Worked as a Bartender for a decade and had a record breaking customer tonight
By - Denim-Chicken-90
That’s a former waiter who made it big
Totally. I'd bet he routinely does this. Like Johnny Appleseed planting seeds everywhere he goes.
I’ve always imagined that if I ever get rich I would hand out wads of cash to homeless people any time I saw them. A few years ago I got a settlement after leaving my job. Relatively speaking it was only a small amount (£5k) and it just about paid off my overdraft and some other urgent payments, but it was still a huge deal to me and was the furthest ‘in the black’ I’ve ever been.
Later that day I saw a homeless guy huddled up outside a shop. It was mid-December and really cold and he didn’t have any shelter, just a sleeping bag. I chatted to him for a bit and asked him how much he would need to get a bed for the night, he told me he was about £7 short. So I gave him £50. I wish I could’ve given more but I was newly unemployed and trying to be sensible, £50 was still quite a lot to me. He was so surprised and grateful, and that will stick with me always. I’d love to be able to do that all the time.
You were his angel that day! What we put out in this lifetime will come back to us 💗 We need more humans like you!
As someone who has been there, thank you and bless you.
I did something like this every once in a while when I had the money. It's an amazing feeling to be able to change someone's day/week a bit. I always try to enjoy a nice chat before I'd hand over. A couple hundred dollars I was likely about to waste at the bar (parents were very wealthy growing up).
I can't often be as generous as I tried to be when I had plenty of money as I'm a mom and wife now with my own budget and finances, but I still try to get close sometimes.
Usually we're both crying by the time I'm able to give them the cash. I just really love letting people know they're not invisible, I see them and although I don't have the same experiences as them, we're both equally in need of a bit of empathy and genuine, unsolicited, human kindness and love now and again.
I am not a gambler, but had to attend a work event at a Casino and brought my boyfriend. After dinner, we decided to go to the Casino. I had a crisp $100 bill as my gambling budget for the night. As we are walking around trying to figure out what to play, I broke the heel on my stiletto. I was bummed and felt silly walking with one broken shoe. I decided to cut the night short, but my ex suggested we at least play on game. So I go to the roulette table and put the $100 on black (the color of my broken pump) and ended up turning that $100 into $500! I’d never won any money before. I felt satisfied that I had covered my original wager, our dinner earlier and had $ to replace my shoes and then some.
Cut to the next night, we were back in NYC and had gone out dancing in Brooklyn. We are buzzed and on the subway heading home at 4 am when a young family gets on with a baby in a stroller, a toddler and another in the mother’s hands. The father is dressed in a janitorial or maintenance type of uniform and has a coffee thermos and lunch bag. Both parents looked exhausted, but were mindful of their children, especially the cute toddler who noticed me and I started playing peekaboo with, which made him giggle.
Knowing I still had some of my gambling winnings in my wallet from the night before and I whispered to my boyfriend to ask if it would be awkward for us to give this young family $100 of my winnings? Here we were coming home from a night out after drinking and dancing, while this young family was either heading to work or coming home from work, at 4 am, on a weekend with 3 kids! We certainly did not want to offend or insult them. I just felt fortunate that I had won so much the night before and wanted to share my good fortune.
So my boyfriend said, give me the $100, I have a plan. He took the hundred dollar bill, folded so he could conceal it in his hand (the way you do when you discretely tip someone while shaking their hand). Then as we were approaching our stop and stood up, he quickly bent down right next to their stroller and pretended to pick something up (with the $100 in hand) and then he turned and looked at the mother and said, “Excuse me, I think you dropped this.” And handed her the folded money.
She looked perplexed. He replied “It’s yours.” She still seemed confused, but said “Gracias” and accepted the bill. We smiled and gave her a wink and waved, looking back at her as we got off. I’ll never forget the look on her face when she unfolded the bill and realized it was $100! She had tears in her eyes and quickly nudged her husband awake to show him the money. It felt really good to make someone’s night like that! I felt blessed to win the money and to give $100 to a young family, who could possibly use it for diapers or food, where as, we would have just wasted it on a boozy brunch the next day.
I just got my first job and I'm 2 weeks in. In other words, 2 weeks from spending my entire first paycheck on other people. I cannot fucking wait. I'll give some to my family, random strangers on gift subreddits here. And hopefully a stranger on the street. I'm so excited! :)
I'll try to save some for new clothes and shoes for myself because as a waiter I'm kind of desperate for good shoes but I've been waiting so long to give back to others that it's hard to resist the temptation.
One way to do that without being rich is to get some friends together. The more the merrier. Everyone take a hundred dollar bill and go eat at a random diner for breakfast. The kind of place where you aren't going to spend $20 a head. Ask for one bill and put all the hundreds in the book and hand it to the server.
I think I read a story of someone doing this with about 15 people near Christmas. Random restaurant. Random server. Just give someone a nice holiday.
I'm planning on starting this tradition with my friends in the near future once or twice a year. The trick is everyone has to take a hundred or they just shouldn't be there because it dilutes the impact or the wow factor. So I'll even make my friends pay $100 for each of their kids that come along. Which could be a really good chance to teach the kids about kindness, generosity, giving, and paying it forward.
This right here.
I really want to do this. So much so that a friend of mine made me promise I wouldn't drop $100 tips on waitstaff until I had 6 months living expenses in the bank.
That's a good friend you have there
This is the way
would love for you to sit in my section <3
If I ever make it big I'm doing this
I still remember being a deck waitress at a bar and a drunk guy tipped me $30.00 on a $70. bill. Made my week.
I mean you don't stay rich by dropping 2k on food everywhere you go.
Depends how rich you are. Some people could do that every meal for the rest of their life. I could, too, as long as I die before lunch.
Or, at least, someone who appreciates tipped workers.
Agreed. I'd bet he now works in films/tv and was a server before he "hit it." I've had similar (but not balling to that extent) experiences with a couple of guys who work regularly for HBO as leads on their original shows.
And the fact that he didn't mention that he used to be a bartender/server really cements that. So many Karens "used to" wait tables, yeah sure, you're either lying or you sucked at it and it was brief.
I’ve told my server or bartender that I use to serve and bartend but only when they’re apologizing for being slow or the kitchen screwing up, etc. I usually say something like “i use to do this too. you’re good. Take your time. I’ll still be here.”
I don’t do it to be pretentious or to make it seem like I know better, just a way to hopefully get them to at least not stress about my table.
I try to drop a word like “ramekin” to subtly suggest I know the ways of food service.
Ramekin is a word that belongs to civilians. Better to reference a monkey dish to prove industry status.
Better to make a sexist joke, talk about how trashed you're going to get after work and how the new Chef is a real POS and banging the owners daughter to really prove your shit.
While saying this, will I have enough energy that you're questioning if I had too much coffee or a little bit of Adderall? *Fuck yes I will!*
Then blast the new hostess for seating Levi with all the good guests just because she's sucking his dick before work after his girlfriend drops him off.
And then try to communicate with the Brazilian prep staff who barely speak any English, because the kitchen is out of onions and too busy to pop over to the prep line to tell them.
Both of yall stop this is too real lmao
You forgot the blow
Oh damn, that's right. Nate's been in his Accord out back waiting for like 13 minutes. He's about to do your line. Better go run out to 'grab a different ticket book because this one's all sticky'.
Idk I went from a chef who didn't give a shit to a chef who is willing to knock some sense into the owners. Original chef got really pissy about servers asking for bus tubs even.
Talk about how trashed you are DURING work
I found the impostor.
>Ramekin is a word that belongs to civilians.
I used it on Reddit once in some general sub and got a lot of confused responses and complaints for using "fancy words." ;-)
I've always been really into baking so I didn't realize this was a fancy word! And I still don't lol
I supose that it is if you're male and under 20.
Ramekins are not monkey dishes. A proper ramekin is circular, has walls perpendicular to the table, and is larger than you think. Any time I even come close to calling anything else a ramekin, an early 20th century maitre d slaps the back of my head through time.
Bring me your best, checks notes, "chafing dishes"!
It's funny, my mom used to be waitress and my dad used to be a bartender. It's how they put themselves through college and grad school and paid for their wedding. I don't think I've ever heard them say it to staff (although I don't go out to bars with my dad very often). You better believe they always tip well, though.
I do that, too. I usually say something about not worrying ‘cause I have plenty of time and the kitchen will catch up with things eventually. (I’m at the farther end of a long life, but the teen years when I was a server scarred me permanently!)
Sure fire way to know you're going to be stiffed or severely under-tipped: early in the interaction they say they used to wait tables or they are going to take care of you. 🚩🚩🚩
I used to make pizza. Spent 7-8 years doing it, I could jump in a pizza kitchen in a heart beat and start tossing pies like a boss again. Not once have I ever mentioned this while ordering some za
Hated being a bus boy and waiter before because all the pressure and eyes that are on you in the dining room. After I spilled an entire tray of waters on a table, I said fuck this never waiting or bussing tables again. Outside of this thread, I would never tell anyone I used to wait tables lol
People are weird
It was almost 50 years ago for me, but I still can still feel the knock-knock of the pizza paddle against the lip of the oven as I broke the pizza free of the wooden paddle so it could slide in. I can feel it in my right delt. And no, I've never mentioned it.
I’ve had tons of these Karen’s that probably waited tables for a summer back in college, so apparently they under the struggle. Still end up being super needy and only end up tipping like 15%.
Bingo. I used to have successful lawyer customer who made his way through college waiting tables. He always tipped big. One night he wanted to bring in some corporate clients he was courting and asked for me to be his waiter. I was a bartender, but for him, I gave up my bartending shift to wait on his 10 top. I acted like he was Henry Hill in the Copacabana. He tipped me $3,000 in cash.
It’s my dream to be this
It's a throwaway sentence, but you are so right.
That had to the absolute best part of being rich. Being able to, relatively cheaply, just totally make someone's day. That would be so damn fun.
I've always thought if I made it big or anything, I would just drop a couple hundred bucks in a the tip jar at the cafe I go to for lunch, etc.
Hard same. I have this discussion regularly-- I want to be the one to tip $1k or pay people's medical bills or something, just because I could
It is/was mine too! I’m not super well off, but we’ll off enough that I can leave 40 or even 50 percent on a regular basis. I don’t go out often but when I do, I like to give a really good tip if the service was good. I’m not a big eater or drinker, so I figure I make up for it in the tip. I waitresses for years and when customers did this, it made me so happy. I’ve taught my kids to do the same. My oldest son took his prom date to a really nice restaurant. Apparently the waiter treated them really well despite being teenagers and he couldn’t wait to come home and tell me about the tip he left. (For what it’s worth, my son washes dishes in a restaurant so this was his hard earned money - some of it shared tips from the servers). It makes me proud. And it makes me so grateful to be here. Those tips helped me pay for college back when I was a server!
Being a former server in my youth, to this day, I ALWAYS stack the dishes after I am done whenever/where ever I eat out. My wife always laughs. Just trying to make their job a little easier and clear the table.
All my friends worked in food and taught me ways to help out staff. Bring cash, don't put gross things in cups, stack dishes, put silverware fully onto the plate...
Husband laughs and tells me I'm being ridiculous. Nah I'm just not being a dick.
You can put stuff in cups to an extent, just don't leave them upside down, full of water, on a dollar. That is a dick move.
In the food service industry, karma goes a long way.
Reciprocation, the word of the day.
That's so funny. I'm currently in the industry and people stacking dishes actually makes my job harder usually (I work at a fine dining joint so our plates are weird and most people don't finish everything on every plate, making it super wonky), so I don't do it when I go out.
That's how i go about it. Normal circle plates/easily stackable? I'll stack. Ones a square and ones a circle and one is a bowl? I'll leave the juggling act to the person carrying the stack around.
Oh yeah I wouldn't stack those at all. Most finer dining I don't because the plates go away before I do. It's more like Black Bear Diner or Denny's type places where I will do that.
Also a former server and I try and do this too. Stack it all up, place it near the end of the table…nice & neat.
Nice. I'm very sure your server appreciates it.
Once a year my bf and I do this. We hire an Uber for a couple hours. Tip big up front and tell them to stick around. Smoke a bit, but not enough that we won't enjoy our dinner and drinks.
Last time we did a steak house. We start at the bar. I got a tequila to sip. He got a beer and a whiskey. Oysters and marrow at the bar with our drinks. Tip out the bar 100% and move to a table. He got a filet, I got a ribeye amounting to about $500 all together. I didn't bother with a potato option and asked for extra veggies. Good red wine. We're usually too full for desert but I ordered it to go. Close out again and tip 100%
Give our Uber our desert and they take us to visit a friend or two. Uber takes us back to the hotel where we tip them out one last time (100% not including our initial tip). In the morning we go home back to our mundane/high stress jobs.
It's decadent and indulgent, and absolutely unnecessary but he cooks and I bartend and serve and it feels great to be on the other side for a night and also spoil service workers because I know how good it feels to get lucky with a really good customer. We work all weekends every weekend and all the busiest shifts so we're doing this on a Monday night. Not the day a service worker goes in expecting good tips. Doing good while doing well. Feels good.
me and my chef bf also love dropping fat tips on monday night date night
Yup, stacking the plates is a dead giveaway
Or someone who stole 2k and had to get rid of it.
I like your version better though
Or someone who was "on the way out" but that's a bit morbid so I also like the other version.
You're not the only one.
Slips the additional 1000 into underpants.....
Yep! I would do the same thing if I came into some big money!
I feel like that's what happens when a normal person hits it big and doesn't lose their mind. That's exactly what I'd do. Eat and drink fancy food like the trash person I am
Yeah! Cause another random guy at the bar and him were small talking / joking around. when asked about all the food he just simply said “I just really love good food and wine” he wasn’t dressed super flashy just in a normal suit so yeah everyone has their priorities!
A simple way to put it is "new money". I landed a really nice job recently (nothing insane, just comfortable financially now) and was at IHOP and it was empty at like 6pm so I tipped $20 on a $25 check because I'm like "damn, this server is getting like 1 tip an hour."
New money is a derogatory term so no thats not how youd describe this person
I don't recommend drinking fancy food tbh ;)
I worked fancy fine dinning for years and this would sometimes happen.. that ones pretty big though. I’ve gotten a couple $500 tip on $500 bill but never $1300. I was more likely to sell a $5000 bottle of wine and get a $1000 tip.
Lol where did you work😅 asking for a friend
I know two servers (not bartenders) who make well over $100k, funny enough they work at different restaurants that are owned by same company/share a kitchen.
St. Elmo / Harry Izzy’s
Not sure how the pandemic has changed that but I know they made absolute bank when times are good.
Edit: St Elmo / Harry & Izzy’s, not RC
Yeah this restaurant the senior servers actually all made over $100k. It was insane! I was just a bartender who served lounge tables as well and with my 10 years experience (I started in a restaurant at 15) I was probably the least experienced. There are many career servers making unreal money.
Dealing with the clientele at that level is so much better too. I work at a really nice boutique hotel and the price point really weeds out a lot of the people that make working customer service a nightmare.
I work at a French place and it weeds out most picky eaters but I will never forget the clubber that was disgusted that we served her raw fish when she ordered the tuna tartare (and then wouldn’t cook the fish for her). Only person who ever stiffed me on the tip completely
I fully agree! I started at red Robin at 15 as a hostess and the amount of entitled Karen’s was insane! I really didn’t get that working at expensive restaurants which is ironic because the women buying a $10 hamburger will act like a full on diva and then you serve a real life celebrity movie star who kinda has more of a case to be a diva and they act in the nicest way possible
St. Elmos and Harry & Izzy’s. Ruth Chris’s is a separate restaurant but the two I mentioned are the sister restaurants you were thinking of.
ruth's chris makes me so irrationally angry, because why in the everloving fuck of god's green earth is it called RUTH'S chris steakhouse? chris is not an adjective, and why is ruth in the possessive of chris? it makes NO SENSE!! if it were one name it should be ruth chris' steakhouse!!!
The original Chris Steakhouse burned down, so when Ruth reopened at a new location she was forced to change the name. The original purchase agreement said the name could only be used at that address.
Thank you. That has always confused and annoyed me too!
Thank you, I always wondered about that too.
Damn the biggest tip I ever got was $200 and it was when I served the pouncey brothers
The pouncey brothers are scumbags lol
I work at a major steakhouse as well and the pandemic helped this summer. We set new records for July and August because a lot of locals who normally go elsewhere for the summer stayed home.
I found that made less over all, up until about the last 3 months, but I made more per tab. Sure it's been a very stressful year and a half but the good ones made it worth it.
I know a few local bartenders doing 6 figures. Pretty rare here though, we don’t have anything high end at all
Yep. Took the wife there the other day before a concert, great food and I love the restaurant.
I used to be a busser at a fine dining restaurant in Toronto and our servers made excellent money. The more senior servers owned their own homes and would always go on these expensive ass trips and food tours. And we were only open at nights.
> our servers made excellent money. The more senior servers owned their own homes
If you do not have a long history of serving or any connections at the restaraunt, you will likely not even be considered. just saying. serving jobs like these are how you make a good career out of something people look at as a side job
I’m kidding. I have a job I like but I never got big tips. I’d just have to get lots of tips to make my money but I’m in a more poor area
high turnover w/ friendly customers is always nice
Ah I wish I could tell you but since I have a bunch of posts about it I probably shouldn’t bc of my NDA.
What fine dining restaurants make you sign an NDA? I know it’s customary policy to not comment on guests or risk losing your job, but I’ve never had to sign or heard of having to sign an NDA.
A restaurant with lots of high profile guests. I signed a generic one when I started and also signed some for celebrity private parties.
Makes sense. I’m guessing you were located in a larger city where appearances are fairly common. We get a good amount where I work, but nothing substantial enough to sign NDAs.
When I first got engaged to my ex wife her father came into town and we went to one of those “fine dining” places. (You’re talking only open between 5pm and 9pm, glass floor to see the wine cellar, antipasto was an art piece for a museum type places.) the bill came to about $1300 for the 7/8 of us. They left an $800 tip in cash.
That’s someone who 🎶worked hard for the money🎶
Someone in my town just tipped 10,000 bucks on a bill that was maybe $100, wasn't even fine dining just a seafood place. He just requested that every server got $1,000
Dang I missed out! That seems like a Satchel's thing?
Wahoo on 39th
I've never been tipped that big, but we had a fairly regular guest at the last place I worked who would come in late, usually alone, but not always. He'd order a bottle of Krug Champagne ($350ish) and a little food. Sometimes he'd get a big California Cab like Opus 1 if he was with company. He was super easy and easy-going. His checks were usually $400-$800 and he routinely tipped 100% or more. He'd also slip Benjamins to any support staff that helped him out. Carry his Champagne bucket over to the beach bar? Here's $100!
Needless to say, servers would try to swoop him up into their section whenever he showed up. I only served him like 3 times, but it sure was sweet to go from making $250 for the night to making $650 for the night for hardly any extra work.
Edit: If anyone reading this worked FoH F&B at the same hotel as me around 10 years ago they'll probably know exactly who and where I'm talking about.
>Krug Champagne ($350ish)
You reminded me of a restaurant that had a 1/2 bottle of Krug for $65 on the menu... it was an instant order at that price whenever we went. (Cheapest Full bottle retail i've seen was $140)
I wonder how the restaurant pulled that off.
Sometimes a distributor will have incentive to move x bottles of something and will cut a deal with certain restaurants, or alternatively a restaurant could be trying to get on a distributor’s good side so they can get some of the more exclusive offerings from the distributor.
This happened with a bar I used to go to. They had a certain beer they would sell for cheaper than you could get at a store and it turns out this small bar was the leading seller of that entire brand, including retail sales. Got him a great relationship with the brewery and also got the attention of the distributor. This small bar in a small town ended up getting cases or barrels of all of the insanely sought after limited release beers that that distributor could get their hands on.
Not to mention when you feel like you’re getting a sweet deal on the beer, you’re more likely to not bat an eye at paying a higher price for another beer, or you might be more inclined to grab dessert.
For clarity it was DGBG (old NYC location), part of Daniel Boloud, his restaurant group is quite large so probably some volume discounting going on.
I have opened countless $200-$300+ bottles of wine, I don't even think about a wine being expensive until it hits $500.
I had a guy pull out $2000 in $50s and pay for a $1500 bill. (no change needed)
I had a guy add $500 to a $300 auto grat.
Used to have some drug dealers come into a place for some late night eats, So many shots of XO or shaken Grey Goose. Then the bill comes to $1000 and they pull out a stack of $20s and then add a $300 tip.
But good job on the $1000 tip!!! I have never had a 4 digit tip, but I used to say you can tell how good your night is by how many $100+ tips you got. People can throw money around sometimes.
EDIT: People also can add mad tips on their CC, like I had a guy add a 30% tip on Friday night (his bill was ~$1200). But somehow I remember the times they put a stack of cash down more than that.
Alex Ovechkin pulled out a stack of hundreds about half an inch thick to pay for his dinner. (Which was just under $500 for him and 2 other of the Caps), Added 20%
I'm glad you finished that because I was about to be sad that Ovi stiffed you lol. Athletes are hit and miss.
Ooh….when Matthew Stafford came to Detroit to QB for the lions he came into my bar. I got assigned to take care of him, which I did all night while trying to dodge the hoochies crawling all over him. My boss comped his whole bill (like $500 ish) and he left me nothing. Not a penny.
He used to come into the fine dining place I worked at a few years later. Usually with his wife in a group. Really nice honestly. But I really never stopped being irritated that he stiffed me the first time lol.
Lots of people who aren’t industry don’t think about it.
They tip whatever percent they tip of the bill.
If the bill got comped then there is no bill to tip on.
If there is a 50% discount on the bill they tip on the discounted total.
I’ve served countless athletes/celebs, and without an exception they have been good.
Have to say the nicest is Milan and Brittany Lucic. Just nice people who like good food.
Yup…no tippin Pippen was an industry standard in Chicago 😕
I had a friend from WoW come to visit once. Turns out he was an oil engineer in Texas and a trust fund baby. I didn't even know my buddy and I had had 2 doubles of 25yr macallen. And for dinner he literally just said, "one of everything". Most decadent weekend of my life.
I gave a five dollar tip at Dunkin the other day in a hard part of the city. The person put their hands together and said no one ever does this. An was on the verge of tears.
I also teared up thinking that I should have given more.
People don't have that spark in life anymore, you're helping more than you think when you actually help.
Aw man, if I were in your shoes I'd never be able to stop thinking about this
I once gave a homeless guy a $20 bill and a pack of cigarettes, all he said was “fuckin menthols?” and walked away lmao
I was out for my anniversary and I gave this houseless dude $40 and he asked if he could get another $20 lmao
My dude I don’t even have money, don’t do me like that
My mom attempted giving people at the freeway ramps some food. I told her beforehand that they would be making way too much to care about that. Never doubt the depths of my grifting prowess mom.
Way late to the party but this happened to me ~6 years ago before I finally got a good career. It was around Christmas, I was working the drive thru (taking orders/giving food through the window) when an old man slipped me a $20 bill and wished me a merry Christmas. The place I was at wouldn’t allow us to take tips but he was very adamant that I take it. I STILL think about that guy every so often. Thank you for doing that, when the Dunkin employee gets a better opportunity I’m sure they will remember your kindness!
How awesome! Most rich people are incredibly cheap and expect all sorts of freebies. That's how they stay rich.
The only times I got truly princely tips, they came from ordinary people who'd gotten lucky in life and wanted to share the joy. I had a customer who won big on Keno who gave everyone working $200, I had another who won a big lawsuit who came in every year on his birthday and tipped in $100 bills, and a quiet woman who sat at my bar every Saturday always left me at least $20 on a $15-25 check? - turned out she'd patented some kind of computer component as a college student and sold it for millions. The fact that your guy didn't want fuss and bother (and cleaned up after himself) tells me he was one of those people.
Now that y’all said that he was a server and made it big, I’m like oh wow that’s totally what that was. Cause I know rich people who tip nice but never that much and acted as polite and aware as he did. He probably does realize how much that tip meant to me and how hard it’s been in the service industry lately! Moments like this keep us going!
Stacking plates is good! Just please stack them correctly (like, no forks in between plates and try and stack them from biggest to smallest) and please don't shove napkins in the cups!
Yup, just don't do stuff like put napkins or junk into glasses with liquid or stack small glasses into big glasses.
It's helpful unless you are really bad at it. Like if it's so unbalanced you wouldn't pick it up, we can't pick it up either
Yes it’s appreciated! The less time I have to spend at a table on something that isn’t going to necessarily make me more money immediately the better. Servers are expected to “pre-bus” their tables so that the busser can just grab a few things from the table to sanitize it and set it for the next guest.
The less time it takes for me to pre-bus the more money I’ll be able to make. Because the more attention I’ll be able to spend on service and selling vs cleaning.
stacking plates and putting them toward the corner is super helpful. also keeping your silverware so i don't have to go get you fresh silverware.
Yeah, I used to have a guy who would come in for lunch every M-F, order a burger or whatever, $8-$10 meal, and leave a $20 tip. Former server who was now doing really well as a software developer.
That’s a bit of a generalization, there are plenty of “rich” people that are extremely generous. In 20+ years I’ve found the difference to generally be that the people that think having lots of money makes them superior are the cheapest and most demanding. The unassuming people with money are usually very easy going and tip well.
>The unassuming people with money are usually very easy going and tip well.
And, in my personal experience, they laugh at the idea of "Rich Dad, Poor Dad," as being as much of a posture as nouveau riche who throw money around in all the wrong ways.
Curious what the wine was? I had a couple of clients do that when I was a somm, but only when there was something old/rare on the list that was also marked below current retail or auction prices. (We didn't update prices on older stuff on the list all that often.)
They'd spend $500 on a bottle off the list that might be going for over 1K at retail/auction (typically a Burgundy or Californian Cab), then they'd leave a *very* generous tip to make up a good chunk of the difference. Though usually not in cash like that.
Not even anything that interesting wine wise, I simplified the story for the non wine people out there but since ya asked lol…it was a 2007 Dunn Cabernet and the “second bottle” was really just four glasses that approx equal another bottle, two white burgundies from 2015, a late harvest Sauvignon dessert wine 2017 and well known Boudreaux blend
Can’t speak to the 2007 vintage, but I was recently selling 1998 and god damn if that wasn’t a gorgeous bottle of wine.
That's amazing. There are truly good people out there and ones that respect the service industry!!! Congrats
I once got hired to a job because in my job interview, I mentioned a friend of mine who is a touring musician (not unusual where I live) when we were discussing scheduling, saying I would appreciate being allowed to go see his shows every couple of months or so, even though that would mean taking off busy nights on weekends approximately every six weeks. Dumb to do that in an interview, but it mattered to me, so I asked as politely as I could if that would be too much of a problem. The general manager interviewing me kind of cocked an eye at me and jokingly said, "maybe, who is it? Anybody cool?"
Idk, maybe she was expecting me to say Garth Brooks or something (however the person I was talking about isn't anywhere close to being on that level) or somebody no one's ever heard about, but as soon as I said his name, the GM stopped what she was doing in genuine surprise and she went, "Let me tell you a story. About two or three years ago, back when I was serving, I was having a really shitty night. Everything was going wrong, but I remember there was this one guy who came in all by himself, and he was really easy going and I just remember how kind and patient he was with me, and that he left a $300 tip on a $50 tab to make me feel better. It was [friend's name]. I never got to thank him, so for that, absolutely. You can have whenever you want off to go see him. I'll wave you out the door and welcome you back, no worries whatsoever."
It wasn't even me that got that tip, but it paid off for me in a big way two years later. I spent six years working for that restaurant with that same policy in place, and I'm still secretly proud of my friend for having been that guy even though he's "made it". It's such a mindfck to think about how it came full circle for him, my boss, and me, before any of us even knew each other. I guess it's really a small world after all. 😂
Who’s the friend?
I live in Nashville. There's an unspoken rule in this city (and I'm sure others, but we take it seriously here) that you never name drop for clout because it's lame as hell. So, he is a country singer on the younger side so he's not what you'd consider traditional country music. He gets a lot of shit for his kind of music, that I feel like he doesn't deserve because he really has the BEST heart. As evidenced by this little anecdote.
& that's all I'm gonna say about that. 😇💕
I lived in NOLA, we wouldn’t take pics but we definitely would gossip about it after the fact! Hahaha!
My best friends husband does this. Went out to dinner with them at a VERY nice place, spent about a grand there, and he tipped the main waiter 300, the rest (each person had a waiter, too fancy)150. He's a complicated guy, but LOVES to give away his money.
"If money isn't worth spending, then what is its true purpose" is his fav quote.
Nope, not normal. lol I mean, it's normal for people to spend money, but not tip like crazy like that guy did. That's really awesome. lol I also enjoy the fact he was so chill and not needy about everything.
I served at a restaurant in the Bay Area. Fairly high end, expensive cocktails (16/17 bucks) and a really cool spot.
I’m working brunch shift with two others, kinda dead and I only have two or three tables. This guy sits down with his attractive partner and proceeds to immediately order chicken wings and a bottle of screaming eagle (7k bottle of wine? We had it on consignment). We’re all spying on the table at this point and helping out the other server (we split tips) to give the guy a seamless experience (although cmon, it was chicken wings - not a ton to do).
He orders one more order of wings, and bounces. We gaggle up all excited and the server walks over with this kinda thousand yard stare and just hands us the bill - it was a tip of 10,000 dollars.
Guy came in two more times (not on my shift) and did the same thing.
I’m a former server turned successful stripper and I do this every single Monday afternoon. After a long weekend of physically exhausting work, I need a lot of carbs, so I take a couple of girl friends out and get drinks and lunch at one of the nice restaurants in town and I always tip 100% or more if the server is particularly friendly. Now some of my favorite places see me walk in and their faces light up and it just makes me feel good.
Hell yeah!! Love this!
I had a couple customers like that over my 20 year career in food service, more than made up for the stiffs. My favorite job was at a low-key pub in Manhattan where celebrities would often turn up to drink incognito. Miss that place quite a bit...
Hah I live in cobble Hill and I see so many celebrities here just being normal and low key. One time I was watching March madness with "Mac," who was a friend of another regular. I only realized after a few minutes that I had been talking to Macauley Culkin hah.
Someone of significance. By himself, knew what he wanted, but didn't want to be fussed over because he didn't want the presentation and poured his own wine. Appreciates someone who works in the service industry. Didn't want the spotlight on him. Paid with cash, didn't want his name out there.
Congratulations, hope you enjoy the extra cash!
These are the chill gents you dream of..no Fuss no muss and respectful as all get out. Treat them right they'll do it again every night. ( haha that came out dirty) but none the less . My dad was like that , bartender through college , never forgot how to treat people and always remembered the struggle of trying. Love that kind of person.
Former waiter or about to quit the game of life and sharing his wealth
How do I marry this guy
Me, after I hit the powerball.
Plot twist: dude is terminally ill, alone, and decided to blow his savings during his last good month or so.
You were visited by the ghost of Orson Welles...
100% this man waited tables at some point in his life.
I'd put a GPS tracker on his car and try to work everywhere he eats
Feels like a server who hit good gambling and is doing that one thing they always wanted to do. (Try the fancy expensive food/drink, leave the type of tip they always wanted to get, and still remember their roots as a server.)
Reminds me of the time many years ago when a well-dressed guy comes in and sits at the bar while I was working. He ordered a fully coursed meal, of all the most expensive things on our menu, but doesn't seem to care much about presentation. All the while, he's sipping on glasses of our highest-shelf tequila. He's a super-friendly guy, starts making friends with all the patrons near him at the bar, and starts putting shots of our highest-shelf tequila *for them* on his tab.
Finally the time comes to close out on his $500+ check, and he makes it abundantly clear he has absolutely no intention of paying. Not for any poor service or quality of food, he's just not going to. We explain that we'll have to call the police if he plans to just eat and drink and not pay for it, and he just says, "ok, go ahead." So we do, and he just sits and sips the last of his tequila until they show up.
Turns out the guy had been released from prison the day before, and is the type who had no intentions of living outside again. He just wanted a quick hurrah with a nice meal and some fancy booze before he went back in.
That one felt weird.
That's a shame. Sounds like a guy that could make something of himself, but instead decides to spend one day of enjoyment and head right back into the brink.
I know that some people end up depending on jail as a way of life, but this guy - with his personality and ability to pull himself together that way. It just seems like a shame to me.
Hmmm, one man drank two bottles of wine in an hour? That's eight glasses, right? I guess he knew how to hold is liquor.
This guy has worked in hospo.
That is fucking awesome!
Believe me. This happens quite a bit .
Thats great to hear honestly
That’s some last meal type vibe
[did you give Mr. Creosote his thin dinner mint?](
Idk who all here has read or seen Good Omens, but this is giving me huge Aziraphale vibes
My son used to wait a restaurant in Santa Fe where rich Californians liked to eat when on vacation. He made some crazy tips.
Maybe a lottery winner or someone doing their bucket list?
I feel like this is someone who used to work in the service industry and recently hit it big. Maybe a r/wallstreetbets bro or something? Tbh I would definitely do the same if I came into money like that suddenly...
Reminds me of when my family was celebrating my sisters graduation we went to a restaurant. The food was good and we were all feeling pretty good.
Me? I was pretty happy and flush with cash from working at a fancy hotel and living at my parents, so on a whim decided to tip the waiter \~$200 from a bill around \~$300. The waiter was pretty surprised and asked if I was sure, and I was like "Yeah, don't question it man."
So I'll tell you the same thing: don't question it, man.
A customer of mine, a church, paid their bill with cash x3, the week everything was to shutdown in 2020.
They explained one member donated a ton of money and instructed them to do some good in the community. (It was close to $3000 over their bill). I used it to over-tip every service industry person I came in contact with for months.
When I was a bartender many moons ago I worked a banquet where a few politicians and businesses leaders started getting into a pissing contest with their "buying a round" and "keep the change" $100 bills all night
Those are whales, we love them.
Is this like the altruistic version of "fuck you money"?
Guy probably came out ahead in the divorce settlement.
Sounds like dinner at Peter Luger's and that the person enjoyed their dinner.
Love the servers at Luger's. My favorite is this Austrian guy named Aloysius. Always have a good time and take care of him when he serves us. Amazing raunchy sense of humor which my buddy's and I enjoy lol.
We just gonna ignore that this dude drank two full bottles of wine in an hour?
For that kind of tip I’ll drive him home in my own car. And stop at the del taco drive-through.
My nephew worked fine dining going to college. He had no issue paying $ 1600 a month for his apt.
This thread is depressing me heavily. I live in a moderate city 60 miles north of DT Los Angeles… I’ve been leaving work <$100 (40-65 bucks) a nite. And I’ve been a server for ages. It’s never been so bad. I hate this shit. I used to make good money at this. Now. People are holding onto dollar bills like their balls. Income here is probably below or at the National Average. But when you live in California, that’s poverty level shit.
This last Saturday. Left with $80 after tipping out the bar and bussers and food runners. It’s a joke.
Idk what his total was, but the rich dude who came in with his friends and ordered Duckhorn, Roderer and then 3 rounds of 18 year old Pappy in addition to a ton of food tipped 100%. I think that was our record
That's awesome! If I ever win big somehow I want to make someone's night like that.
This is so amazing you were BLESSED I love it
That is someone who clearly used to do front and possibly back house service in the food industry that has a come into enormous wealth. Good for him and good for you. That is awesome.