Drugs ruined you
By - kiwipangolin
Drugs ruined you
Don’t fucking smoke
I’m surprised I haven’t seen that comment yet, worst mistake I ever done
Never start gambling
She won’t change.
Love dad more.
Edit: I don’t ever check my Reddit notifications. I never expected this to blow up. My dad was diagnosed with cancer on my 13th birthday and passed away less than 3 months later. To everyone who has lost or is losing a parent: I’m sorry. You all know those words don’t really do anything. But I am sorry. It’s an awful thing to lose a parent. A word of advice. Remember everything. Don’t make them out to be a saint. My dad was an angry guy, he fucked up sometimes, he snapped too fast, he made mistakes. But that didn’t mean he didn’t love me any less or that he wasn’t a great dad. It means that he was human. Every mistake he made was a lesson for me then or a lesson for the future if I ever have my own kids. Appreciate the good and the bad. Because at the end of the day it’s a memory you have. And if anyone ever needs to vent or talk or ask questions then please reach out.
My dad died 2 weeks ago tomorrow, and I did love my dad a lot, I’m almost 30 and have came to visit my family every other weekend for the past 4 or 5 years. It’s best thing I could have done for myself and my heart right now. Last summer my dad said “you’re going to miss me when I’m gone” and I’m so glad I had the chance to say “I sure will, Dad”
Stop copying others
Younger you: “sToP cOpYiNg OtHeRs”
HUG YOUR DAD
...he died when I was 18.
I came here to type "HUG YOUR MOM" because she died when I was 17. I'm sorry to hear that you went through the same pain. Stay strong.
Yes Kimmy California. My sister wanted to move to california near where I was living. My life was really complicated at the time and I really discouraged it. My marriage was a mess and I was afraid it would make it worse. She stayed where she was. About a year later she was killed by a drunk driver. My marriage ended. I would do literally anything to still have my sister here.
I'm so sorry for your loss. I understand how you must feel responsible for her death. There's no telling what would have happened if she had moved to California though. In a parallel universe, maybe she did move near you and was killed by a drunk driver there, and you feel responsible for her death because you didn't stop her from moving. It wasn't anyone's fault except for that driver. I hope you can eventually find peace and feel less guilt, even though that's easier said than done.
"Stay off ATVs". Rolled a 4-wheeler when I was 16. Left leg has never been the same.
I work in a pediatric operating room in an area where atvs are popular. Anytime the weather is nice and the kids are out of school, the number of add on surgeries we have for atv injuries is mind boggling. 4 year old, shattered femur, atv rollover. 8 year old, broken left arm, atv roll over. 13 year old, atv ejection, emergency crani. Shattered pelvis, degloving of the leg, brain bleeds, punctured lungs... On and on and on. So much agony. So many kids. It's easily the number one cause of emergent surgery we do.
In my book, putting a kid on an atv is about the same as giving an infant a loaded gun for a pacifier.
I'm really only replying to you because I hope at least one person will read this thread, change their mind, and keep a kid out of the OR/morgue
Are dirt bikes safer because they're lighter, or do those wreak a lot of havoc too, just not as popular?
Dirt bikes are probably safer since it isn't likely to roll over on you.
Full gear should be worn on either. I grew up riding dirt bikes in the woods. Every piece of my gear saved a piece of me at some point or another.
DON'T FORGET ABOUT-
"LISTEN HERE, YOU-"
"LITTLE PIECE OF-"
Don't smoke, dumbass
Edit: yes I know, "don't" is technically two words when written out. But I'm not writing a letter or note to 13 year old chef_in_va, I would be speaking it out loud. And "don't smoke, dumbass" is three words when spoken.
I told my Dad this every single day growing up. I used to throw fits when I was a kid because I knew how bad it was for him and I had watched my grandmother die from it at 64. He's made it to 73, but he virtually immobile due to COPD.
My mom passed last week due to complications of COPD. I still and working through it
Keep making music
There is taking a break to grow and then there are Darkages where you forsake your instrument and regress.
Don't smoke cigarettes.
It’s not your fault.
This one made me cry. I’m so sorry.
Pretty sure with three German words you could write a short story…
Die Bart, die
The Bart, the.
Das Hündchen explodiert :)
Edit: im taking German in high school, im not sure what most of these replys say
Edit 2: reddit wtf? How is this my new most popular comment? Also thank you for the silver!
Verkaufe Babyklamotten, unbenutzt.
Give mom love. She would pass away a year later.
This is gutting. I'm so sorry. I lost my dad when I was 12 and I worried he didn't know I loved him. I worried about it, tortured myself over it. Still-- speaking as a mom and grandma, I can assure you: she loved you very much and she definitely knew that you loved her. Kids worry. Moms know, without a doubt, that they are loved.
DONT MARRY JEFF.
Jeff bad. Bitcoin!
Why?? I’m a good guy.
Hug dad more
I feel that holy shit. Here’s what I’d do: first I’d show him my college ID pic that I took at 18 years old. I’m 23 now so the image looks enough like me and him for him to understand and believer who I am. Then I’d shout slowly but as loud as I can:
“Dad pancan 2017”
Hopefully he’d look up what pancan is, and see that it refers to pancreatic cancer. 2017 is the year he got diagnosed with stage 4, he died 2 years later, but if we had checked even earlier we might’ve detected it sooner and at a smaller stage, he may have survived. I was 13 in 2012 so I’d have 5 years to make a difference. Hope I was smart enough at 13 where if this scenario had occurred I could’ve done something about it. If not, well… at least I’d know how much time I had left with him. Definitely could’ve appreciated him more, he was the best dad in the goddamn world
Edit: theres a pancan walk occurring in multiple cities across the US next Saturday, april 30. You don’t even have to walk, u can just donate to pancan.org if you’re so inclined. Thanks for the all the upvotes and awards
That sounds devastating. Pancreatic cancer is the worst. It is practically impossible to catch it before it is too late. It is usually not symptomatic until it is stage 4.
Still it is a nice thought to even dream about catching it early enough to save his life.
That’s what made me angriest about my dad getting pancreatic cancer. It wasn’t up until right at the end that there were signs. My dad apparently had known the year before, but they discovered he was already terminal. So he quietly kept it to himself and was fine for a whole year, and then one day he was on the floor screaming in agony and vomiting up blood, and less than 2 months later he was gone. You can’t even have the fantasy of “what if we saw the signs earlier” because there practically *are none*.
I’m so sorry for your loss 🥺
You are autistic.
That’s my three words. That would’ve solved so many god damn problems, knowing who I am
Edit: thank you so much for the awards 🥰 this is my first gold and y'all are so kind 😭
A PSA to other fellow autistics who struggle with it. Go get a trampoline and jump! It can rewire your brain. Also 15Hz beta waves help balance out the brain! Go try it out 😊🙌
It's "You have ADHD" for me, but otherwise same thing
Brush your teeth
can... can I show them my teeth as well, my 13 year old self wouldn't give a feck what my 30 year old self says unless I give physical examples.\_.
My kids see my fucked up teeth every day, and I *still* have to harass them about brushing and flossing.
Brush and floss\*
Floss. Every. Day.
I love you
Thank you for putting this into 3 words. Exactly this, my father has never said anything to me that was actually in my best interest.
Get brother help.
Edit: Hey all, I just want to say how touched I am by all of the replies to this. Three words brought so many people together; that is amazing if you think about it. Three words... many interpretations, all revolving around a similar state of mind. I just want to add three more words and a gesture I think about daily when I think of my brother:
**"I Love you"** *Hug*
Use these with family and friends as much as you can. Tomorrow can be too late.
This sounds so sad to me. Whatever this means, I'm sorry.
Printer was broken
This. My brother isn’t even 21 and he’s sitting in prison. Lost friends (they were killed). He doesn’t speak to my mom dad or our step dad. I’m all he’s got. I carry a lot of guilt and feel so small it’s a lot for me sometimes.
OP I truly hope you’re doing okay. If you’d ever like to talk DM me.
Edit: wow!! I’m out of words. I didn’t think people would even see my comment to start off. I’m overwhelmed with the amount of you showing love and being so kind. I’ve never experienced this irl when I talk about my brother doing time. Some of y’all can relate and it does break my heart but I feel less alone. I’m so appreciative to everyone who commented I will keep those words in mind always. Sorry if I didn’t get to reply to you there’s many comments and I lost track. Anyone who needs someone can always dm and vent❤️
I was gonna say "hit the gym" but... fuck. Now i want yours. My brother mixed opiates and alcohol and died years ago. Need to figure out how to word that in three words. Maybe "brother OD :insert date:"
Mom kills herself.
My only regret is how I dealt with the years of lead up, 13 would've been early enough for me to have made a difference, maybe...
It’s not your fault love. You as a kid couldn’t fix that it’s okay. ❤️
I want you to know it's not your fault. At all. I'm sorry you had to go through this.
Go to therapy
ETA: Aw I'm so glad this resonated with people, and thank you for the award! I finally went to therapy in my mid 20s, and it improved my quality of life so much.
Don't trade Charizard.
I wish I still knew where my holographic charizard card was 😢
The original "I forgot the password to my bitcoin wallet"
No student loans. Then a slap to drive the point home.
And for me..Double slap—“Don’t ever co-sign !!”
Stay in school
You live in school now. Secretly you are the bathroom ghost.
I'm doing quite well. Better than I deserve tbh. Just 20 years behind where I would've been.
But it's all good. Wouldn't trade what I have for anything.
"better than I deserve" refers to all the shady shit I did for which I didn't get caught.
And thank you so much for all the kind words. Everybody deserves happiness. But I've found that happiness is an inside job.
I wish I could say I'd phrase out investing in bitcoin like others, but ultimately I'd tell myself
Floor, call 911.
My mom was asleep on the couch when I was 16, I woke up in the middle of the night and she had fallen off the couch and onto the floor. I woke my sister up and we thought nothing of it - so we helped her back up and she fell back to sleep. My sister woke up at like 7am and my mom was essentially unresponsive on the couch, pulse, etc. but unresponsive. Turns out she had a stroke in her sleep due to an aneurysm. She was paralyzed on the entire left-side of her body and had to relearn basically everything from scratch. - her life was never the same and she suffered from a myriad of health issues for the next 25 years of her life and ultimately succumbed to cancer two years ago. While it's not about me, my life essentially completely changed from that moment forward and has shaped who I am today (spiteful, vengeful, complete nutcase, etc.). Anyways, I'd try and tell my younger self to call 911 and maybe things would be different for her.
**Edit:** Holy crap everyone, thanks for the all the love, awards, comments, etc. you lovable internet strangers! Didn't think my comment would get so much attention! I'm so sorry for all those that have or are experiencing things of the same nature. While there is the logical side of my brain that understands that even going back to that moment, even calling 911 wouldn't make much of a different, but there's always going to be that illogical side of my brain that refuses to believe any of that and will always blame myself (hence heaps and loads and years of therapy, etc.). But again I thank you all for the love, this is the most upvotes I've ever received, I'm framing it!
> it wasn’t your fault
I’ve been trying to tell this to a neighbour today as her husband killed himself last night. It’s heartbreaking seeing people blame themselves when they couldn’t have known.
Listen to dad
My mom was batshit insane and alienated her kids from dad. Would have saved me a lot of tears had I never trusted her.
Are you my sister??
My mom tried her damndest to brainwash my sister & I into thinking my dad was an awful human being. She was successful in that with me until she kicked me out of the house at (freshly) 19, in the middle of the night with no money and no where to go… I quickly learned that she was projecting. My dad & stepmom are absolutely wonderful people who put up with so much shit from me. I’m grateful for them, their love and their forgiveness every single day.
my ex tried to take my youngest from me with poison words too. my ex abandoned my youngest when they were 17 when my ex started dating again—a kid was inconvenient apparently.
my youngest needed medical attention and my ex couldn’t be bothered so the hospital called me in desperation (and also called CPS too). this gave me an in to give context to my child; to give my side.
we are so close now and I am so grateful for being given an opportunity to have a relationship with my youngest again.
your post made me almost cry, ty for sharing.
to all of y’all that know your parent only through the eyes/words of the other parent… yeah, they may be just the person they say they are, but they may not be.
find out for *yourself*.
I must be sisters with you guys too lol. same story over here. My mom is a classic narcissist and most definitely borderline. She HATES my dad and put so much poison in my brain as a kid. I had to go no contact with her 5 or so years ago.
damn family reunion over here
I was in my mid-twenties before I realized that most of the problems I had with my father were actually my mother's problems with him. He's still a jackass, but he's a jackass for reasons I figured out all by myself.
WEAR A CONDOM
Whats the kids name?
NAT HAS HERPES
This is the best crossover I’ve ever seen.
"His name is luke, it's short for leukemia."
"Don't worry he doesn't actually have it, we just shave his head and collect the welfare checks."
-The Grimsby Brothers
Herpes is a terrible name for a kid
Treat her better
You were abused
(grinning): "brush your teeth!"
Yes! Not because my teeth are horrible but I could have avoided a lot of unnecessary dental work if I had just taken better care of my teeth.
My problem was I brushed too hard and not up and down. Wore the enamel off the sides.
Wish I'd got an electric toothbrush much earlier.
I lost my best friend at 9 years old and still think about him every week. I’m 32.
this july will be 15 years since my best friend got killed, along with her mom and her sister, by her dad. we were both 11. i haven't stopped thinking about her since.
I love you.
Nobody else was saying it to me and meaning it.
Don't date \_\_\_\_\_\_\_
This was mine too. My first relationship was a whole ptsd experience, and though I learned a lot from it, it still haunts me.
Same 100%. Unless there's something I could say to make enough money that I can cope with lol
“Buy 1000 Bitcoin”
Best option only because lotto numbers would be more than three words.
I’ve always said, if an older, fat, bald version of me stepped out of a portal from the future and gave me tips like “invest in bitcoin” I’d be pissed- “you mean you came back from the future and I still have to go to work? And what the fuck bro, we’re fat and bald”
And this is where old me says “actually that’s your fucking fault. Now get back to work.”
Enjoy your childhood
This one hits harder than others.
Nat has herpes
Can you imagine? A portal from the future rends the fabric of reality, you see yourself aged and stressed, expecting the most profound moment of your life and - “Nat has herpes”
Not only that... Its the genital kind too.
Damn was hoping for the gentle kind
Now it’s yourpes
Tell someone please. He would know what that means and I think it would save us from years of heartache.
Tell your brother.
Whatever it is, I hope your brother knows now <3
Save up money.
TALK TO PEOPLE
I had these exact words in mind before I entered the comment section. Damn.
You brain-injured. I was and didn't find out until I was 48!
Would you care to explain how could you be brain-injured and not suspect it???
I was hit by a car at age 11, in 1976, and had emergency head surgery that saved my life. The brain injury is residual from that. The primitive diagnostic testing techniques of those old days couldn't detect the brain injury, so I was misdiagnosed with major mental illness. In 2013, when I was 48 years old, head MRIs finally detected the brain injury, but both University Health Network and CAMH are afraid of legal liability, so they continue to fabricate the misdiagnosis in order to protect their money.
Sometimes I wonder if I should do something like that, too... Because I got a cow hoof to the face when I was two
Couldn't hurt. At the very least you'll know whether you just need to read a book or if you need major surgery.
> Couldn't hurt.
Never had it happend to me but i belive 100% that a cow hoof to the face could hurt very much.
Exercise, socialize, study
I don't need a time traveler to tell me that, my parents already did. I just did not listen.
Invest Amazon 2003
You heavily invest in the Amazon rainforest only to have 70% of it destroyed by 2030.
You are destitute.
I feel like I just watched an exchange of a Text RPG from the late 90s.
"You have died of disenfranchisement"
Excellent quip and even more hilariously impressive username.
If we’re going to go that route I’d say “1,000 bitcoins 2010”
This was my thought also after reading Amazon. 13yo me and 2003 me don't have much money for Amazon. But 2010 Bitcoin isa few cents and rises to 30k!
But it would shoot up to $100 and you'd cash out lol
I was thinking the same and thought "bitcoin sell 2021" rather than "buy" (or whenever the peak was) might help my younger self not prematurely sell but I'd realize to buy it as soon as it was available.
Happiness isn’t linear.
Everyone needs to know this at any stage of life but I wish I was told that back at 13, so I would know earlier that life is full of ups and downs, the downs will go back up, tho the ups don’t always last long.
Alcohol. Bad. Don’t.
You'll be ok
Leave Jehovah's Witnesses.
Those 3 words would have the biggest positive impact on my life. Even more than crypto or covid.
I had a close work friend recently commit suicide and I blame JW 100%. She was a Jehovas Witness and had been struggling with mental health issues and had been closet drinking to cope. She went to her grandparents about it (also JW) and instead of offering her support, they reported her to the church and then began talks of excommunication. She lived with her grandparents, so excommunication would have left her homeless. A few days later, she left work on her lunch break and never came back. The next time anyone saw her, she was laying on the freeway, dead. She had jumped from the bridge above. Jehovas Witnesses is a cult.
"People love you. "
those times were rough.
In the way only a stranger can, I love you, take care.
You have ADHD.
Spent most of my life thinking I was crazy and a special kind of broken. It turned out to be just garden variety ADHD. I was only diagnosed at 26.
Edit: Since this comment unexpectedly blew up, I figured I'd take this opportunity to share some of my favourite helpful stuff I found:
HowToADHD's [Myths Video](https://youtu.be/V5tLi1bYilA) and [Wall of Awful](https://youtu.be/hlObsAeFNVk).
Seriously, just watch the whole channel.
Connor deWolfe [TikTok compilation](https://youtu.be/FE-k0yV-KF0).
Surprisingly good info! And he has a YouTube channel too. But I just really love this vid.
Allie Ward's ologies [podcast episode](https://www.alieward.com/ologies/adhd) with Dr Russel Barkley.
And lastly an interactive guide to help when [Everything is Awful and I am Not Okay.](https://philome.la/jace_harr/you-feel-like-shit-an-interactive-self-care-guide/play/index.html).
This is the [original post](https://www.google.com/amp/s/eponis.tumblr.com/post/113798088670/everything-is-awful-and-im-not-okay-questions-to/amp) that was based on. It has a printable pdf too.
I wasn't told I was autistic until I was in my mid 30's, or that I had ADHD until I was 41. When I was a kid I was diagnosed with "lazy" and prescribed "punish him more" as a treatment. Spent my whole childhood thinking I was a disappointment and broken amd wrong.
ADHD is damn mess. I really wish I had known sooner.
It gets better
Don't use tobacco
Talk about drowning.
When I was 12, I almost died in a rip tide on a trip with a friends family. The family I was with told my parents it was nothing (afraid of lawsuit perhaps). And told me that they had told them the whole story. Basically, the lifeguard saved me at the last minute, and the rip tides were so bad the beach was shut down for days afterwards. But my parents never knew a life guard had to save and were told I got scared and over reacted. The ptsd from almost dying (I had given up and was dying when the lifeguard reached me) led to depression and drug use as a teen. If my parents had known I truly gave up and thought I was dying and was ok with it, they would have gotten me therapy and my whole life would have been different.
Edit to add: I’m simply answering the question asked- what would you say to a younger version of your self and why? I don’t dwell on this. I figured it out in my twenties, talked to my parents (they were shocked about the real story), talked to a therapist and am doing great. I lost some formative years there but came out ok.
Thank you to everyone who has shared their own stories. I’ve read them all and given the updoot. And thank you for all the kind words and support.
I hope you talk about it now. I was a flight nurse for a long time, drownings were always the hardest. In fact, I went on leave this year after our little county had 8 drownings in 6 weeks, 6/8 were minors, and I knew half the victims. Please share your story. In your own healing, that conversation could be the key to saving another person’s life. 💙💙💙💙
Please make a LPT in about a month. If I recall correctly, memorial day weekend has the highest downing rate. It's the first day of summer that the pools are open and everyone gets excited but isn't yet in summer swimming safety mode.
Wow, I'm so sorry that happened to you and glad you're able to recognise this now as an adult. I hope you're in a much better place mentally now.
Something similar happened to me at about the same age. I was kneeboarding on a river (with family friends) which required my legs to be strapped into a little floating board. I let go of the boat's rope that was pulling me along the river and when it came to a stop it flipped upside down trapping me under the board in deep water. I started flailing to try to flip it back over but it wouldn't turn right side up and I was under the water for a while before I realised I needed to unstrap my legs. It was really hard to see what I was doing and where the straps were, but luckily they were Velcro and so once I found them they came right off and then I was free and able to get my head above the water.
My friend's family didn't hide the fact it happened and the father of the family quickly stripped down to jump in the water to save me from drowning once he realised what was happening so he may have been able to save me if I was truly stuck anyway. (So it's not nearly as serious as your story.)
It's amazing how often I think about this moment though and the feeling of "oh, this could be the end" that I had as a 12 year old who had never really considered their own mortality before. I get really bad anxiety and I'm a bit of a control freak and reading your story I really wonder if this is one of the reasons why now! I'm going to start therapy in a month so I'm leaving this comment to help me to remember to bring it up as a possible source.
Get ADHD medication
Get that beer. I didn't stop for a beer on my way home. I was hit by a dump truck and paralyzed. If I stopped the truck and I wouldn't be there.
Bitcoin hits 50k
This is the most useful bitcoin advice on here. Just telling me to buy it, I'd have ended up cashing out at $100
bitcoin 50k 2021
So i wonder how many Bit Coin billionaires are time travellers?
Some have postulated that's what the lotteries and Powerballs are for, to catch Time Travelers. Which explains why many suffer unsavory demises in one form or another.
Thats a lit conspiracy
Great movie concept.
Yea, I want to watch this movie.
Maybe a non time traveler actually somehow wins and is hunted.
ok NOW i want to see it
*"He's a predator."*
About my then 23 year old "boyfriend" for obvious reasons.
Edit: thank you everyone for the kind responses. It means a lot. 💓 If you have kids, please love and care for them unconditionally. Never let abandonment be an option. Trauma doesn't make children unloveable. And if you are also an SA survivor please know it was never your fault.
Dang when you were 13?
Yep. Unfortunately didn't have anyone looking out for me and that "relationship" set off events that lead to me being in a group home at 14. It was bad.
He’s grooming you.
Buy Apple Stock
Then your young self invests everything in a fruit orchard.
Just have fun
Haha you gay
I love that "haha" is one of the three words lmao
Needs finger guns afterhand
Okay but just picture some adult just phrasing into existence calling you gay *with fingerguns* then once again phasing out of existence.
>Okay but just picture some adult just phrasing into existence calling you gay *with fingerguns* then once again phasing out of existence.
And so, he sent a *dick* to me,
The finest pic there was to see!
A shining scene that runs amok
Inside my mind:
I laughed aloud and softly sighed,
And stared below with hope and pride,
To where it sat, a shape in shade,
And such a lovely sight it made!
I saw it then,
I see it yet,
I see the sordid silhouette,
And still I'm loath to look away,
I might be gay.
Wash your ass
You have Autism.
Imagine an adult who kind of looks like you strolling up, calling you autistic, then walking away with no explanation.
"just another weird day in my weird life where people around me act in ways I just don't understand."
Ohh wow, thanks for the awards!! That was not expected at all
Wish i had a free award for you rn
Give a f\*ck.
Stop starving yourself.
Lay off WoW.
Decreased time on Wow from 39 hours to 38 hours due to your advice!
You are enough
Incest in Bitcoin
Oh please leave that typo
Not a typo... OP's future kid is named "Bitcoin"
"What are you *doing*, step-coin?"
Advocate for yourself!
"Wait two decades."
She struggled with suicidal thoughts in her later teenage years and when her baby was first born. Knowing that The Good Shit (tm) happens when she's in her 30s should keep her going... and hopeful.
“You aren’t fat.”
Thanks for the awards my friends. I do hope this thread is seen by someone who is still young and is starting to have body issues. Or someone who is being told they have weight issues by the very same people who are supposed to love you.
You’re perfect. If you feel the need to improve your self for health reasons or just because you want to, go for it. Doing it for any other reason than for yourself never results in true happiness.
This. If I was now the size I was back then then I’d be thrilled. Back then I thought I was huge.
"I wish I was as thin as the first time I thought I was fat."