Spouses who married the cool girl/boy from your high school, what are they like now?
By - DeezyEast
My mom was the elite Atlanta debutante and lived a very cushy life at a budding Miami country club. Beautiful and very popular at the private school. My dad grew up on a farm in Virginia. They weren't poor but they were definitely not refined.
Eventually my father's family made it down to Miami after selling the farm. He became the lifeguard at the country club pool where my mom spent days lounging about. My parents say they saw each other and that was it. The scandal was great - the debutante and the lowly lifeguard....
They just celebrated 54 years of marriage. My "lowly" lifeguard father made quite the life for my mom regardless of what all those elite twats said was going to happen. She gladly left the country club life for him and they are still so utterly in love it's crazy. He carries a photo of her at the pool where they met. The only references she makes to being "that girl" are that they proved everyone wrong.
They are beautiful and I love their story.
Did your maternal grandparents disapprove of him? Or did they embrace your dad? Was it one of those challenges your parents had to deal with?
They very much disapproved!! My grandmother was not a nice person. And my mother's older sister was the most vocal about how her life would turn out. But after seeing how hard my father worked and how he treated my mom her parents came around. My father was very successful and they live a comfortable life. My mom's life turned out far better than her sister's. I've never been close to my aunt. She reminds me of the wicked step sisters in Cinderella.
That’s cool that your parents /or your dad proved them wrong!
Not me but my mom married my dad who who was hot shit. They met in college when he was an absolute hellion. But since then he became a doctor, still a really fun dude. He’s also a licensed contractor so when he was bored he built a 6000 square foot barn in our backyard over 10 years completely on his own.
Absolutely stand up dude.
Building a barn for boredom is impressive. Your mom did good!
wtf this guy is a gigachad.
Not *A* gigachad, he's *THE* gigachad
I married the cool, outgoing, outdoorsy, sporty high school jock. Turns out he’s secretly as geeky and introverted as I am. He’s still the same person 25 years later.
Fell in love after we met couple of years after graduation. She used to be the cool girl and I was the quite interovert. Found out apart from being cool, she was also a very loving person. Married her. She gave meaning and purpose to my life.
I can get through life only with her beside me.
She is still as cool and as hot headed as she was. Quick to battle anyone and everyone, if she thinks they are wrong (to my dismay).
I married the cool girl. Super athletic, everyone was her friend. We started dating in high school.
She's kept up everything people loved about her. Nowadays she isn't as interested in other people, and focuses on herself, her career, us and our future. We're planning to buy a house and have kids soon. I'm the breadwinner today but I'm not so sure if that'll be true in a few years lol
As it turned out, I married one of the mean girls, didn't go to her school, didn't find out she was considered that til after the divorce. That's how it turned out.
Then I dated one of the cool chicks. Did go to her school, did know she was considered that. And she was the most amazing human being I've ever known. That one didn't work out either.
Now I'm just retired from relationships for a bit, strike 3 would kill me right now
Thanks all. This was very therapeutic. I have friends and family that are awesome. Hopefully I'll have more Someday.
For now it's me and my kids I'm focusing on.
I like the whole two swings and you’re out..really speeds up the game
i'm the opposite of this question... i totally peaked in high school. was cheerleading captain, valedictorian, prom queen. super involved and outgoing.
now i'm fat and very unnoticeable, not pretty and maybe not ugly just bland, and incredibly shy and reserved. don't really have many/any friends. but married my high school sweetheart, who was quiet and mostly flew under the radar- and now he is outgoing, successful, and more and more handsome by the year.
You only peaked in high school if you think that. Believe in yourself and the world is your oyster.
I fucking hate oysters. The world is my banana and I am the inside part of the banana.
I'm an introvert and he's an extrovert. I never knew what to say to him in highschool because he was so cool and funny, he intimidated me. Now our differences compliment each other I think and we're very happy.
Very sweet. How did you finally make a connection?
She took of her glasses and shook out her hair, then she was suddenly incredibly hot.
Ok let's try hair down glasses on
Have we done up/off?
There's still SO much light in here :/
Unh, I think there still some light coming in from under the door!
No, not Janey Briggs. She's got glasses. And a ponytail. Ugh, she's got paint on her overalls. What is that?
Janey Briggs?? OMG SHE'S GOT A GUN!!
I almost pissed myself explaining this comment to my husband.
JANEY'S GOT A GUN
That movie was peak 2000’s
He was a boy. She's just a girl.
Can i make it any more obvious?
He was a punk, she did ballet
My husband was the prom king and star athlete. I was a super awkward marching band nerd with severe scoliosis and a heart condition.
He’s always been sweet, silly, smart and kind.
Still can’t believe we’re married.
Edit: I whipped up a proof collage: https://imgur.com/gallery/ozbW0EW
Edit 2: I’ll add that we didn’t go to the same high school but we met in college. My confidence had drastically improved by then. I was still a dork though and he was a college baseball player. (Pitcher)
Honestly, we’re both dorks :)
Can’t believe you posted the X-ray, legit.
Lol yeah but I mean as far as posting proof of your nerd cred goes...a marching band pic and a scoliosis x-ray are pretty far up there
It looks like a starter pack.
Or as a nerd would call it, a proof collage.
“Proof collage”, I’m in awe.
You’re obviously a genius, that’s why he married you.
I might not be hot, but I’m smartish. :)
To be honest, pretty sure he married me for my sense of humor.
Here’s a clip of me telling some jokes and at the end I propose to him:
I should have used this for my proof presentation! (We’ve advanced from collage.)
I have no idea how to describe the energy you project but it's absolutely fascinating in an incredibly positive way! Thank you for posting that!
Her timing gives me Mitch Hedberg vibes.
OMG I LOVE the valley girl doing geography joke thank you for posting this and starting my day with this.
Edited to say: I have now finished it and I love your entire set and your clever humor.
That was awesome. Thanks for sharing!
That was the cutest, sweetest and funniest thing I’ve ever seen on the internet. Thanks for posting.
Watched your clip. Love your style of comedy. You are plus one fan.
"Telling some jokes." That's a tight af 8.5 minutes and you know it. I kept screaming "fuck off" at my phone while I was watching it cause the jokes were so simple but hit just right and your timing so stupid good.
I clicked half-heartedly and she won me whole-heartedly.
Same here. I hardly ever bother with YouTube links on reddit, but that was 100% worth my time and I'm happy I clicked.
The sheep one got me
"You herd me" killed me.
Think this might be my favourite comment on Reddit! Couldn't stop laughing then couldn't stop awww-ing at the end. You are both adorable together and I wish you both all the happiness in the world!
I did not expect to actually watch the whole thing let alone be laughing through the whole thing. You’re hilarious. I was already sold on any proof because of how happy you both looked in the photo but seeing it all on video play out was absolutely adorable as well.
That was awesome
This is the best video I have seen in at least a year, thank you for sharing! Your sense of humor is amazing, and willing to bet you are a little beyond that smartish category.
My sister married the prom king/starting runningback from her high school. He got fat, but also is a nice dude who makes a killing running some kind of raw materials company. Doesn't talk about the past at all.
EDIT: can someone explain why this simple ass comment got 19k upvotes? Lol
Fat & Happy
Not a bad life
EDIT: Y'all need to chill
Never thought I'd find an a life goal from gandalfsmagicgaydick. Now you've got me questioning so many things...
But did he score 4 TD’s in a single game?
Al, that you?
No, like this,
“What, Peg?! I’m right here!”
Bet he could throw a football over that mountain.
Many former athletes get fat because they got a taste of freedom that they dont need to maintain their workout and diet anymore. I am a former fighter and I am now fat
There's also the fact that workouts & practice burn a lot of calories & transitioning away from burning thousands of calories a day under 2000 can pack on the lbs quickly if you don't adjust your diet. The inverse can happen too - alot of pro NFL linemen quickly shed pounds once they retire because they no longer need to be 350lbs.
I used to be able to eat 2-3 burgers in one sitting, and was still skinny as a semi professional badminton player. Went to grad school, stopped playing, continued eating. I ballooned pretty quickly!
whoa are you a character from a wes anderson movie
Quick, check his colour palette.
Damn... He's dusty saturated whimsy nostalgic colored as fuck!
Wait, does he have a clever pairing of lavender and mauve?
I went through a couple of those fat fluctuations after I got out of the marines. Takes a bit to adjust from running several miles a day to a different lifestyle. You just have to find a good balance for your normal everyday life. I used to eat 2k+ like it was nothing but now I just munch on handfuls throughout the day because I don't have that physical demand
Steve Holt from an alternate universe?
My highschool friend was the "cool-guy".
Everyone liked him, guys and girls. He never got into fights, was always instantly invited everywhere and girls totally swooned over him.
He's still the same awesome dude. Hasn't changed a bit.
He married an incredibly hot nurse.
I like when stories end where the person continues being awesome. There are too many where they somehow let themselves go.
Honestly, I think the awesome people continuing to be awesome is likely the norm rather than the exception.
I'm 15 years out and everyone I'm still aware of is pretty much the same. Some are richer, some poorer, some married/single/divorced, but all approximately the same personality wise. Cool, shitty, reliable, stubborn, slutty, shy, whatever- almost without exception, the adult version is some degree of whatever they were in school. The few exceptions tend to be the ones that actively concealed things in school due to some stigma/prejudice or other (ie, the small town gay kid that came out 2 years into/out of college).
My mum was the nerdy girl who got all the As and had zero social skills, and somehow managed to start dating my dad who was the popular, good-looking guy who everyone thought would peak in high school.
She was actually advised by her family and friends that he wouldn’t give her the future she was hoping for. They got married at 19, had me when they were 20, and while they were pretty broke the first few years of my life, he paid for my mum to attend law school, started his own business and 25 years later with 3 kids, they’re still so in love and have a pretty cushy life.
My dad actually met one of the loud voices who told my mum she was making a big mistake marrying him, and she had said how she always knew he would turn out well, which he found hilarious.
So by paying your mothers tuition fees he DID help to provide her with the life she wanted. I love that!
In my relationship, i came from no money. And my partners family do have money. When we first got together I was sat down by his mother and she told me in sort of a warning way: “i dont want my son financing your relationship.”
I was a bit shocked as quite frankly neither of us had money in the bank. We worked independently and saved when we could. Ten years in, it was actually ‘my’ money that bought us our first home, not his. So its my little redemption on that judgmental comment early on.
Over the decade i’ve grown to know who she is. And while she is definitely money oriented sometimes, I love her very much and she does have a big heart. Just maybe dont fire the canons at your sons partner in the first month… hahaha
My mother in law loves me unconditionally but she, too, got a bit protective in the earlier years haha. She thought he "needed" a housewife.
Turns out HE wanted to be a (part time) househusband and I absolutely love my job and like being a breadwinner, and she wasnt used to that!
Now she is a massive advocate for us, and she and my father in law print out my writing and keep it on the coffee table.
Yeah I think that's just a natural reaction. My MIL was protective too. I don't think she thought I was good enough for her son. She would go on and on about a different girl that was his best friend for a while (he had feelings for her, but she didn't for him).
After a while, she realized I wasn't going anywhere and decided to embrace me. 12 years later and she refers to me as her daughter. I hope to be aware of the overprotective mom thing and don't do the same thing with my son. I think my only question to the person he dated would be "do you make each other happy? Ok, good enough for me."
Aww. I was scared it was going to be revealed they divorced or something but knowing that your parents have been through thick and thin, got married and had you at such a year age, and they still unconditionally love eachother is so wholesome 🥰
My mom was the cool girl all through high school, undergrad, grad school. But life didn't go that well. For most of her life, she had to be caring for someone in the family who was ill, and that took a huge toll on her. First it was her dad, then it was me (I had childhood illnesses), then her inlaws in quick succession, then her dad again, and finally she had to nurse my dad until he passed away from a terminal illness. She was meant to be social and have fun, and instead she was forced to be around sickness and sadness for her best years.
But she is a very happy and mentally strong person in general who made the best of things. She hosted a lot of people and events. My house growing up was full of people visiting and having fun. She's very charming and easy to talk to, and has a lot of fans all the time.
Though, my siblings and I find her social side rather annoying. She isn't like that with us, and she tells us her charming side is just an act, and the real her is the lady who is constantly critical of us "for our own good". She likes having groupies hanging around, people who are happy to take her help and be grateful to her. She has very few friends who could be considered her equals.
She also expects a lot from other people and is constantly disappointed. She wants to be the center of everything. She doesn't know to be a guest at anything, she somehow ends up running every event she's invited to. She sincerely believes she's helping, but it's just disrespectful sometimes and when we tell her that, she doesn't get it. She likes to dominate everything and make decisions for everyone. We joke that if the prime minister was her friend, she'd somehow end up running the country for him.
I married the football/baseball start, voted best looking... His brother died while they were in high school shortly after he broke his collarbone and ruined any chances of college sports. He was good at masking his feelings for years. He’s now in rehab for alcohol and about 100 lbs heavier.
I started dating a popular, athletic (varsity volleyball and softball as a freshman) girl in our senior year, when I was at the peak of my weird emo phase.
People teased her so badly she broke up with me the first week, but quickly realized she didn't give a shit about what others were saying and we got back together. We've been married nearly six years now, in our 30s.
She's largely the same sarcastic, funny person I fell in love with, but more mature as you'd expect with age. Very great mother, the breadwinner and glue that holds us all together. We also have an asshole dog now, too.
My dad was crazy popular. Prom king, salutatorian, running back, serious ladies man. He met my mom in a nursing class in college which he took to meet girls (lecture course and he was the only guy in a sea of women- this was the 70s)
They married, he became a car sales man, developed a terrible drug habit and died of a heart attack at 52
Edit: The car salesman thing was in the 80s so it was like American Psycho without all of the murder but with all of the cocaine. All of it. I’m surprised there is any left.
Edit 2: Thank you all for the kind words and interesting replies. Also my first awards on Reddit would be from a random insomniac post.
I was only around for the back half but I can tell you my father was magnetic- even in his later crispy drug addled years he was still drawing people into his orbit with his awesome personality. Just flew too close to the sun- and then after years of therapy I could post about it at 3am on Reddit lol
That is a great and accurate description of car sales in the 80s.
Also a lot of laundering of drug money in the DC area dealers and shell deals selling cars to the drug dealers girlfriends, etc. They cracked down in the late 80s and early 90s. One of the places I worked kept a high ranking DC cop in a 280z then a 300z and he warned us when we were under surveillance, 35 years ago so I don't remember the name or exact rank.
A couple of articles I found
Lol I sold cars for a while and you can definitely tell which guys have been doing it since the 80s. They all look shriveled or “rode hard and put up wet”. Must’ve been a wild time to be in the game
I'm in sales now, and some of the stories from back then make me go "are you guys for real?" For example, one of my coworkers tells the story that after a big front end deal, his "spiff" (an on the spot bonus given at the discretion of a sales manager or general manager) was a line of coke.
Now, everyone's just on Adderall instead, so I guess that's better?
I worked sales for years and worked with a guy that did car sales in the 90's. He told me his sales manager would give everyone a line of coke in the morning and you didn't get another until you sold a car.
I've heard of keeping your salespeople hungry, but that may be taking it too far.
I worked at a car dealership where -- once you sold a car -- you spent the rest of the day out back in the bay drinking beer with the general manager and sales manager.
The GM and sales manager were the ones who supplied the beer and encouraged getting completely shit-faced until it was time to say goodbye and ... drive home. The sales manager needed a ride to work every day because he'd lost his license.
Also, this means the dealerships two managers where at a perpetual drunken state, and these two motherfuckers thought they could sell ice to an Eskimo once us sales guys needed help with customers.
Slurring, red faces, obvious drunk grins, wobbling or swaying, being loud, belching, swearing... all of the above, and that doesn't even cover how much these two smelled like a bag of beer cans put out in the sun on Friday to go to the dump on Saturday. It was a shit show.
I told my wife there is a question on r/AskReddit she can actually respond to...I think I broke her because she hasn't stopped laughing.
Best response on here
Found out recently (30 M) that my dad was extremely popular in highschool from my aunt. I had no idea he was an all-star football player with lots of college offers and was prom and homecoming king. Never talks about it, but he's doing well. 2 kids, a dog, and a loving wife, imo he's still winning.
The dog got mentioned before the loving wife lol
My dad always kept pictures of his dogs in his wallet. Didn't leave much room for pics of my mom.
One time I stopped by my moms office to drop off lunch for her. On her desk were four pictures: my brother, my dad, her dog, and a goat that she printed off the internet.
Is it a baby goat?
So....her favourite kid?
nah the goat was meant to represent you bruh, in her eyes you're the goat
My brother married the a popular girl, she was homecoming queen, prom queen, on varsity teams, in band, an honor roll student, beautiful, and super nice. 17ish years and 2 kids later, she is still a sweetheart, beautiful, and athletic.
Look at your brother. Did he have glasses in school but took them off at a pivotal point while he was helping her studying for the big test and they kissed but she went to prom with Steve the prom king anyway but during the dance she left steve and saved your brother from Steve and His gang who bullied your brother since he had new clothes and no glasses at the prom? Did that happen?
He did start wearing contacts in high school...
You son of a bitch!
That moment when you realize how he actually got her is the plot to a 90s teen rom com.
No, not Janey Briggs! She's got glasses, and a ponytail! Ugh, she's got paint on her overalls! What is that?
There were times when I would be watching an MCU movie and I'd suddenly remember: I've seen that guy's butt with whipped cream on it. A surreal experience.
Your brother is a romcom anime protagonist.
after every romcom anime the earth explodes but they don't tell you that
My wife was the hot girl that everyone gossiped about. She’s still super hot but Is such a wonderful, supportive, loving person. It makes me sad no one took the time to get to really know her when she was young.
Hey buddy, YOU did! That's all that matters.
I married one of our high school sweethearts. We started dating there in the late 70's. A girl everyone loved. Long straight hair down to her rear end. Smiled all the time. Always in the beauty contestant shows and always generous and friendly. Fast forward to now and she is still good looking and does not look her age of 60. Great mother and grandmother and still as good a person now as she was when I met her in 77.
My brother was one of the hottest guys in high school and went on to be a model. He’s still cool and hot to many but now he’s a bit fat.
He’s my brother so ewww on the hot part in my opinion. But women still swoon and he’s so obnoxious. Think Matt Dillon, etc…. Era.
He got dumped by his model 17 years younger wife for a 26 year old.
He has impossible standards and it’s making him miserable. He’s into these flashy shallow women.
Overall he’s doing really well and his business is thriving.
You had me at “a bit fat.”
that was a ride lol.
>He got dumped by his model 17 years younger wife for a 26 year old.
I hate to say it, but if you date a model 17 years younger than you and you're not "model-hot" anymore, this should probably be expected.
My condolences to your brother. May he develop more...realistic and ultimately satisfying standards.
This is exactly why I never got involved with a 17 years younger model!
Mom was the cool girl. Still is, still literally gets stopped by strangers talking about how cool/pretty/whatever she looks/acts.
BUT divorced (husband cheated) and widowed (second husband died), so never really managed to get a happily ever after in romance.
I’ve only seen her as a grown-up of course, but going by pictures + what I remember as a kid, she hasn’t changed all that much, I think sometimes she’s too used to people being “in her orbit” and will get sad if something happens where she’s not involved. Not overtly so, but you can see she’s expecting everyone to always want her there.
Do we have the same mom lmao
Did you also kill your mothers second husband?
That oedipus-calated quickly.
Wow never seen a pun stretched that long and still work, *killer* joke
I always think about this guy in my HS, he was super popular and the best friend of the worst bully I ever had. I won't say his name but he went on to be a pro football player and I always idolized him because of his actions on one single day. He pulled me aside and told me that he noticed I almost never ate lunch, he game me $20 and told me to make sure i ate well and that he was sorry he was so mean to me.
For anyone who has ever hesitated on apologizing, I will never forget that person and I will never think he didn't deserve his popularity. I was picked on, but bitter.
My best friend was prom king 14 years ago. Now he owns a successful small business. Never had a girlfriend. Never had a boyfriend. Not sure about his sexuality but he’s a kickass dude. Proud he calls me a friend as I’m an awkward introvert.
Edit: thanks for the award U/camel_cum ! I’ve only met one camel in my life and we didn’t hit it off.
He's waiting for you to realize you're in love with him so you two can run away together.
But... what about the successful small business?
Sell it and start a new one.
Open an apothecary in a small town
This person startups
This is an interesting one.
She still the nicest and gorgeous girl I ever met. Nothing change, she is studying to be a pharmacist, that's something no one would guess, since she always loved History and her school didn't had Biology or Chemistry
Edit: we weren't from the same school, but she was one of the most popular girl from the school, neighbourhood and university class (I met her on a graduation we both gave up)
Just curious, how does a school not have biology or chemistry? Impressive that she is studying pharmacy despite not studying biology and chemistry in school! :)
Public schools in our country are of terrible quality, many students spend years without having teachers in certain subjects, and that's what happened to her. She is from a poor family, so she couldn't afford private school. You can count on your fingers how many Biology and Chemistry classes she had. She got a scholarship to a university here in the state we live in, so she's doing it there.
She's pretty smart, so she learns fast, but she often freaked out because she didn't know certain basic subjects and needed to research things she should have learned when she was 14 years old.
We both are members of a group that tries to change the public schools, turn it into a real place of knowledge, but it's a long way...
I am somehow proud of both of you though I don't know who you are at all.
Edit: Thank you for the gold, stranger! Hope your day goes well!
Edit2: Thanks for the silver as well! Best wishes to you guys!
Reading these answers about prom kings, head cheerleaders, quarterbacks etc just has me as a Canadian going “wow, American highschool really IS like on TV”
The highschool experience just really isn’t the same here, at least not in my experience, I don’t even think our ideas of “popular” were really the same, mainly due to how much less important sports are here. I think without football reigning supreme it allows for way more variation for what makes someone popular.
Exactly my thought I am from Luxemburg and here in school there isn't even the concept of 'the popular kid'. I always thought the highschools in America were exagerrating how it is but it seems to actually be (mostly) this wild. Maybe some American here can clarify how much of the movies is actually true
I grew up in Texas so high school football was HUGE. I went to a big school, (around 2000 kids) played on the team and dated a cheerleader and for the most it’s pretty close to what you see in the movies.
Friday night lights the tv show is like a documentary of Texas high school life.
Varsity Blues too.
Yeah like we had well liked people who were “popular” because they were nice and likeable and so everyone liked them. But they could be overweight, nerdy smart, in band or drama etc different kids were popular among different groups for different reasons.
There's also a phenomenon where self proclaimed popular kids are actually well hated throughout the school outside of their immediate circle. But because they're in sports they think they're at the top of the hierarchy. Yet anyone else in band or drama is like oh no here comes that jerk.
Always fascinates me how being good at sport makes you popular in American TV shows. Never realised it was actually true.
In the UK you might be unbelievably good at something but you'll still get called a knobhead & your best mates will still tell you you're shite, just to keep you grounded lol
I didn’t marry one but my husband is friends with a few guys that peaked in high school and they feel the need to re-live that shit. Still talking about the championship that got away 20 years ago.
I graduated in 1979, and there is this one woman who is still talking about being a cheerleader and posting photos of herself in her cheer uniform. I deleted FB strictly because of her - the second hand embarrassment was too strong.
When your life peaks at 17 ...
If coach woulda put me in fourth quarter, we would’ve been state champions. No doubt. No doubt in my mind.
Back in the day.. I coulda thrown a pigskin over them mountains
(mouthful of steak) Hey! You guys wanna see my video?
Like he has to constantly remind everyone that he scored four touchdowns in a single game while playing for the Polk High School Panthers in the 1966 city championship game versus Andrew Johnson High School, including the game-winning touchdown in the final seconds against his old nemesis, Bubba "Spare Tire" Dixon.
Oh my god. Al Bundy’s championship game was in 1966?? Wtf I feel old. Still decades before my time but that’s like 20 years after WW2. WTF
I don’t think there’s anything inherently wrong with reminiscing with friends from time to time, especially when you catch up with friends who you haven’t seen in a while.
“Have you seen John?”
“Yeah he’s doing X”
“Man remember that time he…”
That’s normal. It’s human.
Doing it constantly though? That’s unhealthy.
Yeah so not married but my long term SO constantly talks about how he was a “basketball legend”, “free throw champ” etc etc. Mostly just ignored it with the smile and nod, or sometimes blatant eye roll, but one day it occurred to me to ask when this was in his life. Turns out, it was when he was in **third grade**... *third grade* y’all. Now it’s hilarious every time he brings it up and, as a result, doesn’t bring it up very often. Win win.
Edit: To all who worry, worry not. SO had/still has an incredible support system, his family is awesome. No issues with past/current/future endeavors. We’ve been together long enough to know each other very well, and this is just part of our relationship. It goes both ways. He still brings it up on occasion just for shts and giggles. Alllll is good.
He was the one who had the 6 pack who all the girls swooned over. Very popular.
I was not.
Saw him after just leaving HS and started going out.
Ended up getting married in our early 20’s. God knows why?! I guess we thought it was just what happened next?
He never grew up. All he wanted to do was play online games. But I mean constantly. He would get in from work, walk straight past me to the spare room, straight online and play until the early hours. Get a bit of sleep, go back to work.
Same thing, again and again.
Never wanted to go anywhere. Just wanted to game.
Eventually, I gave him an ultimatum. He chose the game.
From what I gather, he’s remarried to someone else we went to school with and has 2 kids now. I was told she had to give him an awful lot of ultimatums before he eventually grew up.
I really shouldn’t find this funny but just the thought of you giving him the ultimatum and him choosing the game made me laugh a little
I can laugh now! At the time I was like, wanker!
My dad was super popular. Prom king, valedictorian, class president, football captain etc. He has a high ranking but normal roll a a smallish to medium sized company. Pretty normal guy and a good dad. If brought up he will mention his high school years but he doesn’t brag.
Everything about him screams 'cool'. Even the way he doesn't bring up his awesome highschool years.
I had 2 kids with a former prom king. Hes a crackhead now.
This comment blew up overnight , thanks so much everyone!! Its comforting to know so many people can relate. Take care
Yeah I’m a mailman and I delivered the “cool kid from high school “ his unemployment check. He was also living in the shittiest part of town and obviously got into drugs pretty bad. Apparently he peaked early ..
Jeez, that sucks. I knew a lot of people from high school who got into drugs real bad -- myself included. I really hate how common this is. Seems like everyone knows at least one person who fell into bad habits and spiraled hard. That sucks ass, man.
Not sure if he was necessarily cool but my dad was prefect and head boy of his school, got along nicely with everyone and was responsible. They didn’t have prom there so that was the highest honour you could probably get. Worked hard and all and had his classmates help to tutor him.
His grades didn’t end up great because he came in late to school once and got after school detentions. He would go home late and finish homework overnight, then get up at the crack of dawn to wash his father’s bus and be late to school again (more detentions). He dropped out and transferred to another school.
Now he’s a retired policeman who is working in security to send me and my siblings to school, does his best still. In my mom’s view he’s still handsome and she calls him a multitude of cutesy nicknames that he pretends to hate. Life is always as tough as normal but he keeps going.
> that he pretends to hate
Lol, this is real love...!
I sat next to the popular guy every day pretty much for five years and I was so afraid of speaking to him. I’d watched him and his friends picking each other up and shoving the chosen one into lockers, or chasing each other round into a pile on and throwing their shoes at each other. Typical school shit. They were rowdy and loud and intimidating, but he was the quiet yet seriously funny one and I crushed on him HARD for years. He remembers me as the little blonde girl who didn’t speak to anyone (because I was so anxious all the time). He also protected his sister from some assholes every break time and she’d come to find him for safety from bullies.
Should have spoken to him sooner when school finished, because we have the same music taste and we get on well enough now at 26 that we have a 6 month old daughter together, my daughter from a previous relationship and we just got engaged last weekend. I adore him, he’s handsome, charming and funny and I would do anything for this man as he would for me.
I married the homecoming queen, head cheerleader, and star basketball player. Yes, just one person.
At 50, she's still stunning with an amazing drive. We're partners in real estate sales, and she's the engine that keeps our team successful.
I just keep trying to not fuck it up.
Username checks out.
No but for real I hope you're well and content with your life. When you're a teenager it can really affect your self estime to have a sibling like this.
I hate to be the one that bursts everyone’s bubble, but my husband was the good-looking athletic guy with a great sense of humor that all of the girls adored. I was the petite blue-eyed blonde cheerleader that he chased for all four years in high school. We ended up getting together after high school graduation and were engaged 6 months later. I should have kept running from him like I did in school. He’s now an addict who is verbally and emotionally abusive. He’s a compulsive liar and he’s stolen prescription medication from me to get high. He’s very jealous and has accused me of having an affair with every male I’ve ever worked with, all without any merit whatsoever. It got so bad at one point that he told me I needed to quit my job and stay home with my son. Then he criticized me for not having a job. I teach high school English, and he is jealous of my male students because he claims he “sees the way they watch me and look at me.” He’s made my life hell. He criticizes and ridicules me for being a diabetic, saying he never intended to marry a cripple, which is hardly the case. I’m happy to say that he’ll be getting served with divorce papers very soon. God help the woman who takes my place because he can’t do anything for himself. He’s never paid a bill, made his own doctor appointments, etc. He’s exhausting. He’s also that guy who likes to tell our son what a stud he was in school and how he eventually got the girl he wanted. 🤮
While dating, he portrayed himself to be the man he thought I would see as husband material; however, I quickly saw it was all an act shortly after we married. If I had it to do over, I would have left the country to avoid him. The only good thing to come out of our marriage is my son.
I’m sorry that my story was the nightmare in the bunch. I’m just keeping it real.
I don't know the details of your relationship or anything, but I hope you're able to stay safe when you break the news to him. I have a friend who was the victim of a murder/suicide attempt (husband died, wife survived) because she finally decided to leave him over his abuse.
I have a cousin whose husband killed her and then himself when she asked for a divorce. That does stay in the back of my mind. Abusers hate to see their “property” find the courage and strength to finally leave them. You’re absolutely right and I will heed your warning in that regard. Thank you.
Not married but been with the class clown of a different high school for 7 years. I moved towns to live with him and people still stop him in public, they can't believe he has a girlfriend, 2 kids and another on the way. They all retell a story about something happening in school and how funny/crazy/outrageous it was. He's actually had an autism diagnosis as an adult which explains alot of his weird behaviour.
My husband went to another school, but he was prom king for this reason. He was a huge class clown and everyone voted for him for king because they thought he'd pull some crazy prank when it happened. But they really didn't know him. Because when they announced it, all he thought about was how excited the prom queen was (a girl he didn't even know) and wanted to make sure he didn't ruin her experience. Apparently, everyone was so very let down by his typical, boring behavior lol that's my baby
A guy who makes sure others are having a good time, even when it means not pulling a huge prank that might upset someone, as a guy I can tell u that’s a good trait.
Didn’t marry her but we dated for a bit. She moved to Arizona for college, stayed there then became a fire fighter. Came out as gay and married a woman. We lost touch but she seems happy.
Edit: Great. My most upvoted comment on reddit is how I couldn’t please a woman.
My brother was *the* cool kid in his grade which extra annoyed me because I was a year older and a lot of my friends asked about him.
He felt a lot of pressure to stay the coolest kid so he made a lot of shitty choices because doing blow is what the cool kids are doing, I guess. He went to rehab by the time he was 16. He pretty much threw his life away after that and has been in and out of jail and prisons since then (16 years later).
Edit: Three people have now commented about me marrying my brother. I did not marry him, he is not my spouse, be more original.
Peer pressure is a hell of a drug.
I have two school friends who both vowed if they were both single at 40 they would marry. They did. He was never married and is morbidly obese and wasn’t finding anyone to date, and she was divorced with 4 kids. He became a stepfather and earns a good income and supports her as she was really struggling. He helped straighten the kids out and they have maintained the marriage and vow they kept. They love each other but are NOT attracted to each other and have separate bedrooms. But the arrangement is working out well in a financial and family way and both enjoy being full time working grandparents now and making a tidy income and living a comfortable life.
Cool as fuck. More open to new experiences. More love affirming and supportive than ever. Got together when we were 17, we’ve been together 12 years.
Husband and I went to different schools in different areas of the state. I guess he was kind of the cool/ bad boy of his school.
While I did not know him during that time I can tell you that we have been together for 24 years and he is the most wonderful husband and father . I think he was grossly misunderstood back than and would love to tell those teachers who basically said he would be nothing off.
I was the prom King, I was a starting athlete in many team sports. I was also ironically barely connected socially to my class and spent a lot of time gaming and eating.
I am divorced, fat and play competitive M:TG. My ex probably doesn't give a shit about me being the prom King.
she prolly talked about u in this sub lol
I occasionally see the super popular dude from my high school. He was always nice - friendly with everyone (even though he still primarily hung with the cool kids ;)
He put on some weight but is still super nice and a great guy. We had a conversation at a party recently (we’re both in our 40s now) and he put his arm around me and said “dude, life is good, but man, you don’t know what it’s like to have peaked in 8th grade”
Dated a popular class clown out of high school. Got pregnant. He is and was a pretty big deadbeat.
Ended up marrying a nerd a few grades above me (years later) We have 2 more kids and he is an amazing dad to all 3 of the kids. He is also a godamn snacc and a half. Been together for a decade.
Over the years I have worked with class clowns, they are deep down pretty lonely.
I married the popular guy. We didn’t go to the same schools (or even in the same city) but met when we were 30. Extremely charismatic and likable. Also used to having everything handed to him and done for him. He constantly spoke about how prior to me, he always was with hot girls and that he basically settled for me (I know I’m pretty but I’m also overweight). He didn’t seem to realize that while he was in shape in high school from playing sports, he ballooned up as an adult. We divorced earlier this year. He’s already living with potential wife number 3 and me and his first wife have bonded over how terrible he treats his spouses. Yep. He’s 35 and working on wife number 3... but he doesn’t think he has behavior that needs to change because he spent his whole life hearing he was the best.
I was the cool girl in high school, marrying the cool guy from a neighboring high school. Homecoming queen and cheer captain marrying mr popular prom king.
We're incredibly boring now. No college degrees. I work 2 jobs, he cleans for the school district. But we're happy with it. We have an easy routine, pay the bills, raise two beautiful kids together. Life is good, for the most part.
I love the honesty and I hate the negativity that comes with the term 'settled' and in no way do I mean it negatively, but it sounds like you two have settled/snuggled into a really good life.
I’m way late to the game but I was the loser who married the prom queen.
Dating was interesting because she came from a rich family that gave her everything she wanted. I grew up in a very poor family, we’re talking 13 people in a 1 bathroom house poor. She went to house parties and did all kinds of crazy shit, meanwhile I was home hanging out with my nerd friend watching Star Trek. I thought she was kinda snobbish, but turns out she’s the kindest person you ever met. Her heart bleeds a little too easily actually.
We moved in together and she had no concept of money. Her family didn’t like her moving in with a guy before married (They really liked me minus the whole poverty thing) and cut her off financially. Sink or swim baby. My friends warned me she’d be gone by the time the rent was due and we couldn’t afford it.
Instead she got her first job at a department store (while in college full time) and we cut back on everything. She still had a closet full of designer clothes and shoes, but didn’t buy anything new for a long time. Stopped eating out every meal. She couldn’t cook to save her life but I could, so we didn’t go hungry. Overnight she became a normal college student. “Common People” is about her lol.
She finished college, we put her through law school, she made crazy money right after she graduated. I didn’t make quite as much but we were doing well for ourselves. Then the recession hit and we were back at square one. She stuck by me again through one of the worst times of my life. We had NOTHING. We had to move in with my (still poor) parents for two years to dig ourselves back out.
We’re not rich by any means but we’re doing well now. She still has her prom queen streak, she likes to dress up and buy nice things, but she now goes to thrift stores and garage sales and refuses to pay full price for anything. She got very good at DIYing stuff and made us a beautiful home filled with shit she made herself. Including furniture.
I’m very happy. Friends warned me she would take off after college, when we went broke, she would cheat on me (she is WAY outta my league looks wise), that she’s not the kinda girl to stick around long. Turns out she’s in this for life. We came close to splitting up a few times but she always reeled us back in.
I put her on a pedestal which probably isn’t good but it works for us. People don’t see it but she does the same to me. She gets overwhelmed easily but I’m pretty good at fixing shit when it goes bad. She still experiences things for the first time and it’s really cool to see, for example she saw an armadillo for the first time and she was crazy excited (she was never into nature lol). She’s stuck by me through some really dark times and I will never know why. I don’t deserve her and she knows it. But I remember that every morning I wake up and try to do things that make me deserve her.
Also I got to the gym, learned how to dress and do my hair because it sucks being the ugly skinny dude next to the hottest woman in the room. She still looks like she’s out of my league, but at least it’s not too bad now lol. She gets hit on a lot and I can tell it annoys her (or sometimes makes her angry) but I could care less. Our kids adore her and so do my parents. My mom thinks she’s helpless because she remembers back when she was helpless but she’s proud of her for how far she came. Now I’m tearing up thinking about it.
Wifey was cheerleader back in HS. Homecoming Court, etc. She’s 46 now. We’ve been married for 25 years and have 4 kids + a daughter in law. And she’s still super freaking hot. 🔥
I hope my father-in-law includes me like this some day. How awesome.
So fucking cool. Works hard, plays hard, always improving, follows their dreams and is generally a life-saver.
He dated my sister for a while, he was really cool and charming at face value. He tried to rape my sister.
He ended up doing a whole lotta drugs, bludgeoned his step mother to death with a duraflame log.
Fuck you Danny.
My friend married a high school running back who led the league in rushing. He was actually pretty good, his record is unbroken to this day. He hangs out with his same high school friends drinking beer in the alley every day and now sells propane and propane accessories.
I don’t know if he was THE cool guy, but he was definitely in the cool group. I sure wasn’t, I was a band kid.
Anyway, he’s a pilot in the military and still infinitely cooler than me. He’s a good guy and I love the shit out of him.
Main takeaways: the “cool kids” meet the same fate as everyone else. Some of them stay awesome, some fall into despair, some end up on the extremes and most somewhere in the middle. Turns out we’re all just people
ok, here's one. i worked with this dude at a grocery store in high school, and had classes with him at a private Catholic high school. he was weird, but fairly popular back then. we hung out very occasionally, but he was always a little off, and any time I talked with him post high school, he really creeped me out. and then there was this. [https://lawandcrime.com/crazy/man-allegedly-went-to-extreme-and-grisly-lengths-to-discard-arizona-murder-victims-remains/](https://lawandcrime.com/crazy/man-allegedly-went-to-extreme-and-grisly-lengths-to-discard-arizona-murder-victims-remains/)I never, ever thought he would be capable of something like this, but at the same time, any interaction i had with him post-high school was just so bizarre.
WHOOP! There it is!
There was bound to be at least 1 murderer!