Reincarnation seems kinda unfair
By - Neptun977
There’s a lot of different theories out there. Some believe that we choose the life experiences that we will have before we reincarnate again. In one of Brian Weiss’ books he said something about highly elevated souls choosing to reincarnate as children or people with disabilities in order to help others in their soul group (maybe parents or caretakers) learn certain lessons meant for them.
But again, that’s just one theory. And I think the average life span is probably too short to deal with all the karma from that one life never mind many. And if we remembered all our lives, or even just a couple.. how could we live presently, ever? We’d probably feel like we’re in a constant identity crisis.
Ever since my mother introduced me to past lives regression I'm having a mental breakdown.
I'm being angry at the universe cause I didn't choose to exist and why I'm suffering so much. It's like saying that I deserve it and I feel guilty and sad for something I didn't know.
this Friday we're having an AMA with u/fionaharris at r/pastlives. I think she would be a good person for you to speak with about your situation. she is a trained regression therapist and a healer who uses a variety of modalities. her interactions with the community have been very positive and insightful.
I don't know what your mom told you about past life regression, but it sounds like it did more harm than good. unfortunately this is a subject that is just now coming into mass awareness and there is still a lot that people are unsure about or they completely misunderstand. the issues and pain and problems that you are experiencing in this life needs to be understood in the context of this life. the worst thing someone can do in that situation is tell you that you somehow asked for it or deserve it because of what you did in a past life. there is good reason why most people are unable to access memories from past lives, and that reason is we have trouble enough as it is!
This was so much information that I couldn't handle and process. I'm feeling a lot confused about it. I should take a break and dive in when I'm ready
Don't feel guilty! Feel happy that the universe is putting you in a situation that will allow you to learn and evolve and make your soul more perfect in the future. I know things can be hard, believe me...but I also think there's no escape really so idk
I find it hard to be happy cause I always try to analyze and understand such things.
But thank you
I’m really sorry that you’re struggling with it. I think it’s a pretty normal reaction to have. But just remember.. at the end of the day it’s a theory. You don’t have to believe in it. And you can certainly let it go for a while and decide that it’s not something you choose to believe. Some may disagree with me but that’s kind of how I feel. I view it similar to religion or God. You don’t have to fully believe in it or believe every persons interpretation of God or reincarnation. You can disagree with some aspects and appreciate others.
Reincarnation is really interesting to me and it has given me comfort in the idea that there is something rather than nothing when we die. But - like you , there are parts that I feel conflicted with. I’ve been through some really awful things and I have a child who suffered a birth injury. I don’t feel for a second she “deserved” that on ANY level. There’s no point holding onto a belief that causes you hurt in your heart. Just like god, religion , etc you can choose to agree with some parts and disagree with others. Hope this helps you a bit🖤
I'm really sorry sending you lots of love and support.
The scary thing is that my mom told me her past lives ; In one she died giving birth in the arctic, in the other she died as an infant in the middle ages.
I'm getting scared because I suffer so much and I'm struggling living in a third world country which I can't have the means to escape nor live a fullfiling life.
So I shut down my emotions and try to be aware as much as possible to learn my "lesson". In case I was a bad person in a previous life.
I don't know if this helps at all but I was always told that we're meant to experience everything! We're trying to experience all parts of life. We take turns being in difficult positions because it teaches us to be compassionate when we have the means to help others? We're all taking turns doing it all? I understand how difficult this is to wrap your brain around, I have a sister that's disabled and I struggle with the concept of this but I do honestly feel like she chose to come here and make my family better, more accepting people. I love her soooo much and she has truly made me a better person, I try to be thankful to her for gifting me with the level of compassion I now have for others. I don't think of everything as "karmic" or "punishment" I think of it as taking a turn with a particular struggle? I don't believe anyone "deserves" any kind of suffering, I do think lessons carry over in karmic ways but not in the really negative way, more like in a way that forces us to break cycles and patterns within ourselves? Sometimes that does include real pain, poverty and suffering because breaking patterns is a hard thing to do, but I don't think any of us are "deserving" of suffering...and I actually think we're all here to learn to ease the suffering of others and that process isn't pretty or fun.
I hope that wasn't too "oh, it's all fine" because I'm not a fan of spirituality being used to belittle the struggles of others. I've been chronically ill most of my life, so I've been on the receiving end of blaming myself or being gaslit about my struggles and that's not anything I would like to perpetuate. I think that it can be really toxic, so I'm trying to word things in a way that make sense but also give you a little peace.
I'm really sorry and I hope your sister is loved and doing great. I have empathy for others and it pains me sometimes that people are so cruel and careless about others.
Hope you're doing great also, I just got introduced to this and processing it is kinda hard
> So I shut down my emotions and try to be aware as much as possible to learn my "lesson". In case I was a bad person in a previous life.
You're getting guilt tripped. Don't let yourself be guilt tripped.
Instead, prepare your resistance to whatever locked you up. Their reasons are not reasons, they are excuses, rationalizations, and ultimately irrelevant.
Hey, don't worry. I also didn't want to go through the suffering that I'm going through right now, but we shouldn't blame everything on the universe. I'd like to think that we keep reincarnating because God wants us to do something right in our lives. I lived in the Soviet Union in my previous life, and I supported them. Maybe I wasn't supposed to go through that, maybe that's why I'm here right now.
As for you not knowing your previous life, you'll be able to remember it, it just takes time. So try not to think about it too much. Hopefully this helps you in some way ❤️
Your previous life is interesting and kinda scary. Honestly if the theory of reincarnation is true. I wish it to stop cause I don't want to experience anything
I wouldn't say it was interesting, but it was at least *way* worse than my life right now, so I guess I should be glad. Hopefully you don't experience anything scary or weird(or anything at all, if you're lucky)
I don't believe in reincarnation, but the memory thing I agree with and have had previous epiphanies about
I used to think about how weird it was that we can't remember things that happen to us sometimes or fully, but then I thought about how much weirder it would be if we always had our memories in our minds, and realized that it would be impossible to focus or even stay sane, so our minds can only focus on the past to a limited capacity
If we had past lives I don't think the fact that we can't remember them would disprove them, because our memory already works like that, and also memory is state-based
Yeah thats cool. The ones that suffer can be the ones that make changes in the healthcare system, government etc.
But why do we need to suffer ? That's so f'ed up
Yeah well someones gotta cop it. The world isnt paradise... yet. No one goes through life ladida'ing. Ive copped so much shit, now I have severe depression, CPTSD, anxiety yadda yadda. The worlds a harsh place.
But... Imma make big big changes to the system through complaints and testimonies.
Yeah let's just accept that we're screwed no matter what
There are so many ways to make life easier though. Are you anxious all the time and do you think youre depressed?
I'm not always anxious but I don't feel joy anymore. I just get stuff done and accept whatever is thrown at me. The reason for my post is trying to find answers and maybe escape from this hellish simulation.
Yeah I get you. Its a hell of a simulation thats for sure. But we HAVE to find a way to work through this. We are in this together. I dont feel as much joy as I used to, so I understand you. Theres a good quote - 'dont let the bastards bring you down'. Fuck em. I get lost in music, cooking, dancing, reaearch (magic, occult stuff). You need a distraction. Even meditation.
Tried Meditation and didn't work, tried getting a gf and didn't like it cause women seem too shallow to me. I guess I'm only focusing on career/studies till I die.
Everything happens for a reason, keep that in mind. Do you enjoy what youre studying? Do you enjot your career?
This is religious take on reincarnation. Actual studies on the topic, in most cases, show no trace of karma whatsoever, nor they support (but also don’t disprove) choosing lives theory. Choosing parents - maybe. But not the whole path.
I didn't choose my parents but I wanna know why I got an abusive father and a careless mother?
Honestly? IMO - random chance and bad luck. While I believe in reincarnation, I think the whole “learn a lesson/purpose” is toxic. It’s natural process,just occurring. This time you have drawn “meh” hand of cards. Maybe next time will be better. So far enjoy the game as much as you can, almost every hand can be played reasonably well!
Okay I'm gonna jump off a building hoping I can draw a better hand in the next life.
I kinda wish I could drop out of this school lol
Me too. ...
Maybe we just missed the bus and ended up at the wrong school??? I'm trying to learn more about alternate dimensions/ planes of existence.... Apparently we can somehow get lost
What happens after death, no one really knows, everyone has a theory based on their religion.
Growing up in a Muslim community, I was told not to question anything and leave things in hands of the creator.
first of all, karma is memory, it is not reward or punishment. so for example, a traumatic injury to the body can be carried over to the next body that a person inhabits. usually it's a shadow of the original injury or problem, a scar or a mark. I have a birthmark at the bottom of my rib cage and I'm pretty sure that's where the shotgun pellets entered my body during a past life, and it's how I died. I have the birthmark but not the shotgun pellets, see the difference?
I know someone who was hung in a past life and she has all kinds of issues with her throat. my sense of it is at least some of those issues, especially the ones that don't seem to have a physical source, are the residual memory of her dyong by hanging.
now you do have cases where people have done things in a past life that they decide to balance by going to the opposite end. for example, someone who is abused becomes an abuser. it's not so hard to understand when you see it happen in one lifetime, where a person flips roles or mentality. none of it is punishment. that's the mistake to think that having a crippling disease is a punishment, or even that it's related to a past life. there are cases where it can be traced to a past life, but many others that can't be. see what I mean?
I don't really subscribe to the whole karma thing of gaining and losing points. Imo, we are here to learn via experiences. The experiences you have in life teach you the things you need to know.
Looking back at "bad" things that have happened to me, I realize now that they are good. I'm better today because of them. I don't think anything "bad" happens. Everything that happens pushes you forward to be better because of it. Therefore, everything is good.
That said, good =/= feels good. Good does not mean it's something you want. Good does not mean it makes you happy. If the goal of life and this experience is growth, good would mean anything that causes you to grow, whether you like it or not.
In fact, I'd argue, if you're experiencing hard things, it doesn't mean you were a bad person last life, I'd argue it means you're a strong person in this life. You don't see top athletes training in ways that are relaxed and easy.
you are not a person, you are a world view. Your body, your experiences, the things you do, the things that happen to you are all manifestations of your world view. World views change through interactions with other world views. That is how we change and how we touch everyone else we come in contact with.
Imagine you are watching a crime show. the expectation is that people will die, perhaps in violent ways, but then the crime gets solved. Crime shows are very popular. Our life presents us with a certain type of drama. Maybe we will conquer it, or maybe we will be the victim of it. But once we have had our fill of that type of drama, we move on.
It doesn't depend on the actions but on the energy vibration, ( and yes your energy will impact your actions) this is why you don't need the memory of past lives because you carry your own vibrational ''knowledge'' with you. You are energy, not your mind, body or brain.
Each incarnation gives you a chance to do that which remains to be done. You also program new lessons to increase your polarity.
What a person learns through life will get sewin in the vibration centres..if you didn't learn much, and you were very stubborn... there will be no change and distortion will remain in the energy of being, next life the lessons can get more prominent...what I mean you... yourself will drag 'you' till you get the point. You yourself import all life lessons through your own vibration.
I can explain it more if needed :)
Didn't fully grasp it but I have a feeling it's gonna be much worse.
For the energy part, each time I try to be positive I don't really feel it. That's why sadness and sorrow always catch me in the end.
Yes I'd like more explanation.
There’s a school of thought that believed not everyone reincarnate and there are people who only lived once and go to a separate afterlife.
It's all about learning opportunities. There is no distinction in the soul density between an incarnated life of pain, or one of ease ; the goal is for the soul to learn and grow. The material body is merely a vessel to do this.
So someone incarnting into a crippled body could be doing so for a few different reasons:
1. The soul is young, immature and sliding towards the service to other orientation. In its previous life it took advantage of the weaker invididuals. This will be a learning opportunity for the soul - to experience life from the view of that which it took advantage of.
2. The soul requests this due to the circumstances of learning that would take place, due to the hardships. It's the hardships in life that being us up, should we deal with it wisely.
3. The soul is an older soul, in the service to other orientation. It incarnated into the crippled body as a way to help teach its family and friends about compassion, patience, etc.
Often behind the crippled human, as an example, lay a good soul. They should be treated as such
I read that as counterintuitive as it may sound, our souls choose lessons we think that will best help us evolve and grow spiritually before our next incarnation. So I am trying to look at things from this perspective..
You're confusing reincarnation with karma. What you're speaking about is karma, and is not inherently a part of reincarnation. Many reincarnation beliefs lack karma entirely.
I personally believe we wouldn't have a choice and it's random.