By - Intern-Feeling
nice ill do that
Great stuff, thanks. I will try that 💪
I'm already doing 100 a day so it will make me fcking jacked hopefully 😏
I really believe that there's a tangible, but overlooked benefit in having decided to do something you consider unachievable, and following through with it. You are doing something few people in the developed world have ever succeeded at. In one study, 83 percent of those who attempted to quit porn failed (and this was over a short interval).
This feeling of having succeeded is so powerful for me (albeit, at the beginning of my journey) because I have spent the last 13 years in thrall to pornography, truly believing that any attempt to quit would fail. *I thought that videos were stronger than me. I thought that an activity was bigger than me.* Over the years, this totally destroyed my belief in my own agency. If I can't do this, I thought, what leads me to think I can achieve my other goals?
The second benefit I notice is feeling like less of a creep around women. I remember the shame when it started, as a teenager, and how it corrupted my interactions with girls and swallowed my confidence. I could not flirt when overcome with shame.
Over many years, I have become desensitized to this feeling, but I know that women can sense it. NoFap lets me own my sexual energy, as an expression of myself and my values, as opposed to the alien expression of porn. When sexual urges or thoughts arise in interactions, I less try to repress and more accept them as myself. This is loving myself, and from this love comes the freedom to direct the current of my sexual energy.
Wow, man. The first one is really new and nice perspective for me. I will definitely keep that in mind!
With the second one I can relate. I've felt always so much better on streaks but eventually always failed.
Thank you so much for taking time to write this post. I will definitely be coming here to see this encouragement when I'm tempted to relapse.
Good luck on your journey too ✌️
Of course :) I hope you win the triumph you're aiming for
Stop thinking about NoFap! Spend less time at home put your energy in productive things!
Every morning, set an alarm and take a cold shower. Every time I don't do this, I become much more prone to relapsing, whereas actually getting up and taking the shower makes me able to get a ton of work done during the day. I only joined the community recently as well, but I've been trying for a while and know the feeling of constant relapse. Good luck on your journey, you got this!
I will try that. I'm doing cold showers on not consistent basis by always in the later part of the day. Thanks for the tip! Good luck to you too ✌️
Hey brother. It’s only my second day today. I relapsed on 1st July.
Relapse is bound to happen don’t beat yourself up over it ok? That said, make sure you’re giving it your best fight when the urges hit. This is for life so just pick yourself back up and start moving. We’re all in this together 🙌
Thanks man. Although I'm relapsing, I'm never quitting. But I'm just so sick of myself relapsing again and again. I really appreciate all the kind words, it means a lot. Now I feel more like a part of this great community and it feels great to be motivated by all of you. ❤️
Good luck to you too! :)
Relapsing again and again is something I’ve been struggling with too man. Sometimes I wonder if I really even gave it my best fight. But we have to remember we’ve been feeding this addiction for years (for me it’s like almost everyday for 5-6 years) of course it’s gonna take a while to beat it. But no matter how bad it gets, we have to pick ourselves up and say “hey I failed only like a million fucking times but I’m gonna try this again” 💪 I don’t know how much longer or harder this journey is gonna be but here’s a quote from goggins. Ty n gd luck to u too.
When the end is unknown, and the distance is unknown, that is when you know who the fuck you are. 💯 - David Goggins
I've failed again but I'm starting again. David Goggins is THE MAN! Today I'm starting to read his book again because there is so much food for thought that can fuel my good habits. I'm also going to hitchhike with my friend through Europe so I will be busy enough to build my streak again.
I am so thankful for these kind words! I'm wishing you all the best and most importantly stay hard! 😉💪