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jagulto

yeah, my career lacks frustration. it's really simple: set boundaries and do not stand for people that one up eachother with "i worked 80 hours this week." Be fit and make other's feel ashamed for sacrificing their health for a job that would replace them in an instant of they died. Instead of everyone competing for who works the most, start shaming people for working too much. Problem solved.


DownBadddddd

You don’t need to shame ppl but ya


jagulto

nope... [This discovery led us to embark on more recent research on the adaptive significance of shame as an emotional signal to motivate self-change. In one paper, we have shown that shame, more than guilt, embarrassment, and regret, motivates a desire to change oneself (Lickel, Kushlev, & Schmader, 2014).](https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/creative-synthesis/201501/shame-and-motivation-change) [https://socialidentitylab.psych.ubc.ca/research/shame-and-guilt/#:\~:text=This%20discovery%20led%20us%20to,%2C%20%26%20Schmader%2C%202014](https://socialidentitylab.psych.ubc.ca/research/shame-and-guilt/#:~:text=This%20discovery%20led%20us%20to,%2C%20%26%20Schmader%2C%202014)). [https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25401288/](https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/25401288/) [https://www.vox.com/first-person/2019/4/18/18308346/shame-toxic-productive](https://www.vox.com/first-person/2019/4/18/18308346/shame-toxic-productive) [https://www.jbs.cam.ac.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/wp0807.pdf](https://www.jbs.cam.ac.uk/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/wp0807.pdf) [http://chrisoneth.com/blog/shame-the-cruel-motivator](http://chrisoneth.com/blog/shame-the-cruel-motivator) ​ Many of the issues we face today are because we lost sight of this very powerful and very important motivator.


DownBadddddd

Ok lol go ahead and shame everyone who doesn’t conform to your world view...?


jagulto

no, not mine. stop being to obtuse. the world view that's best for the world. We do it for many things currently: getting vaccinated, wearing masks, whipping your ass, covering your face when you cough, etc etc etc. If people don't conform, we shame them. But we lost site of many things that create world problems: obesity, overworking, putting your job before your life. This, very clearly, isn't my opinion. It's the opinion of leading psychologist, as indicated above. Go argue with the scientific consensus and see how little shame follows, these days.


bumpugly

I siwtched from 46 hours a week to 32. I have to budget a little more, but I feel like I have my life back.


Automatic_Mulberry

I volunteered for a demotion because my supervisor was starting to insinuate that I ought to work over the weekends. My demotion involved a move to a 4x10 schedule, never any unpaid overtime, never on call. Always three consecutive days off each week. And, because I work a nonstandard shift, I get a shift differential of 10%. So - fewer hours of work, fewer days of work, less responsibility, and more money. And I am a top performer in my new role, so I get the top raise and bonus (or close to it) each year.


Adaldo

UK here, I assume you’re in USA. Workweek hours are much shorter ~35. Having lived and worked in America for a long time I much prefer generous benefits and shorter hours it really makes a big difference balance-wise. Wages are comparable to USA but taxed more but we do get free healthcare at the point of use.