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missshrimptoast

Very little. You give up a modicum of freedom to blend your life with another person. For instance, I've given up the ability to randomly uproot my life as I have in the past a few times. That would be disruptive and unfair to my partner. But that's about it. I dress, speak, and behave as I please. My career is my own. My husband wouldn't have it any other way; frankly, I wouldn't have married him otherwise. Because the same is true for him.


throwaway_6522

Why marry at all? why not just be together without having the state have a word ?


missshrimptoast

Some people prefer that. Legal marriage had meaning for me, primarily that if my husband died or was injured, I'm the de facto beneficiary and able to make crucial life decisions. You can arrange this without marriage, but it's more difficult


A1Dilettante

All my bullshit and unhealthy attachment to the past.


DemonicGirlcock

For my current relationship, absolutely nothing. My previous marriage I gave up too many things that were important to me, only realizing it fully years down the road. Ultimately I don't hold any negative feelings though, she's like a sister to me now.


Amethyst-Aven

I gave up drugs—or atleast constant use of drugs. Its better for me but my bf wants me healthy. I gave it up for him. I dont regret it.


chancladeldestino

As of right now: Friends, Time alone, A bit of time with my family, Part of my self steem, Part of my sense of self (everything I did before him is judged), My opinions on politics and religion (he’s right and very catholic), My opinions on relationship dynamics (he knows best) I think I’m trauma bonded


CloudHidden2022

Get the hell out of there.


LittleQueenyp

Sweety, this is not a healthy relationship you're in, get out of there before it eats you up alive


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Nothing at all. It was when we had children that we had to make some sacrifices which we already knew came with the gig so we were happy to do so


MumbleSnix

Agree. I didn’t sacrifice anything to be with my partner but a kid brought lots of to be expected sacrifices.


Zealousideal-Dog336

friends, unfortunately. i regret it. i wasn’t even official with the dude.


BotGivesBot

My country of birth. They couldn't move to where I lived, so I moved to them. I'm a nomad so it wasn't a big deal for me.


rudebish

nothing. If I have to sacrifice or give up anything, that relationship wasn't for me. I've been with my husband for over 20yrs, I haven't had to give up anything and neither has he.


anxiouslymute

My friends and my family. We moved far from home for his job. Then he cheated on me. It’s okay, I gained so much more than I’ll lose.


Vast_Ad3963

Nothing


sushii96

Alcohol. Not because he asked me to or had any issue with it, but because I had a problem and thankfully had enough clarity to see that it was making me into a crappy partner before it was too late. My relationship was of course not the only reason for giving it up, there’s a whole slew of reasons when you’re an alcoholic, but I genuinely want to be the best version of myself for my partner because he’s worth the effort. (1.5 years sober, currently going on 5 years together)


yourgreatauntsboobs

Everything. I gave up everything that brought me joy and fulfillment. I gave up my dream of being a scientist, author, and professional dancer with my own dance studio. I have up my health and appearance. I used to be a model until I got into my first relationship. 7 years later and I came out of it all a shell of who I once was. I'm getting myself back though, and I don't want ti ever be in a relationship again. Love means destroying yourself for someone else. I never want to do that again. I'm dancing competively again. I'm a rocket scientist now. I want to do at least a couple photo shoots so I can say they didn't take modeling from me. It breaks my heart I can't have both love and my dreams. But the two are mutually exclusive. Eta: I legitimately don't understand why I'm being downvoted this. Sorry for being abused I guess


CloudHidden2022

Love means destroying yourself for someone else?? Uh no. I’m sorry you had a bad experience but that is not the norm. It’s possible to meet the right person and still maintain everything that makes you you.


yourgreatauntsboobs

I had 7 years of multiple bad experiences, not just *a* bad experience. Maybe you're good enough to be the exception but I'm not.


cuddlebugmommy

all my friends. Being married and having a baby isn't cool enough ig


AnotherStarShining

Living near the ocean. I lived on an island. It was my literal dream life. But he couldn’t come to me because of his job so I had to give it up and move to the Midwest. Thankfully, I actually like the Midwest but, at the time, it was a huge sacrifice..


AshenSkyler

Freedom and wandering. I used to just go wherever I wanted and told no one, if I wanted to go for a walk I went for a walk, I decided to stay up all night drinking somewhere I'd do it, if I didn't feel like being somewhere I'd leave but like being in a relationship means communication and sleeping in the same place every night and not going out partying every night because there's someone worried and waiting Thankfully that feeling of wanderlust kinda died when I had my twins, now I'm just good to stay home with them most of the time. The itch to just leave and go wherever I feel like isn't there right now.


lefteyewonky

Moved away from family, alone time, sex, accepting not even getting the bare minimum from him. Needless to say I’m divorced now lol


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Wholesome__Vulgarity

Currently getting back to work on giving up bad habits, shitty coping mechanisms, and a tendency to internally collapse and project the rubble into our dynamic. Comfort made me a bit lazy, unfortunately.


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-0Dopamine0-

My discomfort with physical touch. My partner is very gentle and considerate, and I'm comfortable with them touching me, and they've helped me become a lot more comfortable with touch. :)


Densityroa

Some friendships.


georgiagirlinthepnw

When I was married, I gave up being vested in state retirement, 90 sick days that I had purposely saved, many jobs I loved many times, being near my family and friends, being in my home state to name a few things. We moved for his job, so he kept his pay and benefits throughout the many moves. I always had to start back at the bottom and rebuild. Now that I'm divorced I'm finally able to build all of that, except I'm not able to go back to my home state and family.


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PINKnPURPLEppl

Being single. We're poly, I have a husband, a wife (we're all together in a triad) and two boyfriends (they are involved with each other but my relationship with each is separate) And full control over my children's lives. Their stepdad and stepmother are great parents so not everything falls to me anymore. Not sure I'd call that a sacrifice though


izzypy71c

Smoking. It is an absolute deal breaker for my boyfriend, I don’t mind it much except that i used to enjoy smoking weed on my free time before and i miss it.