😩🤣
Lol anyway, after I left, I gave the abaya back and omg let me tell you, I felt sooooo exposed.
As soon as I left mums neighbourhood, I went back to feeling normal.
Moral of this looooong story is, you probably only feel weird about it bc you still live at home and can feel the energy of your family around you.
It’s not that you actually feel weird about it bc I legit don’t think twice about showing skin yet when I’m in my mums xaafad, I feel mad exposed.
Mind you, it’s not even a secret. My mum is well aware of how I dress day to day but still, she doesn’t like to see it in her house.
Once you move out, you’ll feel very comfortable and caadi about it
Haha ofcourse she choose peace ..my mom is soo into shaming women based on what they wear and she is super strict so I hope I can get to a point where she actually accepts me and I can stop living a double life …I have a dinner date coming up with friends and bought the cutest knee length dress I hope I can get the courage to wear that out especially now that it is summer ….and yes I know that once I move out I might loose most of my guilt can’t waaaaaait and I’m sooooooo glad that I finally found people I can relate to because here I just feel like the outcast … I love it hereeee❣️
I stopped wearing the hijab 3 years ago and it took me a whole year to feel comfortable in shorts/skirts. I always felt like the odd one out despite dressing like every other woman in this country.
Me and my mum got into countless of arguments but she gave up and is now used to the way I dress.
Ughh 3 years congrats sis !!
Haha yes I have to avoid the gossip at all costs so yes I’m being very careful..and yes sis learning to take my time and living my body plus gaining the confidence and all …thank youuuu for the comment really helps knowing sooo many people are going through /went through what I’m going through now 💞
It takes a while to get used to, you’ll still feel that panic when you’re around Somalis for a while, takes time to get over it. Took off hijab over 5 years ago & I like to wear shorts and short dresses but when my fam sees the pics on IG they try and lecture me…. Like I’m not a grown woman who supports myself 100% and has my own place. Once you live on your own & support yourself financially what really can they do but talk? I still respect my mom and when I visit I don’t show skin but tbh expect sly comments for a very long time, they don’t change . After a while they kinda just have to accept it 🤷🏾♀️
Haha I recently deleted my old ig and planning to make a new one with people I know know so I can actually post me enjoying my life post hijab minus my cousins and their burner accounts on my old one .😂…I’m working towards my degree and changing countries so I hope I can actually be free and all …but thank youuuu for engaging im soo glad that I’ve met people who have actually gone through what I’m going through currently ❣️
Genuinely hope the best for you abayo ♥️just know they will always find a way to lurk your socials 😂they need someone to talk about!
It gets easier. There is nothing better than feeling the sun on your skin! 😍☀️
I have been a non-hijabi for about 5 years. Only thing I still struggle with is the rude men. I have a few tops which show some cleavage. I’ve had a few men stare at my chest when I wear them. It is so rude. They act like they have never seen breasts before. Fuck.
Oh wow congrats 5 years !!!Haha I know people staree so I can imagine if you have the slightest cleavage it only gets worse sadly …anyways we are beautiful and here to shine so they better get used to it !!!!♥️❣️
The wind blowing through your hair and neck during a cool summer night is soooo euphoric.
It's the simplest thing that makes life enjoyable for us humans, just amazing. It makes one feel elation even if you had a rough day that day.
Oh my god finally someone who understands, okay a little back story so my mom and I are always at odds and I’m an 18 yr old women who’s still developing so
I started trying out some new styles like wearing pants ( which made my mom so angry!!!!! ) so I chopped my hair to retaliate cause F her!! And she’s been shaming since then. I don’t know what to do! I’m afraid she’ll even follow me to college!
Oh wow, Tell her other parents don't follow their kids and let her know that the rooms are gender separeted, i don't live i the UK so i don't know if they actually are but somali parents are paranoid about that. Also tell her that theres other muslims there and gurads to protect the students hopefully she'll calm down by then.
I fully understand that parents like that can be espacially anyoying but if rebellion doesn't work on her then try to sucking up for her untill you move, but create boundaries aswell don't just be a doormat.
The reason you feel ashamed is the years of conditioning you’ve been through. I am a male so I can’t relate to you’re experience. I have spoken to other former hijabis that feel the same way, you’re not alone. Do you live in city that has a many Somalis in it? If so, maybe that could be an additional contributing factor. You shouldn’t care what others think of you. How long were you a hijabi?
I was a hijaby for almost 16 years full time I was a niqabi as well for like 5 years I was the definition of super religious and yes my city is full to the brim with Somalis last time I went out with friends without hijab I was stared down and made uncomfortable 100 times by adheers
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