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NTA. He *did* ruin his own friendship by being so rude and racist towards you and Olive.


NTA, Paul doesn’t get a free pass to be rude and racist because he has a hard life outside of your friendships.


Holy crap, where did that come out of??? NTA.


NTA-Regardless of what problems this kid has inside or outside the house, is not an excuse to be racist ,inconvenient and ofensive.


NTA He doesn't get to slap people then cry about his hand stinging.


NTA. While his home life may be unhealthy, and he may want to change, he needs to experiences consequences to Actually make himself change. It’s not your job to fix his life, and it’s not your job to let yourself be abused just because he is abused.


^^^^AUTOMOD ***Thanks for posting! This comment is a copy of your post so readers can see the original text if your post is edited or removed. This comment is NOT accusing you of copying anything. Read [this](https://www.reddit.com/r/AmItheAsshole/wiki/faq#wiki_post_deletion) before [contacting the mod team](https://www.reddit.com/message/compose?to=%2Fr%2FAmItheAsshole)*** I, Anna , Olive, and Paul all people of color. I’m chinese, and sort of on the underweight side (this will be mentoined later). Paul, and Olive are both south asian but Paul is hindu while Olive is muslim. Anyways, after a while of our friendship going on, Paul suddenly started calling me a dog eater and an anorexic b**. He also continuously called Olive a terrorist, said they’re part of the taliban/ISIS, caused 9/11, E.T.C. Yesterday, Paul said that he was ugly and Olive said, “Yeah, you are.” This caused him to be upset and say that Olive gets offended by the islamphobic jokes he makes, so they shouldn’t consider saying that. At this point, Olive has told him to stop making these kind of jokes 3 times, and each time he didn’t stop, so they were pissed. They said that he never respected their boundaries so why does he expect them to respect theirs, that he should just stop already, E.T.C. Paul responded to this by saying that he just isn’t him without calling Olive a terrorist and making offensive jokes to them and I. He eventually apologized and said that he’s like this because he has things rough at home with his parents, and it sounded a lot like guilt tripping. He then said that he would be taking a break as he didn’t want to be a burden to us. Since then, Olive has been ignoring him, and he has been saying stuff like “I don’t wanna make it awkward” and “I feel like I ruin everything.” I just don’t know if he was really guilt tripping us or trying to make himself seem like the victim. At first I thought that Olive and I were definitely in the right, but I’m not sure anymore. AITA? *I am a bot, and this action was performed automatically. Please [contact the moderators of this subreddit](/message/compose/?to=/r/AmItheAsshole) if you have any questions or concerns.*


Paul is the AH. You don't need him as a friend.


NTA - this guy is making a lame excuse for his actions, listen to it "I am sorry I called you guys slurs, my parents were mean to me". It makes no sense and have no correlation at all, he just wants pity points to excuse his behavior. He is manipulative and a toxic friend, just block him.