By - mayayam2
I had this done to me as well.
My advice is just keep doing what you want, and ignore them until they leave you alone.
I persistent and eventually got what I wanted.
It sucks that you have to fight for the bare minimum needs.
They would tell me why go out? Stay home. You don't need friends.
Anyways be safe if it's too hard to resist them, and do what you want.
Just wait until you're able to leave them toxic people.
Your family seem unusually strict, most Somali girls travel alone with friends. This Mahram thing isn’t really something we give any fucks about collectively as a culture. Even the most conservative families don’t mind their daughters going to different cities/countries with their friends.
I can guarantee you your mum didn’t even think about this and got influenced recently.
Do you know when it started?
She’s always been like this I think ever since I was a kid I never got to hang out with friends outside of school and was always at home watching my siblings.
How strict are your parents to not let you hang out with your school friends?
my mom is to the point that she says not to even make any friends at school
Seems cruel, are you planning on moving out?
I am, as soon as possible
That sounds absurd. I don't know why but I think you should ignore them and go hang out with your friends. If they try to get angry, tell them they talk to their friends and so does everyone else. No reason you can't.
i think it’s like my mom thinks i’ll become “ciyaal suuq” if I have friends my age, especially non muslim ones
Yet your male cousins won't? That's definitely sexism. Do you girl and don't let her shaming stop you.
Because they follow an Arab pagan scripture that says women should always have a male guardian wherever she travels to. It’s really stupid that shit doesn’t apply to 2022. Women are equal and can fully take care of themselves. Somalis parents are just brainwashed sheeps.
But I’m happy to see a lot of Somali women traveling and being great! Even before 1991, Somali women were traveling alone it’s just that Wahhabist brainwashed us the last 25 years.
Thing is my mom goes out and hangs out with her friends all the time while she doesn’t even want me making friends in the first place. But yeah she doesn’t travel long distances without a mahram.