I have to say as a chronic migraine sufferer I was pretty frustrated by her level of functionality during her “migraine.” Even the fact that she yelled at the top of her lungs during her migraine,..that would just never happen when I’m having a migraine no matter how frustrated I am.
Edit: Typo
Migraine, no. Tantrum, yes.
If it was a migraine indeed then she needs to learn how to respectfully request space and just lay down. No need to scorch the earth.
I have had severe chronic migraines since my late teens, over 20 years, and am able to function when they aren’t at their absolute worst. I don’t have the option of not meeting certain obligations to survive. I will admit I have yelled when I’ve had a migraine many times, mostly due to snapping at outside stimuli that won’t stop. I don’t think for one second she had a migraine, but people can appear to have normal functioning during a migraine, and lashing out doesn’t negate having a legitimate migraine.
Same. As long as I'm not puking every time I move, I just go through life with my migraines. My worst migraine lasted a full week & I worked 40 hours that week & then woke up Sunday puking every time I moved. But up until that point, I kept going to work because at least I still had a home where I could sit in the dark and sleep the rest of the day & night. Was going to work with a migraine pleasant? No, but it was more pleasant than living in my car with my dog, which is what would have happened if I didn't keep going to work, migraine or no. If Shauna's getting migraines as often as she says she does, she may feel that she has no choice but to go on with life despite the migraines, because otherwise she'd never get to do anything.
She played it off as a migraine since she didn’t want people to know she still has childish tantrum outbursts like that when not getting her way. If she wants to live on her own, she needs to mature and find ways to calm herself down since there will be a LOT of times where she won’t get her way
when my migraines hit. im am pretty much out and non-functional. i take alot of CBD capsules, extra gabapentins, cyclobenzaprine, and a few Seroquel pills. and i wait for it to knock me out for the next 8 to 10 hours.
Grocery shopping independently was definitely a learning curve when I first left for university at 18. But the biggest hurdle was figuring out the right amount to buy and how to get it home without a car or direct transit. Gotta say a few times I almost abandoned some on the sidewalk just cuz I misjudged the weight and distance lol. Also I'm 5'2" so about 7 of every 10 trips I tend to need something on a high shelf - I am a professional 'tall people' detector and can always find someone almost immediately who will reach when politely asked.
i'm 44 and sometimes still buy so much i can hardly carry it lol. but there are also things that can help with this, like rolling carts, or even a backpack. she's not the first little person to go grocery shopping in nyc!
Haha yep I went through at least 3-4 of those carts, I was shocked how seldom they were used in that city compared to my current city, I often got stopped in the parking lot and asked where I got it! Ive had numerous arrangements over the years, lately I team up with a close friend and neighbour who also lives alone and single and we plan cook and eat dinner together 3 times/week, so once we have a plan and a list we each take a backpack to the closest large store. So much better with help lol. Our relationship is strictly platonic for the record, he's twice my age with a daughter 2 years older than me, it's more like a a chosen uncle relationship lol.
I think a lot of people here in NYC get groceries delivered at this point, especially after the pandemic. we call those carts 'granny carts' because mostly old people use them. i was in a few cities in spain a few years back and EVERYONE had them, they even had cart parking in the front of the store. the best shopping years i had where when my son was still in a stroller and i could put everything in the bottom basket.
Yep I always called mine a granny cart, that was another challenge, what do you do with it in the store?? I had 2 strategies: fold it closed and stick it in the bottom of the in-store cart OR say screw it and just shop with the granny cart, which actually makes it easier for stacking when you get to checkout so that was usually my choice.
The granny cart!!! I have still not succumbed to the granny cart 🤣🤣 as you know from my other comment I go to the story every other day here and yet I still order groceries some weeks too (Amazon fresh is cheaper than the sometimes)
This comment was so relatable. Finessing groceries here is def not easy, I make a lot of trips but I also have huge tote bags for doing hauls. I don’t doubt her and her family may not have known that piece of it yet. Big reusable tote bags are our friends here in NYC. I have one in every purse I swear.
On the other hand…..I do think her mom was pushing her for a life lesson type deal and she wasn’t wrong to be honest. There was a huge gap in timing though from when they arrived and went to the store. It was fully dark outside when they went and they weren’t into daylight savings season yet. So I think she did take a huge break for the migraine.
Btw, I’m 5’0 and I know that struggle of not reaching things. I can usually find someone but I’ve also been known to climb a shelf or two bc no one was around or willing to help. It happens. LOL.
Haha ya I climb sometimes but the majority of the time, especially where I live now and the store I shop at, there's never nobody around to help. I never thought about what a challenge it would be, I grew up in the country outside a town with 1 small grocery store, so always car dependent and typically we would make the hour drive to the nearest "city" with actual established large stores and stocked up our huge pantry and chest freezer in the basement.
Yes I def get this! I came from a small rural town and it is for sure an adjustment. I’m at the grocery store every other day here, they probably think I’m nuts but it just makes the most sense sometimes. I’m also known to forget the things I came for and get other stuff 😬
Ugh there’s usually folks around here but, I’ve never forgotten the time I was struggling for a top shelf and someone saw and didn’t help. Le sign. I was taking other items to try and knock it down at one point. But otherwise I usually find people generally helpful.
Same, I’m picking something up almost daily at the store. One of the nice things about nyc is that you pass a grocery store on your way to anywhere, don’t have to make a special trip to the store 😅 I also love my baggu reusable bags, they hold sooooo much! One in every purse for sure.
Hive has a cotton tote bag and that is my fav one. 11/10 recommend 🤣 it’s so big, sits great on the shoulder and can fold up good. But don’t throw it in the dryer, it shrinks. Learned the hard way and had to order a new one LOL
First nobody is stopping her in the grocery store to ask if she is a lost child. 2nd Im 4 ft 11 and I just climb the shelves we adapt and dont expect the world to cater to us.
I’m sorry but was anyone else living on their own pretty much right out of high school? Granted, yes, my parents helped me out A LOT and I am very lucky in a lot of ways. However. I can’t believe these people are acting like it’s bonkers that a 23 year old would move out and start school at the same time. Am I on crazy pills? There are little people her age who have a house, kids and full time job (you know, like a functional adult??) I just can’t get on board with the babying
On my 18th birthday, my dad rented an apartment for me. He paid first/last month's rent & paid my college tuition & for my books out of a small inheritance from my grandparents. After that, it was all on me, so I had to go to school full time & worked full time. If these parents had done their jobs right, Shauna would have either been working or going to school for those 4 years between high school & the time the show started, but they babied her & looks like they're planning on continuing that trend. Hopefully they & she will gain a little maturity while they're still alive, so she won't just be thrust out into the cold world expected to fend for herself when they die.
I am in no way a migraine sufferer. Ive had a bad headache before, but still not by definition a migraine. Nonetheless, am I delusional in thinking you could calmly say hey guys its happening again with my head. Im going to go lay down. I need some space?
Not even using all of those words because I know it can be debilitating, but for people that have lived with her all of her life, I don’t get how they aren’t conditioned to all of this. It seemed crazy how she was behaving and they looked so confused which is what made me think it was a tantrum instead.
My sister used to get migraines when we were younger and she would just simply say I have a migraine and Im gonna go. And we all immediately knew what that meant. It never needed to be a production over it!
Sometimes it’s very hard to not snap at people when stimuli is overwhelming during a migraine. It is not okay, but it’s certainly possible especially with someone so immature and unable to regulated their emotions on a good day. I have snapped at my partner over the years when he won’t stop tapping something, or can’t use a quieter voice to interact with me, or turns the tv volume up high in the next room…I’m not proud of it, but people don’t always think rationally when in pain.
I don’t think she had one, and I think she’s a little brat, but just clarifying it’s not a sign that someone is faking a migraine because of bad behavior.
Makes total sense, thanks for clarifying. I just figured she was using it as an excuse to exempt herself from unpacking or whatnot since she seems to complain whether in pain or chipper.
As I do agree the parents enable her, I think, especially in New York, a trial run of a 18+ year old moving out to see what it is like to live on their own, is a good way to see if someone can be stable enough to make it on their own. It may not work for everyone but I think it is a cool way to see if someone can be financially stable and emotionally stable to live on their own.
She’s a beautiful girl but she does act like a 12 year old. She complains too much. Nothing different than a sample of females from across the globe. We are all different. For example if we have dwarfism that doesn’t make us different than taller adults. We humans are not so easy to figure out.
Part of me was wondering why her mom was pushing her to grocery shop with a headache. But then I was wondering if that was supposed to be some independent living life lesson. Like, in the real world you still have to get up and do things even if you aren't feeling well. A migraine can't stop you from going to work. But, they should have just ordered Uber Eats or something and she should have just laid down.
She has it pretty hard, though. Being different is very difficult. But, no one understands unless they or someone they love are challenged in some way. As I always say, don't ask if, ask when we all experience some kind of challenge. She's doing very well.
I have to say as a chronic migraine sufferer I was pretty frustrated by her level of functionality during her “migraine.” Even the fact that she yelled at the top of her lungs during her migraine,..that would just never happen when I’m having a migraine no matter how frustrated I am. Edit: Typo
It was not a migraine.
Migraine, no. Tantrum, yes. If it was a migraine indeed then she needs to learn how to respectfully request space and just lay down. No need to scorch the earth.
I have had severe chronic migraines since my late teens, over 20 years, and am able to function when they aren’t at their absolute worst. I don’t have the option of not meeting certain obligations to survive. I will admit I have yelled when I’ve had a migraine many times, mostly due to snapping at outside stimuli that won’t stop. I don’t think for one second she had a migraine, but people can appear to have normal functioning during a migraine, and lashing out doesn’t negate having a legitimate migraine.
Same. As long as I'm not puking every time I move, I just go through life with my migraines. My worst migraine lasted a full week & I worked 40 hours that week & then woke up Sunday puking every time I moved. But up until that point, I kept going to work because at least I still had a home where I could sit in the dark and sleep the rest of the day & night. Was going to work with a migraine pleasant? No, but it was more pleasant than living in my car with my dog, which is what would have happened if I didn't keep going to work, migraine or no. If Shauna's getting migraines as often as she says she does, she may feel that she has no choice but to go on with life despite the migraines, because otherwise she'd never get to do anything.
She played it off as a migraine since she didn’t want people to know she still has childish tantrum outbursts like that when not getting her way. If she wants to live on her own, she needs to mature and find ways to calm herself down since there will be a LOT of times where she won’t get her way
when my migraines hit. im am pretty much out and non-functional. i take alot of CBD capsules, extra gabapentins, cyclobenzaprine, and a few Seroquel pills. and i wait for it to knock me out for the next 8 to 10 hours.
I loved the "I hate attention"....um..you are on TV...
As I get where you’re coming from, being on camera might be different than being surrounded by people
This is very true
Grocery shopping independently was definitely a learning curve when I first left for university at 18. But the biggest hurdle was figuring out the right amount to buy and how to get it home without a car or direct transit. Gotta say a few times I almost abandoned some on the sidewalk just cuz I misjudged the weight and distance lol. Also I'm 5'2" so about 7 of every 10 trips I tend to need something on a high shelf - I am a professional 'tall people' detector and can always find someone almost immediately who will reach when politely asked.
i'm 44 and sometimes still buy so much i can hardly carry it lol. but there are also things that can help with this, like rolling carts, or even a backpack. she's not the first little person to go grocery shopping in nyc!
Haha yep I went through at least 3-4 of those carts, I was shocked how seldom they were used in that city compared to my current city, I often got stopped in the parking lot and asked where I got it! Ive had numerous arrangements over the years, lately I team up with a close friend and neighbour who also lives alone and single and we plan cook and eat dinner together 3 times/week, so once we have a plan and a list we each take a backpack to the closest large store. So much better with help lol. Our relationship is strictly platonic for the record, he's twice my age with a daughter 2 years older than me, it's more like a a chosen uncle relationship lol.
I think a lot of people here in NYC get groceries delivered at this point, especially after the pandemic. we call those carts 'granny carts' because mostly old people use them. i was in a few cities in spain a few years back and EVERYONE had them, they even had cart parking in the front of the store. the best shopping years i had where when my son was still in a stroller and i could put everything in the bottom basket.
Yep I always called mine a granny cart, that was another challenge, what do you do with it in the store?? I had 2 strategies: fold it closed and stick it in the bottom of the in-store cart OR say screw it and just shop with the granny cart, which actually makes it easier for stacking when you get to checkout so that was usually my choice.
The granny cart!!! I have still not succumbed to the granny cart 🤣🤣 as you know from my other comment I go to the story every other day here and yet I still order groceries some weeks too (Amazon fresh is cheaper than the sometimes)
This comment was so relatable. Finessing groceries here is def not easy, I make a lot of trips but I also have huge tote bags for doing hauls. I don’t doubt her and her family may not have known that piece of it yet. Big reusable tote bags are our friends here in NYC. I have one in every purse I swear. On the other hand…..I do think her mom was pushing her for a life lesson type deal and she wasn’t wrong to be honest. There was a huge gap in timing though from when they arrived and went to the store. It was fully dark outside when they went and they weren’t into daylight savings season yet. So I think she did take a huge break for the migraine. Btw, I’m 5’0 and I know that struggle of not reaching things. I can usually find someone but I’ve also been known to climb a shelf or two bc no one was around or willing to help. It happens. LOL.
Haha ya I climb sometimes but the majority of the time, especially where I live now and the store I shop at, there's never nobody around to help. I never thought about what a challenge it would be, I grew up in the country outside a town with 1 small grocery store, so always car dependent and typically we would make the hour drive to the nearest "city" with actual established large stores and stocked up our huge pantry and chest freezer in the basement.
Yes I def get this! I came from a small rural town and it is for sure an adjustment. I’m at the grocery store every other day here, they probably think I’m nuts but it just makes the most sense sometimes. I’m also known to forget the things I came for and get other stuff 😬 Ugh there’s usually folks around here but, I’ve never forgotten the time I was struggling for a top shelf and someone saw and didn’t help. Le sign. I was taking other items to try and knock it down at one point. But otherwise I usually find people generally helpful.
Same, I’m picking something up almost daily at the store. One of the nice things about nyc is that you pass a grocery store on your way to anywhere, don’t have to make a special trip to the store 😅 I also love my baggu reusable bags, they hold sooooo much! One in every purse for sure.
Hive has a cotton tote bag and that is my fav one. 11/10 recommend 🤣 it’s so big, sits great on the shoulder and can fold up good. But don’t throw it in the dryer, it shrinks. Learned the hard way and had to order a new one LOL
First nobody is stopping her in the grocery store to ask if she is a lost child. 2nd Im 4 ft 11 and I just climb the shelves we adapt and dont expect the world to cater to us.
I’m sorry but was anyone else living on their own pretty much right out of high school? Granted, yes, my parents helped me out A LOT and I am very lucky in a lot of ways. However. I can’t believe these people are acting like it’s bonkers that a 23 year old would move out and start school at the same time. Am I on crazy pills? There are little people her age who have a house, kids and full time job (you know, like a functional adult??) I just can’t get on board with the babying
On my 18th birthday, my dad rented an apartment for me. He paid first/last month's rent & paid my college tuition & for my books out of a small inheritance from my grandparents. After that, it was all on me, so I had to go to school full time & worked full time. If these parents had done their jobs right, Shauna would have either been working or going to school for those 4 years between high school & the time the show started, but they babied her & looks like they're planning on continuing that trend. Hopefully they & she will gain a little maturity while they're still alive, so she won't just be thrust out into the cold world expected to fend for herself when they die.
I am in no way a migraine sufferer. Ive had a bad headache before, but still not by definition a migraine. Nonetheless, am I delusional in thinking you could calmly say hey guys its happening again with my head. Im going to go lay down. I need some space? Not even using all of those words because I know it can be debilitating, but for people that have lived with her all of her life, I don’t get how they aren’t conditioned to all of this. It seemed crazy how she was behaving and they looked so confused which is what made me think it was a tantrum instead. My sister used to get migraines when we were younger and she would just simply say I have a migraine and Im gonna go. And we all immediately knew what that meant. It never needed to be a production over it!
Sometimes it’s very hard to not snap at people when stimuli is overwhelming during a migraine. It is not okay, but it’s certainly possible especially with someone so immature and unable to regulated their emotions on a good day. I have snapped at my partner over the years when he won’t stop tapping something, or can’t use a quieter voice to interact with me, or turns the tv volume up high in the next room…I’m not proud of it, but people don’t always think rationally when in pain. I don’t think she had one, and I think she’s a little brat, but just clarifying it’s not a sign that someone is faking a migraine because of bad behavior.
Makes total sense, thanks for clarifying. I just figured she was using it as an excuse to exempt herself from unpacking or whatnot since she seems to complain whether in pain or chipper.
Oh she totally was! 😂
As I do agree the parents enable her, I think, especially in New York, a trial run of a 18+ year old moving out to see what it is like to live on their own, is a good way to see if someone can be stable enough to make it on their own. It may not work for everyone but I think it is a cool way to see if someone can be financially stable and emotionally stable to live on their own.
She’s a beautiful girl but she does act like a 12 year old. She complains too much. Nothing different than a sample of females from across the globe. We are all different. For example if we have dwarfism that doesn’t make us different than taller adults. We humans are not so easy to figure out.
Part of me was wondering why her mom was pushing her to grocery shop with a headache. But then I was wondering if that was supposed to be some independent living life lesson. Like, in the real world you still have to get up and do things even if you aren't feeling well. A migraine can't stop you from going to work. But, they should have just ordered Uber Eats or something and she should have just laid down.
She has it pretty hard, though. Being different is very difficult. But, no one understands unless they or someone they love are challenged in some way. As I always say, don't ask if, ask when we all experience some kind of challenge. She's doing very well.