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sistrmoon45

I work for a health department, and I was the only one masked at a large team building all-day gathering recently. Lots of first time infections of coworkers happening, and people act like I’m crazy paranoid. My spouse is high risk. I’m sorry, it really sucks.


UMOTU

I work in manufacturing and their are few who mask there anymore. Mostly people who are on the older side. I am vaxed and still had Covid twice. I’ve known of at least 4 who have lost their lives, 2 were family. I’m sorry you aren’t getting the support you need from loved ones. We may not even know you, but you aren’t alone. There are many who mask, take precautions, and most importantly, care.


Such_Ostrich_2422

My family was good sports about it for a long time. Then when everyone took their masks off they felt the peer pressure to not mask too. I have my undergrad degree in Bio and have worked primarily Microbio so I have followed the pandemic closely. I’ve also had Sepsis twice and a lot of chronic health issues. I feel like I need to be careful because the outcome wouldn’t be good and I don’t want to see my kids or husband have any chronic health issues. But they unmasked in overcrowded schools and my husband at work. In May we got Covid and they all faired well. My husband has a chronic cough still. I have had horrible lower back and leg pain since and at times have trouble even walking. It’s so frustrating. I am afraid to get it again and be in worse shape or even more pain. My legs hurt to where I have even thought I would be better off without them. Despite seeing me in pain every single day my family still refuses to mask or take precautions. They are 100% living normal life and there is so much tension because it’s a mask. Hardly an inconvenience. I get it’s up to me to protect myself from the public since I am at increased risk. I do. I wear my KN-95 and avoid crowds. I can’t protect myself from my family though because it isn’t feasible to wear a mask 24/7 at home. I don’t know how to resolve the difference at home. I feel expendable.


Pleasant_Quantity_37

My husband and son feel the same way . They don’t want to wear a mask because according to them the pandemic is over! So I am screw !


Such_Ostrich_2422

My husband and four kids won’t. Well 3/4 kids. My youngest in 1st grade will (for now). She is the only one in her class to and my husband thinks I’m wrong to have her mask still. But she didn’t seem phased by it. I think she overheard him talking about it because tonight she had dance and gave me a little trouble about masking saying she was gonna look stupid. (It may have been the mask I had- solid no print). The three older kids refuse. My oldest two like to push every one of my buttons with “Covid isn’t real” and “Covid’s over”. My husband for two years was on board with precautions. We made the decision to get back to normal but masking. Then it was we look at the current state of things and situation and determine masking. Then they dropped mask requirements and it was hell in my house and has been since. There is no way to protect myself from a husband and 4 kids that think it’s over. Screwed really does sum It up.


Pleasant_Quantity_37

I got the same thing my son is 22 and husband who really don’t go out because he can’t walk as much believe the pandemic is over . So I deal with my son . He does not go out often which is good but when he does he doesn’t use a mask. Very hard with their mindset and husband does not support me .


CayeCaye

Your husband for sure needs to aggressively and persistently pursue a diagnosis of his cough I know someone who needs a lung transplant now after a post Covid long term cough that isn’t going away. Also, you should do the same about your leg and back pain. These issues are not something you can “tolerate” but have to do everything in your power to resolve before the damage is irreversible


Such_Ostrich_2422

He works out and does activity with no trouble. It’s a very odd cough that he has. Literally only when he talks he does one cough. I tell him he should get it looked Into but he ignores me about it. It’s a little annoying to have a conversation with him. He doesn’t “feel it coming” and so he just coughs into the air. It drives me crazy to be honest! I’ve had all sorts of test run on my legs. Doctor has no clue. An MRI showed some lower back issues but it seems odd that obviously the lower back issues started before Covid but with Covid they started to effect my legs. I have an appointment with the neurosurgeon mid October.


rolexcowboy

I’m in the same situation with my significant other. She has zero regard, her parents fly multiple times a month and zero quarantine. She went to a concert, 2 weddings, has flown multiple times. And here I am just going to work and home masking (the only one at work masking btw). And I’m the bad guy. Someone the narrative has flipped where if you wear a mask or are covid cautious your the bag guy now. It’s unreal. I’ve had this shit 2 times. Still have issues from it. Definitely don’t want to roll the dice with it a third time.


sweetclementine

My theory about people who mask being the bad guys is that it’s really just people projecting. They KNOW it’s still not safe but have gotten tired of masking. They see us masking and it reminds them that we’re still in a pandemic and they’re not doing what they should be doing and feel guilty. But it’s a lot easier to make themselves feel better and call us crazy than it is to take responsibility.


PookieMan1989

This is 100% based in human psychology. Seeing people mask and take precautions makes them subconsciously feel reckless and guilty. “Misery loves company”. So, individuals would rather you not mask, and face the potential consequences as a group.


Supercc

Wow. Exactly that!


SensesCensus

So sorry you are boxed in like this! Believe it or not there are countries where people still mask as a norm. Peer pressure isn't a good thing.


lefindecheri

Only if it's in the right direction - which it's NOT here in the US. It's the opposite.


tmcx95

You deserve a partner who takes your health seriously.


MrsBeauregardless

Solidarity! You’re right. Everyone doing the gaslighting, including your husband, is wrong. Frankly, I don’t know how you stay married to him. I mean I am not really speaking to some in-laws who have been refusing to take the pandemic seriously all this time. I can’t imagine if my husband were like that.


readerready24

I have long covid 19 months the thought of reinfection is scary


drkmcnz

Oh my god that’s so long 😢 I’m so sorry. I hope it hasn’t been horrible but it sounds rough.


readerready24

Worst thing of my life its a living nightmare im slowly losing everything in my life


LarksMyCaptain

I'm sorry to hear this, but know I'm in a similar situation as you.. I've had Covid 3 times for sure, with the 2 most recent times being July 2022 and then two weeks ago. I was dealing with long Covid symptoms when I caught it again, and I'm really scared for my life. The relaxation of mitigation efforts will not end well, especially going into this flu season. I can't stand the gaslighting either.. To be harassed for being a decent human being and trying to minimize risks for others is not okay. There are so many people out there who don't give a single shit about anyone other than themselves, risking their family members and loved ones wellbeing/lives, just so they can feel normal again. I understand it to a point, but that's just selfishness at it's finest. If my well being or my life is destroyed by these assholes, I hope they rot in hell.


napoleonswife

I am so sorry. I do believe those who take this disease and its after effects seriously will be vindicated; it may be in 10 years or 20 instead of 5, but research already bears it out. For instance young people who have had covid are dying more frequently when they have strokes. I think a lot of people find it scary and prefer not to think about it, and I also think the government and media are doing their best to get people to “move on” and power the economy, regardless of how many lives it costs. I hate how tin foil hat-y this whole thing makes me feel but it’s just unbelievable how quickly otherwise thoughtful, reasonable people have decided that we just have to “get used” to covid and accept this constant level of illness and death. Sending support, you aren’t crazy and you aren’t alone!


mercuric5i2

> I do believe those who take this disease and its after effects seriously will be vindicated; it may be in 10 years or 20 instead of 5, but research already bears it out. I agree. I am fairly convinced we're going to look back at this in a decade or two, looking at the long term prognosis of those who managed to avoid infection vs (most others) who did not.. And find a very different picture... A very ugly picture of reverses in the fight against many ailments.


PookieMan1989

I work in engineering and frequently work on projects focusing on the removal of PCB. PCB is a fluid that was used to insulate electrical transformers. 30 years ago, people would use PCB to wash their hands; it worked very well as a grease remover(not much research at this point). Ten years down the road it was found to be one of, if not the, biggest carcinogen on the planet. Now, it’s considered a biohazard and disposed of similar to nuclear waste.


napoleonswife

Yes sadly I agree :(


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I’m so sorry you are going through this. Sadly the way people think is that until it happens to them, it’s not really real. I know I was one of those- thinking it wouldn’t get me, until it did. My head, nostrils and neck feel like they are on fire as well, like someone is injecting me with caustic fluid. I am going to assume you are a woman as well. Sadly, it’s been documented that women are not believed and not taken seriously when they complain. Research even up to this day is mostly based on men, although our bodies are very different, and sadly we know the majority of long COVID cases are women. The book Doing Harm will make you so angry, but at least it will make you realize you are not screaming into the void.


sirthunksalot

Sorry that is really rough. Especially your partner not caring enough to not make any attempt to keep you safe. I feel like it is invasion of the body snatchers everytime I go out. Terrified of catching the shit again after still not being totally recovered from six months ago. Hope you feel better and sounds like you need a divorce lawyer once you get over the covid.


Petporgsforsale

I’m really sorry your spouse wasn’t taking your feelings, experiences, and knowledge into consideration. Keep taking care of yourself!


drkmcnz

Thank you so much for the kind words.


jmarch1976

I am just getting over Covid for a third time. This time I seriously feel bad I not gotten the antibody infusion I would be dead. I have never been so scared and sick in my life. People are still just acting like things are normal but it’s really going around a lot more. I don’t care what people say I will be in a mask. Because I don’t think I will make it through another round. Good thing is I have my taste back. I had gone for months with no taste. And finally I can taste. So at least there is one positive. Stay safe and don’t let anyone ever put your safety at risk.


drkmcnz

Wow that was such a close call, I’m so sorry you went through that. It’s really hard especially with everyone dismissing it, glad you’re staying masked up 😷 and glad you got your taste back. That must have been so weird.


trtforlife101010

Please go to media and let folks know it can be worse with upcoming REINFECTIONS. A lot of folks think it will get better!


Beginning_Advisor_91

Did u get vaccinated? Just wandering cuz I've been told its worse when ur not vccinated.


jmarch1976

Yes. Vac and booster. And this time I had a cough that was awful. I did have Flu A as well. I. The beginning. They said it’s rare but I have never been so sick.


ylee283

I feel the same. We (my husband and I) unfortunately got Covid for the first time from our first vacay to Disney. We took all precaution including masking indoors even outdoor in crowds, not eating indoors and washing hands and wiping everything down. Fortunately, our symptoms were mild (fever once and sinus stuff), but we are still masking indoors if we have to go somewhere and still taking precautions because this isn’t over!! We are going to get our boosters when we are at our 3 month mark after Covid, but I wish the president would take it more seriously instead of worrying economy. I am from Taiwan and I really wish I could’ve been there during the pandemic as the president has been taking it super seriously.


ScullyitsmeScully

Our of curiosity, what type of mask were you using?


ylee283

Well fitted kn95. I mean we could’ve gotten it just by walking about since it seems this variant is very contagious. We will definitely be wearing Hospital grade fitted n95 next time we go in crowded places


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ylee283

Yes at animal kingdom resort. We masked when we go outside the room as well.


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ylee283

Yea I know how you feel. I mean I had friends that literally went after us and they are anti maskers and didn’t get Covid. I just don’t understand why it’s the ones who are careful gets picked by Covid (at least that’s what it seems).


jantp

I’m sorry that this is happening to you. As a healthcare worker I totally feel your pain. I’m one of the few people at my workplace that educate people on new standards but as time passes I feel like the guidances are a big joke but I personally can’t impose stricter ones as we all have to fall in line with the current guidances. They just recently stopped mandatory testing for the unvaccinated and exempt in my area. People are taking covid too lightly. If you ever need to vent I’ll be available on messages.


Lone_Wanderer989

They have gone mad protect yorself.


drkmcnz

I love this lol


[deleted]

I am sorry to hear this. This may be tough but I would never accept such blatant disregard for my personal health from a spouse, and their reaction to you trying to be safe and healthy is extremely concerning. This pandemic really shows how disgustingly selfish people are. I don't know if the social media age has just completely destroyed people's brains or what. None of this was an issue back in 1918. This pandemic is absolutely real and I can only hope your symptoms get better with time. Despite the society around us, people like you and me are in this together.


drkmcnz

Man, this felt so good to read. Thank you so much for your thoughts. I agree this has brought out the worst in people, and social media has a lot to do with it. The spouse stuff is for another subreddit lol but I agree and appreciate the solidarity 👊


ConorRowlandIE

I find myself hoping my GF gets a hint of Long-COVID just for 2/3 months so that she understands it. How dark and shitty is that!? No one seems to understand it without having it. And I struggle to describe it to people too.


drkmcnz

I agree and understand, it’s really hard to communicate how bad it is 😑


JonathanApple

Yeah, my ex could use a bout to maybe gain some empathy. Dark and shitty, but ehhh.


drakeftmeyers

Misery loves company. (That’s a joke) But I know what you mean, my wife is like that. If she doesn’t catch it first, she assumes I’m faking it. Idk why. Something here dad did.


autumn55femme

Maybe your girlfriend needs to get hit by the Karma bus?


ScullyitsmeScully

Yeah, there were still mask-holes back then too, but I also think it’s gotta be worse now because of social media.


Lone_Wanderer989

Lead is in all the water even bottled we are all literally losing it.


nirachi

Do you think there is any benefit to using smart watches to get an early handle on infection and prevent exposure? My infection came from my father, who didn't know he was sick but was hospitalized with pneumonia within hours of seeing me.


Sivoham108

I have an Oura ring and knew I was exposed but my ring didn’t show till first night after the first day of symptoms. Then it was clearly showing how I was going downhill. Then up… then down again. Finally coming back up. So it is very valuable to have. But in my case it didn’t predict it.


Edu_cats

Same. I use a Fitbit and there was nothing showing in my resting HR, breathing rate, or skin temperature until after I tested positive. It was that following night that all of these were off.


Catcity13

I am so sorry your spouse has no empathy for you. It’s extremely isolating to be with someone like that. I wish you well.


yaneerbaryam

Connect with others who do care and build from there.


drkmcnz

Love this, thank you.


yaneerbaryam

Very welcome. For more information about long covid take a look at [worldhealthnetwork.global/longcovid](https://worldhealthnetwork.global/longcovid)


FreakyCoincidence

Yup, I feel like everyone has given up on trying to avoid the virus. We’re still losing thousands of people every week but apparently no one cares. The government, businesses, the CDC…


Practical-Ad-4888

Holy cow, you must be one of the few people that truly understand what a madhouse the world has become. I can barely get out of bed anymore 😭. I am so sorry about the worthless husband. Sending you lots of solidarity. Don't give up.


drkmcnz

It’s so relieving to hear from someone like minded, I know how it feels to not want to get out of bed. I barely leave the house tbh. Solidarity for sure.


Edu_cats

Sending messages of support. Just found out yesterday several people in my department have COVID after going maskless in classes of maskless students, many of whom are taking their first tests, so they are likely coming to class even if symptomatic. Imagine that! We are a health-related field, so it’s extremely frustrating. Only one other person and I consistently mask, and I still got COVID after the first week of classes. My spouse did not get it this time. I use a HEPA filter in my office and a CO2 meter. But it’s overall maddening, and I feel my employer is doing nothing to keep us safe, but really, is anyone other than the movie and film industry following any strict mitigation measures. At lest there is a booster clinic next week.


Practical-Ad-4888

All the professionals that work in health or science, I don't know how any of you are keeping your sanity right now. Please save your energy, I think next year is when the real fight begins.


[deleted]

I just became reinfected after battling long covid myself. I’m so scared for the future.


drkmcnz

I’m so sorry. I’m terrified. Wishing you the absolute best


Baron-Munc

It sucks…


JonathanApple

I know a good divorce lawyer. :) Sorry you are going through this.


drkmcnz

Lol thanks buddy


drkmcnz

I wanted to just thank everyone that took time to reply. I really have gathered strength and felt less alone from reading this. I feel terrified about the brain fog, body aches, memory issues, and fatigue that I felt for so many months intensifying with getting re-infected. Your words and solidarity really helped me. Thank you.


SilverFoundation

I managed to not get Covid this whole time until I sent my son to public school because I was pressured into believing “Covid isn’t bad anymore” and of course we all got infected. I’m boosted and everything, though in December. I’m on day 13 and feel terrible, horrible headaches, extreme fatigue. My son and husband are fully recovered and I’m terrified I will always feel this. I’m also scared to send my son back to school to get another virus. No one is masked or even reports Covid at all. Everyone at his school act like it’s no big deal and everyone sends their kids to school sick. I really hope I recover from this.


East-Ad4472

I so 100 % agree with you . It is pure lunacy to abandon all precautions . Its all about what is popular with voters rather than science .


lefindecheri

I've never had it but I go almost NOWHERE. I'd been cutting my own hair for 18 months until I got my second COVID booster shot in September 2021. I called the salon for an appointment and asked if they were wearing masks. She didn't speak English well, and kept saying, "No, no need masks no more. No necessary now." It took me awhile to make her understand that I WANTED her to wear a mask, to which she finally agreed. When I got there, I had to remind her but she very reluctantly put it on, a flimsy thing, barely hanging on. But I was already there and desperate so I proceeded. And the second she was done the last snip, she whipped off the mask. I had her cut it very very short in order to delay the next visit which I've now been postponing because I don't want to deal with it. Although I did just get my 3rd booster a few weeks ago, so my immunity is about as good as it will be. I've also put off eye exam, mammogram, pap, and allergy doc, as well as skipped the annual summer family reunion. And I'm really torn about the upcoming holidays. I opted out of going out of town last year, but feel bad because my kids love visiting their cousins and other family. But my family doesn't mask or social distance. My brother, a doctor who's had it twice as has his wife and daughters, sent me the article in the link with the subtitle "If you’ve been vaccinated and still feel mortally threatened by the virus, please read this." He said he hoped my reason for not visiting was not because I was still mitigating for COVID. This was because another brother was visiting them in February and I didn't want to travel to join them. My daughter still wears a mask when she visits us because she's worried about us, but she only stays a few hours. My son didn't when he came for a week's visit in June. But he did take the take home test before coming. In reading this over, I feel like such a wuss. But I had a BF and a BIL die from it early in the pandemic, pre-vaccine. I might have agoraphobia. But I just don't feel like the pandemic is over and I think everyone should be mitigating. I can't believe only 5% of Americans have gotten the Omicron booster (and four of them are my husband, daughter, son and I). [Understanding the Covid Odds](https://www.city-journal.org/understanding-the-covid-odds).


otterlard

As someone who has developed an anxiety disorder during Covid, I would like to tell you about the other side of the spectrum. I don’t wanna diminish your concerns or claim that covid isn’t that bad but hear me out… I’m an anxious person, always have been, but because I was so used to many situations, I didn’t really notice. With Covid, my work and uni went online. My relationship went involuntarily long distance. I didn’t see anyone for 3 months, I was told I need to be scared of going to the supermarket. When things went back to kind of normal, I suddenly struggled with „normal situation“. I got panic attacks at social events, I struggled with crowds in general, I was scared of driving and at some point it got so bad that I was scared of crossing the street. My legs would literally be frozen. I’m literally in the process of relearning how to live. I know that Covid is serious and I know that masks help. But I also know that cases are less serious and a bunch of other illnesses exist that are just as deadly in the wrong combination. I want to live and going back to normality slowly helps me to feel better and not live under a current threat. You do you and you choose what’s best for you. Let everyone else, including your partner, choose what’s best for them. As someone who struggles with health anxiety, I highly encourage you to question your symptoms. I was in the same situation as you once, only I was pretty convinced that my backpain must be cancer. It was in fact bad posture and overanalysing my feelings. Try to listen to your body less and try yoga on a regular basis. It helps. Go and see your doctor still obviously but if you’re suffering from anxiety anyway it’s very easy to feel more than what’s important.


islands1128

I think covid is going to get us whether we like it or not. Im 27, if i live another 40 years who knows how many times im going to get it. I also got long covid for 6 months. I actually ended up with SFN presumably from the vax 1 month before covid got me. I think we have to operate like normal theres not really a way to control it. Same with the flu and colds etc. Again this is coming from someone who’s in the same if not worse boat than you.


trtforlife101010

Message me.


LikeALincolnLog42

Back pain is no joke, no matter the source. I struggle with it. Best wishes for you, you have my support.


Defiant-Can6887

This discussion with Dr. Benjamin Abramoff of Penn Medicine can be helpful https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HwuHc3Q4Q7g


Ghazillion

So I guess vax + masks don't work, so it's a moot point.


JonathanApple

Go lick some door knobs! YOLO


Ghazillion

Stay inside and eat your bugs.