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What do you believe are some unwritten rules that women have?

What do you believe are some unwritten rules that women have?

Complicated_Business

The first impression is the only impression that matters.


Guitarjunkie1980

I saw a thread recently that said "a woman knows withing 10-20 seconds if she's going to sleep with you". I was like...no way. So I asked my resident female, my girlfriend. She said yes. The thread blew up. Women chimed in and agreed. That this is true. So yes, first impressions are important, my fellow gentlemen.


Easy-Progress8252

Difference between “if she’s going to” and “if she would.”


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AnonProgress22

Ah,well in that case I'm eternally screwed.


Westcobbguy

I think you mean eternally not screwed.


AnonProgress22

That too.


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CasperElshao

This thread will be interesting af


rosetildawn

This is fun


Dhydjtsrefhi

* Always give another women period product if she needs it * Always carry extra hair ties, snacks, and period products * Be very suspicious of men from dating apps (unless you're desperate and horny, then make all sorts of bad decisions)


1151am

I know this is gonna get a lot of heat, but, I'm going to say it anyway. If a woman finds a guy cute/attractive, no matter how creepy he is, it doesn't matter, HE'S CUTE. If a woman doesn't find a guy cute/attractive, even if he so much as looks in her direction, the response is "ugh that creep just looked at me like he wants to kidnap me and I think he may try to sell my organs if he gets any closer to me."


likelemonmeringue

This is what creepy men tell themselves, not an "unwritten rule women have."


SpendChoice

Wife confirmed the difference between romantic and creepy is whether they are attracted to them or not. Now that we're married she feels no compunction to keeping any of those secrets, secret anymore


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rosetildawn

Oof you must've had a Karen. That's not one of mine.


revrevblah

This is pretty much every liberal woman I'm close friends with. They don't even see the cognitive dissonance.


mimibox

Amen 🙏


tellythesloot

Saying this in public will turn you into a track star really fast. But I guess the truth hurts 😕


likelemonmeringue

No. That's not a rule most women have at all.


loki0111

From my own experience most women are looking for a man's, man type. I suspect its also one of the reasons women tend to make such a big deal out of men's height on the apps. There are obviously exceptions but they don't appear to be the majority of women on the apps from what I've seen.


likelemonmeringue

Women who are that interested in traditional masculinity don't give a shit about sexism and are going to be pretty conforming to gender norms themselves.


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likelemonmeringue

Maybe if I were doing that then your response would be relevant.


loki0111

Some are definitely more traditional as that is what they are looking for. Some play for the best of both worlds. I suspect its mainly a sexual attraction issue for that group.


revrevblah

Have you ever lived in a large liberal city like NY or LA or Chicago? The most liberal women I know also have just as stringent and narrow definition of masculinity as any conservative woman.


likelemonmeringue

I currently live in a large liberal city with lots of liberal female friends and acquaintances. That isn't what most of them are interested in.


revrevblah

Okay. Well I've been living in a large, liberal city for most of my adult life. I've also dated exclusively liberal women. Every single one was into manly men and made fun of sensitive dudes.


mfog35

What are the stereotypically positive qualities of men? (Serious question)


mfog35

What are the stereotypically positive qualities of men? (Serious question)


sidewaysflower

What's with all the negativity here? Anyways, women plan vacations around their menstrual cycles. And most carry extra pads and tampons at all times.


TDKR1977

Never. Admit. Fault. EVER.


jojow77

Why are you talking about my wife and how do you know her?


The_test_is_me

Because if you do... Then suddenly all things are your fault so the house of cards will collapse


TDKR1977

No. I'm saying THEY never admit fault.


The_test_is_me

That's them speaking....


347volt

Most of these comments are boarderline sexist if not sexist. Off the top of my head, don’t walk home alone at night/ don’t let your friend walk home alone. If another woman asks for a tampon give her one.


Prompt-Timely

I would add: always ask your female friend to let you know when she gets home, if she goes alone; if a woman starts talking to you like she knows you, she is probably in danger. This one is 100% anecdotal evidence but, on long run, an average sized dick is better than a big dick.


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Well the question is sexist.


The_test_is_me

"We want you to know exactly what we want but we're not gonna be articulate about it" "you should already know what we're feeling and empathize before it leaves our mouths, after which it's too late because we had to tell you... " "nothing a man does or says is ever good enough and no matter what we'll despise you for saying/doing it..." "giving birth is our miracle and needs no man... but sex is awful for us and you should feel bad for enjoying it at our expense"


rosetildawn

I'll admit the first 2 is true and I am guilty of that. The other 2 or funny too because there are women like that.


The_test_is_me

After years of marriage counseling for my failing, garbage fire of a marriage, our brilliant psych offered us a "cognitive bias worksheet" which articulated these issues in great detail. Problem being at first requires the reader to admit that they actually have these and that they do them in order for anything to happen. The first bias being that you have biases is the most difficult to overcome


loki0111

Typical stuff I hear from women on dates, obviously mostly relating to dating here: - Never settle - Not enough attractive men - Men only want sex - Too many boys not enough men in the dating world - Men have an advantage over women in the modern dating world - Men are afraid of strong women - Most men online are trash I get why they are saying some of it. Some of it is just non-sense to me though.


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loki0111

Women have their own issues in the dating world. They are different then the ones men have and everyone tends to think their issues are worse.


SecondTalon

The person in the desert can't understand why the person drowning would complain.


rolendd

Awesome quote!


SpendChoice

Depends on the goal. Women have the advantage when it comes to getting sex. Men have the advantage when it comes to establishing a relationship


rolendd

I’ve heard the “men are afraid of stormy women” but through much experience have found it’s just another way of saying, “I’m not rude I’m just blunt” which as we know is just an excuse to be an asshole. Strong women are women of action not words


Old-Man-of-the-Sea

I don't think you understand the difference between a rule and an opinion. A rule would be a speed limit of 65, and opinion would be, speed limits are dumb 1/7 Never settle-**perhaps an unwritten rule** Not enough attractive men- **NOT a rule of any kind but possibly a widely held opinion** men only want sex - **NOT a rule of any kind but possibly a widely held opinion** too many boys not enough men - **NOT a rule of any kind but possibly a widely held opinion** Men have an advantage over women in the modern dating world -**NOT a rule of any kind but possibly a widely held opinion** Men are afraid of strong women- **NOT a rule of any kind but possibly a widely held opinion** most men are trash - **NOT a rule of any kind but possibly a widely held opinion**


loki0111

You are going to be posting this complaint a lot in this thread, but best of luck policing.


Just_Another_Scott

That's a weird fucking hill they are willing to die on lol. It's not like there are actually any rules to dating to begin with. Well there are some but those are called laws.


Old-Man-of-the-Sea

First off, you think this was a complaint. It was not. It was educational, but having been a special ed teacher for 22 years I encountered a lot of people who think that showing people accurate information is often interpreted as complaint or criticism Secondly, If you think correcting and educating is 'policing' I certainly hope you don't and never have children.


loki0111

This was really your hill today wasn't it? >It was educational, but having been a special ed teacher for 22 years I encountered a lot of people who think that showing people accurate information is often interpreted as complaint or criticism I think the problem you often run into is your "information" is not solicited but rather interjected (I suspect usually uninvited) and therefore people receive it poorly or don't care what you have to say. I am not going to get into why you react the way you do when that happens. Its not that I disagree that I posted a mix of opinions and rules, its that I actually legitimately don't care and don't feel like arguing with a random guy online about the semantics of opinions and rules. I started the post replying to OP one way and ended up with that I had at the end and I am fine with that. >I certainly hope you don't and never have children. Wow, what a fantastic human being you are. And they have you teaching children? Jesus.


penis_in_my_hand

Old man of the sea dropping the truth hammer


DrummerGTI

Not reading this, but your premise is right


Johndoe448

All that expectations meanwhile she has had 15 different bf’s lol. Two kids at home and then”where have all the good men gone”


loki0111

To be fair this did not all come from one person. This is just stuff I commonly hear from women when discussing modern dating.


jojow77

All guys are the same. I have some girl friends that stopped dating or even looking after a bad relationship. Kind of sad they think that.


manwithanopinion

Always blame sexism when you don't get what you want.


PrincessZorld0

Sounds like you had a bad experience.


PortiaLabiata

This thread won't a dumpster fire


likelemonmeringue

As suspected, most responses are the typical "women bad."


chaoseincarnate

alot of guys i meet agree that a park sounds like a great date, a lot of women seem to be horrified of this suggestion and will tell everyone youre a creep if you do


aces-and-jacks

“I know my right from my left, but when that mf’er is driving, I don’t know shit about directions.”


rosetildawn

Open my mouth to retort then realize that I don't know most of the street names around me


aces-and-jacks

Haha, my wife is brilliant, she’s bilingual and has multiple masters degrees, but when I’m driving I swear she doesn’t know left from right. I’ve told her just to point from now on or she’s gonna get us killed.


rosetildawn

I love driving my mini but I do get lost and so my friends drive me around.


aces-and-jacks

This made me laugh


rosetildawn

That's not a joke it's true


aces-and-jacks

I believe you - that’s what made it funny


InfernoFlameBlast

Women that believe in astrology have rules about dating guys born in certain months. Like, a Gemini woman won’t date a Leo man but would date a Cancer man, or something like that


Own-Conversation1998

Don’t touch another woman’s or any woman’s hair or face unless asked. Don’t touch another woman’s current or ex man, boyfriend, husband, and significant other. Don’t touch my children. Don’t attempt to come in between a woman and her money. No uterus, no opinion on the female body.


DestructionDestroyer

* If one man behaves badly, assume all men have that undesirable trait and blame all men for it. * If I say "men need to.....", obviously I'm not talking about *all men* because language is irrelevant and you should read my mind to know what I'm really thinking. * Gender equality is only needed in areas where women are disadvantaged. Areas that men are disadvantaged are already equal. * Men don't have inherent value as people, they have to demonstrate their value by providing something to others. * Women are victims and men are the perpetrators. * Even though women have far more reproductive rights than men do, any restrictions on those rights - no matter how minor - would only be done because those in favor of the restrictions hate women and want to control them. * Any bad thing that happens to me is the fault of someone else (likely a man) and there is nothing I could have done to prevent that bad thing from occurring. * Women should have equal rights as men, but not equal obligations. * Mowing the lawn, fixing cars, home repairs, shoveling snow, etc. are not part of "housework" and should not be considered when determining equal share of labor in a relationship.


penis_in_my_hand

None of these are rules though... Did you read the question?


DestructionDestroyer

Seem like rules to me. What did you have in mind?


likelemonmeringue

Is this really the right place to ask?


Old-Man-of-the-Sea

>What do you believe are some Should the question of what men believe be asked elsewhere?


SpendChoice

That's the purpose of this sub. **To ask men what they think/believe** JFC, can't believe I had to explain that.


mzpljc

It is entirely unsurprising how inaccurate most of this is, and clearly just men bitching about their dating app experiences. Dating apps are dumpsters. Stop dumpster diving, then complaining about the shit covered pizza crust you found. Actual unwritten rules we have: Always give a spare pad/tampon to someone in need if you have one. Don't let a trashed friend go home with a stranger. Stuff like that.


scotty_doesntknow

Don’t date your friends ex-boyfriend. The drunker you are, the more you need to make sure all the other girls putting on makeup in the club bathroom mirror know how beautiful they are. Don’t go night hiking in the remote wilderness as a first date.


Easy-Progress8252

That men should put the seat up when peeing and put it down when done…that men should help with the cooking…that men should not automatically jump to solutions but rather just be good listeners. I’m sure I could think of more.


dieselrunner64

Do not ever, no matter what happens, even if your life depends on it. ABSOLUTELY DO NOT tell him what is actually wrong and/or how to help the situation.


potionmine

Dang this thread gonna be lit