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My 35 f ex 33m reaches out often to check in and talk then lashes out when he senses a hint of me wanting to get back together what do I do

My 35 f ex 33m reaches out often to check in and talk then lashes out when he senses a hint of me wanting to get back together what do I do

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I’ve had this happen with guys before. Sadly cutting ties is the best option. You don’t have to ghost him, just tell him you’re done


Teekno

Stop taking his call then.


mikey_weasel

Optimistic take - he's trying to "stay friends" while breaking up. his actions sound like he cares about you *as a friend* but also clearly does not want to be a couple. It sounds like this isn't working for you and maybe the best thing would be a discussion where you guys take a break from being in contact.


Naive_Piglet_III

Take it from a guy. He’s manipulating you. He’s making you feel miserable and aims to make him beg to take you back. He’s doing this to have total control over the relationship in the future as and when it happens. If he’s calling and checking in purely out of concern for you, he would also have concern enough to not be making snide remarks or taking digs. Stay away from him. Cut him out of your life.


peanutbutterbingbong

Bingo


the_internet_is_bad

Just say hey let's not talk for awhile. It's obviously upsetting you. Maybe we can try to be friends again on the future but we may just need to cool off some first. That is, if you want to be friends with someone that lashes out at you like a pathetic roidboy.


open_pessimism

Just end all communication. Some people can't handle being friends after a relationship.