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I visited a BDSM cellar one night. There sure we're a lot of blunt force objects. Including a rather aggressive looking dildo taped to the working end of a power tool.
Oh fuck you that lenny face made me laugh. I've seen what a sawzall can do, were I a lady there's no way I'd let a machine like that near my sensitive bits. But fair enough, it would seem careful handling is the key
Im afraid of this link, lets see if i can sleep at night, ill keep you posted
Edit: its safe people, its no "2-girls-one-cup/ 4- guys-2-hammers-and-1-pencil" type of shit
It was one of the gore videos back in its Era, it invited 2 men smashing another man's skull in with a hammer and was all recorded. Pretty morbid but I guess that's why it fit in the list.
It was one of the gore videos back in its Era, it invited 2 men smashing another man's skull in with a hammer and was all recorded. Pretty morbid but I guess that's why it fit in the list.
Which is a damn shame. I really wanted to visit the iconic location. Should have converted some rooms into OnlyFans and other webcam studios or something.
That... Could be interesting as well.
Also, considering they had these Upper Floor events... Could make for interesting dinner / restaurants.
Plus why not have a very specific casino and a strip club there too?
Had to do with it's original purpose from the national guard. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/San_Francisco_Armory. Quasi safe for work does mention kink com but it's wikipedia so safe just facts.
Edit: I'm dumb. Reading is hard- thought you asked why would a castle be called an Amory. But I'll leave it
The sex toy shop near me, which I certainly never have been in, had what looked like an 18" dildo with 5-6" of girth mounted to a chainsaw. Looked neat as hell but it was like $400 in 2009 money.
Anal, or likely double ended. We had a similar one at university that me and my friends used to launch at each other down the corridor to see who gave up first. Shit hurt when it came flying at you at 100kmh.
Basically we'd get quite drunk, then stand at either end our corridor (maybe 10-15m in length) and then take turns throwing the heavy ass double ended dildo as hard as possible at each other. If you dodged you lost. Whoever gave up first lost and usually had to do some stupid forfeit like try and down a bottle of vodka or something.
Reminded me of the original joke…. What’s the difference between sexy and kinky? Sexy is using a feather, kinky is using the whole damn chicken.
I remember hearing this when I was a kid. My parents were playing bridge and had friends over. I would sit and listen to their jokes and table chatter. That joke stuck with me because I was a teen before I got it. Lol
I dated a girl in high school who's mother was into equestrian stuff. While helping clean out the garage, I found all these bridals and crops and stuff. I was like "uhh, are you guys into that kinky stuff?" She got all flustered/mad at me saying that it was horse riding equipment. I countered that I was a poor city kid who was never around such things, so how was I supposed to know?
I kinda get those people though, horses have big personalities and can be very lovable. I'm not a horse person, but like a dog, if I could have a horse, I would.
> I countered that I was a poor city kid who was never around such things, so how was I supposed to know?
So you see, madam, it was totally expected that I would assume things of a potentially embarrassing sexual nature about you that you would not want to be spoken aloud. So really its your fault for my mind going there first m'lady.
Back in the early 80's redneck assholes used to drive into DC and gay-bash random people. At some point a reasonable percentage of people at risk of a beating started packing large dildos. There were several incidents of people getting hospitalized after being beaten bloody with dildos I'm happy to say!
I'm seeing EEAaO this wendesday and I've been carefully avoiding spoilers for the movie and now the only thing I know is that it involves BDSM and or sex toys... thanks...
Yeah its in the title, everything. The only way to not spoil that movie would be to men in black style wind wipe you to a carte blanche state, but then the movie wouldn't any sense and be very unenjoyable
If you're not into BDSM, it all looks very strange. It's basically taking all the unjust things that plague our world: big power imbalances, not being able to leave, and getting yelled at, and incorporating it into one's life not only on purpose, but as a part of one's most intimate relationship.
And it's so mainstream that when a sex weapons book gets super-popular and they make an R-rated sex weapons movie trilogy out f it, the studio can just promote its sex weapons movie on Good Morning America and interview the actors who have weapon sex in the movies, while you're getting the kids get ready for school. It's an R and not an NC-17 because even though there's weapon sex, they don't show the penetration.
As someone who is active in the community, we all fucking hate that book and film. It popularized domestic abuse, not BDSM, and if you mention it, it will get people frothing at the mouth.
I've heard that, and considering how bad Hollywood is at depicting even basic PG-rated dating, I believe it.
The cynical conspiracy-minded part of me wonders if that misconception is by design: "We'll give this generation ONE sex-positive cultural touchstone, but we'll make it apologia for male narcissism, normalize a lot of dangerous behavior in the bedroom, and let's have all the daytime talk show hostesses fawn over the abusive leading man!"
The books and movie were/are popular, but they don't portray what would be considered a safe, sane, and consensual relationship that incorporates BDSM play in a respectful way. Instead it portrays a relationship that would be considered abusive by that community even and hurts the reputation of real people who engage in such relationships in a safe and sane manner.
SSC (safe, sane, consensual) is very outdated. There is no kink that is safe and anyone who tells you otherwise is not safe to play with. Sane is very ambiguous and does not mean the same to everyone,so it's a useless word.
RACK is preferred- Risk Aware Consensual Kink. All parties involved should be aware of the risks, negotiate boundaries and signals (safe words and also nonverbal cues), and not play above anyone's skill level that are involved.
Is it really consensual? That's like saying an addict is making an informed decision when they shoot up with heroin. Someone working through their trauma and insecurities via-
Kidding. I'm just messing with ya.
It's disrespectful to joke about a community you know nothing about who has to fight stigma and do not have protections in place to keep them safe from the vanilla world. People in the community can lose their jobs, their housing, be discriminated against by their healthcare professionals, be ostracized by family, etc.
If you are in the community, represent your community well to outsiders. Do not add to the stigma. And do not bring other marginalized people into it to make a joke. Addiction is never a joke.
Or maybe its acceptable for not every member of every community to only be concerned with being an ambassador for that community 24/7 and perfectly acceptable to joke about it normalizing conversations around it.
Being into BDSM is not like being a gay guy in the 80s. No one is going to beat you to death over it. We have shitty mainstream representations of it through unhealthy crap like 50 shades or The Secretary. Every mom & pop sex columnist has an article about it. Hell _my church_ has pamphlets for the married adults talking about enhancing sex with kink play with helpful recommendations for how newbies should approach more nuanced sexual encounters.
And addiction is a normal thing to joke about too. If you've ever been to group, you'd realize humor is a common coping mechanism when trying to deal with extreme loss and trauma and is a fine tool to use for getting the conversation going with, with the few people who don't know someone who has battled addiction. But I haven't found too many peeps that haven't.
Your response to my comment was so over the top that I have to say, whatever you have stuck up your ass currently was way too big a toy for you.
It was just a joke. A lighthearted joke that didn't in any way make fun of the community. Really no reason whatsoever to get your panties in a twist about it.
All you're actually accomplishing by being a miserable, humourless git like that is make yourself, and by extension your community, seem annoying and off-putting. You're definitely not "respecting it well to outsiders" with that attitude. Just sayin'.
I've had the SF police tell me with a smirk "There's no horses around here..." carrying toys at night.
Some impact toys like a sjambok or whatever might be illegal in some places. It's contextual, which is a grey area.
Contunuous, enthusiastic consent in BDSM is mandatory for many reasons, one of which is that it is legally in a very dark grey area called assault.
Support the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom who advocates against laws that persecute those who enjoy/practice BDSM.
Id argue kitchen utensils are better handweapons than 90% of bdsm equipment. Sure, you can bludgeon someone with a dildo, but its really not an effective way.
The only two things i can think of that would be effective weapons are batons and knives.
That would be S&M. BDSM is an umbrella term that includes Bondage, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism. Bondage alone comprises the *vast* majority and is just ties.
Id completely disagree, if only because there's so many varied sub categories. My bdsm relationships usually had more of a masochistic and service based tendency, instead of restraint. Ib think i was tied up maybe 3 times in the past 4 years, but ive had many many more scenes with whips, paddles, and electricity.
M/S relationship dynamics are relatively uncommon in the circles I frequent. It's much more frequently pet play, some Big/Little stuff, bondage, and Sadism/masochism.
sm is the best, that whap of a sturdy paddle, the noise they make as there ass bounces.
The oh stop they say, till you force them to say the safe word.
Never mind the after care. Cuddles, snacks and shit.
If you're getting a safe word, you've gone too far
Edit: comments below are fair. If the scene expects a safe word at some point, it's not too far, it's the point.
That really depends on your partner, the scene, and what they're comfortable with.
My partner and I, more often than not, practice con non-con. I like to end scenes myself once I'm done because what I want/can handle varies a lot, so they pretty much almost end when I use the safe word. Through open and clear communication, we've found a way to do this where we're both comfortable.
Admittedly, we're in the minority when it comes to BDSM and are into some hardcore stuff, but it does happen.
Not if thats the agreement.
Paddles are fun, but the end user can only take so mutch.
Its even more fun with brats, cuz they wanna be stubborn.
You keep asking em whan the safe word is, but they wanna keep mum, even though you low key know there at there limits.
>M/S relationship dynamics are relatively uncommon in the circles I frequent. It's much more frequently pet play, some Big/Little stuff, bondage, and Sadism/masochism.
So is it uncommon or more frequent?
That's just the B, not the S&M. Are you forgetting about whips, chains, switches, canes, riding crops, paddles, various dildos, vibrators, buttplugs, feathers, lubes, various makeup, trimmers, razors and razor blades, knives, clamps (which aren't used as restraints), etc.? I think there's at least as much variety among if not more variety among S&M toys than among bondage toys. And we haven't even gotten into repurposing kitchen utensils, tools, office equipment, etc. for both!
My ex liked to watch me slide the blade of my tanto knife all over her crotch and upper thighs and then use the handle for insertion. She was an interesting one.
Bondage equipment used incorrectly can cause life-altering injuries. With a rope, you can damage someones arm downright to amputation or life threatening thrombosis. Ropes can end up hanging someone even if you don't intend to, because shit slips and shit happens.
I'm very much into this lifestyle, but you have to be bloody careful and aware of what you're doing and in constant and intimate communication with your partner, and in full readiness to cancel everything. All of these fantasies of "Oh I tie myself up so you can find me" are **fucking terrifiying**. Don't touch it until you're confident with your partner about many things.
Im not even gonna argue with you on that. If your ok without access to high velocity range weapons, a BDSM dungeon is basically am armory, with the average bonus of scaring off your attackers.
what do you mean “fine line” some of those people get off to being sliced up with a knife or whipped. that IS weapons and they like it
no shame tho, everyone’s got their fantasies
Many of that stuff legally qualifies as weapons or worse... Soo yeah. But i dont think anyone in their right mind would think its a good idea to Walk around with a whip outside. So its not that big of a deal as long as you keep it at home
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Fulfilling the old saying ‘Everything is a sex toy if you’re brave enough’
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"Every hill is a sledding hill if you're brave enough."
Or patient enough. Imagine sliding down what's almost a flat surface.
*sad dutch noises*
Get a running start. Not so bad
*whee intensifies*
Imagine trying to go sledding on a grassy hill, you’d need wheels if you don’t have snow or that brush like topping on dry ski slopes.
What if its almost flat, but in a vertical sense?
Everything is about sex. Except sex. Sex is about power.
Would you prefer a nature metaphor or a sexual metaphor?
a metaphor of a sexual nature
True, it's about drive it's about power because we stay hungry we devour...
This is ten percent luck, twenty percent skill, fifteen percent concentrated power of will..
Welcome to Crusader Kings 2.
If sex is about power, you're doing it wrong. It should be about cherishing the feeling with someone you can trust (even if not love).
"Finally I am recognized as a sex." -Everything
everything is porn
Especially for horny Italians
Anal pasta.
Oop! All Sex!
Also “Everything’s a melee weapon if you can swing it!”
Everything is a ranged weapon if you can throw it
Even small children, launched at great speed, can kill.
Every pizza is a personal pizza if you believe in yourself
If you can swing it hard enough?
*Looks at glass jar* Oh no...the memories...
Paige, no!
I visited a BDSM cellar one night. There sure we're a lot of blunt force objects. Including a rather aggressive looking dildo taped to the working end of a power tool.
ah yes, the drilldo or more likely... the DILDZALL
Dildozer
The lesser known brother of the Killdozer from its June 9th rampage. There was much butthurt amongst the politicians afterward.
Doretta could really use an armor upgrade.
Cock and bone!
[BEEF SUPREME](https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=AwIY4PRIp4s)
That's a dildon't.
dil-do it anyways, coward!
going by milwaukee marketing strategy it would probably be the fuckzall, with "the largest fucking surface."
I got the dilzall. Much better than the spinning of the drilldo
Ironically I've seen a sawzall used like this more than the real use for it.
Oh God I've never considered the dildzall before. What in the fuck. There's no way that wouldn't just fucking destroy your orifice.
it has a variable rate ( ͡° ͜ʖ ͡°)
Oh fuck you that lenny face made me laugh. I've seen what a sawzall can do, were I a lady there's no way I'd let a machine like that near my sensitive bits. But fair enough, it would seem careful handling is the key
That sounds painful.
Thats.... The point
https://i.imgur.com/0WXrBES.jpg
Im afraid of this link, lets see if i can sleep at night, ill keep you posted Edit: its safe people, its no "2-girls-one-cup/ 4- guys-2-hammers-and-1-pencil" type of shit
>2- guys-1-hammer #WHAT
I am pretty sure that it was 3 guys 1 hammer
It was one of the gore videos back in its Era, it invited 2 men smashing another man's skull in with a hammer and was all recorded. Pretty morbid but I guess that's why it fit in the list.
I have a question What the hell is 2 guys 1 hammer
It was one of the gore videos back in its Era, it invited 2 men smashing another man's skull in with a hammer and was all recorded. Pretty morbid but I guess that's why it fit in the list.
I can hear the "not mad, just disappointed" in that comment.
Is that cellar in a massive castle in the middle of San Francisco, by any chance?
Kink.com no longer operates out of the armory. They had to sell it.
Which is a damn shame. I really wanted to visit the iconic location. Should have converted some rooms into OnlyFans and other webcam studios or something.
Airbnb: rooms with a view
That... Could be interesting as well. Also, considering they had these Upper Floor events... Could make for interesting dinner / restaurants. Plus why not have a very specific casino and a strip club there too?
AirSnM.
Would that castle be known as The Armory? Asking for a friend...
Had to do with it's original purpose from the national guard. https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/San_Francisco_Armory. Quasi safe for work does mention kink com but it's wikipedia so safe just facts. Edit: I'm dumb. Reading is hard- thought you asked why would a castle be called an Amory. But I'll leave it
It was in the UK
The sex toy shop near me, which I certainly never have been in, had what looked like an 18" dildo with 5-6" of girth mounted to a chainsaw. Looked neat as hell but it was like $400 in 2009 money.
>18" dildo with 5-6" of girth what the fuck who tf can handle all of that, that's ridiculous to levels I never imagined existed
Anal
The human rectum is nightmarishly elastic.
Anal, or likely double ended. We had a similar one at university that me and my friends used to launch at each other down the corridor to see who gave up first. Shit hurt when it came flying at you at 100kmh.
>We had a similar one at university that me and my friends used to launch at each other down the corridor excuse me wtf
Basically we'd get quite drunk, then stand at either end our corridor (maybe 10-15m in length) and then take turns throwing the heavy ass double ended dildo as hard as possible at each other. If you dodged you lost. Whoever gave up first lost and usually had to do some stupid forfeit like try and down a bottle of vodka or something.
What exactly is a "BDSM cellar"? Is that like a business? Or at your friend's house?
The Sybian is far better than a drilldo if you're shopping around
Reminds me of a joke i heard bartending: the line between eroticism and kinky is that your lover uses a feather, your Dom uses the whole chicken
What do you do with the whole chicken?
Why choke it ofcourse! BDSM 101.
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Depending on who you are and who you worship, summoning the dark lord could be a "safe and fun" thing.
If you have to ask, you're streets behind
great, thanks for the Chevy Chase BDSM imagery
He has a cool swing
Have you not seen his special gym?
This is why you have the collar on
Enjoy a delightful meal.
Voodo ritual. https://youtu.be/qbwqlfKeZ7w
You're telling me that joke tended a bar???
Reminded me of the original joke…. What’s the difference between sexy and kinky? Sexy is using a feather, kinky is using the whole damn chicken. I remember hearing this when I was a kid. My parents were playing bridge and had friends over. I would sit and listen to their jokes and table chatter. That joke stuck with me because I was a teen before I got it. Lol
An object can be a toy, a tool, or a weapon depending on how you use it.
Everything will eventually become a decoration at cracker barrel
Ok. Do Jello. How do you weaponize or use Jello as a tool?
Convince them to jump into a pool that they think is filled with water, only to have them be trapped in and suffocate/drown in jello. You’re welcome
I dated a girl in high school who's mother was into equestrian stuff. While helping clean out the garage, I found all these bridals and crops and stuff. I was like "uhh, are you guys into that kinky stuff?" She got all flustered/mad at me saying that it was horse riding equipment. I countered that I was a poor city kid who was never around such things, so how was I supposed to know?
It’s wild that they never mentioned being horse people. Horse people are the Vegans of leisure sporting.
Know how to tell the horse lady at a party? Don’t need to, they’ll tell *you*.
I kinda get those people though, horses have big personalities and can be very lovable. I'm not a horse person, but like a dog, if I could have a horse, I would.
the only thing i know about horse girls os that she absolutely assuredly is into that stuff
Okay but equestrian stores are legit cheaper than sex/bdsm shops for basically the same shit
> I countered that I was a poor city kid who was never around such things, so how was I supposed to know? So you see, madam, it was totally expected that I would assume things of a potentially embarrassing sexual nature about you that you would not want to be spoken aloud. So really its your fault for my mind going there first m'lady.
Sex toys ARE hand weapons if you're that chick from The Boys (S3).
Or if you're the boss from Saint's Row 3 ^such ^a ^lovely ^whack-noise ^if ^you ^hit ^somebody ^with ^that ^big ^purple ^penetrator
San Andreas too. ^wait ^it’s ^not ^a ^purple ^pool ^noodle? Childhood ruined
Back in the early 80's redneck assholes used to drive into DC and gay-bash random people. At some point a reasonable percentage of people at risk of a beating started packing large dildos. There were several incidents of people getting hospitalized after being beaten bloody with dildos I'm happy to say!
Have you seen the recent episodes of The Boys or Everything Everywhere All at Once?
I'll never see dildos another way.
I'm seeing EEAaO this wendesday and I've been carefully avoiding spoilers for the movie and now the only thing I know is that it involves BDSM and or sex toys... thanks...
That movie has everything in it. They didn't spoil anything for you.
Everywhere, all at once?
Give or take a few.
Yeah its in the title, everything. The only way to not spoil that movie would be to men in black style wind wipe you to a carte blanche state, but then the movie wouldn't any sense and be very unenjoyable
If you're not into BDSM, it all looks very strange. It's basically taking all the unjust things that plague our world: big power imbalances, not being able to leave, and getting yelled at, and incorporating it into one's life not only on purpose, but as a part of one's most intimate relationship. And it's so mainstream that when a sex weapons book gets super-popular and they make an R-rated sex weapons movie trilogy out f it, the studio can just promote its sex weapons movie on Good Morning America and interview the actors who have weapon sex in the movies, while you're getting the kids get ready for school. It's an R and not an NC-17 because even though there's weapon sex, they don't show the penetration.
As someone who is active in the community, we all fucking hate that book and film. It popularized domestic abuse, not BDSM, and if you mention it, it will get people frothing at the mouth.
I've heard that, and considering how bad Hollywood is at depicting even basic PG-rated dating, I believe it. The cynical conspiracy-minded part of me wonders if that misconception is by design: "We'll give this generation ONE sex-positive cultural touchstone, but we'll make it apologia for male narcissism, normalize a lot of dangerous behavior in the bedroom, and let's have all the daytime talk show hostesses fawn over the abusive leading man!"
How did it popularize it? I haven't watched it
The books and movie were/are popular, but they don't portray what would be considered a safe, sane, and consensual relationship that incorporates BDSM play in a respectful way. Instead it portrays a relationship that would be considered abusive by that community even and hurts the reputation of real people who engage in such relationships in a safe and sane manner.
SSC (safe, sane, consensual) is very outdated. There is no kink that is safe and anyone who tells you otherwise is not safe to play with. Sane is very ambiguous and does not mean the same to everyone,so it's a useless word. RACK is preferred- Risk Aware Consensual Kink. All parties involved should be aware of the risks, negotiate boundaries and signals (safe words and also nonverbal cues), and not play above anyone's skill level that are involved.
It was popular but they excluded consent, safe words, after care, etc. it's kinda like a movie about racing where they don't wear seatbelts.
Or drift across a coin every lap in a formula car :D
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Great let’s equate adults consensually having fun together with murder. Wtf
Is it really consensual? That's like saying an addict is making an informed decision when they shoot up with heroin. Someone working through their trauma and insecurities via- Kidding. I'm just messing with ya.
Had me in the first half not gonna lie
Lol
It's disrespectful to joke about a community you know nothing about who has to fight stigma and do not have protections in place to keep them safe from the vanilla world. People in the community can lose their jobs, their housing, be discriminated against by their healthcare professionals, be ostracized by family, etc. If you are in the community, represent your community well to outsiders. Do not add to the stigma. And do not bring other marginalized people into it to make a joke. Addiction is never a joke.
Or maybe its acceptable for not every member of every community to only be concerned with being an ambassador for that community 24/7 and perfectly acceptable to joke about it normalizing conversations around it. Being into BDSM is not like being a gay guy in the 80s. No one is going to beat you to death over it. We have shitty mainstream representations of it through unhealthy crap like 50 shades or The Secretary. Every mom & pop sex columnist has an article about it. Hell _my church_ has pamphlets for the married adults talking about enhancing sex with kink play with helpful recommendations for how newbies should approach more nuanced sexual encounters. And addiction is a normal thing to joke about too. If you've ever been to group, you'd realize humor is a common coping mechanism when trying to deal with extreme loss and trauma and is a fine tool to use for getting the conversation going with, with the few people who don't know someone who has battled addiction. But I haven't found too many peeps that haven't. Your response to my comment was so over the top that I have to say, whatever you have stuck up your ass currently was way too big a toy for you.
It was just a joke. A lighthearted joke that didn't in any way make fun of the community. Really no reason whatsoever to get your panties in a twist about it. All you're actually accomplishing by being a miserable, humourless git like that is make yourself, and by extension your community, seem annoying and off-putting. You're definitely not "respecting it well to outsiders" with that attitude. Just sayin'.
Someone saw the Italian cop arrest photo this morning didn’t they
Link?
Link?
Link?
I've had the SF police tell me with a smirk "There's no horses around here..." carrying toys at night. Some impact toys like a sjambok or whatever might be illegal in some places. It's contextual, which is a grey area. Contunuous, enthusiastic consent in BDSM is mandatory for many reasons, one of which is that it is legally in a very dark grey area called assault. Support the National Coalition for Sexual Freedom who advocates against laws that persecute those who enjoy/practice BDSM.
There is no fine line, just about anything can be a hand weapon if you play it right.
Id argue kitchen utensils are better handweapons than 90% of bdsm equipment. Sure, you can bludgeon someone with a dildo, but its really not an effective way. The only two things i can think of that would be effective weapons are batons and knives.
You can whip the shit out of someone with a whip, believe it or not
From my experience whips arent that bad. I mean dont get me wrong, you can definitely seriously hurt someone, but its quite an impractical weapon
Then you really aren't very creative in how you'd use things as weapons
The majority of bdsm equipment is bondage related, so ropes, straps, buckles. So not really weapons.
whips?
That would be S&M. BDSM is an umbrella term that includes Bondage, Dominance/Submission, Sadism/Masochism. Bondage alone comprises the *vast* majority and is just ties.
Id completely disagree, if only because there's so many varied sub categories. My bdsm relationships usually had more of a masochistic and service based tendency, instead of restraint. Ib think i was tied up maybe 3 times in the past 4 years, but ive had many many more scenes with whips, paddles, and electricity.
Apparently I'm getting the full lore of how BDSM works tonight
Um yeah, so he's right. S&M is basically the last part of BDSM. So he's absolutely right and you're being pedantic.
I thought it was Bondage Domination Slave Master
M/S relationship dynamics are relatively uncommon in the circles I frequent. It's much more frequently pet play, some Big/Little stuff, bondage, and Sadism/masochism.
sm is the best, that whap of a sturdy paddle, the noise they make as there ass bounces. The oh stop they say, till you force them to say the safe word. Never mind the after care. Cuddles, snacks and shit.
If you're getting a safe word, you've gone too far Edit: comments below are fair. If the scene expects a safe word at some point, it's not too far, it's the point.
That really depends on your partner, the scene, and what they're comfortable with. My partner and I, more often than not, practice con non-con. I like to end scenes myself once I'm done because what I want/can handle varies a lot, so they pretty much almost end when I use the safe word. Through open and clear communication, we've found a way to do this where we're both comfortable. Admittedly, we're in the minority when it comes to BDSM and are into some hardcore stuff, but it does happen.
Not if thats the agreement. Paddles are fun, but the end user can only take so mutch. Its even more fun with brats, cuz they wanna be stubborn. You keep asking em whan the safe word is, but they wanna keep mum, even though you low key know there at there limits.
>M/S relationship dynamics are relatively uncommon in the circles I frequent. It's much more frequently pet play, some Big/Little stuff, bondage, and Sadism/masochism. So is it uncommon or more frequent?
What? It's uncommon. Pet play, big little, bondage and sadism are more frequent they said
There are so many definitions of what Bdsm stands for floating around the community. It's honestly not worth worrying about the precise acryonym
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Unless they're gagged.
I thought it was Burgers, Dancing and Salsa Music. I have a few party invitations to urgently unsend.
*Bondage/Discipline
You got the first one wrong. Bondage and discipline, Dominance and submission, sadism and masochism.
Yet again, a very small part of the bdsm range.
That's just the B, not the S&M. Are you forgetting about whips, chains, switches, canes, riding crops, paddles, various dildos, vibrators, buttplugs, feathers, lubes, various makeup, trimmers, razors and razor blades, knives, clamps (which aren't used as restraints), etc.? I think there's at least as much variety among if not more variety among S&M toys than among bondage toys. And we haven't even gotten into repurposing kitchen utensils, tools, office equipment, etc. for both!
Tell me u a freak without tellin me u a freak.
I fully admit to being a freak if "freak" means that I enjoy kinks and BDSM play and sex.
Fair enough.
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By your user name, I'm guessing you're a green freak (rather than a clean freak).
.. It does and you know it, no need to put it in quotes. No one shaming you on here, but that sentence reads as weak and needlessly defensive.
Putting words used as words in quotation marks is common practice in my discipline.
My ex liked to watch me slide the blade of my tanto knife all over her crotch and upper thighs and then use the handle for insertion. She was an interesting one.
Pervertables are so much fun
Bondage equipment used incorrectly can cause life-altering injuries. With a rope, you can damage someones arm downright to amputation or life threatening thrombosis. Ropes can end up hanging someone even if you don't intend to, because shit slips and shit happens. I'm very much into this lifestyle, but you have to be bloody careful and aware of what you're doing and in constant and intimate communication with your partner, and in full readiness to cancel everything. All of these fantasies of "Oh I tie myself up so you can find me" are **fucking terrifiying**. Don't touch it until you're confident with your partner about many things.
More a mix between sex toys and shit you get at a hardware store😅
Electric baton
those things seem wicked but always wanted to try it lol
Whips, flogs, gags, cuffs, etc etc.
You say majority, I think you just mean most visible.
"You see officer, she said her kink was being in pain." "Sir, you cut her fucking foot off."
Everything is a weapon... And a sex toy.... And both..,..and in very rare occasions, neither of them
Anything is a weapon if you're comitted to harming your opponent.
I've always wanted to have a giant dildo like you see in the Saints Row games to.... Hit people, yeah
Give a dildo enough girth and it qualifies as a blunt force weapon either way.
In every pet store there’s an isle that looks like it cold be a sex shop. (Chew toys and collars)
Im not even gonna argue with you on that. If your ok without access to high velocity range weapons, a BDSM dungeon is basically am armory, with the average bonus of scaring off your attackers.
Lol at the last part. When you break into a place and the edge of a large wooden paddle to the jaw is your best (and most normal) case scenario.
Would have been a good bit if Sean’s parents had bust out the S&M gear as their weapons of choice in Sean Of The Dead
After seeing one of the recent episodes of The Boys most dildos can be quite the weapon.
what do you mean “fine line” some of those people get off to being sliced up with a knife or whipped. that IS weapons and they like it no shame tho, everyone’s got their fantasies
Nothing quite like leaving a session bloody , bruised and loved. To give yourself to someone completely and empty all thoughts is so liberating.
The only difference between a weapon and a bdsm sex toy is a safe word
Bacj in college, TSA confiscated a pair of fuzzy handcuffs I forgot I had in my backpack. The agent and I...we had a conversation with our eyes.
So *should* you buy a shitton of BDSM equipment and use them as weapons in a zombie apocalypse?
This shower thought is brought to you by someone who's never done BDSM.
And weapons, I have a cordless hitachi, That you could beat someone to death with. Easily. But don’t do that.
I read BDSM as BDSP and was wondering what Pokemon Brilliant Diamond and Shiny Pearl had to do with sex toys and hand weapons
You ever been smacked in the face with a dildo at full force? #sextoysareweapons
TIL a basic bitch vibrator is "BDSM equipment" you absolute room temperature vanilla milkshake if a human being.
Many of that stuff legally qualifies as weapons or worse... Soo yeah. But i dont think anyone in their right mind would think its a good idea to Walk around with a whip outside. So its not that big of a deal as long as you keep it at home
Hello and welcome to my workshop, today I will be forging a Damascus buttplug