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wilbersl82

NTA- taking the dogs out is essentially part of the rental agreement. She’s breaking the contract.


bluedog33

NTA. You both need a clean start. Ask her to move out, and in the mean time hire a dog-walker / sitter from rover to come and let your dog out/walk him.


jkoss0972

I have someone lined up if she decides to move out. That option isn't as ideal as B, because B knows the dogs better and the dog knows B better, but it will work. I was just hoping that B would be a little more understanding of the situation, considering we had been together for over a year


Bluegoose412

NTA. But an idea would be "take the dogs out" or "pay for a pet sitter/walker" to come once a day to let the dogs out or move out. At the end of the day the dogs are the most important and need to be taken care of


jkoss0972

I do have someone lined up to come let Leslie out if B decides to move out. It's not a perfect solution, but it's what's best for the dog.


Briarrose1021

INFO: Would your employer allow you to have your dog in the truck with you?


jkoss0972

Absolutely out of the question. I deliver gasoline. So, even if it WAS allowed, I wouldn't want my dog to be breathing in the fumes all day.


Briarrose1021

Then NTA. Her taking care of the dogs was part of the initial rental contract (even if not written down) and she's now violating that. She could easily go by before or after work, whereas you cannot take a dog with you on HazMat deliveries.


TriaJace

NTA, if she wants to change the agreement she needs to talk about it. Is it your dog, and your responsibility? Yes. But, she also said she would do it. It's the same idea as a buy groceries/cooking agreement. I've been on her side when I moved in with my bf (now husband) and he friend and gf. They treated us terribly, expected us to buy groceries, cook, clean, take her into work 1 he each way for $5/day and stay in our room all day. We told them we wouldn't be doing that anymore because of the way they treated us, and even though they didn't like it we said my husband's situation had changed, as he was the one doing it before, and they needed to figure it out.


newaxcounr

YTA your dog, not hers. you’re not dating her anymore and all she owes you is rent on time. she’s not a dog sitter.


jkoss0972

There's 2 dogs. One is hers, one is mine. She also has been neglecting her dog, the same way she is neglecting mine. Would it be fair to say I'm the asshole because it's partially my fault for my part in the neglect, but NTA for giving her the ultimatum?


newaxcounr

you can do whatever you want on your own property within the law. its none of your business how she treats her dog and it’s not your place to demand she cares for your dog. you’re the ass for making her responsible for your pet.


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jkoss0972

She doesn't let her dog out either. Her dog has basically become my dog by default, as I'm the one who feeds him, lets him out, plays with him, etc.


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jkoss0972

Fair point, honestly. I have always had roommates who would help me with my dog, even before B showed up. When B showed up and moved in, she agreed to take both Leslie and Oscar out while I was at work. This only changed after we broke up and she started spending all of her time with M. I have someone else lined up to take the dogs out if B decides to move out, so I'm trying to get it taken care of. But my next plan is obviously sub-ideal when compared to the person taking up room in my house.


SaitamasBitch

Its seems like he said she has been neglecting both dogs.


jkoss0972

Correct. Now, I love Oscar. If she wanted to give him up, I would take him in with no issues, other than my desire to make sure he and Leslie are properly taken care of while I'm at work. That's all I care about. I don't care at all that she has a new boyfriend. That's the furthest thing from my mind. I just want these dogs to be taken care of. And B has been neglecting both her dog and my dog.


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