A little bit of background, my bf and I have been in a relationship for about 2.5 years. We’ve both moved closer to be with each other. I notice that he always holds me to a higher standard than his friends.
For example, when he moved, he was annoyed that I couldn’t help him unload his stuff when he moved as I would be tired next day for work. One of his friends said he was busy and he didn’t mind but he was annoyed that I couldn’t help him. Another example, he got sick with Covid recently and asked me to get some stuff (he asked the previous night) before my work started but I woke up late, so couldn’t and he got annoyed at me for that too. He says he took good care of me when I had Covid (he really did, he was by my side the entire time, made me food and bought me medicines) and that he expects me to do atleast 10% of what he did. The other day, he got sad as he got into an accident (someone rear ended his vehicle) and that I wasn’t more understanding and got annoyed that I couldn’t be picked up on time. I feel like I if I don’t do something right, he gets annoyed/sad.
The thing that bothers me is that if a friend doesn’t help him, he doesn’t really care but if I don’t he gets annoyed/sad and he says that partners are different that friends. I really do love him and just because I couldn’t help/comfort him a few times doesn’t mean I’m not a good girlfriend, right?
TLDR: Bf gets annoyed when I can’t help him with stuff and holds me to a higher standard than his friends, is this normal?
By - Feeling_Watercress82