Make sure you plan in time to catch up with each other on the day for a bit of a breather.
The whole thing can be very overwhelming but the nicest part of my wedding was the (pre-planned) moment when we snuck away for a sneaky 10 mins (and a strong drink) to discuss how mad it all was!
Agreed! Our wedding planner sorted it that we left the ceremony and were shuffled off to a private room with a selection of the hors d'oeuvres and drinks that were being served to the guests. It was the best part of the wedding.
Absolutely, someone told me this and we both had a wander together through the grounds of where we got married. Was so lovely, especially as we'd done the whole night before apart.
It’s not about the wedding - it’s about the marriage. The former is one day, the latter is (hopefully) a lifetime. Be 100% sure it’s the right person for you, be kind to each other, and make each other better people every day. Communication and honesty is key - never let something you’re not happy with just fester, bring it up in a calm way and talk it through, tell them how it makes you feel (and don’t get hung up on stupid little things). This heads off any argument.
That’s all I can say from my own experience but others will have equally valid alternative experiences. I’m not pretending there’s a single perfect model for everyone, everyone’s different.
Provide soft drinks, and if there are under 18’s present, make sure the bar will serve them at all.
At my dad’s wedding the only place you could buy soft drinks was the bar. The bar refused to sell anything to kids. As the responsible adults for the kids was occupied (the couple) me and my step siblings drank the only drinks available without going to the bar. Which was pimms and champagne
Appreciate that successfully maintaining a long term relationship is probably the most difficult thing you will ever do.
It can happen, I knew a couple that were _blissfully_ happy for 60+ years. If you manage that, it will be, hands down, the best thing that ever happens to you.
Best of luck.
I’ve personally found it the easiest and most delightful thing ever. Loving married life. Everyone has their own situation, level of compatibility, and above all - luck in finding their perfect other half.
I should say I’m not sitting here smugly thinking I’ve got the perfect solution. I fully appreciate a lot of couples have had to overcome many more challenges than we have, and have to actively work at maintaining the relationship.
Speech after the meal so people are more drunk. The groom's speech is super easy and has no pressure behind it. I had a list of names to mention and I made up the words in between on the fly.
Don't get too worried about the minor details of the day. It's such a busy and full on day that you really don't have the time to even think about them.
For most the day we had everyone all wanting to speak to us, or borrow us for a moment, and so you have to make sure to actually make sure you spend quality time with your partner to really enjoy the day! Even if that means you run away and hide for 15 mins with them to just chill out and chat.
Don't take it too seriously, enjoy and laugh at things that don't go quite right, and just focus on really enjoying the day.
Oh and I'm pretty sure it's legally required for the evening music to end on Mr Brightside.
You'll forget most of it anyways so just turn up and chill and let the day roll by.
My other advice would have been don't spend a fortune on it as you are only paying for part of a day with a nice background
We did it cheaper but still more expensive than it could have been and both agreed after we should have gone bare bones cheap and travelled for a month instead
It will be great , will go in a flash so remember to enjoy it and enjoy that everyone is there wishing you the best … unless you invited uncle knobhead
For the wedding day, you and your spouse are the only ones who have to be there, if someone is being and arse, tell them to sod off or sort their sh!t out,it’s about you and not them.
Marriage advice, communication is key, as is compromise both you and your spouse will do things that irritate the other, talk about them and make a small change 🙂
Oh, and enjoy your day!
I have now been married for 14 day!
Take a few days off before the wedding if you can as there will be stuff to do.
For the wedding, enjoy your day. To help with this be firm with the photographers before the day and very early on the day. They really can take over if you’re not careful.
For the honeymoon, wherever you go make sure everything is sorted at work before you leave. This was the longest I have gone without work emails in years and it was magical.
Don't take an ex's name in the vows (I didn't do this, just from FRIENDS).
If you smoke in secret from your soon to be spouse, don't do it an hour before the wedding in a shed outside the venue (I did do this, and had to beg my sister in law to keep quiet, also had to give her the rest of my cigarettes).
The rest, relax and enjoy!
No matter how much your in love or how poor you are, just get a prenuptial. It save a huge amount of hassle if things do go wrong. And with the device rate being around 42% with it increasing each year, there is a good chance it end up that way.
Take time to step back with your new partner during the day to watch and enjoy what's going on, with people enjoying your special day with you.
Ensure to mingle with ALL your guests, I missed speaking to some of my family at mine that are no longer with us and ways regret it.
Oh, and don't get too pissed the night before and turn up looking a wreck!
Good luck!
Turn your phone off and enjoy the moment. All of your closest friends and family are there so who are you trying to get hold of? Everyone else will be taking photos so no need to take your own. Have a decent breakfast cause it's a long day!
Enjoy your day and don’t sweat the details. They’ll either be a funny story to retell for years or forgotten as unimportant
Yes. This. Have a lovely day and look forward to spending the rest of your lives together.
Be kind to each other. Always.
Make sure you plan in time to catch up with each other on the day for a bit of a breather. The whole thing can be very overwhelming but the nicest part of my wedding was the (pre-planned) moment when we snuck away for a sneaky 10 mins (and a strong drink) to discuss how mad it all was!
Agreed! Our wedding planner sorted it that we left the ceremony and were shuffled off to a private room with a selection of the hors d'oeuvres and drinks that were being served to the guests. It was the best part of the wedding.
We did that too. Got some lovely "just married" selfies whilst the rest of the guests had canapes, it was ace.
Absolutely, someone told me this and we both had a wander together through the grounds of where we got married. Was so lovely, especially as we'd done the whole night before apart.
My advice... Don't ask redditors for advice.
SHE'S ALREADY CHEATING ON YOU, LAWYER UP AND HIT THE GYM. DELETE YOUR SOCIALS.
IF YOU DIDN'T SIGN A PRENUP SHE'S GOING TO FUCKING YOUR ASS AND NOT IN THE FUN WAY
🚩 🚩 🚩
My wife and I were blissfully happy for 26 magical, fun filled years.. and then we met...
It’s not about the wedding - it’s about the marriage. The former is one day, the latter is (hopefully) a lifetime. Be 100% sure it’s the right person for you, be kind to each other, and make each other better people every day. Communication and honesty is key - never let something you’re not happy with just fester, bring it up in a calm way and talk it through, tell them how it makes you feel (and don’t get hung up on stupid little things). This heads off any argument. That’s all I can say from my own experience but others will have equally valid alternative experiences. I’m not pretending there’s a single perfect model for everyone, everyone’s different.
* Checks name * yeah you've got nothing to worry about jockey.
Feed your photographer!
Don’t get wasted on your wedding night and never stop dating each other.
Don’t
Communication is the basis of any relationship. Be honest, always.
Provide soft drinks, and if there are under 18’s present, make sure the bar will serve them at all. At my dad’s wedding the only place you could buy soft drinks was the bar. The bar refused to sell anything to kids. As the responsible adults for the kids was occupied (the couple) me and my step siblings drank the only drinks available without going to the bar. Which was pimms and champagne
Dont. But if you're going to anyway, tts going to be a blur, try to take a moment with your new wife/husband to breath.
Appreciate that successfully maintaining a long term relationship is probably the most difficult thing you will ever do. It can happen, I knew a couple that were _blissfully_ happy for 60+ years. If you manage that, it will be, hands down, the best thing that ever happens to you. Best of luck.
I’ve personally found it the easiest and most delightful thing ever. Loving married life. Everyone has their own situation, level of compatibility, and above all - luck in finding their perfect other half.
Absolutely can happen, and when it does it's the best thing in the world.
I should say I’m not sitting here smugly thinking I’ve got the perfect solution. I fully appreciate a lot of couples have had to overcome many more challenges than we have, and have to actively work at maintaining the relationship.
Speech before the meal then you can you enjoy it
Speech after the meal so people are more drunk. The groom's speech is super easy and has no pressure behind it. I had a list of names to mention and I made up the words in between on the fly.
Yes, it's ultimately "your" day. But with the politics, the stress and the rest, the party is for everyone else, not for you.
don't listen to randos on reddit
Don’t do it! Save yourself! Just kidding, hope you have a wonderful day OP!
Don't get too worried about the minor details of the day. It's such a busy and full on day that you really don't have the time to even think about them. For most the day we had everyone all wanting to speak to us, or borrow us for a moment, and so you have to make sure to actually make sure you spend quality time with your partner to really enjoy the day! Even if that means you run away and hide for 15 mins with them to just chill out and chat. Don't take it too seriously, enjoy and laugh at things that don't go quite right, and just focus on really enjoying the day. Oh and I'm pretty sure it's legally required for the evening music to end on Mr Brightside.
Take a month long trip to perhaps to a small island in the South Pacific. I'd leave tomorrow.
Don’t do it!
The secret to a happy marriage is separate duvets. 👌🏻
Don’t
Yeah... don't
You'll forget most of it anyways so just turn up and chill and let the day roll by. My other advice would have been don't spend a fortune on it as you are only paying for part of a day with a nice background We did it cheaper but still more expensive than it could have been and both agreed after we should have gone bare bones cheap and travelled for a month instead
It will be great , will go in a flash so remember to enjoy it and enjoy that everyone is there wishing you the best … unless you invited uncle knobhead
Remember your vows. Tough times come and go but tough people stay.
They’ll definitely be an arsehole to spoil things, I can almost guarantee it. Take your time and enjoy each moment the day will fly by.
For the wedding day, you and your spouse are the only ones who have to be there, if someone is being and arse, tell them to sod off or sort their sh!t out,it’s about you and not them. Marriage advice, communication is key, as is compromise both you and your spouse will do things that irritate the other, talk about them and make a small change 🙂 Oh, and enjoy your day!
If you’re under 25, don’t do it.
Is this what you want …. Are you 100% ready to be fucked up
Don’t drink too much
Don't drop shitloads of valium.
don't
Pretend you’re jack bauer only 24 days to get with her mum.
2 words to use in all situations. Yes Dear.
Best to discuss dowry before signing anything
Ask her sooner rather than later. She's already gonna be mad you've left it this late to ask.
I have now been married for 14 day! Take a few days off before the wedding if you can as there will be stuff to do. For the wedding, enjoy your day. To help with this be firm with the photographers before the day and very early on the day. They really can take over if you’re not careful. For the honeymoon, wherever you go make sure everything is sorted at work before you leave. This was the longest I have gone without work emails in years and it was magical.
Don't take an ex's name in the vows (I didn't do this, just from FRIENDS). If you smoke in secret from your soon to be spouse, don't do it an hour before the wedding in a shed outside the venue (I did do this, and had to beg my sister in law to keep quiet, also had to give her the rest of my cigarettes). The rest, relax and enjoy!
Run.
Dont
Change your mind.
cheat now before it costs you half of everything.
No matter how much your in love or how poor you are, just get a prenuptial. It save a huge amount of hassle if things do go wrong. And with the device rate being around 42% with it increasing each year, there is a good chance it end up that way.
Don’t get married as it’ll impact your finances. Not worth it for a bit of paper saying you’re married.
Don’t stress, enjoy and appreciate, it really is one of the best days of your existence.
Take a few minutes aside to just drink it in together. The day goes so quickly . Have a wonderful day.
Take time to step back with your new partner during the day to watch and enjoy what's going on, with people enjoying your special day with you. Ensure to mingle with ALL your guests, I missed speaking to some of my family at mine that are no longer with us and ways regret it. Oh, and don't get too pissed the night before and turn up looking a wreck! Good luck!
Get riggity riggity wrecked son
Turn your phone off and enjoy the moment. All of your closest friends and family are there so who are you trying to get hold of? Everyone else will be taking photos so no need to take your own. Have a decent breakfast cause it's a long day!
Get your pics done efficiently cause you’ll want to mingle and have drinks with you guests
Run away now
Don’t
Don't
Don't do anything on the stag that you might regret.
Fastest day of your life. Don’t be nervous. Everyone there is pulling in the same direction as the both of you.
Dont