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Different_Milk2635

You'll find new friends inshallah don't stress much about it.


sleptalready

What you have accomplished through the Grace and Mercy of Allah ﷻ is quite admirable, but perhaps the pendulum has swung to the other end? May Allah bless you for leaving things for His sake but it will benefit you to look for Muslim friends - or non-Muslims who don't engage in haraam, and there are plenty who don't - so that you avoid burn out. Have you found like other like -minded people at the non-profit events and halaqaat? If you find other ladies who you can bond with over hobbies, or a book club or even the local free clinics/meal trains, you won't have to say goodbye to a social life - in fact, it will be a new batch of chicken soup for the soul.


Sky_44___

No friends are better than bad friends and good friends are better than no friend's


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mdakramaq

I have been like that way before. Those things are all superficial and fake. Those won't give satisfaction in the heart but a fake accomplishment that feels good only when you do it. Its just emptiness after that. Keep that in mind. Find Muslim friends, who are "Muslims" both inside and out. And please get married to a righteous man asap.


One-Alarm-2850

Look, i am similar to you somehow but i am a muslim living in muslim community. From about 3 years i found out that almost all my friends who were with me in my school do many harams and staying with pushes you to make something haram, so i decided to stay away from them and they were all my friends so it was a hard choice. After that i began making new friends from masjid and made in there 3 years more friends than i have had in my entire life and that's because who leaves something for god, allah gives him something better


Friend_of_the_Moon

May Allah reward you for changing things around and striving to live a more religious lifestyle. You don't need to totally abandon your social life to be a good Muslim, but you should surround yourself with righteous friends who will have a positive influence on you. Religious friends would also share similar experiences and will likely not interfere as much with your family obligations and seeking knowledge. In fact, if Allah truly blesses you with good company, then they could even assist you in these matters inshaAllah. I would definitely advise against going on that trip. It's one thing if they were all meeting up to have coffee or something, but an overnight party in a different city is probably not going to be the most spiritually conducive experience. Don't feel too bad about distancing yourself from the non-Muslim friends you used to commit haram with. What is more important is to try and replace them with that which is better. And perhaps you could still give them dawah or be a positive influence on the occasional times that you meet in halal settings.


inshaAllah_bot

inshaAllah! May God grant your wish. I am an insha Allah bot.


Anon_brother_8403

I feel like the best way for us to find friends and companionship is through our Muslim community, more specifically our masajid. I personally have made some of the best friends, gotten work opportunities, and an overall increase in Eman just from going to the masjid for daily prayers. If there are any masjids in your area that have events or programs you can get more involved and meet people. I can personally attest that those people will be the best of friends because you have something connecting you stronger than blood, race, or whatever. That is your deen. Hope this helps sister, barakallahu feek


BroBro18070

No, you can be social and still avoid Haram. With my Muslim friends it's easy, because they're also practicing. If we go to anybody's house, it's easy because we can just pray there. If we're out, we usually walk much of the time around the city. Easy enough, just make sure we walk to a Masjid when it's time to pray. With my non Muslim friends (I only have 1 whom I classify as friend, the rest are acquaintances), all I have to do is pay attention to prayer times. For example if I go out with him in the afternoon, I make sure it's right after Duhur. Leaves me plenty of time between that, and when Maghrib is. Or go out in the morning. Or after Maghrib. Many options. We go to different cities, we used to be gym partners for about a year. Fun times. At University I simply don't go to any parties or the like. Only made 1-2 friends so far there, but much of that I attribute to online school in the beginning, not because I'm arbitrarily avoiding people.. But same story here. Avoid the people whose only activities they know are drinking, meet many people in class. You can make friends while studying together. Library, homework groups, there are many possibilities. Edit: You have to control for the environment. For example, my brother has many non Muslim friends, but their main activity is that they game, they study together, and they're University friends. Way different than an environment where you get to know these people in a party. In the latter case, yeah don't be surprised if that's their main activity. But if you yourself are only doing Halal activities, and you meet people in those activities with whom you become friends with, that's good. I generally only go to the houses of my Muslim friends.


salahelbat

you are the company you keep, so definitely make some new friends, BUT having a dinner or socializing for a few hours isn't israf or a sin. It's good. The Prophet SAW called those around him Companions - not worshippers. It's okay to have friends and if these friends don't have values that align with yours it's okay to gently remove yourself from the group but definitely should get some new friends. Better, if you could explain that you'd love to hang out with them to get breakfast or lunch and you're getting more religious - if they're able to accommodate you/your faith, then that works out best!


AdamMusa0

You can hang out with them but know when to draw a line and also look for new friends, but that doesn’t necessarily mean you have to ignore these ones. Maybe one day they’ll accept Islam because of you, who knows. Khair in Sha Allah