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looksmaxxingacct

Yeah being attractive will expand your dating pool and get you more attention of course but it absolutely doesn’t mean you’ll get treated better by romantic partners. I’ve seen below average guys manage to get very attractive women and they still treat them like shit. And I’ve seen attractive guys treat their average looking girlfriends/wives like absolute queens. So yeah a lot of people think pretty privilege means romantic partners will treat you better but that’s not the case at all.


bbycalz

I feel like a lot of girls will give ugly guys a chance without realizing it that they’re usually extremely insecure. They have the thought process of “she’s out of my league” and then when they get her they’re ego gets boosted but then start thinking there must be something wrong with HER, and he thinks he’s out of HER league. Bc they don’t understand healthy relationship dynamics & think of her as a trophy. Not all ugly guys though just ugly guys who are insecure, or even attractive guys who are insecure will act like this


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I always think of this quote that I saw on Twitter when Jay Z cheated on Beyoncé: If you treat an ugly guy like a hot guy he’ll start acting like a hot guy. (Of course this is talking about a specific asshole type of person like you’re describing, not everyone.)


CreativeMind1999

True. When a beautiful woman gives an unattractive insecure guy a chance, he’ll get an ego boost and find himself more attractive than he really is, thinking he can now have any woman he wants because he already “caught a hot one”. I found most of the relationships I know where the girl is way prettier are very toxic. Men are either too jealous or think too highly of themseleves…


Capital-Plantain-521

it’s like they caught a big fish and now they wanna cast out again to see if they can get more or there’s anything bigger


penneAlavodka

I dated a guy and I was way out of his league looks wise. He got his ego boosted and cheated on me very soon after. He explained his actions by saying that he felt on top of the world that he got me…it really made no sense to me at the time.


CreativeMind1999

It’s literally what happens most of the time. He might have probably liked the fact he got an attractive girl that’s being chased and desired by others. In the beginning it may be nice, but on the long run his jealousy and insecurity would come to surface and cheating may seem like a good option for some ego boost. 🤦🏼‍♀️


EastsideRim

Plus ugly guys are more likely to spend their time in toxic masculinity manosphere trying to learn how to be a man - they’re absorbing all kinds of weird incel type ideas thinking it’s the norm. The have less relationship experience and less ability to vet for their own compatibility needs, so when a woman does something “odd” or that they don’t like, they see it as insurmountable issue instead of normal behavior.


saly_theCPA

I wish I met you before my failed marriage and we could have discussed this lol


bbycalz

I’m sorry🥺the worst moments of our lives are actually lessons to prepare us for the best moments❤️


hildegARDLUNA

Yeah, I totally experienced this the one time I gave an uglier guy a chance and he treated me like shit. My attractive exes - who were also secure enough in themselves - used to treat me like a queen (and our breakup was due to stuff like differing life goals or life getting in the way and not because of some drama such as cheating or abuse).


throwaway5093903590

Exactly this. The pretty privilege a girl gets is generally in vain, like expensive dates, luxurious trips, etc, but a woman won't get more loyalty or devotion just because she's pretty. Emily Ratajowski is beautiful, but she also has a very sexualized appearance and job. She has more doors opened up from men, but a lot of these men may be the shallow type.


looksmaxxingacct

Yeah being very attractive attracts a lot of shallow people unfortunately. This is especially true if you have a more sultry, sexy type of beauty like Emily has I think.


Applesxpeach

This... I bet you’ve all heard ‘because you’re beautiful or because I’m really attracted to you’ in response to ‘why do you like me/want to be with me?’


ThrowRA_forfreedom

I mean... if you go from average or above to super attractive it doesn't change treatment, but if you're ugly, it very much can mean you'll get positive attention for the first time ever. Of course, the caveat is that your mental health has to upgrade with your looks, too, if it isn't good already. We have to remember that Vindicta's context is largely ugly women, who are treated as inhuman and frequently approached with physical and emotional violence more so than anything resembling romantic intent. EDIT: some folks here also mix up what's possible or expectable in the world of celebrity and wealth with what's rational for the rest of us. Hollywood and Insta aren't comparable and that goes both ways. Looks AND lifestyle. Not to mention, Sebastian is pretty average. Not really that ugly for a male. Plus male sexual proposition is usually in the form of resources, not looks... and he had a ton of resources as a film producer.


throwaway5093903590

> Sebastian is pretty average I agree he is average looking. Tall, but not cute in the face at all. Average is everywhere though, and honestly it's wasted on her especially since he wasn't that much richer than her.


ThrowRA_forfreedom

Yeah I imagine some kind of compatibility in lifestyle, interests, etc played a big factor. She could probably hook up with one of those smalltown sports hotties playing pro football or hockey and be way better off.


throwaway093710a

lmao he's ugly af, not even average


ThrowRA_forfreedom

How uh... how often do you go out in public? Especially into spaces that don't cater specifically to attractive people (e.g. not specially formatted gyms, night clubs, resprts, sales departments, high end fashion boutiques). He's dead on average, and his height alone might even push him into above average considering how many women and gay/bi men posit that they'll ONLY date men who are 6'0+ Not trying to be rude but a lot of women here have admitted to being hot irl and the spaces they're welcome in differ from the majority. His character is a full on 1/10 though for this bs.


looksmaxxingacct

Being tall is def a halo for men, as long as they have an otherwise decent body.


First-Yogurtcloset53

And not awkward. Being normal is an auto 5 these days. I'm not even exaggerating.


candyapplesugar

I don’t think he’s bad looking. Kinda same as Pete. Cute goofy ugly


Dracarys92788

Right, pretty privilege doesn’t mean you’re exempt from choosing a shitty guy, it just means that your looks aren’t going to be the sole reason why someone isn’t interested in dating you/having a relationship with you.


chichi6ix

Louder for the people at the back ! ! ! The hottest guy ive ever met in my life was the one that treated me the best. Because I was the most mature and perceptive in that relationship, and we connected the best. My first ex treated me the worst bc I was enamoured by him and just happy to tag along to everything. People treat you as a reflection of their own feelings, not because of any single attribute you might have.


hungrycaterpilly

I second this


pancakeshun

Exactly! Couldn’t agree more


Healthandlife_pro

And even so I’m starting to think being on the attractive side is not really a good thing considering they get the short end of the stick when it comes to quality partners. The whole point of dating is to find a good quality partner and if you look at those who are on the unattractive side, they seem to have the healthiest and happiest relationships


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Same thing happened to Adriana Lima! I was gobsmacked. Imagine cheating on ADRIANA. FUCKING. LIMA.


YanYan33

Candice Swanepoel too! My mom and I were shocked when we heard about it 💔


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YanYan33

Oh yeahh tbh i forgot that he was 😂


PersephonesWrath_

I’m sorry, THE Candice Swanepoel? Christ on a stick. Men have nothing but the audacity


RadicalResponseRobot

Especially when the guy looked like a foot. If they’re willing to cheat on these top models is there any hope for the rest of us?


golden_eyed_cat

To be honest, I think average women have a much higher chance of landing a loyal man than supermodels. The reason for that, is because in general, supermodels tend to get with high-status men that have access to several women, even if they aren't the most physically attractive. Therefore, these men have a higher chance of being approached by a woman, accepting her advances and cheating.


looksmaxxingacct

Yeah I think there’s some truth to the saying “men are only as loyal as their options”. Not all high-status men cheat and plenty of lower status men do cheat but when there’s way more options..


ThrowRA_forfreedom

This. Absolutely. The male sexual proposition is resources, not looks. The more wealthy a guy is the more options and temptation he's inundated by.


CreativeMind1999

Like Marilyn Monroe said “a man being rich is like a girl being pretty”. Some of these supermodels and other famous people get in relationships with already wealthy or high class people. Some of these men may be ugly, but who knows how much money they earn and in this society money is power, so some of them may think they can get any woman they want regardless of not being super hot themselves.


tiffanylan

True story Adiana's husband - Marko Jaric - hit on me hard when I was at a club. He was gross. And he was married to Adriana then. Disgusting. I am in no way close to Adriana but cheaters gonna cheat.


One-Eyed-Muscle

I looked him up, his eyes are very close together.


tiffanylan

I know right? It was years ago he was with a group of other guys at least one other NBA player they were trolling and although rejected by my friends and I, it looked like they were successful with other ladies. Girls - please do not be that woman who falls for athletes, players of all types at clubs. If they really like you, you can get their phone number or email. I have had an assistant to a famous guy come up to me (not the famous dude himself) and wanted to know if I was interested in a date. He gave me his contact info. I didn't contact him since he was not attractive at all (ugly rich dude) A gentleman at club can be partied with for an evening, but don't go back to their hotel. If they really like you they will set up a proper date or another meeting. Vet them to make sure they are not married or violent or have other objectionable qualities.


tiffytaffylaffydaffy

Agreed. I think he has a touch of habsburg jaw as well. Look at how his bottom lip is really thick in a weird way. I think his jaw juts out a bit as well.


One-Eyed-Muscle

With his eyes it would be like a Cyclops staring you down. Sorry, not sexy.


tiffytaffylaffydaffy

Your comment plus username made me lol!


ragnarockette

Maybe it’s just an unrealistic standard


blue-pixie-

I feel like people have it backwards. Better looking women are more likely to be cheated on because the type of man with her is more sexually motivated. Some couples seem built on things other than sexual attraction, and sex is a side show. For many sex is the forefront of the relationship, often the woman doesn’t realize that’s his highest motivation for dealing with her. So without the sex there’s nothing that meaningful left in the relationship


_dzeni

Funny how you say this because Adriana claims to be a virgin until she married her ugly husband that cheated on her.


brucespringsteinfan

Same with Tiger Wood's wife Elin Nordegren, absolute 10/10 and Tiger cheated with some ratchet chicks. Beyonce, Shania Twain, Elizabeth Hurley, the list goes on.


GoldandGlowing

People are made to adapt to any and everything. She’s gorgeous but seeing her everyday will dull that wow-factor because you get used to it, that’s when compatibility and character is really tested. I’m not saying Adriana is a shitty person btw, I’m just saying looks alone won’t keep a man because they don’t last forever (he’ll get used to it/you’ll age). This doesn’t really fit with the sub but the same thing goes for dating a dude just because he has money. You’ll absolutely get used to that shit and be like “what else?” and get bored fast. That’s why nobody in the sugarbowl/kept-woman lane I knew stayed exclusive with their guys. You’d say you were but sure as shit had dudes you shared chemistry with on the side.


Dangerous-Ant-5431

I am not. These are literal millionaires who can have anyone they want. These 2/10 men (her husband) can easily pull 9/10s. Why would they settle down and be average when they dont even live an average life. These rich men have models flown to them just to fuck them . They’re having everything done for them because theyre rich and can employ 100s of people to do their mundane shit.


Kellbbby

I don’t understand why these Rich and famous people don’t just have agreements with each other. They all seem to cheat and are surprised about it which is crazy.


SithQueenGigi

It's so easy to cheat in Hollywood you basically have unlimited options it's crazy I can only imagine how that is when you can Date a singer, supermodel, actor, director etc. and move on to the next best thing, cycle repeats. Probably why marriage doesn't last at all in that world.


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omg this is so true I nevr rlly thought of this


me_be_ki

I’ve been holding this in for so long but I have to say something!!!! I HATE HIS STUPID LIPS THEY LOOK LIKE A BUTTHOLE.


OkKaleidoscope9696

I saw this pointed out years ago and now it’s all I see when I look at him. Those lips…


anneylani

OP was being super generous in calling him a 3/4. His looks match his morals. Woof


tokyomooon

Yeah this piece of trash has a busted mug for sure


Littlefamilyvan

What’s his name cheated on shakira. SHAKIRA!!!


SithQueenGigi

Gerard Pique. He used to be hot now he is just a dime a dozen typcial bozo cheat.


hegelslady

Pique is super hot tho and a top footballer. Not the same as this foot Emily was dating.


bumbumboleji

Yeah but, SHAKIRA!


InternetFun5981

Shakira Shakira to be exact


Littlefamilyvan

I’d say they were pretty even and shakiras a pop star across the world.


bananaslim1917

i remember feeling this way when jay z cheated on beyoncé. the audacity.


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Yeah but I read somewhere she’s fucking her bodyguard on the side. Maybe they have an agreement we don’t know about


Kellbbby

I’ve heard this too and I do think they have an agreement. There’s no way they can get divorced bc their relationship is such a business, and imagine having to fight over all their money and assets??? I also heard they live in separate homes. He’s been cheating on her since before they were married so she probably snapped one day and was like “fine, I’m gonna get mine”. I hope she does!


nippleacid

I was literally that New York gif: “BEYONCE?!”


AdRevolutionary6650

Beyoncé, sweetie, I’m so sorry.


well-wishess

I agree. A lot of women try to change themselves after they get cheated on but don’t realize that their looks were never the problem. Men that cheat will cheat no matter what.


Deep_Antelope_3877

I’m gonna be honest, typically when I see men cheat the other woman is less attractive then their partner. Idk why but I’ve noticed the phenomenon 80% of the time


OkKaleidoscope9696

They say that when people cheat, they are seeking out that ~ 20% they aren’t getting from their partner, who gives them ~ 80% of that they want. If their partner is boring, for example, they will have an affair with someone exciting - that person might be less physically attractive than their partner and be worse in a lot of other ways, but they’re exciting, which gives the cheater their fix.


friendlyfire69

Absolutely this. I once had a fling with a guy who was in a local college. The last time I saw him he was about to go back to his home state for the summer and told me he had a girlfriend for years. She was much prettier than me but he said I wasn't boring like her. It didn't take it as a compliment though and just though he was a gross liar I started vetting Men a lot more after than :/


Imaginary-Ad-1957

My mom always says "... *that* don't have no face" She's referring to vagina. Men aren't looking for beauty queens when they cheat. Simply an opportunity and an accessible vagina. It's horrible but proves to be true 99% of the time.


sqxpress

Because attractive =/= compatable. A concept many, many people do not understand. Inital looks only go so far.


buttersideupordown

The ugly girl treats the guy like a god. I had an ex cheat on me with a substantially less attractive woman. His excuse? She chased him soo hard and it made him feel good to be that wanted. Apparently she knew about me and wanted to prove to him she could treat him better than me. Lol.


Viiibrations

Same story and excuse with my ex. Except the other girl didn’t want to treat him better, she just enjoyed the chase. Her best friend told me she went after taken guys for fun. In the end I would thank her for helping me get out of a shit relationship.


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RottingAway90

I know quite a lot of couples irl where the man looks better than the woman. Rare among famous people though (except maybe Hugh Jackman and his wife).


princessxx93

Men drop their standards for casual sex. So they may cheat with women uglier than their wives. Women dont do this. Women only have casual sex with really hot guys. This happened to me. A 10 had sex with me but ghosted me after. He used to be married to another 10 but only treated me like a hookup since Im just average.


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princessxx93

We met on an app. When we met in person it was obvious he was wayyy above my league looks wise. And he was also rich and drove a nice car. He pursued me for the first couple of dates then things flipped I got wayyyy into him. After we had sex a second time I never saw him again.


LiveInvestigator4876

Hard disagree. Mens standards are just low in general and will take what they can get to have consistent access to sex


champagneandcupcakes

Seriously why is this tho?!


CardiologistGold3719

I reckon these women give the guys a sense of “if I can get this incredibly hot woman, I can get any woman” and so they do


OkKaleidoscope9696

The most beautiful girl I’ve ever known would get cheated on, and that’s what other guys we knew would say the reason was - that the guys who dated her thought they could then get anyone. That girl is now married to an extremely rich man. They have a baby. Not sure if he cheats on her because I have no contact with her at this stage in my life. I’ve read in the past that Emily’s husband would get more girls because of her. His association with one of the hottest girls in the world made him more desirable to other women. That could also be part of what’s going on with guys who cheat on beautiful girls. Actually it just occurred to me that the most beautiful girl I’ve met and Emily run in some of the same circles, and I’ve seen photos of them together at events. Same age, too. And very similar bodies if you can believe it.


RottingAway90

I’ve heard being seen with beautiful women makes men more desirable by default - the “Ariana effect”.


squaluude

Who’s the girl?


OkKaleidoscope9696

Not saying. Prettier face and body than Emily IMO. Featured on websites of beautiful college girls back when we were in college. Hangs out with VS models and actresses even though she isn’t one.


VariousText5100

Billie Eilish: “You give an ugly guy a chance, he thinks he rules the world.”


tiffytaffylaffydaffy

Oh, dear. I looked at her husband. He reminds me of King Charles the 2 of Spain. Google him, if you don't know!


Viiibrations

There’s an old saying that goes something like “Show me a beautiful woman and I’ll show you a guy who is tired of fucking her.” It’s an awful thing to say, but sadly it’s often true and it reflects more on the impossible-to-please men than the women.


panzershark

It's all about external validation and filling a void with those men. At first it's incredibly validating for them to be with this hot supermodel. But eventually the dopamine of it wears off and they have to hunt for more from other people rather than looking for it within themselves. It's never enough for them. I wonder if there is actually any correlation between attractiveness and likelihood to cheat. Or between people who had an ugly duckling phase growing up and therefore developed self-esteem issues from it. Obviously there is way way more to it than that, but I do wonder.


shellstains

I definitely think attractive men are more likely to cheat. If they have more options available to them and women interested in them because of their looks/income, they’ll try to take advantage of it. If they’re intelligent on top of it, it’s probably not very hard to manipulate and woo the ladies, even if they are married. Being attractive just makes being scummy so much easier. People are also less likely to accuse an attractive person of doing bad things.


EastsideRim

Ugly men also go for too-young girls, often from troubled or patriarchal backgrounds, who haven’t developed the ability to say “no” abruptly.


megatronsweetener

yeah cuz men have nothing but the audacity


thewaveofgreen

I know what sub I’m in, but I think people overestimate how important looks are in a relationship. I like to think of appearance as the hook that draws people in, but by no means is it a guarantee that you will be cherished forever. I mean, would you marry a dude and commit to him your whole life just because he has a nice face or muscles? There is much more to a lifelong commitment, and many people can’t handle it. Some men get tired of having sex with the same woman over and over again (called the Coolidge Effect)- superficial appearance isn’t going to undo this


thesamantha23

Was looking for this comment. No offense but the take in this post and most of the comments is really misguided, maybe inexperienced? Like looks have NOTHING to do with faithfulness. When I read the comments it feels like reading, “I was so shocked when that Ferrari got hit by another car. I mean a *Ferarri*?!! A beautiful Ferarri?!”


thewaveofgreen

I would actually even expect there to be an inverse relationship between physical beauty and faithfulness. Beautiful women are more likely to attract shallow men, who are more likely to view them as disposable


thesamantha23

Sadly, based on the couples I’ve seen in my circles, I agree with this judgement. Beautiful women attract men who want “more”, and after getting her they still do. That doesn’t stop people from remarking, “She’s a pretty girl, she deserves better treatment.”


_dzeni

It breaks my heart when I see women writing stuff like "if beyonce/shakira/adriana/emily get cheated, is there hope for us?" . Just because they are famous, rich and beautiful doesn't mean they are more worthy than you, no one deserves to be cheated.


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thewaveofgreen

I’m not trying to generalize men at all, just saying that good looks tends to attract shallow people which is true for both genders. But I don’t mean exclusively shallow people, and I don’t mean that only men cheat either


NimblyBimblyMeyow

Actually interesting fact - The Coolidge effect can’t be properly studied in human beings. It’s very clear in almost every mammalian species we’ve studied, but when it comes to studying human beings, things get very complicated. The only way it’s been studied in humans is via theoretical women and men, vs with animals we are able to see it in the act of. So while it can be the case, we don’t know that it actually is with people.


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the_disgracelander

> it was clear how insecure she was about her appearance and how men respond to her looks Catnip for abusers. You can tell who’s undersocialized here when they dismiss therapy and talk like physical beauty is a silver-bullet panacea.


Eva4ever28

Yeah many ugly men have self-esteem issues. Always look out for yourself #1. This is why I will never get married again (not that I’m against it for those that want it!), I will always make my own money, I own my house and my partner pays me rent, etc. There are an abundance of men out there. Never feel like you need to settle. Don’t put men on a pedestal…we all know many would fuck a warm chicken sandwich. So them giving you attention means jack. Also…sex is SO amazing with a man you actually find attractive. Too many women settle for guys that are ugly because they think they will stay with them…no. Live the life you want. You be the chooser. You deserve it! Also, stay hot and always care for yourself. If your man leaves, it doesn’t matter. There are plenty for you to choose from if that’s what you want. Or just be sexy and rich on your own or with a lady. The world is yours! Emily is SO MUCH BETTER OFF! Now she can hookup with an actually attractive man. Ugh imagine how delicious their lovemaking will be. Fuck that ugly dumbass troll ex. I love the men in my life. They are good men. There are good men out there…but be choosy! Don’t allow nasties in.


mymilkshakeinyoface

Fuck a warm chicken sandwich ☠️ I love everything you said! Yes men will fuck just about anything. Ladies having good looks doesn’t make you more special to many of them! It just make you a trophy to show off to friends!


SalieshaStylez

This was hella inspirational . Thank you ♥️


Youre_Kidding_Rite

I wanna print out this comment and hang it on my wall


WifeofLegolas

Preach.


rococoapuff

I had to save this comment, you summed up my current life philosophy perfectly. Also, I’m looking into the pros and cons of marriage. I thought I knew what I was talking about, but it seems way more complicated. Can I ask if you’ve read anything that changed your mind on marriage or was it all through personal experience?


crayshesay

I thought I was at least a 9/9 or 10/10 in my 20’s. Had my first partner cheat on me with multiple women. Once a cheater always a cheater is how I feel it works. It’s a character flaw. So I found a man who doesn’t have that particular flaw and solved that big problem 😆


AntiVictimhood

Yeah the idea that dudes less attractive than you will be grateful and loyal is nonsense. The gratitude and sense of luck is there is the beginning, but then they just become used to it. It's the same for women (I was one of these women) who do it all for their man- cook, clean, tend to his needs, be chill, adapt to his lifestyle and interest, support him etc. - those guys who receive this loving treatment will be grateful and feel spoiled for a few months, and then they just take it for granted and it becomes expected. In my experience, the most loyal men are those who see you as an EQUAL- never a level-up/ level down from them.


Auburn_and_ivory666

Never date an uggo because they paradoxically WILL cheat and generally be shitty because of reaction formation or some shit. Also never marry your Coke dealer after dating for 4 months.


EastsideRim

This truly is the key 😩


sorrygirl818

If you read her book, she talks a lot about how men have treated her *worse* because she's attractive. It's really interesting-- def worth the read if you have time.


mkaybabesyoudoyou

There was a time years ago here in the UK when Cheryl Cole was considered by many men the most beautiful woman in this country and her husband (now ex) was a serial cheat, as a child I was confused because she was supposed to be so desirable. Your looks have nothing to do with it. Some guys just like the “sport” of having sex with many different women and they will not be honest about this because they don’t want an open relationship, they don’t want their partner doing the same thing that they enjoy doing.


sleeplessbeauty101

I mean Liz Hurley showed us that a long time ago.


mantismantisqueen

I may be wrong but I feel like no matter how attractive you are, many men will eventually want more variety. It’s like when you buy a new house and you’re amazed by how beautiful it is, but after a couple years you kind of don’t really think about it anymore, you become desensitized or used to it. Then you go on zillow.com searching for houses and you’re amazed at how beautiful they are, and how you’d love to live there. It’s not that your current house is not beautiful, it just stopped making you “feel something.” For certain men (not the ones that you should go for), beautiful women are those new, shiny objects they want and desire. Always steer clear of men that idolize you, or love bomb you from the start; if he can fall so easily and quickly for you then he can easily do so for someone else. Men who appreciate your beauty but take their time, are respectful and aren’t “thirsty” are the real keepers. Why? Despite your beauty, he needs to figure out if you are the right fit for him as much as he is the right fit for you. You are not a prize. You are a human being. Men who see you as a prize will eventually look for his next prize, which is probably what happens to many attractive women.


buffsterfan

Definitely true about the men who lovebomb you/idolize you. My ex was like this, people were constantly confused by how he “got” me, and he ended up cheating on me sooo many times. Just massively insecure and would take a crumb from any woman that would give him one, even if they weren’t someone he wanted to be in relationship with/he still wanted me to be his “trophy wife”. My current partner is amazing though. I still get told I’m “out of his league” in terms of looks but he’s such an amazing, caring, funny and confident person that it’s just not the truth. He’s also pulled a few models in the past just based on his personality and confidence so that definitely goes a long way. But the trust is there 100%. He’s incredibly loyal and has told me that either of us cheating would mean the end of our relationship, that it’s like the ultimate sin to him in a relationship etc. There’s so much trust and it’s just the best. He’s always found me attractive, but doesn’t obsess over it like some of my exes did, he cared way more about getting to know me as a person and loves me for all of my quirks etc instead of in spite of them (like my ex, for whom they were like this weird thing that caused cognitive dissonance bc when I’d do weird things it didn’t match the image of me he had in his head). Your partner needs to see you as a fully fledged human being, not an object to fuck and gawk at and brag about to his buddies (even if they get to do this stuff occasionally too lol)


mantismantisqueen

This is spot on 👏


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This is true, but I just want to add that looking for variety is really no excuse, as studies have shown women crave variety just as much if not more, and actually get wayy more bored and less satisfied than men with monogamy. Which is just to say don’t let men gaslight you w the myth that they have sexual needs women can’t possibly understand, and that we should be understanding if they cheat and super grateful if they don’t 🙄


mantismantisqueen

Yes, the house analogy includes men as well as women.


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mantismantisqueen

Women get tired or bored just as much as men but I think we are not as “horny” as men are. I think women (again, not all) tend to find variety in emotional cheating rather than physical.


compscihelp111

Narcissistic women who want to be seen as the “prize” and have a queen mentality always attract these shallow cheating men. Can’t expect him to see you as a human being when you objectify yourself


RottingAway90

Beyoncé, Marilyn Monroe, Gwen Stefani, Sharon Tate and countless other stunning women have been cheated on by mediocre-looking men as well. A lot of young girls here seem to think beauty is some sort of shortcut to a fulfilling life and a shield against being hurt or mistreated and it’s important to remember it’s really not. Cheating has nothing to do with how hot you are and everything to do with the man being an asshole.


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Women like Beyonce, JLo, Halle Berry, Shakira get cheated on and dumped all the time. Looks isn't everything


peanutbutter471

Ugly men getting all the attention now cos they got money that’s why, never got it when they were younger. Lol jk but partially true, literally just self esteem issues. Edit - don’t cry bc I said joke pls grow up 😭 it is nottt that deep. Happy glow up : )


Matraya2

Where's the joke? Lol


buttersideupordown

Kill the cheerleader syndrome.


oddgirlout1234

Ugly guys are insecure and cope by cheating on their gfs.


LiveInvestigator4876

As much as this sucks for Emily and reflects a common truth in life, we as women need to stop trying to psychoanalyze the actions of men. When we do this, we internalize these behaviors and take responsibility, leading to lower self esteem. If a man cheats, hurts, or abuses you it’s because he wanted to and that’s it. No justifications, nothing. It has nothing to do with how attractive you are, what is or isn’t lacking in the relationship, how insecure he is, or whatever reason. The time and energy spent trying to decipher the actions of shitty men could be spent doing something actually productive and meaningful to one’s life


InternetFun5981

Love this so much (not the truth of it but how you typed it) I saved it! Might even journal it down so it's ingrained in my memory as a reminder for the self esteem. Thank you!


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This is really true. It sounds obvious, but the hotter you are, the more shallow guys will be interested, and it requires a higher level of vetting.


Lolalala92

Rule 1, never think a guy who isn’t classically handsome will stay loyal because you are conventionally pretty. Rule 2, never think being rich and/or beautiful makes you immune from cheating. We see it time and time again. Being beautiful is simply that, being beautiful. Beautiful women are still given divorce papers, victims of dv, they get fired, they get cheated on etc.


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Have you noticed that men who are with someone for looks tend to cheat though. When men are with gorgeous women, it’s like they go out and cheat because they’re attracted to the superficial things…..


yehet420

My favorite YouTuber calls it “Kill the Cheerleader” syndrome. She hypothesizes that ugly guys who get hot girls don’t treat them well as revenge for being overlooked in high school. My most recent ex cheated on me (I’m objectively much more attractive than him and many said I was out of his league) and told the girl he cheated with that “I’ve never had pretty girls pay attention to me so I just didn’t know what to do” 🙄 Apparently Ed Sheeran bedded a bunch of VS Angels and was a f*ckboy to them. I think there’s a lot of truth to this theory. Don’t give an ugly guy a chance just because you think he will worship you!


Acrobatic-Degree9589

I knew this, I’ve noticed guys usually cheat with less attractive women than the one they are with. Also I agree with what Billie Eilish said on the matter of fug guys


WifeofLegolas

What did she say?


Acrobatic-Degree9589

Give an ugly guy a chance and he thinks he rules the world


WifeofLegolas

She's right. Even though I struggled with self love I knew I was too good for am ugly guy. I want a great person but there has to be an initial attraction via looks amd then his personality. All these gorgeous women dating ugos boggled my mind.


trashbag8

Vu


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A part of lifemaxxing involves never getting married ladies!! Only half joking


RoseBobtail

Cheating is about the cheater’s ego, usually not about something lacking in the one being cheated on. I dated a guy who, I discovered, was still hitting up women on dating sites four months into our “committed” relationship. He had the gall to give among his justifications the statement “You are so great and I didn’t think I was going to have a chance with you, so I wanted to see if even hotter women would give me a chance too.” I kicked his ass to the curb so fast.


Kellbbby

To be honest, the vibe of that guy that I get just from pictures is that’s he’s a total douchbag. I’m not surprised about this at all. The only thing I was ever surprised about was that she married him at all. I was hoping shes not like him and just got duped, and that’s probably what happened. And although I wouldn’t rate her a 10 (well 12 on body, 6/7 on face. I just personally don’t think her face is that pretty- there’s something off and I can’t put my finger on it. She’s still hot af though), she can still get anyone she wants so hopefully next time picks better. She deserves to be happy like anyone else. There’s a lot of comments about marrying someone “lesser” than you and that giving them an ego boost, and while I agree that’s true in a lot of cases, I feel like anyone this guy is with he will cheat on. He’s just that kind of shifty person. I subscribe to finding someone in the same “league” as you. I’ve dated below and it didn’t go well, people always telling me I could do better (not just looks but the way I was treated), but I still stayed in those relationships for too long bc I didn’t think I was any better. Luckily, my husband is very attractive and I believe we are in the same “league”, and we’ve been together 11 years.


Queasy_Pomelo_5148

Statistically if one partner is significant better looking than the other, the ‘uglier’ partner is more likely to cheat because they are insecure that their partner is better than them and they are trying to prove to themselves that they have sexual value. Pretty messed up, but good reason to date someone of similar attractiveness.


cyb0rgprincess

yup, it's super common. look at Beyonce. some men will cheat on anyone, with anyone.


babypeach_

maybe this just disproves vindicta’s founding premise that being a 10 makes you exempt from certain shitty things in life, and we can all relax about these rigorous beauty practices.


_dzeni

It 100% does not. I know a model type stunning girl who is also an extremely good person, and she's still abused by her parents, gets beaten by her dad, shitty boyfriend broke up with her and she has many health problems. Life sometimes just sucks, good looks will get you some people being nice to you, but if you don't know how to make those looks work into your favour it's useless.


Misssarahx

Beyoncé got cheated on, Shakira got cheated on, Adriana Lima got cheated on… and they are some of the most beautiful women in the world. Some women aren’t attractive at all and their man would never dream of cheating on them. Cheating is just about whether your man loves you and respects you or not


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My husband and I were talking about this yesterday. He said a guy cheating is a character flaw in the guy. It has nothing to do with the woman. She could be the most attractive or ugly, it doesn't matter. Some guys will cheat regardless. The problem is in him.


Excellent-Top2552

I just read her book and it’s thought provoking but written in a sightly self-obsessed tone. Looks aren’t everything and people will cheat no matter what if they’re cheaters.


throwawayyyyoo

LITERALLY SAME!! I just read it a month aho


creedbrattenberg

Average/ unattractive men with attractive wives don’t see themselves as lucky - the attractiveness of their new partner often gives them an ego boost to the level of attractive woman they can now attain.


pancakeshun

I feel bad for what she has gone trough 😔 hope she gets better and I’m thankful she dumped this idiot, she’s way out of his league. Honestly, what an asshole she just had a baby


Party_Goose_6878

You have to be good at identifying bullshit, especially if you are pretty. You don't often meet wealthy people who aren't financially educated. They know a scam when they see one, they know what a good investment looks like. Don't be rich in looks and uneducated in dating. Not all men cheat-- but cheaters, they run the gamut from ugly to modelesque. You have to look further than that to gauge their character.


superfunpants

I have always been surprised at these two. He seems shady and weird.


Lisavela

Being attractive doesn’t protect you from being cheated on, hopefully she will be happier without him, I mean looks wise he’s a 3 and then add cheating he’s a -10 he was even lucky to be in her presence let alone even marry her


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One of my aunts has always said something about relationships: “You have a higher chance of winning the lottery than loyalty from a man”.


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Yeah this doesn’t make me feel any better.


rozovi

Wtf. This proves never settle or marry for personality lol. If you get cheated on, it might as well be by a hot guy.


fairycoreee

You def should be attracted to the individual. Men usually get with woman who they find attractive, you should too


rozovi

Oh yeah it's impossible for me to be with someone I don't find hot right off the bat. Attraction never grows unless it was there in the first place.


sometimesilie8670

Dude was definitely punching.


throwawayyyyoo

Im SHOCKED? I just read her book and there was a line where he said “ there are a lot of pretty girls in this world “ ( or something similar ) and she said her heart drooped when he said that. It makes much more sense now. I feel so so so Sorry for her.


Feeling_Barnacle_347

i knew a brazilian model with the most incredible body, face and personality. she looked yassified just walking around irl. she was natural on top of that, she let me squish lol. just a pure goddess honestly. in her free time she volunteered at dog shelters. she was that girl but actually kind and caring and just all around lovely. but guess what. she dated some douchebag from europe, short and chubby and ugly and mean, and constantly cheated on her. it broke my heart and my brain. edit after reading more comments: yeah looks are no guarantee for a good relationship. in fact, they may help attract more ppl, but also more wrong ppl. and many hot ppl are insecure and attract ppl who exploit their weaknesses.


Cindersxo29

To be honest, I've always seen her eyes as very empty and lacking substance. I don't know her but my impression of her has always been as not very intelligent and good-hearted. I am absolutely not trying to justify him cheating on her, as it's terrible of him, but how long can a guy stare at a beautiful face and hot body only? It's the character that people get genuinely attached too.


tiramisucculent

Does really everyone here think he's extremely ugly? Because I feel like it's only his non existent brows that are giving unusual.. But otherwise he's got symmetry, full eyes and lips, he's got jaw contour, cheek bones, good facial length, and I bet he's got a muscular body aswell. His beard is growing well and it looks well kept. I feel like with brows he'd be many people's type, no? Do we really agree on him looking below average and being on the same level as some very asymmetrical guys with bad skin, recessed chin and bad bone structure? I'm just wondering.


EastsideRim

I wouldn’t say “extremely ugly” but he has that sort of… chapped… appearance where you can tell he’s aging like sour milk. He looks like, if Macklemore was trying to be “hard” 😂


Seraphina_Renaldi

I think his big dry lips are also a thing that makes him very ugly


throwwaya1239

almost every gorgeous famous woman has had this done to them.... jay z and beyonce is probably the ultimate example for me. being pretty can never defeat the depravity of men. in some cases i'm not sure if these were toxic relationships with red flags that were overlooked in the first place, but this is why it is so important to personalitymaxx and always stay vigilant if you are looksmaxxing for relationship purposes. if there are any red flags or even bad gut feelings block and delete rather than thinking you can fix anyone.


Dangerous-Ant-5431

Idk why people try to prove 9/10 people are like average people . Of course, they are all human. It’s the fact that she can rebound so much quicker have people around for support or find support . She also lives a pretty great life


looksmaxxingacct

Well yeah life is generally easier as a 9 rather than an unattractive woman but it still has to really fucking suck to get cheated on. And I think a lot of people on this sub need a reminder of what pretty privilege actually looks like. It’s way more surface level like people being more eager to help you out in public like if you’re struggling to load heavy things into your car for example, getting a promotion over your less attractive coworker, having drinks bought for you in bars instead of deeper things like your significant other treating you better and being loyal to you, your friends caring about you more etc.


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True, her looks built her career, and that can’t be dismissed. I think the point op was trying to make is more that beauty won’t protect you from heartbreak or being cheated on. i think it’s a valuable point that a lot of us on this sub need to hear. Nothing can completely protect you from the possibility of being cheated on, but choosing a man very very carefully will go a lot farther than trying to become a 10/10.


tiffanylan

Emily was always a 10 she has had little work done, a true (and generic lottery) 10 Beauty is no guarantee that you will have a happy marriage or a faithful husband. In fact you have to vet more and harder since you have so many choices. According to reports, he is a serial cheater and a "dog" - men like this don't change and don't deserve us. Sad for Emily.


thesamantha23

Takes like this are so bad for women to read who haven’t been in a relationship yet lol. Like your looks have nothing to do with this. They are definitely vitally important to a relationship, but not in the sense that the better looking you are, the better treatment you’re entitled to.


reymrod

Googled him. If that guy is a 3-4 my husband and most men I personally know are not even in the positive numbers.


Applesxpeach

Well he doesn’t have eyebrows lol


OkKaleidoscope9696

I’ve read so many things over the years about him cheating on her. Insane. Also insane to me how beautiful girls like her and Megan Fox choose men so poorly.


EastsideRim

It can be a sort of community narcissism thing? “I don’t want people to think I’m superficial so I’m going to prove I’m not by being open to all kinds of guys! Here’s an ugly guy to prove with…. And he’s rich.” 😌


Plane_Personality_77

I feel like I’m the only person who only knows who she is because of her being on an episode of Suite life of Zach and Cody. I did not realize she was this famous until now 😭


hegelslady

There goes my hopes of having a bf...🕊️


Ciaoshops15

You’re forgetting that for a man it’s not about looks it’s about money, if a man is a 4 but he’s a billionaire for a lot of women that man will become a 10 automatically. That’s why you see a lot of rich celebrity men cheat on their super hot wives


CreativeMind1999

Exactly. Men who have money is exactly as women being incredibly gorgeous. That’s how society works unfortunately.


Jumpingonair

Nice body but Never found her attractive. And Ofcourse looks having nothing to do with being cheated on lmao.


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Really needed this today. :((