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Imaginary-Hornet-397

Check for the country you live in if adhd is classified as a disability. If it is then your boss will most likely have to make reasonable accommodations.


Legendary__Pizza

I just checked and it is classified as a disability- hopefully that helps when talking to my boss. Thx


longfingerman

You should be able to seek legal accomodations that he has no say in whether or not you can have access to them


LeaJadis

ask him if earplugs are okay compromise because of your disability you would really appreciate it.


SpaceAndro

If you get the little foam earplugs, it will be obvious that they can’t be used for listening to music or anything distracting (assuming that’s why your boss objected to headphones), and that you’re just using them to help you focus. Bosses usually like it when people want to focus on their jobs, so asking about this doesn’t have to be confrontational— hopefully he will see it as you just trying to do your job as best you can. Good luck!


redwingpanda

Eargasm earplugs are clear and noise filtering, there may be something similar available in OP's country. Also OP check the employment and disability laws in your country. Where are you? You may be very well protected tbh.


Lessa22

If you’re in the US ask for an ADA accommodation. It’s relatively simple and can help with far more than just headphones.


Legendary__Pizza

I dont live in the US but i will check if my country has something like that. Thx


redwingpanda

Where do you live? You may be more protected than if you lived in the US, haha.


Legendary__Pizza

It is classivied as a disability in my country, but its a bit difficult to find stuff that would be related to my situation. The Sources only ever talk about school inviroment and adhd in kids.


redwingpanda

I work in HR for a global company. Feel free to send me a dm with your country, I'm happy to see if I can track anything down. It's a long shot but still.


Xxfuck-youxX

Do you have a doctor or someone who can write a medical note excusing you from this absurd rule? Also you should post this on r/antiwork


Legendary__Pizza

I just sent a few emails in seach of a therapist. I'll ask them.


[deleted]

If you can’t resolve this with your boss I recommend finding a new job that better suits your needs, not to be so direct but bosses don’t give a shit about people and their needs they just want the moneys. Better off finding a new job


aktorian

I deal with noise sensitivity too, and while I'm fortunate enough to not have to deal with this at work, I struggle a lot in public spaces where there are crowd noises or loud music. I ended up buying a pair of [https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B018WPOQSG/](https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B018WPOQSG/) on someone's recommendation and carry them on my keyring in a little screw-top pill container so I always have them with me. While they're definitely not as noise cancelling as advertised, they're about as effective as wearing a pair of earbuds without music. It smooths out background noise and makes it more tolerable while still leaving me able to hear when people come up to talk to me. Pre-covid, it saved my favorite restaurant for me when they decided to install a stereo system, lol. I would definitely recommend these or something similar, and as long as your work environment is physically safe you might be able to get away with wearing them without your boss ever noticing, if it comes to that - though I hope you do get the support and accommodation you deserve.


Legendary__Pizza

Thx I'll try that!


stardustnf

I use these in public places that I find a little too overwhelming or noisy. https://us.loopearplugs.com/ They're super discreet, and they really help reduce the "harshness" of the noise to make it manageable. And they still allow you to hear people when they talk to you. The best part is it helps me focus better in conversations with people in noisy environments without getting distracted and missing half of what they're saying.


_ficklelilpickle

Firstly, the boss is a bit of a dick. I hate open office floor plans because I find it really difficult to zone out from the collective talking buzz. As it is right now I have my Bose QCII's on with no music playing. Second - check out [Loop earplugs] (https://www.amazon.com/Loop-Quiet-Noise-Reduction-Earplugs/dp/B08MFDT65P/ref=sr_1_5?crid=2UN1JYAF6O001&keywords=loop+ear+plugs&qid=1649729115&sprefix=loop%2Caps%2C1891&sr=8-5). Not affiliated, but I do have a set of these as well for when headphones aren't appropriate and I absolutely love them. They knock out a heap of noise without fully isolating you, so you can still hear when people are talking, but you can just get rid of a lot of the distracting noise at the same time.


Key_Boysenberry124

https://us.loopearplugs.com/products/experience/ Here is the direct website :) I have them too, and they're great


fizzyanklet

If you are in the US, you can get an ADA accommodation. ADHD would qualify. Headphones are a must for me. I’m sorry you’re having to fight for this basic thing that should be available to anyone who needs it 😞


Brasshearts

Jesus. I have a complete meltdown when I forget to charge mine and have to work for even an hour without them. I’m so sorry this is happening to you. What in the F is the rationale behind doing this?


Legendary__Pizza

I guess he thinks they're distracting and is annoyed having to call twice for our name.


MakapoXJ

Would these be okay? [https://us.loopearplugs.com/](https://us.loopearplugs.com/) I haven't tried them myself but I've heard good things. They have models that reduce the noise but eliminate it.


Legendary__Pizza

Thx for the recomendation :)


kayydeebe

I second these! They help me a LOT with the extra background noises


[deleted]

This should be part and parcel of you managing the symptoms of ADHD, a recognised disability. If this doesn't affect your work, then they shouldn't have any objection. But, managers tend to want to micro manage, even if it's counter-productive. I do this whenever I have to be outside. I either use headphones connected to my phone, or noise-reducing ear plugs, to reduce aural stimulation. If you need to communicate with someone, you can easily remove them, so it's not a problem.


Key_Boysenberry124

I have the same issue! I got these and they've been great so far. Plus they look nice, and aren't heavy. No music, but they dampen noises and can come with accessories to make them even more quiet. They aren't headphones, so they wouldn't qualify for the new rule! https://us.loopearplugs.com/products/experience/


[deleted]

Please explain this to him. Do us ALL a favor by explaining this disorder and it's implications in real life. Thanks ! And you can then keep rockin' your job also. They'll appreciate your humility.


Legendary__Pizza

He knows i have Adhd and I've talked with him about it. He even has a child that is diagnosed. I just dont quite know how to get thru to him.


cant-remember-life

I also have sound sensitivities - to the point I believe it can trigger migraines for me. My boss has also banned headphones at work, admittedly I also agree with the ban as I work in a very busy heavy machine workshop, this also means that my workplace environment is very loud - like damage your hearing in the long term loud. Occasionally I’ll wear proper earmuff/hearing protection but I can’t wear them full time as they tend to have crazy clamping pressure and can make my ears sore, wearing earplugs are also not something I can do long term as they irritate my ears. It’s a classic damned if I do damned if I don’t situation, I hope you can find something that works for you :)


GeezuzX

Sounds like your working in an industrial environment, It's a safety issue if you can't hear what's going on around you.


Legendary__Pizza

I work in a normal open space office, so there is no safety issue. My boss just doesn't like headphones.


GeezuzX

Oh


kayydeebe

I have the Loop earplugs and I'm really enjoying them! They look more like jewelry (or fancy hearing aids?) and they still allow you to hear people. I just got mine and wore them to a hockey game event that I went to with my students. I wore them the entire time and could hear everything important, but the extra noise was less overwhelming. They are expensive but worth it for me!


Rebekahryder

Do you have a doc that bought give you like a work accommodation?


Legendary__Pizza

Currently looking for one :)


Rebekahryder

Good!


zuchl

for me it helps when i realise that the overwhelming gets to much I go to the bathroom and plug in noise canceling headphones without music and then I wait for 5-10 minute, most of the time it's like a pressure relive


Legendary__Pizza

I do that quite often, but Im a bit paranoid my boss or coworkers will notice and ask me about it. But it really does feel good to have a short input break :)


[deleted]

These help….I teach a class full of autistic kids who make some loud, high pitched noises. My stress level goes WAY down when I put them in. https://www.flareaudio.com/products/calmer?variant=39419599749223


Legendary__Pizza

My coworkers speak very high piched sometimes and it is very uncomfortable- so thx for the recomendation.


nerdalert2024

Maybe this is just a me thing, but have you asked your boss for clarification on which headphones are acceptable? Maybe they don't want people listening to music on the job site and they would be more willing to accommodate headphones that can't play music? The other option would be to get a note from a doctor, therapist, etc stating your disability and discuss with HR how it impacts your ability to perform well. Make sure you document, in writing, any of these interactions. Alternatively, you can get discreet, noise cancelling earbuds that don't connect to devices. I'm lucky to be connected with vocational rehab, a state service that advocates and supports adults with disabilities. They have a record of my ADHD being a disability and interfering with my ability to work like a neurotypical person. I feel comfortable asking them questions about situations like this. If your country has province/state/regional resources like this then you might want to reach out to them.


grittypitty

What is their reasoning for not allowing headphones? I’ve never understood bosses who care about such things. If you’re getting your work done and not hurting anyone, who really gives AF…


Legendary__Pizza

Im in an apprenticeship. I have to talk to my boss frequently and i think he is annoyed when i don't hear him say something to me.


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