By - tallboiiy
Teens are super impulsive and lack emotional control. Unless you see them everyday I wouldn't give teenagers much attention. It hurts but be glad you were able to walk away.
To start with, don't get started with legal stuff because too many people are convinced things are true which are not. Learn more about the situation in your country.
If you want to stay silent, stay silent. If you want to talk, talk before they get the upper hand. If you want to speak up, do it without yelling and escalating the situation. If you escalate the situation be prepared to protect yourself.
If you cannot protect yourself, don't escalate the situation.
The best course of action is to enroll in self-defense training. Instead of being angry, calm down and think what to do next. You got my advice. Later.
You'll both want to read some books on verbal de-escalation. Something like "Verbal Judo".
As is pretty evident, "What is your problem?!" Is usually worse than saying nothing. Hope you and your partner stay safe out there.
Honestly, it's a tough one. I suppose just the same way you'd deal with an adult doing that. Don't engage, start filming, respond with an appropriate amount of physical force if they put hands on you, don't let them be alone with you.
The one advantage is their brains are still stupid, so figuring out what they want is usually easy. Most of the time it's to get a rise out of you, so not giving them that is a good way to fight back.
It's unlikely I'd be in that situation. A lot of regular people are afraid to stand too close to me and gang members and meth addicts cross the street to avoid me. See: get a lot of martial training and application experience.
If I were in that situation in the US, I'd smack the shit out of the kids while video documenting everything. But I'm an American, so I'm legally allowed to defend myself and others from violence, even from teens. That's why they attacked. They knew there would be no consequences. We have teens do stupid shit like that here too. Some of them are in incredibly violent military-trained gang wars. Of course I wouldn't maim them or hit their idiot heads. If I didn't want to engage, I'd ignore them, maybe make a few smart ass comments back, and then use escape and evasion tactics to lose them when I got to my stop. But if you're with someone incapable of sprinting away, see: beat the shit out of them.
Get some SD training. You'll be around LEOs and military and private security who hafta navigate this shit for work and they can arm you with the training, knowledge, and experience to protect yourselves within the legal parameter of your environment. And when I say get training, I mean her and you together. It only works if the whole family is on the same page. Children too if/when you have 'em too.
This is a major issue in NY where I live they pretty much have no legal consequences for anything they do and the only thing that’s ever done to them is their parents are notified (who don’t care). My advice ignore them, if you see a group of them in a bus or train go to the front of the bus or to another train car. If you got to fight to defend yourself do so again they bust your head open and cause brain damage and there will be basically no legal recourse for them so as a last resort DO what you have to do to defend yourself.
Just laugh and walk away, don't engage them.
Avoid avoid avoid. Teenagers are redlining on testosterone and ego at all times. Do not make eye contact, especially at night and on public transit.
You have nothing to prove.
>What would be the best course of action to deal with something like this without getting yourself into legal trouble?
In the US, the basic rule is to "survive" the encounter today. Tomorrow, if necessary, hire a good lawyer. If you don't survivie the initial assault, tomorrow may be a moot point - you're dead.
You have no right to physically defend yourself in a case of name calling. However, the minute someone "goes hands on", you do. You also do not have to "defend to degree", which is a common standard in other countries. You can fight until you are no longer in fear of your life, but the fight must be continuous. If there is video, most juries will side with you.
When I worked in a nightclub, our security teams often had to deal with aggressive and often drunken customers. First move: put them in front of a camera. Second move. Show yourself in a non-threatening stance. Third move. Engage witnesses who can verify that you are verbally trying to de-escalate the situation. Fourth move: Move them away from a camera spot. Fifth move: Take them down to the ground as fast as possible.